Older Men vs. Younger Men

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 5:56 am

All right ladies,

Jj's thread about older women make better lovers, raised some interesting questions!

it's time to get down to it and answer that age-old question about age. Not ours - the men! Who is better: A younger man or an older man?

Older men are set in their ways. By the time a man reaches his 30s he has already developed a pretty distinct sense of self. Add the bachelor factor into the equation and what you’re left with is a man who is accustomed to having things done his way in a manner that he is comfortable with. Spontaneity has been replaced by routine.

Older men are relationship-inept. Yes, the arguments will be more tempered and less irrational, but the older man is also quick to blame the woman for being irrational or less experienced in matters of life. With more age comes more failed relationships, chances are that the older man has not grown significantly from his former relationships.

Older men either want something serious or non-committal. A older man knows what he wants and falls into one of two categories: determined to get married, or determined not to get married. A woman with less concretely defined ideas around the subject of matrimony is forced to chose between the man that wants to fall head-over-heals in love immediately and a man that is resolute against a serious relationship (and consequently not available to love anyone but themselves)

Dating an older man does come with benefits. Maturity is certainly one of the biggest and more obvious factors. Mature men tend to know themselves a little better than younger boys. They typically aren’t as sexually motivated, either, but that doesn’t mean lovemaking suffers. They can be mature between the sheets, too, knowing more and taking a different approach to pleasure. Older men are more established and farther along in their careers, and security is a nice benefit of tying yourself to a steady life. If you find the right older man, a big helping of bliss could be in your future!

Younger men are experimental. A man in his 20s is rearing to try everything under the sun. From his under-developed outlook on politics and life matters to his willingness and eagerness to explore all facets of the bedroom, the younger man is searching for rich experiences and is not afraid of stepping outside his comfort zone. He’s adventurous, hopeful, ambitious, and craving knowledge. Simply put, the younger man is just plain fun to be around.

Younger men, are also something to be feared by an older woman. At the very least he subjects the woman to being scrutinized by society and being labeled a cougar. In addition, a younger man can bring with him financial instability, professional ambiguity, dating inexperience, sexual inexperience, and social ineptitude.

younger men are just that - young. Sometimes they have no idea what they want, who they are or where they are going. Sometimes they still live in a dorm-like atmosphere with three roommates, dirty laundry piled on the twin bed and the Sony Play Station in full view. Sometimes they still live with mommy. Maybe you'll get lucky and he'll invite you over for a play date.

So c'mon everybody, what's your opinion?

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 6:03 am

Well younger men I reckon dont give yer enough time to get yer clothes off....... while older ones give you enough time to bleedin run some up on the sewing machine;)

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 6:15 am

Carolly;896665 wrote: Well younger men I reckon dont give yer enough time to get yer clothes off....... while older ones give you enough time to bleedin run some up on the sewing machine;)

:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 7:39 am

I can't have any opinion on the matter since i've never dated an older guy! :sneaky: :wah::wah:

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 7:41 am

Hope6;896835 wrote: I can't have any opinion on the matter since i've never dated an older guy! :sneaky: :wah::wah:Well theres older and OLDER:wah::wah:;)

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 7:42 am

So Hope, would you take older or younger?:sneaky::wah:

Victoria · Post by **Victoria** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 7:42 am

I got the best of both worlds I caught him young and eager and Ive kept him, now hes older just as eager but age has forced him to slow down slightly. And theres no truth in the saying that you cant teach an old dog new tricks my OH is top of the class.

Looking around though, If I were single I wouldn't bother, just get a dog for company and something with batteries for the other!:wah:

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 7:44 am

Victoria;896841 wrote: I got the best of both worlds I caught him young and eager and Ive kept him, now hes older just as eager but age has forced him to slow down slightly. And theres no truth in the saying that you cant teach an old dog new tricks mine is top of the class.

