I'd appreciate a hug or two or even five

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Fri Mar 14, 2008 4:34 am

Great piccys Wendy :-6

Still sending you loads of :-4

kazalala · Post by **kazalala** » Fri Mar 14, 2008 4:35 am

WonderWendy3;802939 wrote: Thank you Abbey!!

I am steady trying to find a job, applied at the local electric company here in town, and needed to get an act of congress to go along with the application....but it will be worth it if I get the position, it is a VERY good company to work for, and EVERYONE needs electric, so shouldn't get laid off from there, huh?

I want to share that I have been cleaning out my shed in the midst of my "free time" along with school work, and trying to stay positive (been a full time job!!)

I found a BUNCH of old pictures and memories in there, 17 + years of my life is in the shed...and it needs to be gone through, 20 gallon tote at a time (had over 70 of them to start off with, not sure of the count, believe we are in the 30's now)...anyway....thought I'd share a picture of back when I used to make the kids wear co-ordinated clothes for family photos.....and at the very bottom was a month ago, we were out and just got their pictures done for the fun of it, right after the two younger boys got thier hair buzzed!!

Lovely pics WW, your boys look so happy!:D

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Sat Mar 15, 2008 10:44 pm

Thanks again !!!

Well, today (Sat.) was a crazy busy day. I hauled 3 p/u truck loads to the dump and viewed 2 places to rent. Since I'm on a limited time frame and can't really be choosy, my choices are:

1. 2 bedroom trailer across town, kids will have to change schools, no pets...350.00

2. 1 bedroom apartment in the back yard of a stranger renting the house that is on the same property (man with 2 kids) fenced in yard, can take animals and kids stay in school district. for $600. a month

^^ those are the two I looked at today in between running to and from to the dump>

I jumped on computer for a few minutes before going to meet friends for dinner and found the listing for:

3 br, 2 bath on 2 acres, school district (could walk to schools, that close), not sure about animals, move in date 4-1-08 (which is my target date!

My friends that I had dinner with came up with another option....we might rent rooms from one of the guys that it going through a divorce, instead of him losing his HUMONGOUS house, we could move in and rent rooms....

Of course all of these are being tossed around in my pretty little head.

The house on 2 acres is my # 1 choice!!!

Living with 2 men....lol....my second choice!!:wah::wah:

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Sat Mar 15, 2008 11:24 pm

I don't know Wendy - living with a couple of guys - not a bad idea..

Money wise and perhaps a good influence on your kids.

Its a bridge / olive branch - but then you'd need to know your responsibilities with all these men - I mean the up keep - cleaning - cooking - etc..

House rules would need to be signed..

Its not a bad idea..?

Good luck - I think of you often

Patsy

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Sun Mar 16, 2008 2:01 am

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Sun Mar 16, 2008 2:59 pm

Patsy Warnick;804879 wrote: I don't know Wendy - living with a couple of guys - not a bad idea..

Money wise and perhaps a good influence on your kids.

Its a bridge / olive branch - but then you'd need to know your responsibilities with all these men - I mean the up keep - cleaning - cooking - etc..

House rules would need to be signed..

Its not a bad idea..?

Good luck - I think of you often

Patsy

I agree Patsy, I know I didn't elaborate on the two men situation, but tbh I do believe it would be a good situation for all involved. I've known these men for about 5 years now and they have always been there to help me in time of need, and they are sincerely good guys!! (no hanky panky in other words)

I am trying to get the little house and if not, seriously considering becoming the reverse "three's company"....we already named all three of us, and I'm Janet....the smart one!!:D:D:wah:

As far as responsibilties, I believe I would make out very well compared to now, because both of these guys do all the housework at their places now, and they are GREAT cooks, so the three of us could really work together well.

I've thought about the male influence also, and it would be great for my boys!--I'm sure there will be few minor details that we may have not considered come up, but I'm confident enough in our friendship that we could work anything out!

