You did the right thing and I agree with you that you were mis-informed. I used to work for a home builder and the "book-keeper" thought she ran the place would explain something to me half-assed and then get pissed when I didn't do it the way she wanted me to....I was supposed to be a mind reader....which sounds like your situation too.
I am sorry that happened to you, but it does go on a lot in offices. Seems there is always and "office queen" who thinks she's above all of the other people in the office. I am thankful that my supervisor (who is the only other woman in my office) and I get along very well.
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Yeah I had a problem with my boss again yesterday. Here is what happened. I was sitting at my desk, minding my own business, doing my work. It was very very busy. My job is to check all of the lab requisitions that are billed. After the billers (data entry) bills the tests on the requisition. My boss has given me a stamp with my initials on it, that I stamp each with. So I check a large pile of requisitions and then stamp each one. I wasn't stamping each one as I check them. I checked a whole pile, and then go back and stamp each one.......SO My boss comes up to me in a huff yeling that I need to stamp each one as I check each one. We had a few words. I said that she didn't tell me to do it that way when she gave me the stamp. She was standing up real close to me in my space, almost touching me with her body and her face was really red and her voice was raised ( like it always is). I was embarrassed and there were a lot of people around. And a lot of them heard. She walked into her office after I almost burst into tears. My hands were shaking and tears were coming to my eyes.
I got up and walked into her office and stood in front of her and said "if you feel you need to humiliate me again like that in front of others, please call me into your office and do it, don't ever do that in front of others. It is embarrassing to me". She stopped what she was doing and looked up stunned. She and I engaged and I turned around and pushed her office door shut. And she said in a hurry "this conversation is over". so I said "obviously". And I looked back at her and we engaged again. I said "are you trying to make me quit?" She said no and I said well then you are harrassing me and you need to stop it. She began screaming "I'm sorry, I'm sorry you think I'm harrassing you!" But she didn't sound sorry so I made a face at her and walked out.
She got her purse and walked out by my desk in a hurry. I got up, went into a bathroom stall and cried. then I got my stamp and went looking for her boss. He was in his office with her in it. So I waited at my desk for his door to be open. When it was and I saw him in it, I went in.
This man is a very kind man and we have had conversations about a lot of stuff, but never about work. So I was ambivalent about going to him with this, since it was about his employee, my boss. I asked him if I could talk and he said "sure what's up?" I said my supe is harrassing me. And he said "shut the door". And then he asked me to sit down and I did and I told him what happened and showed him the stamp. He basically told me that she had just been in there with another new supervisor yelling at him about something and that she has been so "wound up so tight" that he "didn't know what has been wrong with her". But that he just got yelled at her too and he said he wanted to ask her "how much coffee have you had today?" So we talked and he said that he knows I am "not on her hit list" and that he knows who is, but I am not one of them. He even said that in a couple months I should pop into her office and have a talk with her about work and let her know how I am interested in "moving up" and what do I need to do to improve. And we talked about other stuff going on there, involving her. He said "just let it go". And I said "okay". And he said "you have nothing to worry about". I said "well I'm glad I came in here because I thought other wise." So he was all smiling at me, and I was too. I walked out and went back to my desk.
She came back from lunch and was all walking around with her hands clenched in a fist. And she walked by me a couple of times looking at me, she almost brushed up against me she walked so close to me. And I could feel her looking at me. So at the end of the day, since I am the only one who is there that late, she came out and asked me in a cheery voice if my file clerk showed up yesterday and I said "no" and she looked at me. I was not rude or anything. I know she didn't know I had talked to her boss and that I "let it go". Then I saw him coming up behind me and he was smiling at me and he went onto her office. They were whispering. He walked out a minute or less later and I heard him say "thank you much". So I logged out, clocked out and left.
If it had not been for this man, I would have maybe called HR about it. I was that p i s s e d off.
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I got up and walked into her office and stood in front of her and said "if you feel you need to humiliate me again like that in front of others, please call me into your office and do it, don't ever do that in front of others. It is embarrassing to me". She stopped what she was doing and looked up stunned. She and I engaged and I turned around and pushed her office door shut. And she said in a hurry "this conversation is over". so I said "obviously". And I looked back at her and we engaged again. I said "are you trying to make me quit?" She said no and I said well then you are harrassing me and you need to stop it. She began screaming "I'm sorry, I'm sorry you think I'm harrassing you!" But she didn't sound sorry so I made a face at her and walked out.
She got her purse and walked out by my desk in a hurry. I got up, went into a bathroom stall and cried. then I got my stamp and went looking for her boss. He was in his office with her in it. So I waited at my desk for his door to be open. When it was and I saw him in it, I went in.
This man is a very kind man and we have had conversations about a lot of stuff, but never about work. So I was ambivalent about going to him with this, since it was about his employee, my boss. I asked him if I could talk and he said "sure what's up?" I said my supe is harrassing me. And he said "shut the door". And then he asked me to sit down and I did and I told him what happened and showed him the stamp. He basically told me that she had just been in there with another new supervisor yelling at him about something and that she has been so "wound up so tight" that he "didn't know what has been wrong with her". But that he just got yelled at her too and he said he wanted to ask her "how much coffee have you had today?" So we talked and he said that he knows I am "not on her hit list" and that he knows who is, but I am not one of them. He even said that in a couple months I should pop into her office and have a talk with her about work and let her know how I am interested in "moving up" and what do I need to do to improve. And we talked about other stuff going on there, involving her. He said "just let it go". And I said "okay". And he said "you have nothing to worry about". I said "well I'm glad I came in here because I thought other wise." So he was all smiling at me, and I was too. I walked out and went back to my desk.
