Speak up or ignore?

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Thu Nov 16, 2006 2:37 am

Good question pinks, the answer depends on the person, if they really upset me or made me mad i would p.m them, if that dident get me anywhere i would put them on ignore & yes i think its often obvious when not in ignore mode (who likes / dislikes each other)

What i do object most too is bringing up things on the board that could be sorted in p.m's, that pisses me right off

pantsonfire321@aol.com · Thu Nov 16, 2006 2:37 am

Pinky;460946 wrote: If you objected to the way someone else posts, the way they put things across or just think they should go about things differently, would you feel the need to pull them up about it or just put them on ignore?

If you chose the first one, do you think it would start to look a bit obvious after a while that you take exception to that person?

Personally, if someone constantly annoyed me, I'd just press ignore.

From one big mouth to another;) ..speak to them first . Then ignore if your still not happy.

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Thu Nov 16, 2006 2:41 am

Pinky;460946 wrote: If you objected to the way someone else posts, the way they put things across or just think they should go about things differently, would you feel the need to pull them up about it or just put them on ignore?

If you chose the first one, do you think it would start to look a bit obvious after a while that you take exception to that person?

Personally, if someone constantly annoyed me, I'd just press ignore.

I may have ignored someone for a while if they've 'hacked me off', but I've never put anyone on IGNORE......a) I'm too nosy and want to know what's going on, and b) I can't hold grudges and like to get back to 'normal' ASAP. Having said that, I guess I tread a middle line here most of the time (yep...sit on the fence

) so I don't get too riled up and no one has really targeted me...now if they had, I guess I would just 'let rip' , but ignore, no.

Good topic Pinks....how would you handle this kind of situation in real life though ?

Indian Princess · Post by **Indian Princess** » Thu Nov 16, 2006 2:42 am

I agree with Pinky 100%

There is a certain eticate to follow, remember it just SEEMS like we all live in the same house, and that we may get feeling comfortable on just blurting something out. No need to crucify anyone just pm them and then move on.

Bill Sikes · Post by **Bill Sikes** » Thu Nov 16, 2006 2:43 am

Pinky;460946 wrote: If you objected to the way someone else posts, the way they put things across or just think they should go about things differently, would you feel the need to pull them up about it or just put them on ignore?

If you chose the first one, do you think it would start to look a bit obvious after a while that you take exception to that person?

Personally, if someone constantly annoyed me, I'd just press ignore.

'Pends on how much the psots offend my sensibilities. I'm not a great one for PMs,

and to criticise publically very often brings unwanted (and unwarranted!) reaction.

Irritations like ghastly .sigs and avatars are (fortunately) easy to deal with, and

there's "ignore" for appropriate occasions, although using it is slightly reminiscent

of the legendary behaviour of the Ostrich when endangered!

Bill Sikes · Post by **Bill Sikes** » Thu Nov 16, 2006 2:44 am

Pinky;460955 wrote: What about if you notice that the only time a certain person responds to you is to pull you up about something or have a dig, even when others are doing the same kind of thing, they purely seem to focus on you?

Tell them about it! Not by PM, either, and not nastily, in the first place.

weber · Post by **weber** » Thu Nov 16, 2006 2:49 am

Pinky;460946 wrote: If you objected to the way someone else posts, the way they put things across or just think they should go about things differently, would you feel the need to pull them up about it or just put them on ignore?

If you chose the first one, do you think it would start to look a bit obvious after a while that you take exception to that person?

Personally, if someone constantly annoyed me, I'd just press ignore.

I don't know what using ignore is like here Pinky

but my experience in other forums is that the person I put on ignore, their post didn't show but it would announce that it was posted by the person. And I found that the continuity of the thread was gone, so I would choose to ignore by scrolling by. Awkward situation in any method.

Bill Sikes · Post by **Bill Sikes** » Thu Nov 16, 2006 2:56 am

Pinky;460965 wrote: BTW - Bill, sorry if my garish sig offends your sensibilities, lol!wah:

I've no idea! I've never seen your .sig! Would people who use the 'net at work

find it a problem (ditto for "avatars")?