Post by **Bryn Mawr** » Sun Mar 16, 2008 3:39 pm

WonderWendy3;805685 wrote: I agree Patsy, I know I didn't elaborate on the two men situation, but tbh I do believe it would be a good situation for all involved. I've known these men for about 5 years now and they have always been there to help me in time of need, and they are sincerely good guys!! (no hanky panky in other words)

I am trying to get the little house and if not, seriously considering becoming the reverse "three's company"....we already named all three of us, and I'm Janet....the smart one!!:D:D:wah:

As far as responsibilties, I believe I would make out very well compared to now, because both of these guys do all the housework at their places now, and they are GREAT cooks, so the three of us could really work together well.

I've thought about the male influence also, and it would be great for my boys!--I'm sure there will be few minor details that we may have not considered come up, but I'm confident enough in our friendship that we could work anything out!

All in all, sounds like an ideal solution - if you do go for it, may it work out well for you and yours :-6

weeder · Post by **weeder** » Sun Mar 16, 2008 4:06 pm

Id opt for the two guys scenario. Less rent.... a diversion for the boys.....perhaps an avenue for you to make new friends.... interesting chapter for the book you may write some day.

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Sun Mar 16, 2008 4:18 pm

weeder;805724 wrote: Id opt for the two guys scenario. Less rent.... a diversion for the boys.....perhaps an avenue for you to make new friends.... interesting chapter for the book you may write some day.

I keep on saying I'm going to write a book!!

I agree, it will definately be out of the norm for me! The kids aren't keen on the idea, the home is out of the school district. I have also failed to mention, this house is 4 times the size of the current home we have lived in for 17 years, so LOTS of room for us to have privacy if needed.

I would still be paying rent, we are all trying to help each other out, so he doesn't lose the house and the other guy and I need places to live, so really a win win situation...

We all get along like brothers/sister, definately would be fun and interesting all at the same time!:D

And Thank you Bryn!! I appreciate your kind words!

Patsy, thanks for thinking about me!!

All of you have really helped me in this, I appreciate having people that care about me, I have been going through little spats where I feel like no-one cares....but I know that isn't true. I am overwhelmed by the love here in the garden...thanks again!

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Sun Mar 16, 2008 4:52 pm

So when do you and the kids moving in?? sounds like it is going to happen to me.

The Rob · Post by **The Rob** » Sun Mar 16, 2008 5:27 pm

Late again. Gah!

Wendy, I hope all works out for the best. Tremendous hugs from me!

Kathy Ellen · Post by **Kathy Ellen** » Sun Mar 16, 2008 6:29 pm

The Rob;805786 wrote: Late again. Gah!

Wendy, I hope all works out for the best. Tremendous hugs from me!

AGAIN Rob...late again....you know the drill...off to the naughty chair for you young man.

And as for you Wendy girl:-4

Living with these 2 men seems like a dream to me. You go girl and know that I'm always here for you...love you lots:-4:-4

The Rob · Post by **The Rob** » Sun Mar 16, 2008 7:00 pm

*grumble* freakin' naughty chair oh blahblah *shuffleshuffle grumble*...

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Mon Mar 17, 2008 2:33 am

[quote=WonderWendy3;804875]my choices are:

1. 2 bedroom trailer across town, kids will have to change schools, no pets...350.00

You could save $$ living here. Get you back on the track quicker.

2. 1 bedroom apartment in the back yard of a stranger renting the house that is on the same property (man with 2 kids) fenced in yard, can take animals and kids stay in school district. for $600. a month

Think hard.

3 br, 2 bath on 2 acres, school district (could walk to schools, that close), not sure about animals, move in date 4-1-08 (which is my target date!

Is it affordable ?

we might rent rooms from one of the guys that it going through a divorce, instead of him losing his HUMONGOUS house, we could move in and rent rooms....

Will kids irritate them ?

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Mon Mar 17, 2008 4:26 am

:-4:-4 Today's love and hugs.

As for the housing situation, having some male support around the house would probably be really good. If nothing else you've got someone to take out the rubbish and get rid of spiders!!

