Accountable;804836 wrote: That guy on the right has a "made in China" label.
:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl Good Acc Good!
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Sheryl;770850 wrote: Agreed! There's a big difference in a guy looking at a random girls boob pics and pics sent just for him by a woman.
Oh please. What's the difference? Tits are tits. Whether he looked at some random chick's set or they were sent just to him.
Oh please. What's the difference? Tits are tits. Whether he looked at some random chick's set or they were sent just to him.
It is better to have your mind opened by wonder
than closed by belief.
than closed by belief.
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heartsss3;770826 wrote: My significant other made a very innocent statement last night about a good friend of his sending pictures (via internet) to him of the mardi gras festivities. Of course, the mention was made of 'ta tas'...beads being thrown, etc., and that was the main subject of the pictures he would be receiving. I was actually quite shocked that he regarded this as nothing, just 'it's mardi gras!!!' Immediately, I became upset over this. My manner of being upset is usually quiet silence and alone time while I try to pull myself together and decide if I'm overreacting. This was very hurtful to me. It literally hurt my heart and caused a sadness within me to feel that he would think this was ok. He noticed my mood change and we did have a discussion. He thinks it's no big deal- nothing to be upset over. I told him that if a friend of mine sent me naked pictures of men, I would not look at them and also tell the friend not to send anymore. As much as this hurts me and I feel validated with how I'm feeling, he feels completely opposite. Am I overreacting? To me, it's more of a respect issue, for me and for us as a couple. As much as I know men and women admire the opposite sex and that's ok, I think I view this as a lustful disrespect when you are in a committed relationship. Any comment is appreciated. Thanks.
First of all, even though you've gotten quite a smattering of little jabs and insults to your maturity and the like, I want to say that I see where you're coming from. Regardless of what anyone else says, it really comes down to what you are comfortable with. I wouldn't give a flying hoot what anyone else on here says, it's up to you and only you. It's not a matter of maturity or insecurity or any of that BS. It's a matter of what you want in your life and of what you find acceptable or not.
Here's my opinion. Your significant other's friend is a disrespectful idiot. If he wants to send pics of Mardi Gras and there's an occasional flash of a tit, big deal. But for that to be the subject matter of the pictures is entirely inappropriate, especially since you have strong feelings about it. If your boyfriend doesn't hold the same values that you do, I wouldn't turn this relationship into a long-term arrangement.
Many people may think you're being silly. I don't. It's your life and you are entitled to whatever values and beliefs that are dear to you. And there are many people out there who hold the same.
First of all, even though you've gotten quite a smattering of little jabs and insults to your maturity and the like, I want to say that I see where you're coming from. Regardless of what anyone else says, it really comes down to what you are comfortable with. I wouldn't give a flying hoot what anyone else on here says, it's up to you and only you. It's not a matter of maturity or insecurity or any of that BS. It's a matter of what you want in your life and of what you find acceptable or not.
Here's my opinion. Your significant other's friend is a disrespectful idiot. If he wants to send pics of Mardi Gras and there's an occasional flash of a tit, big deal. But for that to be the subject matter of the pictures is entirely inappropriate, especially since you have strong feelings about it. If your boyfriend doesn't hold the same values that you do, I wouldn't turn this relationship into a long-term arrangement.
Many people may think you're being silly. I don't. It's your life and you are entitled to whatever values and beliefs that are dear to you. And there are many people out there who hold the same.
It is better to have your mind opened by wonder
than closed by belief.
than closed by belief.
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moonpie;804158 wrote: You know- ALL MEN look at boobs - big deal. Be secure enough in your relationship. Bottom line, you better grow up. Did not mean this to be snarky, but it is a god given thing for men, and thats it. By the way - you never said how old your were.
Be happy, that they just look. Chill out and give it a break!
Ugh... yeah, all men look at boobs.
And all men are emotionally retarded, barbaric idiots.
Hmm... I don't think blanket statements really work. :-3
As for her age, what does that matter? Is it a prerequisite when posting to add your age? Or are you trying to tell her maturity level? Mature or not, it's still her life.
Be happy, that they just look. Chill out and give it a break!
Ugh... yeah, all men look at boobs.
And all men are emotionally retarded, barbaric idiots.
Hmm... I don't think blanket statements really work. :-3
As for her age, what does that matter? Is it a prerequisite when posting to add your age? Or are you trying to tell her maturity level? Mature or not, it's still her life.
