Nose hair man is stalking me.

weeder · Post by **weeder** » Sun Jul 29, 2007 5:34 pm

The man with the wild and crazy nose hairs is stalking me. He will not leave me alone. Calls at least 5x a day. Tells me he " Loves me to death" If he calls me sweetie one more time... I am going to throw up. I cannott believe this. I go out on 2 or 3 lousy dates after a 6 year drought... and I..... have to deal with this needy, controlling demanding bull ****. I spelled it out last night. " You cannott love me, you can like me. You dont even know me" If he thinks for one minute that I am going to give up the thrill of wondering daily where my next fee is coming from... or give up my dreams of travelling around Europe, penniless as an illegal alien.....or dreaming about life in a room in a basement, alone, in my old age... he can forget it. I would give anything to be sitting by the phone like a teenager, wishing the guy would call. I am really , really sorry that I broke my 6 year run of being an androgenous loner... with the world as my oyster. I hope his nose hairs grow down into his mouth, and he gets the message to just leave me alone.

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Sun Jul 29, 2007 5:43 pm

I may have missed something, because I only remember reading about you meeting a great guy then this.

A friend at work had a similar experience. I suggested to her that she break it off gently. She chose rather to tell him her boundaries. Turns out she was right. The guy showed nothing but respect, and now she's taking a shine to him.

Maybe he's been 'without' a long time too and just got overeager. Men like clear lines. You drew them. Hopefully that'll be enough.

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Sun Jul 29, 2007 6:41 pm

Let me emphasize part of what Accountable said, "Men like clear lines".

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Sun Jul 29, 2007 9:51 pm

Weeder

He calls at least 6 times a day..... What do you say to him?

If you were straight with him, you probably wouldn't get another 5 calls..

Or do you think he's a stalker?

Are you having a scared - unsure feeling about this guy?

What doesn't he get? - in another sense - you may need to be careful.

Patsy

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Sun Jul 29, 2007 9:55 pm

Saying what I said, if it is a situation that you really do feel scared over, I can take a few days off, rent a car, and go shake him down. It has been a while since I shook anyone down. I don't need to get out of practice.

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Sun Jul 29, 2007 10:55 pm

Weeder I don't think a lot of men would understand "you can't love me, you don't know me." They're not as dramatic as we are. I think gently but firmly telling him he needs to back off some, that's he's crowding your space would be better.

Unless you just don't like the guy after all...it's starting to sound that way..?

If you didn't answer your phone all six times, what would he do? Show up at your door? Something to think about.

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Sun Jul 29, 2007 11:27 pm

weeder;670781 wrote: with the world as my oyster. I hope his nose hairs grow down into his mouth, and he gets the message to just leave me alone.:wah:

In the words of a lovely lady called laura "You're a pissa"

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Mon Jul 30, 2007 1:43 am

KB.;670839 wrote: Saying what I said, if it is a situation that you really do feel scared over, I can take a few days off, rent a car, and go shake him down. It has been a while since I shook anyone down. I don't need to get out of practice.

that's sweet - no-one has ever offered to do that for me!!

Weeder, if you are really worried about this man I would be inclined to kepp a record of all the calls etc just in case you have to get the police involved, and I really hope it doesn't get that far.:-4

weeder · Post by **weeder** » Mon Jul 30, 2007 2:16 am

I do not answer 5 out of 6 of the calls. I didnt answer at all yesterday. He is lonely. I am not afraid of his hurting me, I just dont like the uncomfortableness of having to deal with this. The problem is that I am going down there again in August and he lives right around the corner from us. Just for the record... so that the lines can be clear... i didnt do anything foolish with this man. Didnt even kiss him. As a matter of fact I thought it was kind of strange that he didnt even try to approach me at all, and my friends felt that that was a good example of his being a gentlemen. I thank God I didnt have any physical contact with him at all or this would be even harder to get out of. I have tried to tell him ( all kidding aside) that it was very nice meeting each other, and that I thought he was very nice, but the only thing I could offer him is friendship. It just makes me feel sick that a 50 year old man would behave this way. It is experiences like this that make us not want to date at all. My personality is that if you push me, I totally retreat. If I suspect or feel any kind of controlling behavior, I run for the hills.