:D

weeder · Post by **weeder** » Mon Mar 17, 2008 4:35 am

If the guys are good guys... this could be a wonderful life experience for your boys. Whatever you decide make certain that it is very affordable. Less stress for you. Opportunity to save some money. You will find up the road, that material things are quite worthless, and useless.

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Mon Mar 17, 2008 5:34 am

The roomie situation sounds great since you're already friends. How 'not keen on the idea' are the boys? They can make life hell in the short term if they have a mind to. You need to find a positive for them (without wheedling of course).

It's nice to have good choices, ain't it? :-6

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Tue Mar 18, 2008 11:06 pm

Well, the roomie idea isn't a go, so it seems....looks like there would be drama, so not gonna get mixed up in that....

The little house is a NO go, and I'm REALLY upset about it, feel like my agent let me down....the owners think I have put in a "few" applications, and they want me to be employed (which I can understand), but I have enough right now for 4 months rent and enough coming in from unemployment and child support to cover the rent....(it would be half of income...so would be fine)--I really wanted this house.....I'm trying to get a job, so that it still might work...

otherwise:

I am back to the 2 options of the 2 br. trailer and 1 br. apartment.

-1

I applied to 10 places today, a friend of mine told me that she would hire me and fire me once I got in the house if that would help me!:-4

I appreciate all the hugs and prayers and kind thoughts, I really do!!

I am really trying to stay positive, but easier said than done!

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Wed Mar 19, 2008 12:32 am

chocoholic · Post by **chocoholic** » Wed Mar 19, 2008 3:11 am

Wendy, you are being brilliant about all of this, keep plugging away - your luck will change soon I am certain - you deserve it:-4

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Wed Mar 19, 2008 4:29 am

WonderWendy3;808281 wrote: Well, the roomie idea isn't a go, so it seems....looks like there would be drama, so not gonna get mixed up in that....

The little house is a NO go, and I'm REALLY upset about it, feel like my agent let me down....the owners think I have put in a "few" applications, and they want me to be employed (which I can understand), but I have enough right now for 4 months rent and enough coming in from unemployment and child support to cover the rent....(it would be half of income...so would be fine)--I really wanted this house.....I'm trying to get a job, so that it still might work...

otherwise:

I am back to the 2 options of the 2 br. trailer and 1 br. apartment.

-1

I applied to 10 places today, a friend of mine told me that she would hire me and fire me once I got in the house if that would help me!:-4

I appreciate all the hugs and prayers and kind thoughts, I really do!!

I am really trying to stay positive, but easier said than done!
If the little house is really what you want, do what I did when I moved to San Antonio. Write a check for, say, 3 months advance rent. Show them you have confidence that you'll find work in short order. It's worth a shot.

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Wed Mar 19, 2008 6:35 am

abbey;808299 wrote: thank you Abbey :-4

chocoholic;808334 wrote:

Wendy, you are being brilliant about all of this, keep plugging away - your luck will change soon I am certain - you deserve it

Thank you so much for that Chocohlic, I really appreciate it!!:-4

Accountable;808374 wrote: If the little house is really what you want, do what I did when I moved to San Antonio. Write a check for, say, 3 months advance rent. Show them you have confidence that you'll find work in short order. It's worth a shot.
I basically told my agent that I would do that, she is being my "go between" and she came back with a flat "NO"....and it hurt!!! I drove out and looked at the house again, I kept on forgetting the house number so I found the right one this time and the house is in the "booneys"....perfect for us!! Need some yard work and exterior paint job. Their suggestion was for me to get a job and then call them and they might do a 6 month contract to see how things go...so I applied to over 10 different places yesterday and shooting to do the same today!!!!

jimbo;808429 wrote: http://thinkexist.com/quotation/there_a ... 54948.html

here is a page full of think positive stuff ww

i hope all turns up good for you buddy

Thank you Jimbo!!:-4

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Wed Mar 19, 2008 7:04 am

WonderWendy3;808506 wrote:

I basically told my agent that I would do that, she is being my "go between" and she came back with a flat "NO"....and it hurt!!! I drove out and looked at the house again, I kept on forgetting the house number so I found the right one this time and the house is in the "booneys"....perfect for us!! Need some yard work and exterior paint job. Their suggestion was for me to get a job and then call them and they might do a 6 month contract to see how things go...so I applied to over 10 different places yesterday and shooting to do the same today!!!!
Your agent shot this one in the foot, but think about it: would you rent to someone sight unseen only on the word of an agent - a person paid to put the best face on someone? I'm a big believer in face-to-face meetings. I think you might've won them over on your own.

