When You Were Still a Lurker . . .

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Sat Jul 22, 2006 12:33 pm

Hey guys --

I was a lurker of FG for a month or two before I started posting. Did you also 'lurk' before joining? Why?

For me, I found some strong personalities that scared me a little bit! I thought I might be chewed up and spit out! But I was also touched by the kindness and compassion of the members, too.

After awhile, I just said "Ah, F**K it, I am who I am and they're either gonna like me or not -- so I started posting.

What about you?

Post by **spot** » Sat Jul 22, 2006 12:47 pm

I didn't read for many days before I wrote here. I had my hand grabbed one day on IRC, I was dragged over to be shown a thread and I was told "register here and help me out !". After I'd thrown in my two cents I spent a while discovering what I'd let myself in for. It probably explains the extent to which I raised hackles when I arrived.

So, did you get chewed up and spat out by the people you'd been wary of before you tried, or was it us timid ones that crept out from behind the hedges and got you?

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Sat Jul 22, 2006 12:57 pm

spot wrote: So, did you get chewed up and spat out by the people you'd been wary of before you tried, or was it us timid ones that crept out from behind the hedges and got you?

Another excellent question from my friend Spot.

I feel quite close to the members with strong personalities. Just goes to show you . . .

But the quieter ones, and the peacekeeping ones -- I've also formed a strong bond with many of them.

Like I've said before, it takes a lot of personalities to grow a Garden. :-6

Although I do wonder how I'm viewed by other FGers -- in your face, quiet, or peacekeeping. I guess I've played all three roles here . . .

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Sat Jul 22, 2006 1:37 pm

Oh, I don't think I lurked-oh that made me miss LC and her cop car-like when snooze and I would be blowing the margins and-kaboom-next thread was the cop car busting us!

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Sat Jul 22, 2006 1:44 pm

The first time I saw FG, I knew right awy it was the place I wanted to hang out. The first 2 threads I saw were 1) a thread about a program I watch on Animal Planet, and 2) a thread koan had started about how wonderful her daughter is. I thought, "Cool!!! Parents, kids, animals...this is WAY more like it!!" (I'd just come from my first experience with discussion forums and had unwittingly been sucked into a teeny bopper forum. The horror!!!!) :yh_ooooo

FG is miles, UNIVERSES better than any other discussion forum I've come across since, and I've checked out a LOT!

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Sat Jul 22, 2006 1:45 pm

I could never lurk for long. I am curious though, I have 2 referrals on my profile. That means one person joined recently because of me.

Who, please? :-6

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Sat Jul 22, 2006 1:48 pm

Yeah, where has she been!

HotnSexyForNomad · Post by **HotnSexyForNomad** » Sat Jul 22, 2006 1:52 pm

I'm here! I've been lurking, hoping that Nomad, that sexy beast, would show up. Does anyone know where he is?

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Sat Jul 22, 2006 1:53 pm

Hey there! I'm sure he will lurking our way soon..................

He will be happy to see you!:)

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Sat Jul 22, 2006 1:57 pm

Yeah, where is that "shy" Nomad?:wah:

Peg · Post by **Peg** » Sat Jul 22, 2006 3:11 pm

I liked the wide variety of topics, the people, and the setup. I didn't lurk. I jumped in with both feet. Been here ever since. I'm not that easy to get rid of.:wah:

Post by **spot** » Sat Jul 22, 2006 3:49 pm

Kathy Ellen wrote: Hi Cher,

From your posts, I think that you are a wonderful and sensitive person.Cher?? What about meeeeee? Nobody ever recognises how sensitive I am.Peg wrote: I liked the wide variety of topics, the people, and the setup. I didn't lurk. I jumped in with both feet. Been here ever since. I'm not that easy to get rid of.:wah:I like the wide people, the setup topics and both varieties of feet. I jumped since I've not been got rid of, I'm that easy.

Kathy Ellen, welcome to FG - I'm slightly late, I expect, for which I apologise.

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Sat Jul 22, 2006 3:55 pm

seen lots of wonderful people & jumped right in

Marie5656 · Post by **Marie5656** » Sat Jul 22, 2006 6:28 pm

I remember that I came across this forum when I googled "support groups". I registered right away. Do not remeember if I became a supporting member the first day, but it was definatly within a day or two of first registering.

I do remember after a bit having a similar thought as Cher, I would be chewed up and spit out. I was afraid I would not be able to hold my own. Have decided to choose my battles, and posts carefully, and think I am doing OK. At least, I do not think I have made any enemies....

yet.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Sat Jul 22, 2006 8:27 pm

I just dived in and started harrassing people right away. I think my 1st victim was buttercup :wah:

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Sat Jul 22, 2006 8:33 pm

Were you ? How come ?

woppy71 · Post by **woppy71** » Sun Jul 23, 2006 12:48 am

The really weird thing is that I jumped in right away, but I only posted a few things at first, mainly i think because I am nervous of people when I first meet them, You know, what will poeple think of me etc..etc.

The strange thing is though, In my job as a security officer in a large shopping mall, there tends to be a lot of confrontation and other difficult situations, which I seem to be able to handle quite well, at least I think I do.