It is better to have your mind opened by wonder
than closed by belief.
than closed by belief.
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laneybug;806241 wrote: Ugh... yeah, all men look at boobs.
And all men are emotionally retarded, barbaric idiots.
Hmm... I don't think blanket statements really work. :-3
As for her age, what does that matter? Is it a prerequisite when posting to add your age? Or are you trying to tell her maturity level? Mature or not, it's still her life.
No, I don't think all men are emotionally retarded, barbaria idiots. But, all men look at women's boobs. Some just don't have the smarts to keep their mouths shut when they do, especially in front of their significant others. If she is uncomfortable with him making any kind of remarks, good, bad or indifferent, then she should let him know about it, and if he cares enough about her feelings, then he will keep his thoughts to himself.
This is just my opinion of course, and I really don't care how old this person is, but obviously quite young because if she was older, this would not bother her as much.
And all men are emotionally retarded, barbaric idiots.
Hmm... I don't think blanket statements really work. :-3
As for her age, what does that matter? Is it a prerequisite when posting to add your age? Or are you trying to tell her maturity level? Mature or not, it's still her life.
No, I don't think all men are emotionally retarded, barbaria idiots. But, all men look at women's boobs. Some just don't have the smarts to keep their mouths shut when they do, especially in front of their significant others. If she is uncomfortable with him making any kind of remarks, good, bad or indifferent, then she should let him know about it, and if he cares enough about her feelings, then he will keep his thoughts to himself.
This is just my opinion of course, and I really don't care how old this person is, but obviously quite young because if she was older, this would not bother her as much.
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moonpie;806428 wrote: No, I don't think all men are emotionally retarded, barbaria idiots. But, all men look at women's boobs.
Okay. Apparently you totally missed the point. I wasn't saying you thought all men are emotionally retarded, barbaric idiots. I was trying to show by example how silly it is to use blanket statements such as "all men look at women's boobs." I guess I was just too subtle in my approach and it didn't register. Moving on.
All men do not look at women's boobs. Just as not all women, however young or old, are okay with their boyfriends/husbands looking at nude women. The world is not black and white. There are hundreds of shades of gray, so why use blanket statements are call someone immature because of their beliefs?
Okay. Apparently you totally missed the point. I wasn't saying you thought all men are emotionally retarded, barbaric idiots. I was trying to show by example how silly it is to use blanket statements such as "all men look at women's boobs." I guess I was just too subtle in my approach and it didn't register. Moving on.
All men do not look at women's boobs. Just as not all women, however young or old, are okay with their boyfriends/husbands looking at nude women. The world is not black and white. There are hundreds of shades of gray, so why use blanket statements are call someone immature because of their beliefs?
It is better to have your mind opened by wonder
than closed by belief.
than closed by belief.
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laneybug;806708 wrote: Okay. Apparently you totally missed the point. I wasn't saying you thought all men are emotionally retarded, barbaric idiots. I was trying to show by example how silly it is to use blanket statements such as "all men look at women's boobs." I guess I was just too subtle in my approach and it didn't register. Moving on.
All men do not look at women's boobs. Just as not all women, however young or old, are okay with their boyfriends/husbands looking at nude women. The world is not black and white. There are hundreds of shades of gray, so why use blanket statements are call someone immature because of their beliefs?
Can I rephrase it then? 99% of men look at women's boob - it is part of their genetic conditioning and, consciously or not, almost all men do it.
Have you seen the psychological studies where they film people's eyes whilst showing them a selection of pictures so that they can study how the brain scans its surroundings? It is very funny to watch the different patterns used by men and women. One of the differences shows when presented with full length pictures of people - boobs first or crotch first.
All men do not look at women's boobs. Just as not all women, however young or old, are okay with their boyfriends/husbands looking at nude women. The world is not black and white. There are hundreds of shades of gray, so why use blanket statements are call someone immature because of their beliefs?
Can I rephrase it then? 99% of men look at women's boob - it is part of their genetic conditioning and, consciously or not, almost all men do it.
Have you seen the psychological studies where they film people's eyes whilst showing them a selection of pictures so that they can study how the brain scans its surroundings? It is very funny to watch the different patterns used by men and women. One of the differences shows when presented with full length pictures of people - boobs first or crotch first.
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laneybug;806220 wrote: First of all, even though you've gotten quite a smattering of little jabs and insults to your maturity and the like, I want to say that I see where you're coming from. Regardless of what anyone else says, it really comes down to what you are comfortable with. I wouldn't give a flying hoot what anyone else on here says, it's up to you and only you. It's not a matter of maturity or insecurity or any of that BS. It's a matter of what you want in your life and of what you find acceptable or not.