Sheryl · Post by **Sheryl** » Wed Mar 19, 2008 9:26 am

Your in my thoughts and prayers! :-4

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Wed Mar 19, 2008 9:08 pm

Accountable;808581 wrote: Your agent shot this one in the foot, but think about it: would you rent to someone sight unseen only on the word of an agent - a person paid to put the best face on someone? I'm a big believer in face-to-face meetings. I think you might've won them over on your own. I agree with you Acc!... I have been relying on the "It is all going to happen the way it is supposed to" and I need to accept the dissappointments along the way as blessings...I know it all will work out fine, just getting there is a bit of a struggle! (putting it midly).

I have been steady applying to jobs and updating my resume on search engines and applying at temp agencies, anything I can think of....

The one real good thing about me being un-employed....I have cleaned the shed and ALMOST done...I had over 70 containers and down to my last 10!!:yh_dance:yh_dance We are having the yard sale next weekend, hopefully that will help the finances a little.

I called the agent today and asked her to inquire about the townhouses in town, which will mean moving the kids from their schools, but well, I'm running out of options. There are nice town houses for less than 1000.00, the bad thing is, there are rumors of gangs in some of the areas, but I'm not sure where....again....running out of options.

I can always go to the 1 room apartment garage....just trying to avoid that if at all possible.:-3

jimbo;808787 wrote:

33 of Life’s Most Powerful Lessons

Have you ever had an epiphany? One of those “a-ha” moments where something just clicks for you? Maybe it’s something you’ve been struggling with for a long time, or maybe it was a piece of advice you learned from a friend. Whatever the source of our insight, it’s these moments that bring us to a deeper understanding of our world. The better understanding we have of life, the more we live in the truth.

Below are 33 of the most powerful lessons in my life. I encourage you to share yours with us by leaving a comment below. =)

Often those who aren’t the easiest to love are the ones who need it the most.

Seeing children play can make even the bluest day brighter.

Money is not the root of all evil, fear is.

The secret to happiness is the acceptance of yourself.

Happiness is not based on external status, it is an internal state.

Money can’t make me happy, but self-sufficiency gives me the freedom to share myself creatively, without worrying about how I’m going to pay the bills.

Every man has a right to choose his own destiny.

The path is the way.

Coming is going, going is coming.

The hardest is found in the easiest.

Heaven and hell exist here and now, within your own mind.

Life is the largest stage.

Music is one of the most supreme expressions of life. It is art in it’s most transitory form. It is gone within an instant, and therefore, extremely precious.

Follow your gut, you’ll thank yourself later.

Remember what your mother taught you, it came from the most sacred place of love that exists.

Never let an argument last, never hold a grudge, it will make your heart heavy.

Forgive those that have yet to do you wrong, and you won’t have to worry about it should the time come.

Be grateful for this moment, it is all there is.

The source of most of your frustrations and anxiety are the result of living in the future, or the past.

Spend time alone with yourself every day.

Always go with yourself, never against yourself.

You have to be your own best friend.

If you don’t like what someone else says to you, you can walk away. But if you don’t like what you say to yourself, you can’t walk away. Therefore, if you’re going to be with yourself all the time, you might as well be nice to yourself.

The truth shall indeed set you free.

Lies only exist if we believe in them.

Even the most fundamental beliefs about reality are not true in themselves. Our thinking makes them true in our experience.

Your thoughts create reality.

The biggest lie is the lie of your imperfection.

Being kind is more important than being right.

Your heart is your best compass.

Cherish those that you love, you never know if you’ll see them again.

Your beliefs are a filter for your reality.

