QUESTION for young adults??

southern yankee · Post by **southern yankee** » Fri Aug 15, 2008 2:25 pm

My daughter is 26. very pretty and smart. she tells me often that she just thinks there is just losers out there. She has not really been in a deep relationship since she was a senor in high school. i use to think she was too picky. but the more young men i meet. the more i believe she may be right. Are other young women having this problem???

:-3

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Fri Aug 15, 2008 2:28 pm

I don't think its just young women having this problem it is pretty common in all the age brackets. Not much to pick from these days. :-5:-5

southern yankee · Post by **southern yankee** » Fri Aug 15, 2008 2:42 pm

it has been about 15 years since i was single. did meet a few jerks myself. :p:(

pinkchick · Post by **pinkchick** » Sat Aug 16, 2008 3:26 am

southern yankee;954045 wrote: My daughter is 26. very pretty and smart. she tells me often that she just thinks there is just losers out there. She has not really been in a deep relationship since she was a senor in high school. i use to think she was too picky. but the more young men i meet. the more i believe she may be right. Are other young women having this problem???

:-3

Yup.......

I'm 34 next birthday. I've been single for the longest time. I am told I'm too picky.

Most of the guys I meet are.......less than desirable. A lot of my friends are married with kids and they often ask why I am still single.

It's slim pickins out there and I refuse to settle for someone just for the sake of it.

I'm happy with my life for now - I enjoy my freedom

:-6

southern yankee · Post by **southern yankee** » Sat Aug 16, 2008 6:38 am

pinkchick;954432 wrote: Yup.......

I'm 34 next birthday. I've been single for the longest time. I am told I'm too picky.

Most of the guys I meet are.......less than desirable. A lot of my friends are married with kids and they often ask why I am still single.

It's slim pickins out there and I refuse to settle for someone just for the sake of it.

I'm happy with my life for now - I enjoy my freedom

:-6 the problem with my daughter. she wants to be married. she wants to have kids. but like you said the pickins are very slim.

southern yankee · Post by **southern yankee** » Mon Aug 25, 2008 1:39 pm

Hoss;963293 wrote: What is it she's looking for in a mate? I think I'm picky, but then the girl I like is my friend’s sister and I have known her for 5 years now. We have had lots of times when we were together in groups and family and church social settings but not really alone. I consider her wife material, she's perfect in many regards, but I don't know if she is the one yet. There are other girls that I could like but she's the only one that gives me that special spark inside. One girl kind of throws herself at me and it's embarrassing to me. I try to avoid her but she's in my social group and I have to associate with her at times. I get nervous around the girl I like and I think she can feel that I like her; she has said as much to me and tries to get me to relax and not worry about if other people look at us. I sit with her in church, and we went to a social dining event together and that made others in our church realize we were a little more than just group friends. I’m trying to just be friends with her for now and maybe later it will grow in time. I have to get myself through college and get a house before I can really consider marriage. you are thinking smart. having your feet on the ground. (house,college,job)but if she is the one. let her know your plans. she may not know how you feel.

About what my daughter is looking for is a man, not a boy. noone she has to hold their hand. a go getter. plus a job would help.she has a thing for large men. meaning she does not like SKINNY MEN.

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Mon Aug 25, 2008 2:03 pm

How old are you Hoss? If you dont mind me asking?

southern yankee · Post by **southern yankee** » Mon Aug 25, 2008 2:03 pm

Hoss;963315 wrote: She wants to be a nurse and is in nursing school. I'm going to be a firefighter. So she's looking for a large man with a job? Tell her to shop at construction sites. This post makes me wonder if there are any people my age in the forum garden. in this neck of the woods it is oilfield. but i don't know?? wish i could order one for her:wah::wah:

TheNewDG · Post by **TheNewDG** » Mon Aug 25, 2008 2:06 pm

Hoss;963293 wrote: What is it she's looking for in a mate? I think I'm picky, but then the girl I like is my friend’s sister and I have known her for 5 years now. We have had lots of times when we were together in groups and family and church social settings but not really alone. I consider her wife material, she's perfect in many regards, but I don't know if she is the one yet. There are other girls that I could like but she's the only one that gives me that special spark inside. One girl kind of throws herself at me and it's embarrassing to me. I try to avoid her but she's in my social group and I have to associate with her at times. I get nervous around the girl I like and I think she can feel that I like her; she has said as much to me and tries to get me to relax and not worry about if other people look at us. I sit with her in church, and we went to a social dining event together and that made others in our church realize we were a little more than just group friends. I’m trying to just be friends with her for now and maybe later it will grow in time. I have to get myself through college and get a house before I can really consider marriage.

You are a VERY SMART person. Good job!