Looking around though, If I were single I wouldn't bother, just get a dog for company and something with batteries for the other!:wah::wah::wah:

:D

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 8:04 am

Carolly;896837 wrote: Well theres older and OLDER:wah::wah:;)

well my husband was a year and a half younger than me, and since he was the only guy i ever dated i've always been with a younger man! :wah::wah:

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 8:06 am

qsducks;896839 wrote: So Hope, would you take older or younger?:sneaky::wah:

i think i like the idea of a little younger, maybe just a couple of years!

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 8:06 am

Oh gawd Hope. I was just watching The View and they had these extremely hunky guys doing a dance and they weren't wearing any shirts.:-4

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 8:08 am

Victoria;896841 wrote: I got the best of both worlds I caught him young and eager and Ive kept him, now hes older just as eager but age has forced him to slow down slightly. And theres no truth in the saying that you cant teach an old dog new tricks my OH is top of the class.

Looking around though, If I were single I wouldn't bother, just get a dog for company and something with batteries for the other!:wah:

OMG!! :sneaky: :wah:

Amen Sister!

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 8:08 am

Hope6;896900 wrote: i think i like the idea of a little younger, maybe just a couple of years!

Whats the good of that fgs..........no girl if yer gonna have a Toy Boy make sure his more than 2 years younger then you ffs......you dont have 40year old Toy Boys dearheart unless yer 70:wah::wah:;)

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 8:09 am

Hope6;896903 wrote: OMG!! :sneaky: :wah:

Amen Sister!

SIS BEHAVE!!!!!!!!!:sneaky::rolleyes:

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 8:09 am

Idgie;896845 wrote: I thought 30 was considered older in your post? :-3

NO WAY!

Man, I barely agree with anything in this post! :wah:

:wah::wah: i mean i've never dated a guy who's older than i am! :wah::wah:

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 8:11 am

Carolly;896907 wrote: Whats the good of that fgs..........no girl if yer gonna have a Toy Boy make sure his more than 2 years younger then you. ffs......you dont have 40year old Toy Boys dearheart unless yer 70:wah::wah:;)

And this post begs the question....do you have a toy boy?:sneaky::wah:

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 8:11 am

Carolly;896907 wrote: Whats the good of that fgs..........no girl if yer gonna have a Toy Boy make sure his more than 2 years younger then you ffs......you dont have 40year old Toy Boys dearheart unless yer 70:wah::wah:;)

alright i'll go all out and find me a 25 year old! :sneaky: :wah:

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 8:11 am

qsducks;896913 wrote: And this post begs the question....do you have a toy boy?:sneaky::wah:

:rolleyes:

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 8:12 am

Carolly;896909 wrote: SIS BEHAVE!!!!!!!!!:sneaky::rolleyes:

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 8:13 am

Hope6;896914 wrote: alright i'll go all out and find me a 25 year old! :sneaky: :wah:Good the equipment will be oiled and ready to go:D

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 8:13 am

qsducks;896913 wrote: And this post begs the question....do you have a toy boy?:sneaky::wah:

owwww yeah Sis! do tell! :sneaky::sneaky::wah:

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 8:14 am

Carolly;896918 wrote: Good the equipment will be oiled and ready to go:D

OMG!!! :sneaky: :wah::wah::wah:

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 8:14 am

Hope6;896919 wrote: owwww yeah Sis! do tell!

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 8:41 am

Carolly;896921 wrote:

Hey it's just us girls here! i don't think any guys are lurking at the moment!

you can tell us! :sneaky: :wah:

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 8:43 am

Hope6;896969 wrote: Hey it's just us girls here! i don't think any guys are lurking at the moment!

you can tell us! NOOOOOOOOOO !!!!!!

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 8:54 am

Carolly;896975 wrote: NOOOOOOOOOO !!!!!!

:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 8:56 am

Hope6;896991 wrote: :yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

Oh come on CArolly, we'll never tell.:yh_rotfl

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 8:58 am

qsducks;896992 wrote: Oh come on CArolly, we'll never tell.:yh_rotfl

i don't think she's giving in on this one babe! :wah::wah::wah:

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 9:09 am

qsducks;896992 wrote: Oh come on CArolly, we'll never tell.:yh_rotflGawd it would be like broadcasting it to the bleedin world with you two:rolleyes::sneaky::p

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 9:10 am

Hope6;896996 wrote: i don't think she's giving in on this one babe! :wah::wah::wah:Light of my life..........yer so right:wah::wah::wah:

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 9:12 am

Carolly;897016 wrote: Light of my life..........yer so right:wah::wah::wah:

Praps maybe she'll sing about it or write an autobiography about her wonderful life.:wah:

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 9:13 am

Carolly;897016 wrote: Light of my life..........yer so right:wah::wah::wah:

:wah::wah::wah:

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 9:14 am

qsducks;897020 wrote: Praps maybe she'll sing about it or write an autobiography about her wonderful life.:wah:

yeah that's something to be saved for a tell-all book! :wah::wah::wah:

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 9:16 am

Hope6;897023 wrote: yeah that's something to be saved for a tell-all book! :wah::wah::wah:

Let's send her the paper and pens so she can get started:wah:

hotsauce · Post by **hotsauce** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 9:18 am

I'll take an older one each day of the week and twice on Sunday.

The fact that men age more gracefully contributes to my decision. My hubby is 5 years older and just gets more devistatingly handsome while I get more wrinkles! It will take me a while to look older with our age gap though!

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 9:18 am

qsducks;897020 wrote: Praps maybe she'll sing about it or write an autobiography about her wonderful life.:wah:Tell yer Ducky if I wrote a book............well put it like this.....nobody would believe it was true.....lets see.....rough childhood which alone could be made into a book on its own....never knew my fathers name....met the Beatles when I was young and lots of other well known people......had a very ...shall we say interesting time in show business....1st lady cab driver in East London...got married after 2 weeks of meeting .Antique Dealer....Market Trader.....writes poetry.....had alot of spiritual encounters.....a book lol theres a bleedin blockbuster there Id say:wah::wah:;)

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 9:24 am

Carolly;897028 wrote: Tell yer Ducky if I wrote a book............well put it like this.....nobody would believe it was true.....lets see.....rough childhood which alone could be made into a book on its own....never knew my fathers name....met the Beatles when I was young and lots of other well known people......had a very ...shall we say interesting time in show business....1st lady cab driver in East London...got married after 2 weeks of meeting .Antique Dealer....Market Trader.....writes poetry.....had alot of spiritual encounters.....a book lol theres a bleedin blockbuster there Id say:wah::wah:;)

who knows..maybe they can make a blockbuster movie from it.

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 9:27 am

qsducks;897030 wrote: who knows..maybe they can make a blockbuster movie from it.:)I would LOVE to write my story.....time and patience stops me:(

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 9:27 am

qsducks;897025 wrote: Let's send her the paper and pens so she can get started:wah:

yeah she better get started, i think it would be very interesting!

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 9:29 am

Hope6;897032 wrote: yeah she better get started, i think it would be very interesting!

Thats for sure:wah::wah::wah:

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 9:29 am

hotsauce;897027 wrote: I'll take an older one each day of the week and twice on Sunday.

The fact that men age more gracefully contributes to my decision. My hubby is 5 years older and just gets more devistatingly handsome while I get more wrinkles! It will take me a while to look older with our age gap though!

yeah! that's not fair!

men get better with age and we just get old! :-1

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 9:30 am

hotsauce;897027 wrote: I'll take an older one each day of the week and twice on Sunday.

The fact that men age more gracefully contributes to my decision. My hubby is 5 years older and just gets more devistatingly handsome while I get more wrinkles! It will take me a while to look older with our age gap though!:wah:;)

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 9:31 am

Hope6;897034 wrote: yeah! that's not fair!

men get better with age and we just get old! :-1
Talk for yourself Sis............I bloody dont:rolleyes::p

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 9:35 am

Carolly;897037 wrote: Talk for yourself Sis............I bloody dont:rolleyes::p

well i bloody don't either then! :sneaky: :wah::wah:

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 3:07 pm

Are we discussing "older" men or "old men"? My hubby would be considered by most an "old man". But sisters, let me tell you..................

There is smoke in the chimney, and there is a fire in the fireplace.

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 4:41 pm

along-for-the-ride;897453 wrote: Are we discussing "older" men or "old men"? My hubby would be considered by most an "old man". But sisters, let me tell you..................

There is smoke in the chimney, and there is a fire in the fireplace.

In other words you're quite happy.:sneaky:

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 5:21 pm

My two ducats worth...

There has been only one man in my life who was older and that was just by two years. Younger men are more fun to be with. You can train them easier. Ok, I'm only partly kidding there. But really, older men come with ex-wives, kids, alimony, mortgages and debt. I have none of that (except the debt) and don't want any either. As long as they're not *too* young all is good. Too young and they're selfish dicks in bed and pretty much everywhere else too. Too young and they won't remember your birthday. Too young and they're still keeping their options open because they might find someone better. (As if!)

Too old and you might get seconds but forget thirds and fourths. Forget spur of the moment trips and plans because there are too many things that need to be taken care of first. For sure older men have their benefits (like security) and I don't mean to be insulting to them at all, but I'm still having fun and I'll take a younger man any day.

Lon · Post by **Lon** » Tue Jun 24, 2008 7:10 pm

Hope6;896654 wrote: All right ladies,

Jj's thread about older women make better lovers, raised some interesting questions!

it's time to get down to it and answer that age-old question about age. Not ours - the men! Who is better: A younger man or an older man?

Older men are set in their ways. By the time a man reaches his 30s he has already developed a pretty distinct sense of self. Add the bachelor factor into the equation and what you’re left with is a man who is accustomed to having things done his way in a manner that he is comfortable with. Spontaneity has been replaced by routine.

Older men are relationship-inept. Yes, the arguments will be more tempered and less irrational, but the older man is also quick to blame the woman for being irrational or less experienced in matters of life. With more age comes more failed relationships, chances are that the older man has not grown significantly from his former relationships.

Older men either want something serious or non-committal. A older man knows what he wants and falls into one of two categories: determined to get married, or determined not to get married. A woman with less concretely defined ideas around the subject of matrimony is forced to chose between the man that wants to fall head-over-heals in love immediately and a man that is resolute against a serious relationship (and consequently not available to love anyone but themselves)

Dating an older man does come with benefits. Maturity is certainly one of the biggest and more obvious factors. Mature men tend to know themselves a little better than younger boys. They typically aren’t as sexually motivated, either, but that doesn’t mean lovemaking suffers. They can be mature between the sheets, too, knowing more and taking a different approach to pleasure. Older men are more established and farther along in their careers, and security is a nice benefit of tying yourself to a steady life. If you find the right older man, a big helping of bliss could be in your future!

Younger men are experimental. A man in his 20s is rearing to try everything under the sun. From his under-developed outlook on politics and life matters to his willingness and eagerness to explore all facets of the bedroom, the younger man is searching for rich experiences and is not afraid of stepping outside his comfort zone. He’s adventurous, hopeful, ambitious, and craving knowledge. Simply put, the younger man is just plain fun to be around.

Younger men, are also something to be feared by an older woman. At the very least he subjects the woman to being scrutinized by society and being labeled a cougar. In addition, a younger man can bring with him financial instability, professional ambiguity, dating inexperience, sexual inexperience, and social ineptitude.

younger men are just that - young. Sometimes they have no idea what they want, who they are or where they are going. Sometimes they still live in a dorm-like atmosphere with three roommates, dirty laundry piled on the twin bed and the Sony Play Station in full view. Sometimes they still live with mommy. Maybe you'll get lucky and he'll invite you over for a play date.

So c'mon everybody, what's your opinion?

All I've got to say is that---------I'm not as good as I once was, but I'm as good once as I ever was.