Love is the supreme expression of life, it is the essence and ground of all creation.
I love it!! The truth shall indeed set you free!!! thanks Jimbo!!

Sheryl;808868 wrote: Your in my thoughts and prayers! :-4

Thank you sweet friend!!!:-4

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Thu Mar 20, 2008 1:21 am

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Thu Mar 20, 2008 10:15 pm

Thank you Abbey!!:-4

Today was a good day!!

1. My son got a car of his own today, Since Sept., we have been sharing it and between my mom, dad and I....have been toting him to and from work, the weekends that he had to work, I would be stranded at the house with the boys....so I am SO happy to have my car back and even happier for him that he saved his money and bought a car for himself!!:-6

2. My son got his Wii back from the manufacturer, trust me this was stressful.....he has been without Guitar hero for over a month now....so getting his wii back made him a happy camper!

3. My youngest son got a part in the play he wanted in his "drama club" and this made him happy!!

4. I have my first face to face interview tomorrow!!

bad news is I have a stiff neck and its painfull.....

Sheryl · Post by **Sheryl** » Thu Mar 20, 2008 10:56 pm

woohoooo!

Woohoooo!

Woohooooo **are you sure the middle son was more excited than the oldest** :wah:

Sorry bout the stiff neck. Take some advil, and put heating pad on low on it.

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Fri Mar 21, 2008 12:28 am

Good luck at the interview.

chocoholic · Post by **chocoholic** » Fri Mar 21, 2008 12:34 am

Wendy, this is good news all round.

Good luck with the interview, keeping fingers crossed:):-4

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Fri Mar 21, 2008 4:34 am

WonderWendy3;810866 wrote: Thank you Abbey!!:-4

Today was a good day!!

1. My son got a car of his own today, Since Sept., we have been sharing it and between my mom, dad and I....have been toting him to and from work, the weekends that he had to work, I would be stranded at the house with the boys....so I am SO happy to have my car back and even happier for him that he saved his money and bought a car for himself!!:-6

2. My son got his Wii back from the manufacturer, trust me this was stressful.....he has been without Guitar hero for over a month now....so getting his wii back made him a happy camper!

3. My youngest son got a part in the play he wanted in his "drama club" and this made him happy!!

4. I have my first face to face interview tomorrow!!

bad news is I have a stiff neck and its painfull.....
Sounds like a great day. :-6 So how did the interview go?

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Fri Mar 21, 2008 9:13 am

AngelEyes82;811000 wrote: I don't know if you have me on ignore but I am sorry for what your going through. I knew you were losing your house & you had hopes if renting the one down the street. Sorry nothing has worked out.. that just sucks that you also lost your job... It's hard but keep you're head up. You'll get past the speedbump. You have your friends praying for you and your family.. stay strong.

I never have ever put anyone on ignore and don't plan on it. It is nice to see you here again, thanks for your kind words of encouragement, it means a lot to me!!:-4:-4:-4

My back and neck are really hurting today and I was running late for appointment, resceduled and need to get going now......will report later how it went.

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Fri Mar 21, 2008 1:44 pm

WW, I'm sorry I haven't posted well wishes to you on this thread. I don't post on these threads to often because they make me feel a little guilty because I don't have near the problems that some of the good people in the Garden experience, (not that there isn't any drama in my life or family). I truly hope everything works out for you and you're family. It has too. You're one of the good ones.

Brad

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Fri Mar 21, 2008 5:53 pm

AngelEyes82;811605 wrote: You're welcome & thank you.

Hope you feel better.. maybe he'll give you some good meds.

The appointment was an interview....but I DID try to get into my massage therapist company, but they were booked!! I had to cancel my membership while I was there too, been paying 55.00 a month for an hour massage, which I justified because I had no health insurance and it was helping me to de-stress once a month....but now that I don't have income....other than child support and unemployment....ummm....NO massage!! The good news is I have 4 massages coming to me, I let time get away and didn't use them all yet...so have to use them before April 21....I think I will MAKE myself do that!!

