Dating

koan · Post by **koan** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 6:30 pm

The worst part of being single means having to go on dates.

How do you deal with it?

Do you talk easily and openly or do you stutter and ask dumb questions?

Where do you go?

What do you do?

Describe a typical first date.

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 6:44 pm

Im very old fashioned, i like the whole courting thing, i was raised by my grandparents

koan · Post by **koan** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 6:47 pm

i struggle to imagine people getting married anymore without having sex first.

that's part of the problem with dating is this worrying if your clothes are supposed to still be on.

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 6:53 pm

Never have sex on the first date, or second, or third come to think about it :wah:

Seriously, get to know the guy, super sexy looks & smooth talking means nothing long term.

Some old fashioned values seem bizzarre in this day & age but c'mon, they have stood the test of time.

Getting laid & finding a life partner are two completely separate issues imo & my granny's, wish you could have met her Koan, fantastic woman

:-4

koan · Post by **koan** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 6:55 pm

Have you ever thought you liked someone at the start of the date then had to try and figure out how to get out because the next two hours changed your mind?

I tried getting a bunch of female friends together to practice saying "NO"

I figured sometimes women think backing out means blueballing. Like we led them on and have to follow through now. They thought it was a good idea but we never tried it.

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 6:58 pm

koan;488670 wrote: Have you ever thought you liked someone at the start of the date then had to try and figure out how to get out because the next two hours changed your mind?

This is where the mobile phone comes in, you tell your friend to call you with some random bull 2 hours into the date, if your not having a good time, you have your plan B

koan · Post by **koan** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 6:58 pm

buttercup;488669 wrote: Never have sex on the first date, or second, or third come to think about it :wah:

Seriously, get to know the guy, super sexy looks & smooth talking means nothing long term.

Some old fashioned values seem bizzarre in this day & age but c'mon, they have stood the test of time.

Getting laid & finding a life partner are two completely separate issues imo & my granny's, wish you could have met her Koan, fantastic woman

:-4

I love talking to older women that aren't too shy to share their experiences with men.

I think I usually get to know people through work or acquaintances fairly well before I go on what would be called a date.

guppy · Post by **guppy** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 6:59 pm

I am dating off and on.....no sex......what i want is a life partner. a friend. so i am not interested in the sex part right now. i know myself well enough that i need to know i am compatible with the man and there is more there than chemistry......once sex enters the picture i want ot know that there is more there than just the physical part of the realtionship.

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 6:59 pm

Between me and BTS .......it had been years since I was interested. We met we talked we parted company. It was obvious I did not know how to date.

koan · Post by **koan** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 7:01 pm

I read once that you can tell what kind of partner someone is by how they treat the wait staff at a restaurant. When I think about it, it is true for both men and women.

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 7:02 pm

koan;488676 wrote: I love talking to older women that aren't too shy to share their experiences with men.

I think I usually get to know people through work or acquaintances fairly well before I go on what would be called a date.

Anytime you want to hear granny or grandad's wisdom, gimme a shout, advice they gave may be old fashioned but i can truly say has stood the test of time, i fought against it bitterly on many occassions in my youth, silly me :rolleyes:

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 7:03 pm

koan;488684 wrote: I read once that you can tell what kind of partner someone is by how they treat the wait staff at a restaurant. When I think about it, it is true for both men and women.

I was impressed.

koan · Post by **koan** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 7:07 pm

Pinky;488696 wrote: My first dates tend to be rock gigs...whether they join in and jump around or not is a big factor to me.

If I saw you jumping around I have a feeling I'd just sit there and happily watch. :wah:

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 7:11 pm

Pinky;488696 wrote: My first dates tend to be rock gigs...whether they join in and jump around or not is a big factor to me.

Bless :-4

Your still young pinks & single, when you decide to settle down - rock gigs might not be the ideal meeting place for a lifetime partner.

Have a blast just now tho, lots of fun to be had at rock gigs

koan · Post by **koan** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 7:12 pm

I can happily say I've never dated anyone I met in a bar.