Here's my opinion. Your significant other's friend is a disrespectful idiot. If he wants to send pics of Mardi Gras and there's an occasional flash of a tit, big deal. But for that to be the subject matter of the pictures is entirely inappropriate, especially since you have strong feelings about it. If your boyfriend doesn't hold the same values that you do, I wouldn't turn this relationship into a long-term arrangement.
Many people may think you're being silly. I don't. It's your life and you are entitled to whatever values and beliefs that are dear to you. And there are many people out there who hold the same.
Well I do agree. However jealousy is a very destructive emotion - if she pushes it too far she may find 'her life' very lonely. The pics were sent to him by a friend, and he did tell her about them :rolleyes::rolleyes:
Here's my opinion. Your significant other's friend is a disrespectful idiot. If he wants to send pics of Mardi Gras and there's an occasional flash of a tit, big deal. But for that to be the subject matter of the pictures is entirely inappropriate, especially since you have strong feelings about it. If your boyfriend doesn't hold the same values that you do, I wouldn't turn this relationship into a long-term arrangement.
Many people may think you're being silly. I don't. It's your life and you are entitled to whatever values and beliefs that are dear to you. And there are many people out there who hold the same.
Well I do agree. However jealousy is a very destructive emotion - if she pushes it too far she may find 'her life' very lonely. The pics were sent to him by a friend, and he did tell her about them :rolleyes::rolleyes:
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Pheasy;806774 wrote: Well I do agree. However jealousy is a very destructive emotion - if she pushes it too far she may find 'her life' very lonely. The pics were sent to him by a friend, and he did tell her about them :rolleyes::rolleyes:
Pheasy, I agree. It is not like heartsss3 found his stash of playboys. But anyways, when I was very young, I always would think that it is the "principle of the matter". I only found later in life after many of these "matters" that it is not really the small stuff we should worry about in a relationship. We just shouldn't sweat the small stuff and focus energy into more important things. Thats really all I was trying to say in my original post. I have not heard from heartsss3, but apparently have p***sed off a lot of other women in the meantime. Apologies to all of you if I did. Now, hopefully moving on.....:-5
Pheasy, I agree. It is not like heartsss3 found his stash of playboys. But anyways, when I was very young, I always would think that it is the "principle of the matter". I only found later in life after many of these "matters" that it is not really the small stuff we should worry about in a relationship. We just shouldn't sweat the small stuff and focus energy into more important things. Thats really all I was trying to say in my original post. I have not heard from heartsss3, but apparently have p***sed off a lot of other women in the meantime. Apologies to all of you if I did. Now, hopefully moving on.....:-5
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moonpie;806788 wrote: Pheasy, I agree. It is not like heartsss3 found his stash of playboys. But anyways, when I was very young, I always would think that it is the "principle of the matter". I only found later in life after many of these "matters" that it is not really the small stuff we should worry about in a relationship. We just shouldn't sweat the small stuff and focus energy into more important things. Thats really all I was trying to say in my original post. I have not heard from heartsss3, but apparently have p***sed off a lot of other women in the meantime. Apologies to all of you if I did. Now, hopefully moving on.....:-5
No just one I think Moonpie :wah: Don't worry about it ..... the general opinion agrees with you. :-6
No just one I think Moonpie :wah: Don't worry about it ..... the general opinion agrees with you. :-6
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ok. I haven't posted in QUITE sometime, but I feel the need to interject my two cents here.
It seems to me that you are dealing with a heaping double dose of insecurity... with yourself & your relationship.
I have had many questionable relationships. I was extremely touchy about who, what, and where he was looking because I was feeling insecure about my self esteem, and his fidelity. He was a douche bag.
I think the issue you should be concerned about is your relationship.
As I have now been blessed with the most incredible relationship, I could care less about who, what, and where he is looking. I know in a very deep way that I have nothing in the world to worry about.
Are you overreacting? Yes, but not about the correct issue.
It seems to me that you are dealing with a heaping double dose of insecurity... with yourself & your relationship.
I have had many questionable relationships. I was extremely touchy about who, what, and where he was looking because I was feeling insecure about my self esteem, and his fidelity. He was a douche bag.
I think the issue you should be concerned about is your relationship.
