Help me decide MINIMEs punishment

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 11:56 am

A few weeks ago Lucy accidentally drowned Josh's laptop in sprite. I took it back to the shop for it to be fixed. Today I picked it up, and very pompously said I would like to start it up and check it before I leave the shop. There was a long line behind me and 3 young geeks at the desk. To my horror when it started up I find that Josh's (nearly 13 years) desktop is a picture of a naked women.

I quickly slammed the lid down, and said well it appears to be working okay. Stuck the thing under my arm and rapidly left.

I feel he must pay. What should his punishment be?

Chezzie · Post by **Chezzie** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:00 pm

erm.....help mum search for a new screen saver for her laptop:sneaky::D

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:01 pm

Make him earn enough money to buy a Playboy to hide under his mattress.

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:03 pm

Chezzie;794855 wrote: erm.....help mum search for a new screen saver for her laptop:sneaky::D

:D yes :wah:

Now should I have 'safe search' on or off whilst looking for my background :sneaky:

kayleneaussie · Post by **kayleneaussie** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:04 pm

omg pheasy how embarrassing for you but i must admit I did have a bit of a giggle, sorry.

Do you have the computer where you can see him on it, like they say dont let children have the computer in their bedroom.

I would just have a talk to him. If you want to punish him ban him off the computer for awhile. Good luck:)

Chezzie · Post by **Chezzie** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:04 pm

ThePheasant;794864 wrote:

yes :wah:

Now should I have 'safe search' on or off whilst looking for my background :sneaky:

ohhhh now then...safe for the one Josh finds, you then surf later with it off :wah:

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:05 pm

ThePheasant;794864 wrote:

yes :wah:

Now should I have 'safe search' on or off whilst looking for my background :sneaky:

Just take a crayon and color a bikini on her.

littlemissgiggle · Post by **littlemissgiggle** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:06 pm

I fear at the age he is things like this will only continue,:-2

kayleneaussie · Post by **kayleneaussie** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:06 pm

ThePheasant;794864 wrote:

yes :wah:

Now should I have 'safe search' on or off whilst looking for my background :sneaky:

you can still have it on if your looking for a backgrond

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:07 pm

YZGI;794876 wrote: Just take a crayon and color a bikini on her.

I like that idea :wah::wah:

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:08 pm

kayleneaussie;794872 wrote: omg pheasy how embarrassing for you but i must admit I did have a bit of a giggle, sorry.

Do you have the computer where you can see him on it, like they say dont let children have the computer in their bedroom.

I would just have a talk to him. If you want to punish him ban him off the computer for awhile. Good luck:)

:wah: There was a lot of giggling going on behind me when I stuck my nose in the air and strutted out of the shop. :wah:

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:10 pm

I'm with RJ, have dad give him a high five and explain better ways to hide pictures of naked women.

This is what you meant, right RJ?

:D

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:10 pm

:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

Reminds me of the time I checked daughter's homework file on the 'puter and found a file entitled 'sex', she'd found a few risque photos and put some comments beside. After I'd corrected the spelling from penius I explained that typing sex into search engines wasn't a good idea!

Punishment - constant reminding and ritual humiliation works well I find...

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:10 pm

rjwould;794890 wrote: He needs a male person whom he respects and admires such as dad to explain whatever it is you want him to understand. Taking the laptop will cause resentment, unless you have explained your dissatisfaction to him regarding this before, more than once because for all you know, he may not have gotten it the first time due to your method of explaining..

Good idea I'll let his dad deal with it.

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:12 pm

Imladris;794901 wrote: :yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

Reminds me of the time I checked daughter's homework file on the 'puter and found a file entitled 'sex', she'd found a few risque photos and put some comments beside. After I'd corrected the spelling from penius I explained that typing sex into search engines wasn't a good idea!

Punishment - constant reminding and ritual humiliation works well I find...

:wah::wah:

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:12 pm

YZGI;794899 wrote: I'm with RJ, have dad give him a high five and explain better ways to hide pictures of naked women.

This is what you meant, right RJ?

:D

That sounds about right on what would be said by his dad :wah:

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:14 pm

ThePheasant;794910 wrote: That sounds about right on what would be said by his dad :wah:
I helped raise three boys. These things need to be worked out, so to speak..

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:18 pm

Download a naked MAN and have it as a background see how he feels about that. Have Dad give him the talk about such things, and check the laptop daily to see if he has the naked women back.

Post by **spot** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:25 pm

ThePheasant;794840 wrote: I feel he must pay. What should his punishment be? :)Get him to write to the model explaining why he likes the photo and asking her permission to display it as his desktop. That way if anyone raises an eyebrow he can produce the reply to show he's checked she's okay with it being there.

Carla, your plan has the risk of backfiring.

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:31 pm

spot;794958 wrote: Get him to write to the model explaining why he likes the photo and asking her permission to display it as his desktop. That way if anyone raises an eyebrow he can produce the reply to show he's checked she's okay with it being there.