You see when I was there , this incident happened that shot my red flags up.

I was supposed to see him one night. That afternoon I had an appointment. I told him I would be about an hour, but I was gone much longer. He called my cell phone many times.... called my FRIEND!!!! and called my friends restaurant looking for me. When I saw him that night, he asked too many questions about why the meeting had taken so long. So for me, I already sensed that there was a problem. I just dont like this... dont like it at all.

Thank you KB.... you are so nice..:-4

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Mon Jul 30, 2007 3:49 am

Run! Run Like The Wind!!

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Mon Jul 30, 2007 5:29 am

weeder;670898 wrote: I do not answer 5 out of 6 of the calls. I didnt answer at all yesterday. He is lonely. I am not afraid of his hurting me, I just dont like the uncomfortableness of having to deal with this. The problem is that I am going down there again in August and he lives right around the corner from us. Just for the record... so that the lines can be clear... i didnt do anything foolish with this man. Didnt even kiss him. As a matter of fact I thought it was kind of strange that he didnt even try to approach me at all, and my friends felt that that was a good example of his being a gentlemen. I thank God I didnt have any physical contact with him at all or this would be even harder to get out of. I have tried to tell him ( all kidding aside) that it was very nice meeting each other, and that I thought he was very nice, but the only thing I could offer him is friendship. It just makes me feel sick that a 50 year old man would behave this way. It is experiences like this that make us not want to date at all. My personality is that if you push me, I totally retreat. If I suspect or feel any kind of controlling behavior, I run for the hills.

You see when I was there , this incident happened that shot my red flags up.

I was supposed to see him one night. That afternoon I had an appointment. I told him I would be about an hour, but I was gone much longer. He called my cell phone many times.... called my FRIEND!!!! and called my friends restaurant looking for me. When I saw him that night, he asked too many questions about why the meeting had taken so long. So for me, I already sensed that there was a problem. I just dont like this... dont like it at all.

Thank you KB.... you are so nice..:-4

That does sound a bit clingy to me. Needy. He could have just been concerned, to give him credit, and was looking after you, or it could have been something worse. I think I'd have to be very into a person for them to do that and not have it bother me.

Post by **Betty Boop** » Mon Jul 30, 2007 6:24 am

Weeder can you just step back and take a look at this, can you accept that maybe this person is showing you a need within yourself. People that come into our lives are showing us something about ourselves. Maybe there is a lesson here somewhere.:-6

RhondaLu · Post by **RhondaLu** » Mon Jul 30, 2007 8:27 am

weeder;670781 wrote: The man with the wild and crazy nose hairs is stalking me. He will not leave me alone. Calls at least 5x a day. Tells me he " Loves me to death" If he calls me sweetie one more time... I am going to throw up. I cannott believe this. I go out on 2 or 3 lousy dates after a 6 year drought... and I..... have to deal with this needy, controlling demanding bull ****. I spelled it out last night. " You cannott love me, you can like me. You dont even know me" If he thinks for one minute that I am going to give up the thrill of wondering daily where my next fee is coming from... or give up my dreams of travelling around Europe, penniless as an illegal alien.....or dreaming about life in a room in a basement, alone, in my old age... he can forget it. I would give anything to be sitting by the phone like a teenager, wishing the guy would call. I am really , really sorry that I broke my 6 year run of being an androgenous loner... with the world as my oyster. I hope his nose hairs grow down into his mouth, and he gets the message to just leave me alone.

FOR WEEDER

LOL, poor Weeder, It sounds like me. I remember when I was in Kindergarten, I had huge crush on the Principal Mr. Silvers.....he was so handsome........until I saw a unsightly mole on the back of his neck..........I hated him after that.......LOLL!:wah:

Click on this below Weeder, drag your mouse and see what you score:)

http://www.nobodyhere.com/justme/nose.here

Thanks for the laughs........