As I have now been blessed with the most incredible relationship, I could care less about who, what, and where he is looking. I know in a very deep way that I have nothing in the world to worry about.
Are you overreacting? Yes, but not about the correct issue.
The most important things in life are:
laughter, love, and a healthy appreciation for the dark side!
laughter, love, and a healthy appreciation for the dark side!
Am I making a big deal of this?
'[love wrote: light;806884']ok. I haven't posted in QUITE sometime, but I feel the need to interject my two cents here.
It seems to me that you are dealing with a heaping double dose of insecurity... with yourself & your relationship.
I have had many questionable relationships. I was extremely touchy about who, what, and where he was looking because I was feeling insecure about my self esteem, and his fidelity. He was a douche bag.
I think the issue you should be concerned about is your relationship.
As I have now been blessed with the most incredible relationship, I could care less about who, what, and where he is looking. I know in a very deep way that I have nothing in the world to worry about.
Are you overreacting? Yes, but not about the correct issue.
:yh_clap:yh_clap Nail on the head comes to mind :-6
It seems to me that you are dealing with a heaping double dose of insecurity... with yourself & your relationship.
I have had many questionable relationships. I was extremely touchy about who, what, and where he was looking because I was feeling insecure about my self esteem, and his fidelity. He was a douche bag.
I think the issue you should be concerned about is your relationship.
As I have now been blessed with the most incredible relationship, I could care less about who, what, and where he is looking. I know in a very deep way that I have nothing in the world to worry about.
Are you overreacting? Yes, but not about the correct issue.
:yh_clap:yh_clap Nail on the head comes to mind :-6
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Pheasy;807425 wrote: :yh_clap:yh_clap Nail on the head comes to mind :-6
You and your euphemisms..:wah:
You and your euphemisms..:wah:
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peronally i think that if your girlfriend/fiance/wife/partner has SMALL boobs and she is self-conscious about this ... then ogling another woman's tits ... especially if they are really really knockers ...in front of her isn't clever ...
however if your partner is well endowed and/or comfortable with her own breasts ... then admiring another woman's breasts or for that matter ... her legs or whatever ... should not be a cause for concern or jealousy ...
i know a very heterosexual woman who gets turned on when she looks at photos of pretty naked women with good bodies ...
however if the man involved in her life has a bad record as far cheating on her is concerned ... then i can understand where heartsss is coming from ...
not all women are that liberated or that confident ...
Jj
however if your partner is well endowed and/or comfortable with her own breasts ... then admiring another woman's breasts or for that matter ... her legs or whatever ... should not be a cause for concern or jealousy ...
i know a very heterosexual woman who gets turned on when she looks at photos of pretty naked women with good bodies ...
however if the man involved in her life has a bad record as far cheating on her is concerned ... then i can understand where heartsss is coming from ...
not all women are that liberated or that confident ...
Jj
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Pheasy;807425 wrote: :yh_clap:yh_clap Nail on the head comes to mind :-6
Thanks, hun
Thanks, hun
The most important things in life are:
laughter, love, and a healthy appreciation for the dark side!
laughter, love, and a healthy appreciation for the dark side!
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OK woah
Heartss3
I've noticed a bit of lack of support here for you . Here's my thoughts;
Being a bisexual woman, I do enjoy a womans body. Although, when you are in a relationship it is expected to have respect for oneanother. I dont think you are making a big deal out of it. We all get jealous. Its natural.
Fortunately, I am very confident (Im not Barbie) but I know my husband loves me and I realize there is always going to be better (and worse) out there. And he knows there is better and worse than him. You need that understanding....It's only physical. There's so much more than tits in life.
Heartss3
I've noticed a bit of lack of support here for you . Here's my thoughts;
Being a bisexual woman, I do enjoy a womans body. Although, when you are in a relationship it is expected to have respect for oneanother. I dont think you are making a big deal out of it. We all get jealous. Its natural.
Fortunately, I am very confident (Im not Barbie) but I know my husband loves me and I realize there is always going to be better (and worse) out there. And he knows there is better and worse than him. You need that understanding....It's only physical. There's so much more than tits in life.
Tan
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I think someone already mentioned it on the first page but men and women are different. He maybe sees it just as a picture of friend. It wouldn't be different for him if it was a male friend topless.
Something I learned is that men can't make it 100% right and sometimes we don't even get it when we messed up because we didn't think we did. Finding a way then to get flowers delivered to say goodbye doesn't help at all, trust me, been there, done that, but what does help is to sit down and talk about it. For me that's the only thing that really works.