We met outside the bar, hailing a cab.

guppy · Post by **guppy** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 7:15 pm

one guy i am dating, i met in a boat, fishing. ......learn alot about someone stuck in a water tub out at sea all day...............

koan · Post by **koan** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 7:18 pm

Pinky;488710 wrote: I should stop dating people I meet in bars. They always look different when I'm sober!:D

There's some joke about a person chewing off their own arm to get out from under someone they brought home from a bar. :wah:

koan · Post by **koan** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 7:26 pm

I hate the sense that someone is putting on their "best face" so I'll like them.

I'd rather just know who they are.

Then again sometimes meeting someone brings out the best in us and the rest comes out after the thrill of newness wears off.

koan · Post by **koan** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 7:31 pm

the opposite is just as bad.

when you meet someone for a date and they go on and on about how terrible they are.

I usually just end up agreeing. :rolleyes:

koan · Post by **koan** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 7:36 pm

I've tried explaining that I am quite capable of seeing all their problems for myself.

And then some. :wah:

guppy · Post by **guppy** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 7:37 pm

it turns out better if you meet them in a social circle of your friends. i usually dont pay any attention to them so i act like myself. quite honestly, i dont even realized they are interested untill they say somehting later......i can be dense in that department...i never pick up vibes....

koan · Post by **koan** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 7:40 pm

I've noticed that as soon as I'm dating someone guys seem to crawl out of the woodwork.

Where were they when I was single?

guppy · Post by **guppy** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 7:46 pm

it's called phermones isn't it????:wah:

koan · Post by **koan** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 7:49 pm

Diuretic;488756 wrote: That goes the other way too, must be a human thing not just a bloke thing.

Yay!

A man!

In the dating thread!

What is dating like for you?

JacksDad · Post by **JacksDad** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 8:09 pm

Want to enjoy a date and truly get something out of it?

Make no judgements and have no expectations.

There ya go. No pressure.

That's how you go out with your friends.

Isn't it?

koan · Post by **koan** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 8:11 pm

But what do you talk about?

I tend to choose inappropriate topics.

so I'm told.

JacksDad · Post by **JacksDad** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 8:15 pm

Talk about the same thing you were talking about when you met.

koan · Post by **koan** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 8:15 pm

work?

JacksDad · Post by **JacksDad** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 8:21 pm

What a perfect segue.

"Well, let's not talk about work any more."

koan · Post by **koan** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 9:17 pm

Diuretic;488816 wrote: Pretty daunting really. I mean when I found myself single again it was quite difficult to get used to. I didn't rush around wildly though and I didn't want to just fill the void with someone on a whim. I think the best advice I've read here is for people to just be themselves - although a first date is always stressful. At least I didn't knock over a full wine glass or break something though.

I always feel sorry for guys because they are supposed to take all the risk of rejection.

typically.

first move to ask on date

do you go for a kiss?

do open the door for her?

pah. I couldn't be a guy.

JacksDad · Post by **JacksDad** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 9:39 pm

koan;488818 wrote:

first move to ask on date

do you go for a kiss?

do open the door for her?

pah. I couldn't be a guy.

If I don't then I may miss 'what could have been.'

If I want to see her again, yes.

WTF? Men don't open doors for you?

They ain't men. They're spoiled children. With no respect.

Nah. You couldn't cut it as a guy.

And good for us guys.

You sound like a really good date.

A human.

koan · Post by **koan** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 9:43 pm

Diuretic;488829 wrote: But then the woman has to turn the approach down - if she doesn't want to go out with him - and that must be pretty difficult for most women I would think.

yep. we were talking about that earlier.

JacksDad, no.

I'm horrible date. Unless they know what they're in for to start with.

JacksDad · Post by **JacksDad** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 9:50 pm

koan;488832 wrote:

JacksDad, no.

I'm horrible date. Unless they know what they're in for to start with.

Well they f'in better have at least an inkling of what they're in for or what business do they have asking you out in the first place?

Oh.

That's the whole thinking with your d*ck thing.

Jeez. Men are stupid.

koan · Post by **koan** » Sat Dec 16, 2006 10:24 pm

I do not have a thing with a duck.

We're just friends.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Sun Dec 17, 2006 4:26 am

Being yourself is always a good idea.