:yh_worshp:yh_worshp Classy!

Chezzie · Post by **Chezzie** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:33 pm

spot;794958 wrote: Get him to write to the model explaining why he likes the photo and asking her permission to display it as his desktop. That way if anyone raises an eyebrow he can produce the reply to show he's checked she's okay with it being there.

Carla, your plan has the risk of backfiring.

I suspect:sneaky: Spot has a large storage file full of replies:wah::wah::wah:

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:36 pm

spot;794958 wrote: Get him to write to the model explaining why he likes the photo and asking her permission to display it as his desktop. That way if anyone raises an eyebrow he can produce the reply to show he's checked she's okay with it being there.

Carla, your plan has the risk of backfiring.

:wah::wah: Your not helping Spot - he has too many smart-arse replies about stuff already:wah:

kayleneaussie · Post by **kayleneaussie** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:36 pm

ThePheasant;794893 wrote: :wah: There was a lot of giggling going on behind me when I stuck my nose in the air and strutted out of the shop. :wah:

Ha Ha I can just see you pheasy strutting out with your nose in the air:yh_rotfl

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:38 pm

Your right Spot it could backfire. :wah: Your idea is a good one how many letters do you have..

[QUOTE]Carla, your plan has the risk of backfiring.[/QUOTE]

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:48 pm

Oh Pheasy, I have enjoyed this thread, but have to share that I have been dealing with my oldest and his addiction to porn for about 3 years now. The worst happened recently, where my computer didn't have anti-virus protection on it and it basically crashed with over 400 files of illegal porn on it. Thankfully, I still worked at the computer company and they fixed me up for free....the timing was perfect in that case.

Everyone tells me that I should be thankful that he's not looking at naked men and that its natural for boys to look at naked women, but this porn is disgusting to me, not to mention my younger boys being disgusted by the pop-ups that have appeared before them....:-5

There is a program you can buy called netnanny and another key stroking program that tells you everywhere they've been online.

I know that this thread has been lighthearted and I've enjoyed the humor, don't mean to be a gloomy gus...I would love to offer some sound advice to you, other than locking him in a closet until he is 35......I have none!:o

Post by **spot** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 1:02 pm

CARLA;794990 wrote: Your idea is a good one how many letters do you have.. ;)I don't think I'd write to naked models, that sounds a bit naff once you get my age.

I do think a paired ForumGarden 2009 Nude Posters Wall Calendar is a neat extension of this idea, one with twelve male members... let's pretend I didn't type that... and the other with twelve female. The way we organize it is Ms X agrees to be Ms October if Mr Y agrees to be Mr October and the deals have to be struck between the posers themselves. I reckon the site can get $20 a copy for those, don't you?

It might also help define what's pornographic and what isn't. My theory is that pornography is in the eye of the beholder, not in the intention of the producer - if some sad Herbert gets excited watching the local lady newscaster every day at 6pm then the broadcast of the lady newscaster is definitively pornographic. And if people dislike the seamy aspects of the existing porn industry it's a simple matter for enthusiastic amateurs to swamp it out of existence, surely.

Wendy, it's your computer, wipe the stuff and wash your hands afterwards. You can't have to put up with that.

AussiePam · Post by **AussiePam** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 1:08 pm

I guess Aussies mostly get less uptight about these pretty normal growing up phases. It's natural for children to be curious about sex and to wish to explore a bit. Why repress this, and drive it into dark, furtive corners?. I'm all for encouraging kids to bring these things out into the open, where parents can ensure that there is a healthy perspective. Sexuality is only dirty if you make it dirty.

AussiePam · Post by **AussiePam** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 1:10 pm

spot;795053 wrote: one with twelve male members...

Blimey, Spot!! There's a bloke in FG with TWELVE male members??????? WOW

(But I agree with you. Nakedness, per se, is not porn, surely. Is Michelangelo's statue of David porn? Aphrodite?)

Richard Bell · Post by **Richard Bell** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 2:14 pm

ThePheasant;794893 wrote: :wah: There was a lot of giggling going on behind me when I stuck my nose in the air and strutted out of the shop. :wah:

You can bet that the geeks have similar stuff on their hard drive.

No need to worry. You have a very normal 13 year old son.

I can imagine your embarrassment at the time, but I would be surprised if a 13 year old male didn't have some risque material on his computer.

In my day, I had to make do with Playboy and Penthouse. Getting up the nerve to walk into the store and buy it was always an ordeal.

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 2:23 pm

Richard Bell;795210 wrote: You can bet that the geeks have similar stuff on their hard drive.

No need to worry. You have a very normal 13 year old son.

I can imagine your embarrassment at the time, but I would be surprised if a 13 year old male didn't have some risque material on his computer.

In my day, I had to make do with Playboy and Penthouse. Getting up the nerve to walk into the store and buy it was always an ordeal.

But your determination got you through this ordeal :wah::wah:

Post by **spot** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 2:29 pm

He stuck it out.

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 2:34 pm

spot;795241 wrote: He stuck it out.