I hope I help you a little bit with my 2 cents.
Something I learned is that men can't make it 100% right and sometimes we don't even get it when we messed up because we didn't think we did. Finding a way then to get flowers delivered to say goodbye doesn't help at all, trust me, been there, done that, but what does help is to sit down and talk about it. For me that's the only thing that really works.
I hope I help you a little bit with my 2 cents.
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This thread is irritating in the lack of common sense about men and women.
Men are no more hardwired to look at tits than women are hardwired to look at dicks. We like looking too but we're not generally pigs about it and we don't blame our behaviors on "genetic makeup." Heartless may never return but I have empathy for her. I think it's all out tacky for a woman to send some lady's husband tit pictures, be it her own or some random chick's. If it bothers Heartless then her husband should apologize and delete them. And Heartless should get her best guy friend to send over photos of his goods so she can make some new desktop wallpaper. What's good for the goose is good for the gander.
Men are no more hardwired to look at tits than women are hardwired to look at dicks. We like looking too but we're not generally pigs about it and we don't blame our behaviors on "genetic makeup." Heartless may never return but I have empathy for her. I think it's all out tacky for a woman to send some lady's husband tit pictures, be it her own or some random chick's. If it bothers Heartless then her husband should apologize and delete them. And Heartless should get her best guy friend to send over photos of his goods so she can make some new desktop wallpaper. What's good for the goose is good for the gander.
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RedGlitter;821362 wrote: This thread is irritating in the lack of common sense about men and women.
Men are no more hardwired to look at tits than women are hardwired to look at dicks. We like looking too but we're not generally pigs about it and we don't blame our behaviors on "genetic makeup." Heartless may never return but I have empathy for her. I think it's all out tacky for a woman to send some lady's husband tit pictures, be it her own or some random chick's. If it bothers Heartless then her husband should apologize and delete them. And Heartless should get her best guy friend to send over photos of his goods so she can make some new desktop wallpaper. What's good for the goose is good for the gander.
Have you got the right thread? 'cause this one's about someones significant other and his friend sending mardi gras photos which contain beads and ta-tas. Nothing about husbands and/or the friend being female. I would think that had the pictures been of his 'female' friend the OP surely would have made a point of it to show the depth of her hurt....:rolleyes:
As a side note, if she does get a male friend to send over pics of his goods I certainly hope she remembers to share with her new friends here in the garden....:yh_drool:wah:
Men are no more hardwired to look at tits than women are hardwired to look at dicks. We like looking too but we're not generally pigs about it and we don't blame our behaviors on "genetic makeup." Heartless may never return but I have empathy for her. I think it's all out tacky for a woman to send some lady's husband tit pictures, be it her own or some random chick's. If it bothers Heartless then her husband should apologize and delete them. And Heartless should get her best guy friend to send over photos of his goods so she can make some new desktop wallpaper. What's good for the goose is good for the gander.
Have you got the right thread? 'cause this one's about someones significant other and his friend sending mardi gras photos which contain beads and ta-tas. Nothing about husbands and/or the friend being female. I would think that had the pictures been of his 'female' friend the OP surely would have made a point of it to show the depth of her hurt....:rolleyes:
As a side note, if she does get a male friend to send over pics of his goods I certainly hope she remembers to share with her new friends here in the garden....:yh_drool:wah:
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RedGlitter;821362 wrote: This thread is irritating in the lack of common sense about men and women.
Men are no more hardwired to look at tits than women are hardwired to look at dicks. [...]
Really? To listen to the women at work, most of them married one.
Men are no more hardwired to look at tits than women are hardwired to look at dicks. [...]
Really? To listen to the women at work, most of them married one.
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flopstock;821371 wrote: Have you got the right thread? 'cause this one's about someones significant other and his friend sending mardi gras photos which contain beads and ta-tas. Nothing about husbands and/or the friend being female. I would think that had the pictures been of his 'female' friend the OP surely would have made a point of it to show the depth of her hurt....:rolleyes:
As a side note, if she does get a male friend to send over pics of his goods I certainly hope she remembers to share with her new friends here in the garden....:yh_drool:wah:
:wah::wah: If she doesn't, I think an infraction would be in order! :wah:
As a side note, if she does get a male friend to send over pics of his goods I certainly hope she remembers to share with her new friends here in the garden....:yh_drool:wah:
:wah::wah: If she doesn't, I think an infraction would be in order! :wah: