Is Romance Dead?

dragonfly · Post by **dragonfly** » Fri Jan 27, 2006 11:25 am

I've been thinking about this since I had a very good conversation with my son, who is 25 years of age, hardworking, single. We got on the discussion of dating and I told him I felt romance is dead and it was his generation that killed it!

He sort of laughed, but then he agreed, and it came to me that I have no clue how it happened. What happened to the thrill of going out, that first date, the anticipation of it, the heart pumping, hand-holding, mind-blowing time of getting to know each other?

Kids nowadays jump into bed together without a moment's thought of tomorrow. Any ideas on this?

dragonfly · Post by **dragonfly** » Fri Jan 27, 2006 11:39 am

Don't I know it. I look at my youngest and try to figure it out. I realize that all generations are different. I probably dated a little bit different than my mother did. They miss out on the nice things about meeting someone and deciding how much they like them. They've got it bass-ackwards. Get to know someone first, then the sex. Romance is so much a part of learning.

hotsauce · Post by **hotsauce** » Fri Jan 27, 2006 12:08 pm

parents set the example...don't you think? so many unhappily married people not modeling a healthy relationship!

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Fri Jan 27, 2006 12:35 pm

Romance is so not dead!!! My husband met me at the door last week when I got home from work, (which, mind you is at almost 3 in the morning) with the whole house lit up in candles. He took my bag of work stuff, slipped off my coat and shoes and rubbed my neck and back and then seduced me like....well....the rest of the story would make you blush, let's just say, romance is alive and well at BR's house. :-4 :-4

dragonfly · Post by **dragonfly** » Fri Jan 27, 2006 12:47 pm

I can't speak for anyone else but me. My children always wanted to know how we met and what we did when we were out together. But I also think that getting together with their friends, and that the norm out there now is to "live for the moment", so to speak. I hope as my son gets older, he'll see that there's more to a woman than just how she looks. Maybe it's something this generation needs to get out of their system, or maybe it comes from the 60's when I was growing up with the "free love" and "love the one you're with". Maybe it also has to do with how television and movies portray teenagers. I wish I knew the answer.

Hazel · Post by **Hazel** » Fri Jan 27, 2006 12:47 pm

I dont think romance is dead for our generation, but im glad i was a teenager when i was and not one now, if that makes sense :-3

dragonfly · Post by **dragonfly** » Fri Jan 27, 2006 12:49 pm

I agree with you, Hazel. The anticipation of the date, waiting for your date to pick you up, the whole nine yards. It's been over 35 years since then, and I still smile about it.

jennyswan · Post by **jennyswan** » Fri Jan 27, 2006 1:29 pm

I've been thinking about this since I had a very good conversation with my son, who is 25 years of age, hardworking, single. We got on the discussion of dating and I told him I felt romance is dead and it was his generation that killed it!

He sort of laughed, but then he agreed, and it came to me that I have no clue how it happened. What happened to the thrill of going out, that first date, the anticipation of it, the heart pumping, hand-holding, mind-blowing time of getting to know each other?

Kids nowadays jump into bed together without a moment's thought of tomorrow. Any ideas on this?

I wouldn't quite agree with this. I think it is culturally influenced as well. Not everybody is a bed hopper. I know some older generation that are actually much worse then me and my pals

I think that romance is still alive. It's the small things that make the big difference.

I think what can be fatal for a relationship is when we have an overrated idea of romance. It can't be all flowers and champagne. I think that some people expect this all the time and then when things slow down or begin to get comfy they bale out of the relationship.

Romance should be an important part but it's not always all it's cracked up to be

Anyway that's my opinion

dragonfly · Post by **dragonfly** » Fri Jan 27, 2006 1:33 pm

Thanks for your input. I guess the older generation always has something to gripe about to the younger generation! I hope it is not dead, but in the beginning of a relationship, I don't see what's so wrong about getting to know someone before you "get to know someone" in the Biblical sense.

jennyswan · Post by **jennyswan** » Fri Jan 27, 2006 1:36 pm

Thanks for your input. I guess the older generation always has something to gripe about to the younger generation! I hope it is not dead, but in the beginning of a relationship, I don't see what's so wrong about getting to know someone before you "get to know someone" in the Biblical sense.

I totally agree with you on this one!!

Tombstone · Post by **Tombstone** » Fri Jan 27, 2006 2:33 pm

Nope! Not dead in my neck of the woods. My eldest is champing at the bit for his first official date.

Traditional values are taught in the home. If the parent's don't care or don't believe in traditional values, they get what they sow.

juanita_ghy · Post by **juanita_ghy** » Sat Jan 28, 2006 2:47 am

Well this was certainly a topic that even youths in India talk about a lot today. As times are changing even here in the east people are very much into the westernised trends and ideas. and what i dont understand is why cant they accept the good things about the west instead. but when i apply this line to myself i really think that romance is not actually dead....not in my life for sure:) and when i see so many of my friends....i would have to say that no, in some way or the other romance is still alive. sometimes it is always the little things in life that matters.....

juanita

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Sat Jan 28, 2006 2:56 am

my man sends me shakespeare and sonnets. he's a knight in shining armor. romance is not dead. and i live to perpetuate it. i send him songs and poetry. it's so fulfilling and lovely.

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Sat Jan 28, 2006 3:09 am

lady cop wrote: my man sends me shakespeare and sonnets. he's a knight in shining armor. romance is not dead. and i live to perpetuate it. i send him songs and poetry. it's so fulfilling and lovely.
You know what I really like about your relationship with Bothwell? You rarely brag (but when you do it's rightfully so and in a good way) about how awesome you are together, and I get a couple more details about it in private, (not much) and he says absolutely NOTHING about it in public, so it's like with you guys, your love for each other, while very visible to those in the know, is almost sacred, too important and special to be strewn about in public places. I think that's just the coolest.

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Sat Jan 28, 2006 3:15 am

thanks BR...you're right. he's a very reticent Brit. our private life is private, we don't have sex on FG like some people. but when we're together it's heaven. i have dreams about kissing him at the airport.