Know that I have got a bit more of a handle on some of the personalities here, I'm glad to say that my post count is growing nicely now, at a good rate. I think that there are some wonderfull, and kind people here, who don't tent to rip peoples heads off if they post something that they don't agree with. I feel comfortable and settled here now. Thanbks to you all!! :-4:)

woppy71 · Post by **woppy71** » Sun Jul 23, 2006 1:42 am

Diuretic wrote: Don't get too settled woppy, have a look at spot's signature line (unless he's changed it recently)....it could be time for.......the Comfy Chair!

:wah: Yep, Spot certainly has an interesting sig line:-3

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Sun Jul 23, 2006 2:17 am

I 'googled' gardening forums and ended up at FG.

Don't think I lurked at all but stayed in the background for a while.

Minks helped me a lot in the early days with the 'do's' and 'dont's as I was a 'forum virgin'.

LC was a great forum mate and helped me out loads of times -I miss her.

Joining enabled me to make new friends, meet new people, learn a lot about different lifestyles, cultures, have fun, and learn a lot about myself.

Joining FG was one of the best things I ever did - the support I've had from some of you guys has been phenomenol ....you guys are the best !

P.S. Welcome to all the new folks that have joined recently....it's a pleasure to have you here

theia · Post by **theia** » Sun Jul 23, 2006 2:40 am

I didn't lurk much at all at the beginning, I just joined. My lurking began during my first few months. After I'd posted something, I'd log off quickly in case I'd said the wrong thing. Then, I'd creep back, as a "guest" and check. Mind you, it took me ages to compose even a few lines because I would check the spelling, the grammar, whether or not I'd answered the thread topic, whether my post made sense etc. etc.

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Sun Jul 23, 2006 4:59 am

theia wrote: I didn't lurk much at all at the beginning, I just joined. My lurking began during my first few months. After I'd posted something, I'd log off quickly in case I'd said the wrong thing. Then, I'd creep back, as a "guest" and check. Mind you, it took me ages to compose even a few lines because I would check the spelling, the grammar, whether or not I'd answered the thread topic, whether my post made sense etc. etc.I remember :wah: :-4

If I recall (and am allowed to take credit

), it was a doomed book club with you, Betty, and me that dragged you out.

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Sun Jul 23, 2006 5:10 am

Marie5656 wrote: I was afraid I would not be able to hold my own. Have decided to choose my battles, and posts carefully, and think I am doing OK. At least, I do not think I have made any enemies....

yet.

Marie

you are indeed a wise lady

I enjoy your company here :-6

theia · Post by **theia** » Sun Jul 23, 2006 6:17 am

Accountable wrote: I remember :wah: :-4

If I recall (and am allowed to take credit

), it was a doomed book club with you, Betty, and me that dragged you out.

You may take credit, dear Acc. But the start of my "coming out" was just before the book club when you pmmed me the answer to one of Abbey's quiz questions! I started to feel like one of the "gang." Thank you! :-4

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Sun Jul 23, 2006 6:27 am

theia wrote: You may take credit, dear Acc. But the start of my "coming out" was just before the book club when you pmmed me the answer to one of Abbey's quiz questions! I started to feel like one of the "gang." Thank you! :-4
:yh_blush

theia · Post by **theia** » Sun Jul 23, 2006 8:10 am

ArnoldLayne wrote: Right Theia. Go and see Miss Chonsi after the class and take that Accountable with you. Cheating at quizzes is frowned upon don't you know

I'm telling Accountable on you, Arnold...you'll be sorry, just you wait.

pantsonfire321@aol.com · Sun Jul 23, 2006 10:40 am

I lurked for a good while when i first came here:) it did feel a bit cliquey so i think i lurked more than i posted untill i got used to some of the bigger personalities. I have mentioned this before so you'll all know , BR and LC scared the pants off me;) but i soon found out their lovely and it didnt take long to get to know the rest of you all - i think as well it was hard for me because at home i have this awful habit of making fun (taking the pi$$ ) out of everything and anything and because of the language thing i was terrified (and sometimes still am) of saying the wrong thing incase its taken the wrong way . I do still lurk and post every now and again . I am incredibly lazy and sometimes i just cant be arsed

and ive never really been one for lashing praise onto others i hardly know, it takes a real long time for me to feel part of something so yes i used to lurk and still do and the rest of the time i just post bollock$ :rolleyes:

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Sun Jul 23, 2006 2:37 pm

Nomad wrote: I just dived in and started harrassing people right away. I think my 1st victim was buttercup :wah:

& it was relentless :rolleyes:

when i was a teenager i had a friend who's dad always slapped me in the back or punched me in the arm when i visited, my friend said - awww he likes you :-2

AussiePam · Post by **AussiePam** » Sun Jul 23, 2006 2:52 pm

I never lurked. Found this place, leapt straight in bollocks and all, got hugged, got tramped on, got rubbished, got hugged. I'm still here, bollocks and all. Love most of you Guys madly.

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Sun Jul 23, 2006 2:53 pm

AussiePam wrote: I never lurked. Found this place, leapt straight in bollocks and all, got hugged, got tramped on, got rubbished, got hugged. I'm still here, bollocks and all. Love most of you Guys madly.

attagirl :-4