G#Gill;668832 wrote:
This is a repeat of my previous post :-
Neffy, unfortunately, it's the way you worded the title of the thread. Perhaps it would have been better if you'd added "in the outside world"
As it is, the thread developed into a veritable slanging match, with the subject matter sliding inexorably towards the behaviour of a few Forum Garden members.
It really isn't surprising then that some members, reading all the posts on this thread, thought that the subject was referring to Forum Garden and other similar sites !
I do think it is a lesson to be learned. When (you are) typing words, the meaning
one wishes
( you wish ) to put across must be made perfectly clear, with no risk of misunderstanding. The use of punctuation marks, I am sure, would help greatly in this regard. Also, as somebody mentioned earlier on this thread, the appropriate use of the 'smileys' would more than clarify the mood of the writer, thus saving once again a misunderstanding.
I have been witness to several 'near misses' in the past, on other sites, certain
misinterpretations that have nearly caused World War III !!!!! Others that have caused friends to fall out. A lot, but not all maybe, of this could have been avoided by being a bit more careful with the words used, and the way they are put down, and of course those little smileys ! pmsl
I think we are all in FG to enjoy ourselves, to make new friends and to indulge in good 'chinwagging'. Some people join FG because they are lonely, some people join because they are mostly house-bound. They come from all walks of life, yes even the aristocracy - but we don't really know who or what, and it matters not.
What does matter is that (you enjoy ) this facility but enjoy it with caution and be aware that not everybody is as straightforward as you may be.
Everybody enjoy your threads and be nice to people, because they may need somebody to be nice to them.
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Neffy, and everybody,
What I have just written is a case in point ! I've just received a PM from Neffy, and I stand rebuked ! Fair enough.
Now if you look at the second paragraph where I say 'you' poor Neffy took it to mean her, that it was personal. Neffy I owe you an apology. I've just read it again as if I was Neffy, and I can see exactly what she means. So if I change that one word to 'one', each time it is mentioned, the whole meaning is changed and it is no longer 'personal'.
I will not pretend that I did this deliberately to demonstrate what I meant in that post, I'm not that clever ! But accidentally it is a first class demonstration of how the typed word can be misinterpretted if not put down correctly !
Just to make it quite clear (in case I've ckufed up again !) from the second paragraph down it is meant for everybody not an individual !!!!
Please everybody, I was only trying to be helpful, and I apologise if I upset others.
Neffy I'm very sorry that I caused you to be upset, it was certainly not intentional chuck. I was only trying to give a possible explanation why some of these mix-ups occur, and boy did I ever do that ! I think foot and shooting come to mind here !
I hasten to add, that personally I have found that FG is a very good site, and I have only experienced one 'iffy' post directed at somebody else which was dealt with very quickly by one of the moderators !
I have made quite a few new friends on FG and have found that everybody that I've met here is really friendly and easy to talk to - and a lot of you have me in stitches ! Thank you all very much for that
seems fair enough to me ... i cant believe this is what all the fuss is about
c gill i have only seen you post nice posts .... oh well i'm going to make a cup of tea .....