She came back from lunch and was all walking around with her hands clenched in a fist. And she walked by me a couple of times looking at me, she almost brushed up against me she walked so close to me. And I could feel her looking at me. So at the end of the day, since I am the only one who is there that late, she came out and asked me in a cheery voice if my file clerk showed up yesterday and I said "no" and she looked at me. I was not rude or anything. I know she didn't know I had talked to her boss and that I "let it go". Then I saw him coming up behind me and he was smiling at me and he went onto her office. They were whispering. He walked out a minute or less later and I heard him say "thank you much". So I logged out, clocked out and left.
If it had not been for this man, I would have maybe called HR about it. I was that p i s s e d off.
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WonderWendy3;708410 wrote: You did the right thing and I agree with you that you were mis-informed. I used to work for a home builder and the "book-keeper" thought she ran the place would explain something to me half-assed and then get pissed when I didn't do it the way she wanted me to....I was supposed to be a mind reader....which sounds like your situation too.
I am sorry that happened to you, but it does go on a lot in offices. Seems there is always and "office queen" who thinks she's above all of the other people in the office. I am thankful that my supervisor (who is the only other woman in my office) and I get along very well.
Too right about that "office queen". I work in an office with one.
Too often folks in the office forget that we all are supposed to part of a team and work together for the good of the company.
I am sorry that happened to you, but it does go on a lot in offices. Seems there is always and "office queen" who thinks she's above all of the other people in the office. I am thankful that my supervisor (who is the only other woman in my office) and I get along very well.
Too right about that "office queen". I work in an office with one.
Too often folks in the office forget that we all are supposed to part of a team and work together for the good of the company.
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Stardust
Have you locked horns with the Office Queen in the past?
I'm getting the feeling theres been some friction, thats why she's so Black & White.
By her submitting a complaint, showing power, pulling rank and indicating your a insubordinate person. In the future when given a duty - ask questions - claify.
There's a Office Queen in every office unfortunately.
Patsy
Have you locked horns with the Office Queen in the past?
I'm getting the feeling theres been some friction, thats why she's so Black & White.
By her submitting a complaint, showing power, pulling rank and indicating your a insubordinate person. In the future when given a duty - ask questions - claify.
There's a Office Queen in every office unfortunately.
Patsy
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She sounds like a control freak or at least someone who is very uptight.
If I have a problem with someone I prefer talking to them about it rather than just going over their head and I think you did well to send your own email.
If I have a problem with someone I prefer talking to them about it rather than just going over their head and I think you did well to send your own email.
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She sounds like a crap manager-she should have spoken to you first before sending the e-mail just to make sure she was in the right if nothing else. If her boss is any good they will be irritated by a junior manager that can't handle staff. managers who can't cope tend to pick on issues or people that they think they can exert their authority with, it's a way of reassuring themselves they are not the incompetents they feel they are.
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Stardust;708623 wrote: In answer to the highlighted question above, the answer is "no". I work as a float secretary, meaning that I cover for secretaries when they are either off sick or on annual leave (holiday). Therefore, this person was only my boss for the week but unfortunately I will have to face her next week as well because I have to cover the same department.
Thankfully, I'm not as wound up now as I was a day ago.
The more problems I run into, the more I hate the place. I feel like saying - "Get me outta here!"
Stardust, I work for the in-house agency at our local hospital and this involves moving around covering other jobs. This sort of work is not easy as we don't always know exactly what certain aspects of the job involve or how to carry them out.
You might find it helpful to repeat the person's instructions back to them before you begin, to ensure you know exactly what they want from you and then, when you've completed the task, to check with them that you've done what they want you to do? I find this can usually help avoid problems.
Thankfully, I'm not as wound up now as I was a day ago.
The more problems I run into, the more I hate the place. I feel like saying - "Get me outta here!"
Stardust, I work for the in-house agency at our local hospital and this involves moving around covering other jobs. This sort of work is not easy as we don't always know exactly what certain aspects of the job involve or how to carry them out.
You might find it helpful to repeat the person's instructions back to them before you begin, to ensure you know exactly what they want from you and then, when you've completed the task, to check with them that you've done what they want you to do? I find this can usually help avoid problems.
Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answers...Rainer Maria Rilke
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Of course, as do we all. But theres another kind of injustice, a lesser known and just injustice that few know about.
Its the kind of just injustice that only the sheriff sees. The kind where he has to shoot the small cute puppy because he has rabies.
Was it the puppies fault ? No it wasnt. Thus the dilemma.
Of course, as do we all. But theres another kind of injustice, a lesser known and just injustice that few know about.
Its the kind of just injustice that only the sheriff sees. The kind where he has to shoot the small cute puppy because he has rabies.
Was it the puppies fault ? No it wasnt. Thus the dilemma.
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