ask ladycop almost anything thread

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Sat Sep 24, 2005 10:25 am

Nomad wrote: your a girl.

Do you look funny when you chase a perp ?i haven't noticed any of them laughing yet. .........we don't carry batons btw. you can really hurt somebody with those things. and get sued.

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Sat Sep 24, 2005 10:29 am

venus wrote:

Now for my question...

Do you find it very hard to switch it off in your head after a painful case...

This has importance to me for the future too!:-5 there is only one case i can't seem to 'switch off'...a female here who shot her twin 4 year old boys in the head, one was sleeping, one she had to chase down. but otherwise, yes you become jaded and professional after a while, you can't get personally caught up with everybody.

venus · Post by **venus** » Sat Sep 24, 2005 10:35 am

I can not even begin how hard that one must have been especially for a parent

It seems like the question of the century why?.

I see what you mean though LC if you get too involved with them all youd lose yourself eventually:(

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Sat Sep 24, 2005 4:22 pm

venus wrote:

It seems like the question of the century why?.

I see what you mean though LC if you get too involved with them all youd lose yourself eventually:(there is no 'why'. i don't care why. she is trying to say paxil made her do it. BULL. it could be paxil and the quart of jack she washed it down with. ....as a social worker you will definately have to grow a wall or a shell. that does not mean to lose your compassion, but you must remain professional or the job will steal your soul.

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Sat Sep 24, 2005 5:13 pm

'Tis true LC, teachers feel the same way, want to take some of the poor kids home with you yourself, rather then send them home to their parents.

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Sat Sep 24, 2005 5:20 pm

chonsigirl wrote: 'Tis true LC, teachers feel the same way, want to take some of the poor kids home with you yourself, rather then send them home to their parents.:(i can believe that...but i think you deal with sadness for their conditions and helplessness because you can't save them all from what you know their lives will be like.--- with me, it's not so much the sadness as i have to shield myself from the pure evil. evil, day in, day out, CAN do something to you. when i first started my FTO laughed at me because i was so kind. not anymore. a sad observation eh? the street trash has me on the 'do not f**k with' list.

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Sat Sep 24, 2005 5:21 pm

venus wrote: I see what you mean though LC if you get too involved with them all youd lose yourself eventually:(
They'll suck you dry if you let them.

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Sat Sep 24, 2005 5:32 pm

BabyRider wrote: They'll suck you dry if you let them.

yes...you keep reminding me of that. and you will have to again i am sure. i am so accustomed to answering calls, and a few here at FG have needed help so i got involved and tried to help. i get a lot of PMs. i LIKE to help. i really do! but it is true that some can become so needy and dependant that they can't help themselves.

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Sat Sep 24, 2005 5:49 pm

lady cop wrote: yes...you keep reminding me of that. and you will have to again i am sure. i am so accustomed to answering calls, and a few here at FG have needed help so i got involved and tried to help. i get a lot of PMs. i LIKE to help. i really do! but it is true that some can become so needy and dependant that they can't help themselves.
You know what kills me? You're always referring to all the people you're helping, be it with legal situations, health issues, or any one of a dozen other areas that people come to you about, and STILL people won't back off. They know you've been sick, they know you have sh!t of your own to deal with, and they just want more. Gimme gimme gimme. It's all I see!! It's actaully starting to p!ss ME off. You and I talk, every day to great length. What do I keep telling you? Think of YOURSELF for once. The people around you, sucking you dry will take what they can and then move on without a thought for you. The rest of the world can take care of itself. Take care of LC. In fact, the next time I write griping about the most recent thoughtless thing Bullet has done, send me back a link to this thread. :-4

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Sat Sep 24, 2005 6:02 pm

i love your sentiment, and know your heart. :-4 but you know what? when people stop asking me for help i am going to feel useless. that WOULD kill me. i am decided to ignore the users however. there have been a few here that i feel very good about. (and so should you).

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Sat Sep 24, 2005 6:10 pm

I use you pussycat.

It just feels good to be around you.

Sorry.

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Sat Sep 24, 2005 6:23 pm

Nomad wrote: I use you pussycat.

It just feels good to be around you.

Sorry.:)you make it impossible to stay annoyed with you!!

but i shall try. i only live to play tricks on you! you are destroying my life!! :p

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Sat Sep 24, 2005 6:24 pm

Then my work is done here. Time to move on.

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Sat Sep 24, 2005 6:49 pm

Nomad wrote: I use you pussycat.

It just feels good to be around you.