Anyway ....thanks again!:-4

YZGI;812061 wrote: WW, I'm sorry I haven't posted well wishes to you on this thread. I don't post on these threads to often because they make me feel a little guilty because I don't have near the problems that some of the good people in the Garden experience, (not that there isn't any drama in my life or family). I truly hope everything works out for you and you're family. It has too. You're one of the good ones.

Brad

Okay Mister!! You can't be showing that soft side....people talk ya know!!

I appreciate you saying what you said Wisey....it means so very much to me!!:-4

I want to let everyone know that this has been the best therapy for me, to be able to talk and vent and explain.....has helped me sooo much!!:-6

Update of the day:

I went to my interview, not feelin' it, but I'm glad I went and experienced the interview.

I went to a temp agency and at first the lady told me to set up a time to come in on Monday, and fill out paperwork and taking the typing test....and after about 5 minutes of talking to her, she had a job for me that she wants to send me on and had me fill out the paperwork and typing test right there and then..... She told me that this employer is looking for someone with a great personality, and I would work out GREAT!! whooo hoooooooooo:yh_dance:yh_dance

I talked to my g/f that is my connection to the 1 bedroom apartment and the guy in the house may be moving out and I can have the 3 bedroom house!!!That would be AWESOME!!

1. Kids stay in district

2. keep animals

3. not far from everything

4. price is VERY reasonable

5. Oldest son can possibly rent the apartment in the back yard!!

6. No credit check

Just awesome all the way around!!--so that is what I'm hoping for now!!:-6

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Fri Mar 21, 2008 5:55 pm

Things will work out for you WW I just feel it.:-4

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Fri Mar 21, 2008 5:57 pm

There you go a Job and a new home in 1 day BRAVO. We use Temp agencies a lot and many, many times we actually hire the TEMP as a permanent employee. GOOD NEWS WENDY HAPPY EASTER.. :-4

minks · Post by **minks** » Fri Mar 21, 2008 6:54 pm

oooo happy days WW# keep us informed hun, I hope it all works out.

Got my fingers crossed.

moonpie · Post by **moonpie** » Fri Mar 21, 2008 6:57 pm

WW, good girl. It sounds like things are starting to do a turn=around for you and kids. Many good wishes coming your way and good thoughts and prayers for a Happy Easter!

911 · Post by **911** » Fri Mar 21, 2008 7:35 pm

WW3, sounds like things are turning your way. I certainly hope so anyway.

I hope you get the house of your dreams. Lots of room means a lot when you have children.

I hope it gets resolved sooner than later.

Best wishes :-6:-6

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Fri Mar 21, 2008 11:58 pm

Oh what wonderful news WW.

Keeping everything crossed for you.

chocoholic · Post by **chocoholic** » Sat Mar 22, 2008 3:03 am

WW, that's the best of news, you deserve this because you have worked so hard to turn things around, well done you:-4

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Sat Mar 22, 2008 5:05 am

WonderWendy3;812224 wrote: [...]

Update of the day:

I went to my interview, not feelin' it, but I'm glad I went and experienced the interview.

I went to a temp agency and at first the lady told me to set up a time to come in on Monday, and fill out paperwork and taking the typing test....and after about 5 minutes of talking to her, she had a job for me that she wants to send me on and had me fill out the paperwork and typing test right there and then..... She told me that this employer is looking for someone with a great personality, and I would work out GREAT!! whooo hoooooooooo:yh_dance:yh_dance

I talked to my g/f that is my connection to the 1 bedroom apartment and the guy in the house may be moving out and I can have the 3 bedroom house!!!That would be AWESOME!!

1. Kids stay in district

2. keep animals

3. not far from everything

4. price is VERY reasonable

5. Oldest son can possibly rent the apartment in the back yard!!

6. No credit check

Just awesome all the way around!!--so that is what I'm hoping for now!!:-6
Sounds like good news all round! :yh_party

Temp positions lead to permanent jobs. Even if this guy doesn't have a permanent position for you, he has a network you can tap into. He can recommend you to someone else who can use your services. Just be your Wonderful Wendy self and good things will happen. :-6