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Jul 30, 2007 9:10 am

Oh weeder this man sounds a bit stalkerish, and truly lonesome, but like you said you just can't have him in your space like that. I feel for ya hunny going through similar, and it is awful avoiding someone who can't take no for an answer. I suppose it's a good thing he does not live neary you all the time. Me I have found evidence of this man being in my back yard while I have been away eeeek Weeder run away trust me get away from him, hell girl you may even have to be nasty to him.

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Mon Jul 30, 2007 9:17 am

He's a real nosehair man

sitting in his nosehair land

making all his nosehair plans

for weeder.:wah:

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Jul 30, 2007 9:18 am

YZGI;671080 wrote: He's a real nosehair man

sitting in his nosehair land

making all his nosehair plans

for weeder.:wah:

Oiy that fits well to that tune ahahaha:wah::wah:

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Mon Jul 30, 2007 9:39 am

Avoid this man

most 50 yr old men have a life, don't let him control/dictate yours.

Perhaps talking(assertive) to him long distance is easier for you than in person.

Somethings weird about this guy.

Patsy

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Mon Jul 30, 2007 9:41 am

Patsy Warnick;671097 wrote: Avoid this man

most 50 yr old men have a life, don't let him control/dictate yours.

Perhaps talking(assertive) to him long distance is easier for you than in person.

Somethings weird about this guy.

Patsy
Yeah he is horny.

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Jul 30, 2007 9:44 am

YZGI;671099 wrote: Yeah he is horny.

that ain't weird about any guy :wah:

I think there is something beyond what we see with this guy. Weeder be safe no matter what ok.

Uncle Kram · Post by **Uncle Kram** » Mon Jul 30, 2007 9:45 am

YZGI;671080 wrote: He's a real nosehair man

sitting in his nosehair land

making all his nosehair plans

for weeder.:wah:

SUPERB :wah:

weeder · Post by **weeder** » Mon Jul 30, 2007 10:16 am

Two phone calls this morning. I didnt answer at all last night. Everything you all said was right... good... and hilariously funny.

Betty.... I hear what your saying.. But I in no way shape or form gave this man the impression that I was lonely.

This is good because you all made me keep a sense of humor about this. I dont want to be mean, that is why I am not taking the calls. I am actually hoping he will e mail me so that I can give him my prepared answer. Yes, I am a coward with speaking directly. I definately would prefer to write. Only because it is difficult for me to hurt someone. It is really awful how you can be attracted to someone one minute... and then loathe them the next. For example I really liked his voice.. and now hearing it on my messages makes me sick to my stomach.

I am going to tell him that I tried to explain many times, in many ways that all I was offering was frienship. His numerous phone calls have made me uncomfortable... and that I am not interested in any relationship at all.

I wish him all the best, and would really appreciate his letting this go now.

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Jul 30, 2007 10:21 am

weeder;671130 wrote: Two phone calls this morning. I didnt answer at all last night. Everything you all said was right... good... and hilariously funny.

Betty.... I hear what your saying.. But I in no way shape or form gave this man the impression that I was lonely.

This is good because you all made me keep a sense of humor about this. I dont want to be mean, that is why I am not taking the calls. I am actually hoping he will e mail me so that I can give him my prepared answer. Yes, I am a coward with speaking directly. I definately would prefer to write. Only because it is difficult for me to hurt someone. It is really awful how you can be attracted to someone one minute... and then loathe them the next. For example I really liked his voice.. and now hearing it on my messages makes me sick to my stomach.

I am going to tell him that I tried to explain many times, in many ways that all I was offering was frienship. His numerous phone calls have made me uncomfortable... and that I am not interested in any relationship at all.

I wish him all the best, and would really appreciate his letting this go now.

you are not a coward to use email, it's easier to write and rewrite and perfect what you wish to say where as verbal you may get things out in a way you may regret.

RhondaLu · Post by **RhondaLu** » Mon Jul 30, 2007 10:27 am

weeder;671130 wrote: Two phone calls this morning. I didnt answer at all last night. Everything you all said was right... good... and hilariously funny.

Betty.... I hear what your saying.. But I in no way shape or form gave this man the impression that I was lonely.

This is good because you all made me keep a sense of humor about this. I dont want to be mean, that is why I am not taking the calls. I am actually hoping he will e mail me so that I can give him my prepared answer. Yes, I am a coward with speaking directly. I definately would prefer to write. Only because it is difficult for me to hurt someone. It is really awful how you can be attracted to someone one minute... and then loathe them the next. For example I really liked his voice.. and now hearing it on my messages makes me sick to my stomach.

I am going to tell him that I tried to explain many times, in many ways that all I was offering was frienship. His numerous phone calls have made me uncomfortable... and that I am not interested in any relationship at all.

I wish him all the best, and would really appreciate his letting this go now.

:sneaky:so how many nose hairs did you score?

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Mon Jul 30, 2007 11:01 am

or just tell him you're a lesbian!

I've done that when guys hit on me, I'd grab the nearest female and say "I'm with her" :sneaky: Always works! :wah:

SuzyB · Post by **SuzyB** » Mon Jul 30, 2007 11:04 am

sunny104;671154 wrote: or just tell him you're a lesbian!

I've done that when guys hit on me, I'd grab the nearest female and say "I'm with her" :sneaky: Always works! :wah:

I used to do that but the cheeky sods used to ask if they could join in :-5

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Mon Jul 30, 2007 11:07 am

People might think this is a bad idea, but you could always tell him your old boyfriend came back into the picture. I've used that on a lot of occasions because it seems kinder than "I'm not interested."

weeder · Post by **weeder** » Mon Jul 30, 2007 2:26 pm

What REALLY pisses me off about this... is that he has a horticulture degree, and he would have been great to have work for me. He also would have gotten me perspective clients from the nursery he works at. Oh well... too bad. If only he had been able to controll himself... this could have had a different ending. AS WE SPEAK HERE... CALL#4 FOR TODAY... JUST CAME IN ON THE CELL PHONE. Every time he leaves a message he says" Call me back at your convienience" Then within an hour he calls again. Maybe removing the nasal bush unbalanced his brain....:wah: Ans so.... its all my fault.

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Mon Jul 30, 2007 3:28 pm

Tell him you are busy reading a new book.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Mon Jul 30, 2007 3:36 pm

After KB shakes him up...or down whatever Id be happy to shoot poison tipped darts at him then start him on fire.

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Mon Jul 30, 2007 3:37 pm

Nomad;671334 wrote: After KB shakes him up...or down whatever Id be happy to shoot poison tipped darts at him then start him on fire.

Just wait until I get out of the way.

Post by **Bryn Mawr** » Mon Jul 30, 2007 3:41 pm

KB.;671338 wrote: Just wait until I get out of the way.

Not that you don't trust Nomad's aim or anything

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Mon Jul 30, 2007 3:43 pm

Bryn Mawr;671350 wrote: Not that you don't trust Nomad's aim or anything

It was the fire more than the poisonous darts. Poison don't scare me so much, it would have to fight the endless consumption of evil sh!t i already put in my body. Fire is another story.

weeder · Post by **weeder** » Mon Jul 30, 2007 3:45 pm

Nomad;671334 wrote: After KB shakes him up...or down whatever Id be happy to shoot poison tipped darts at him then start him on fire.

Thats what I was waiting for. You guys are too much!!!!

And YES I am reading a new book.

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Mon Jul 30, 2007 3:55 pm

YZGI;671080 wrote: He's a real nosehair man

sitting in his nosehair land

making all his nosehair plans

for weeder.:wah:
:yh_dance :guitarist :yh_dance

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Mon Jul 30, 2007 4:04 pm

almostfamous;671366 wrote: ummm

Its a damn joke, hush. I smoke, and have an occasional vodka tonic. Care to compare vices over the last week? When are we going out tomorrow and where?

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Mon Jul 30, 2007 4:05 pm

weeder;671353 wrote: Thats what I was waiting for. You guys are too much!!!!

And YES I am reading a new book.

Mein Kempf ?

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Mon Jul 30, 2007 4:07 pm

Nomad;671379 wrote: Mein Kempf ?

Muse, actually.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Mon Jul 30, 2007 4:13 pm

Take her to Chukee Cheeze