Sorry.

You know what? LC loves to help. She loves to be useful and she knows her stuff. What irritates the LIFE out of me is some who would use her, and vanish, then re-appear to use her again all the while ignoring the tough stuff when SHE'S down. Sure, I know more than most, but I've seen plenty of times where she has gone out of her way, out of the goodness of her heart, (sorry, LC, it had to come out sooner or later that you had one), only to be left high and dry by the very people she has bent over backwards for. Like I say, they'll suck you dry if you let them. Not all, but some. Where the hell did I put my vampire smiley???

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Sat Sep 24, 2005 6:54 pm

damn. :-1

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Sat Sep 24, 2005 7:13 pm

lady cop wrote: damn. :-1
Sorry, I seem to be on several missions today, trying to right the wrongs I see.

Second thought: I ain't sorry one tiny bit.....

I know you love to help, I just wish I saw more give and take, instead of just take from some people. Ya know?

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Sat Sep 24, 2005 7:26 pm

I know all this, I can "see" it. Sorry cuddles but you have a quality equal to hers you just prefer to hide it, but I "see" it as well.

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Sat Sep 24, 2005 7:29 pm

yer both making me cry, it's the goddamn meds, cut it out. :-4

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Sat Sep 24, 2005 7:30 pm

Nomad wrote: I know all this, I can "see" it. Sorry cuddles but you have a quality equal to hers you just prefer to hide it, but I "see" it as well.
Ok, enough with the cuddles crap and enough psycho-analyzing me. It's starting to get annoying.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Sat Sep 24, 2005 7:36 pm

Thats fine. Take care.

valerie · Post by **valerie** » Sat Sep 24, 2005 7:52 pm

Sorry gang... I've been workin' so much I'm missin' ALL the good stuff

and it's gonna take me forever to ketchup...

LC, do you have a video tape of your appearance on Oprah and if you

do could I maybe someday see it?

;)

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Sat Sep 24, 2005 7:54 pm

Val, thanks for asking that, it reminded me of a question I wanted to ask. Oh, and welcome back!! I missed you!

LC, have you ever had the "Cops" cameras follow you on your tour?

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Sat Sep 24, 2005 8:04 pm

valerie wrote:

LC, do you have a video tape of your appearance on Oprah and if you

do could I maybe someday see it?

;)yes i have a video of my appearance on 'oprah'. Both tried to get me to show it to him. i 'forgot'. it's a good tape, my gf in england saw it 6 months later in a pub, and freaked out! LOL. it actually is nice, but i don't know how to show it here, it's on VHS.

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Sun Sep 25, 2005 5:17 pm

BabyRider wrote:

LC, have you ever had the "Cops" cameras follow you on your tour?practically every cop in florida has been on COPS! have you noticed 2/3 of their programs come from here? the land of the nutters, molesters and the dropouts from society. florida is the last stop. ..as for me, i have been on the news a few times and i don't like it.

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Sun Sep 25, 2005 5:22 pm

If you get married and decide to join the British police force, can we call you Bobbie Bothwell, buglar-busting bombshell?

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Sun Sep 25, 2005 5:23 pm

ArnoldLayne wrote: When are you hoping to move to England LC ?i have to take care of work issues here, my status with sheriff dept. and get a pension. then i have to resolve my heart attack issues. you caught me at a weak moment. all day today i was feeling really sad i am not with my man. :-1

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Sun Sep 25, 2005 5:26 pm

Accountable wrote: If you get married and decide to join the British police force, can we call you Bobbie Bothwell, buglar-busting bombshell?you can call me whatever you like!! but i won't go on British police unless i am granted citizenship. and they want to take away my gun!!

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Sun Sep 25, 2005 5:29 pm

lady cop wrote: you can call me whatever you like!!
Got it, Thanks! Hey Nomad!! You got that?!?

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Sun Sep 25, 2005 5:37 pm

ArnoldLayne wrote: What is your views on Bounty Hunters ? ( Often watch Dog the bounty hunter)ohhh...i am very familiar with him...he's a showboat. big-time. if you're watching him it's probably old repeats. his wife is a slob and he is just this side of a criminal. bounty-hunters are legit to a point, and a few bail bondsmen use them. i see the point. but we put out warrants and expect LE to serve the warrants. bounty hunters are like scavengers on the ocean bottom. they have no authority and they frequently break the law and mess things up legally by violating people's rights so that the trial will be screwed. they are only interested in the $$$$. not the justice.

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Sun Sep 25, 2005 5:39 pm

Accountable wrote: Got it, Thanks! Hey Nomad!! You got that?!?hey! :p

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Sun Sep 25, 2005 6:20 pm

ArnoldLayne wrote: LC, if you weren't a cop what would you want to do ?i love books. i would love a little bookshop. historical antique tomes. but honestly, if i could until the day i die, i would want to be a detective. i'd take it over the bookshop. i am a mass of contradictions! i absolutely have been passionate about mysteries my entire life. i love to get people to talk to me.

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Sun Sep 25, 2005 7:21 pm

ArnoldLayne wrote: Then the great Sherlock Holmes would surely encompass a few of your passions . Detection ,Books, Englandyou are so right! i could leave everything to live in the days of Dickens! or of conan-doyle.

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Sun Sep 25, 2005 9:41 pm

Why is it anytime I PM you I get a can't receive message.

Bothwell · Post by **Bothwell** » Mon Sep 26, 2005 12:46 am

Have you ever been on a stakeout in say a beachfront bar???

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Mon Sep 26, 2005 5:08 am

nvalleyvee wrote: Why is it anytime I PM you I get a can't receive message.i honest-to-god don't know! please ask admin., Tombstone or Anastrophe.

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Mon Sep 26, 2005 5:19 am

Bothwell wrote: Have you ever been on a stakeout in say a beachfront bar???well there was this one time i spent hours behind a sign at sunset grill....smartarse! :p surveillance is my middle name , undercover is my game!! :wah:

SOJOURNER · Post by **SOJOURNER** » Tue Sep 27, 2005 10:27 am

Question One:

I watch a lot of episodes of Law and Order.

I am insensed when they lie to and threaten victims in order to get them to comply with what THEY want them to do -- like identify people and/or go to court, particularily if to do so it would result in them going into Witness Protection. I realize that the police and attornies cannot do their jobs if they are not supported by 'the people'. BUT, should not a victim have the choice of NOT testifng if they feel it would in their own best interest not to do so......

I ask this because I cannot understand how anyone would willingly give up their life, their spouces and children's lives, relocate under new names and identiies, and lose everything -- family, friends, a lifestyle. This seems like a more horendoucs crime to me.

Question Two:

It seems to me when I watch all the various 'cop' shows on TV that they are protraying law enforcement people as people not to be trusted. This is totally the opposite of how I was brought up -- the policeman is your friend..... Any comment?

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Tue Sep 27, 2005 10:41 am

they DO have a choice, under the 5th amendment. if people go into witness protection it is usually because their lives are in extreme danger. it is voluntary. if they are a victim, nobody can make them testify, the DA just has to prosecute with what he/she has. a witness is not all that is required to prosecute, you need collaborating evidence. ...second item...i have not seen shows where the cop is not to be trusted, i can only say that most of us take our oath seriously, there are those exceptions who become corrupt.

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Tue Sep 27, 2005 12:17 pm

Can you get in trouble from your superiors for using police dept issued equipment at home,

like say handcuffs?

Honneykit · Post by **Honneykit** » Tue Sep 27, 2005 1:01 pm

Do I need a lawyer present to post here?

Is any one a lawyer just in case!

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Mon Nov 07, 2005 5:36 pm

abbey wrote: Can you get in trouble from your superiors for using police dept issued equipment at home,

like say handcuffs? my cuffs are my personal property, so is my gun. they only own my taser and pepper spray since it is monitored for use. we have to do use of force reports for every time we use them or put our hands on someone. that's as it should be.

SOJOURNER · Post by **SOJOURNER** » Mon Nov 07, 2005 5:49 pm

I'm glad to see you are posting again. I'm taking that as a sign of improved health.

How are you feeling now that you made your getaway from the hospital?

Do you have anyone staying with you?

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Mon Nov 07, 2005 5:49 pm

SnoozeControl wrote: I've considered getting a taser, but I'd probably shoot myself with it.

I don't know what they're called, but its a telescoping rod (sap?) that you bounce off people. Those are illegal aren't they? I've seen them advertised in a catalog.it's a baton, we are not allowed to carry them, you can kill someone with one of those things. my general advice to all people is do not carry anything that can be used against you.

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Mon Nov 07, 2005 5:50 pm

SOJOURNER wrote: I'm glad to see you are posting again. I'm taking that as a sign of improved health.

How are you feeling now that you made your getaway from the hospital?

Do you have anyone staying with you?i feel great thanks!!! no. i am alone, but i am fine.