Bill Sikes · Post by **Bill Sikes** » Thu Nov 16, 2006 2:56 am

Pinky;460959 wrote: I'd ask to talk to them privately and confront them and ask them what their problem was!

How disappointing. I thought you'd reply "get 'em in a corner and kick 'em

in the crotch!"

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Thu Nov 16, 2006 3:01 am

I guess it depends on the situation and what was said. Overall, I think people are way too PC resulting in wish-wash and oversensitivity. Ideally, the classiest way would be in my opinion to PM them. But if they're basically calling you out publically, I feel it's appropriate to return the favor. There are exceptions to both, of course. I've never used Ignore...what's the point when people are always quoting everything said and you see it anyway? I'd prefer to know what's being said even if it comes from a jerk.

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Thu Nov 16, 2006 3:10 am

Pinky;460965 wrote: I have pointed it out, and I'm hoping it'll sort it.

I have pm'd people before now to sort things out, but if someone snipes at me on the boards, thetemptation is to defend yourself in the same way.

BTW - Bill, sorry if my garish sig offends your sensibilities, lol!:wah:

Members leave due to this kind of thing & if they dont it causes bad feeling on the board, anybody with anything to say, do it today, do it in p.m & leave the rest of us out of it :-6

Who's having a go at you pinks? p.m me :sneaky:

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Thu Nov 16, 2006 4:09 am

Just posting to let you know I read your threads. Glad to see you've sorted it yourself. :yh_flower

weber · Post by **weber** » Thu Nov 16, 2006 4:22 am

SnoozeControl;461025 wrote: I've had experience with this, believe me.

I find it's easier on everyone's nerves to just put them physically on ignore... these people generally write nothing I want to read anyway. Let them snipe to their heart's content... you don't see it and can't get annoyed enough to respond and they end up looking more like a dumbass.

Hey Snooze

You're definitely are not snoozin' and what's with the kitty kat......I got you a tiger and.....well fierce:wah::wah: :wah:

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Thu Nov 16, 2006 4:33 am

SnoozeControl;461030 wrote: Oh crap, Pinky's got me on ignore because she was talking about me in the original post, wasn't she? :-2
Probably. But we nice people will quote you so she'll see it. :yh_angel

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Thu Nov 16, 2006 4:36 am

I'm ignoring two people right now. It's nice. Not reading their posts is like kicking a habit - hard at first but then it gets easier. Besides, enough people quote them so I can remember why I put them on ignore.

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Thu Nov 16, 2006 4:43 am

Pinky;461055 wrote: Hehe, at least I know I'm not one of 'em!!!:wah:
Can't imagine a reason to. :-6

Uncle Kram · Post by **Uncle Kram** » Thu Nov 16, 2006 4:45 am

Please stop quoting me. It might upset someone who's got me on ignore

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Thu Nov 16, 2006 4:49 am

Anybody seen Hammy lately? :-3

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Thu Nov 16, 2006 4:58 am

Can you imagine anyone putting *Hammy* on ignore?! That's just...sacrilege.

(I'm in the Hammy Fan Club) :-4

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Thu Nov 16, 2006 5:01 am

Pinky;461078 wrote: I couldn't imagine anone being offended at Hammy...she's so cute and fluffy!

*Pinky ducks and runs away*
I think of her more as salty and smokey.

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Thu Nov 16, 2006 5:03 am

This thread reminds me of an ignore-a-thon we had going almost 2 years ago. I won't mention any names because I don't want to embarass Saffron, but there was a poster (to remain nameless) that must have had 6 or 8 of us on ignore by the end of it all. :wah:

AAAaaahhhhh good times. :driving:

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Thu Nov 16, 2006 5:07 am

Pinky;461092 wrote: Blimey!!! I'm surprised there was anything worth reading when they logged on, lol!
Well, she did leave for about a year before showing up again.

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Thu Nov 16, 2006 5:11 am

I have learned to speak up about it, if something bother me of I find some things offensive.