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Mon Aug 25, 2008 2:07 pm

Then you would be correct, not many 18 year olds here. Chris & Music lover are the only one's i can think of close to your age.

southern yankee · Post by **southern yankee** » Mon Aug 25, 2008 2:08 pm

Hoss;963325 wrote: 18. Just turned a few months back. don't take this wrong. but you are a baby yet. Have fun, live a little. you are way too young to think of marriage. my daughter, just started to think of marriage at about 23.

southern yankee · Post by **southern yankee** » Mon Aug 25, 2008 2:14 pm

Hoss;963333 wrote: I don't understand how girls figure out which guy they like anyway. :-3 i don't know. we just know. but getting you guys to know. is a all togther differnt story:wah::wah:

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Mon Aug 25, 2008 2:16 pm

Hoss;963333 wrote: I don't understand how girls figure out which guy they like anyway. :-3

It depends if you are ruled by your heart or your head.

southern yankee · Post by **southern yankee** » Mon Aug 25, 2008 2:22 pm

Hoss;963348 wrote: I try to ask her when I don't understand her, usually she rolls her eyes and smiles and tells me she will tell me later. I like the smile and then forget what I wanted to know about. oooooo!! you got it bad.:-4:-4

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Mon Aug 25, 2008 2:23 pm

Hoss;963348 wrote: I try to ask her when I don't understand her, usually she rolls her eyes and smiles and tells me she will tell me later. I like the smile and then forget what I wanted to know about.

Awwww i like that answer. Ever considered dating a scots girl? I have daughters you know

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Mon Aug 25, 2008 2:31 pm

They are 19 & 22 but are seldom on the internet.

theDC · Post by **theDC** » Sun Aug 02, 2009 9:19 am

I'm 25 (guy) and I frequently intentionally find problems with girls...it's probably the same thing. It's a defense mechanism so you don't get hurt...because if you tell yourself you don't care then nothing bad can happen. She prob got her heart broken when she was 16 or something...

littleCJelkton · Post by **littleCJelkton** » Mon Jun 07, 2010 10:53 pm

southern yankee;954045 wrote: My daughter is 26. very pretty and smart. she tells me often that she just thinks there is just losers out there. She has not really been in a deep relationship since she was a senor in high school. i use to think she was too picky. but the more young men i meet. the more i believe she may be right. Are other young women having this problem???

:-3

This is what I see as the begining of realization of what love is and its differance to that of attraction. As most of us me included as teens we had a very conflicting view. On one side we have this traditionally passed down cultural notion that an out side force is going to pre-destin two people to love each other, and on the other side we have the natural genetic process passed giving us the way humans as animals choose mates such as a "nice ass" "big brest" in women, and the tall dark and handsome male, add in the more modern sense of security we get from economic sucsess of prospective mates and we have the more modern Ideal of what the modern man or woman we want in a mate. As we use our naturalistic selection processes to pick mates we add in the cultural notion of love and we think that this unseen power of fate is going to keep the ones we choose as mate with us through thick and thin. As we get more mature with relationships we begin to realize that we are the ones that have to work hard especialy metnally to make a relationship work, and both people in the relationship have to work just as hard to keep a relationship toghether. As we realize this we also come to the understanding that not everyone understands that both people in the relationship have to work hard to keep it going. and we understanding that some people still believe that despite things like infidelity, dishonesty, and/or abuse love will triumph. I believe that as we come to a realization that it takes a deep mental understaning, unspoken trustworthyness, and a strong will to supress the naturalistic urge to mate, we become frustrated that others don't see this and beging to have a lack of faith in the system of mating that is currently the soicieties standard.

littleCJelkton · Post by **littleCJelkton** » Mon Jun 07, 2010 10:54 pm

littleCJelkton;1314443 wrote: This is what I see as the begining of realization of what love is and its differance to that of attraction. As most of us me included as teens we had a very conflicting view. On one side we have this traditionally passed down cultural notion that an out side force is going to pre-destin two people to love each other, and on the other side we have the natural genetic process passed giving us the way humans as animals choose mates such as a "nice ass" "big brest" in women, and the tall dark and handsome male, add in the more modern sense of security we get from economic sucsess of prospective mates and we have the more modern Ideal of what the modern man or woman we want in a mate. As we use our naturalistic selection processes to pick mates we add in the cultural notion of love and we think that this unseen power of fate is going to keep the ones we choose as mate with us through thick and thin. As we get more mature with relationships we begin to realize that we are the ones that have to work hard especialy metnally to make a relationship work, and both people in the relationship have to work just as hard to keep a relationship toghether. As we realize this we also come to the understanding that not everyone understands that both people in the relationship have to work hard to keep it going. and we understanding that some people still believe that despite things like infidelity, dishonesty, and/or abuse love will triumph. I believe that as we come to a realization that it takes a deep mental understaning, unspoken trustworthyness, and a strong will to supress the naturalistic urge to mate, we become frustrated that others don't see this and beging to have a lack of faith in the system of mating that is currently the soicieties standard.

Just to note: i will be 27 on june 28th