Hopefully not till he got home

Post by **jones jones** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 2:36 pm

personally i would simply ignore it ...

part of what any normal healthy hetrosexual thirteen year old boy does ...

jJ

mrsK · Post by **mrsK** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 3:25 pm

Boys will be boys,let him have his little adventure.

If it is only a naked body what is the harm?

Our grandson 14yrs took great interest in a motorcycle magazine,used to read it faithfully.We decided to have a read & there in the middle was a naked girl.

We just had a joke with him about how it was great that he was reading so much these days;):-6

Musiclover89 · Post by **Musiclover89** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 3:40 pm

Take him to a strip bar

that should give him a fright :wah:

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 3:44 pm

Musiclover89;795359 wrote: Take him to a strip bar

that should give him a fright :wah:

:wah: I am afraid he will ask to again the next week :wah:

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Thu Mar 06, 2008 5:37 pm

I would venture to guess that "mothers" sudden awareness and inquiries would hinder the excitement and curiousity of viewing these "beauties in the buff."

He does seem like a normal 13 year old boy. However, you can control and/or monitor his actions on the net.

A bit of friendly advise--Put the computer in the livingroom or family room. Some room that is not isolated. He is still a child.

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Fri Mar 07, 2008 3:47 am

Joking aside here. My real thoughts/feelings on this are - I really don't mind if he wants to look at naked bodies - he is nearly a teenager. I do mind that I displayed it to about 8 other people in the shop (he could of warned me), and I do mind that at any point his 7 year sister could have seen it.

I don't have a problem with his curiosity. I have put parental controls on this laptop, only because I don't think he is ready for some of the more graphic pictures/vids that are on the internet. Like people having sex or people doing 'unusual' things to themselves.

People over here in the US have very different views about this compared to people in the UK. I remember a few years back my US friend was horrified by my attitude to this whole thing (I feel another thread coming on).

Post by **spot** » Fri Mar 07, 2008 4:21 am

The parental controls are essential. If you get a chance in the next few months to show the laptop to someone who knows computers professionally then get a second opinion on whether it's tied down and secured thoroughly. No computers outside a communal living area is also essential for the next three or four years. The family that clicks together sticks together.

And I truly can't imagine any way in which he could have warned you! It'd be a monster of a 12 year old who could manage that.

el guapo · Post by **el guapo** » Fri Mar 07, 2008 11:28 am

ThePheasant;794840 wrote: A few weeks ago Lucy accidentally drowned Josh's laptop in sprite. I took it back to the shop for it to be fixed. Today I picked it up, and very pompously said I would like to start it up and check it before I leave the shop. There was a long line behind me and 3 young geeks at the desk. To my horror when it started up I find that Josh's (nearly 13 years) desktop is a picture of a naked women.

I quickly slammed the lid down, and said well it appears to be working okay. Stuck the thing under my arm and rapidly left.

I feel he must pay. What should his punishment be?

could you post sample of said ladies so i may make an inforned decision:p:p:p:p

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Fri Mar 07, 2008 11:32 am

el guapo;796249 wrote: could you post sample of said ladies so i may make an inforned decision:p:p:p:p

I could but I fear it would mean me getting my first infraction :wah:

el guapo · Post by **el guapo** » Fri Mar 07, 2008 11:42 am

ThePheasant;796258 wrote: I could but I fear it would mean me getting my first infraction :wah:

as we are being asked to judge we feel we need all the evidence

oi spot say she can :wah::wah::wah:

Post by **spot** » Fri Mar 07, 2008 11:46 am

She must, she must. I'm sure the lad's taste was modest.

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Fri Mar 07, 2008 11:48 am

spot;796295 wrote: She must, she must. I'm sure the lad's taste was modest.

Spot my dearest, you have me wondering if you are looking for an excuse to ban me :wah::wah:

el guapo · Post by **el guapo** » Fri Mar 07, 2008 11:50 am

ThePheasant;796303 wrote: Spot my dearest, you have me wondering if you are looking for an excuse to ban me :wah::wah:

it here in gray n black he said yes :wah::wah:

the man from delmonte he says YES

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Fri Mar 07, 2008 12:03 pm

First of all there's the naked female as a background, and then these females pop-up doing graphic dances (:o) in the corner of the screen. Here I think this is the site .... you'll need to download it - on right of screen, or just watch the middle of the page ...that gives you a good idea about whats going on.

http://www46.virtuagirlhd.com/

el guapo · Post by **el guapo** » Fri Mar 07, 2008 12:14 pm

ThePheasant;796327 wrote: First of all there's the naked female as a background, and then these females pop-up doing graphic dances (:o) in the corner of the screen. Here I think this is the site .... you'll need to download it - on right of screen, or just watch the middle of the page ...that gives you a good idea about whats going on.

http://www46.virtuagirlhd.com/

did they have clothes on

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Fri Mar 07, 2008 12:15 pm

el guapo;796351 wrote: did they have clothes on

They strip!