I was driving North yesterday afternoon, to visit a friend. Listening to corny tapes that I have copied for the truck. That song by Lee Ann Rhimes... How Will I or Do I breathe ( you know ) without you... my God, its so heart ripping, so gut wretching, Made me think of breakups, and the pain. Being so in love with someone that you wish you could breathe them in, make them part of you, and carry them around with you. The breakup is like your arm is blown off with a shot gun blast. Having been through a few, in my life.... and having survived the recovery... I would NEVER EVER EVER want to go there again. I will never sniff a mans shirt with longing again.... while he is away.
Do you remember?
How Do I breathe Without You?
How Do I breathe Without You?
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Oh I remember well Wedder the pain of knowing you will never see them again. Crying for days on end, till you have a headache. 
Beautiful song, and she has a beautiful voice.
Beautiful song, and she has a beautiful voice.
ALOHA!!
MOTTO TO LIVE BY:
"Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, champagne in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming.
WOO HOO!!, what a ride!!!"
MOTTO TO LIVE BY:
"Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, champagne in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming.
WOO HOO!!, what a ride!!!"
How Do I breathe Without You?
Cant eat.. cant sleep.. figety.. drinking too much wine.. sobbing... fantasysing he will come back. Replaying moments... Foget it. What a nightmare.
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That song is on my mix CD that I only get out when DH is deployed. I don't get the CD out that often, but some nights a girl just needs to cry because she misses her man.
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I used to cry like a baby to that song when I was married thinking how I couldn't breath without him. Now if I hear it, I just think its a beautiful song....funny how songs can affect you in different ways in different stages of your life. :-4:-4
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Me and hubby are basically joined at the hip, but we do wonder aloud who will go first. He says me cause I smoke and he does not, but nobody ever knows anything. If he dies before me, even though I am pretty independent, etc., it would be one hell of a blow. But that is one hell of a song and so true if you are in love.
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moonpie;779526 wrote: Me and hubby are basically joined at the hip, but we do wonder aloud who will go first. He says me cause I smoke and he does not, but nobody ever knows anything. If he dies before me, even though I am pretty independent, etc., it would be one hell of a blow. But that is one hell of a song and so true if you are in love.
like you, im independant,have had to be at times but the day i lost my partner showed me just how vunerable i really was.
he was just four weeks past his 50th birthday, such a shock.
even now two and a half years later, the pain in my chest as i right this is as bad as it was then.
i think of him every time i hear that song.............. but you do live without them dont you ??
like you, im independant,have had to be at times but the day i lost my partner showed me just how vunerable i really was.
he was just four weeks past his 50th birthday, such a shock.
even now two and a half years later, the pain in my chest as i right this is as bad as it was then.
i think of him every time i hear that song.............. but you do live without them dont you ??
How Do I breathe Without You?
Have you heard the song that she sings with Jon Bon Jovi ?
If not..here it is..
I think it is a nice song.
If not..here it is..
I think it is a nice song.
How Do I breathe Without You?
Helen;779848 wrote: like you, im independant,have had to be at times but the day i lost my partner showed me just how vunerable i really was.
he was just four weeks past his 50th birthday, such a shock.
even now two and a half years later, the pain in my chest as i right this is as bad as it was then.
i think of him every time i hear that song.............. but you do live without them dont you ??
I almost didnt survive my last breakup. It was from the man I changed my whole life for. Moved with him from New York to Virginia. I had also known him for almost 25 years. I really, really trusted him. I guess I kind of had a nervous break down, over the whole thing. That is why I say.... never ever again. A breakup or loss from someone whos been good to you, is totally different from a breakup that involves deceit or dishonesty or cruelty. Both scenarios involve a host of psychological twists.
he was just four weeks past his 50th birthday, such a shock.
even now two and a half years later, the pain in my chest as i right this is as bad as it was then.
i think of him every time i hear that song.............. but you do live without them dont you ??
I almost didnt survive my last breakup. It was from the man I changed my whole life for. Moved with him from New York to Virginia. I had also known him for almost 25 years. I really, really trusted him. I guess I kind of had a nervous break down, over the whole thing. That is why I say.... never ever again. A breakup or loss from someone whos been good to you, is totally different from a breakup that involves deceit or dishonesty or cruelty. Both scenarios involve a host of psychological twists.
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moonpie;779526 wrote: Me and hubby are basically joined at the hip, but we do wonder aloud who will go first. He says me cause I smoke and he does not, but nobody ever knows anything. If he dies before me, even though I am pretty independent, etc., it would be one hell of a blow. But that is one hell of a song and so true if you are in love.
My husband and I have been happily married for 25 years and although I am a strong person I don't know how I would survive losing him. He is the love of my life and my best friend. He has always said he wouldn't live to be an old man and that he's sure he's going to go first. I keep telling him that he doesn't know that for sure. He doesn't know what God has planned for him and I could go out tomorrow and get hit by a truck. He is a cancer survivor and he had a heart attack at the age of 35, but so far he has survived it all. and now we have a new baby and I keep telling him that he has to take care of himself so he can be around for his little boy. We didn't suffer through 13 years of infertility to finally have our baby only for him to leave us. I know how it feels to lose a parent at a young age, my father died when I was 17. That song has always affected me.
My husband and I have been happily married for 25 years and although I am a strong person I don't know how I would survive losing him. He is the love of my life and my best friend. He has always said he wouldn't live to be an old man and that he's sure he's going to go first. I keep telling him that he doesn't know that for sure. He doesn't know what God has planned for him and I could go out tomorrow and get hit by a truck. He is a cancer survivor and he had a heart attack at the age of 35, but so far he has survived it all. and now we have a new baby and I keep telling him that he has to take care of himself so he can be around for his little boy. We didn't suffer through 13 years of infertility to finally have our baby only for him to leave us. I know how it feels to lose a parent at a young age, my father died when I was 17. That song has always affected me.
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I think I had too many 'life lessons' growing up to ever really trust any man with all of me. I find myself often wishing I was able to 'feel' like everyone else, that I was able to 'fall' like everyone else....
Then I listen to women who are totally destroyed because some man doesn't choose them anymore and I think 'there but for the assholes in my past, go i' lol.
I trust my kids with all of my heart... that's it. Something happens to one of them and I am sure I will be calling on everyone and everything I have ever known to help me survive each day. Anything else, I can handle with a kleenex...
Then I listen to women who are totally destroyed because some man doesn't choose them anymore and I think 'there but for the assholes in my past, go i' lol.
I trust my kids with all of my heart... that's it. Something happens to one of them and I am sure I will be calling on everyone and everything I have ever known to help me survive each day. Anything else, I can handle with a kleenex...
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Folks who'd like to copy my intellectual work should expect to pay me for it.:-6
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I lost my husband 3 years ago and it was a shock. He had just left home and went to his mother's. Shortly after arrival he had a seizure. The hardest part was holding up for my 3 children. My youngest at that time (Molly) was attending Ohio State University in her 3rd of 5 years. She wanted to quit but I instilled in her that her father would want her to go on and get her Bachelors Degree.
I promised her that after all was attended to back East I'd come to Columbus to be with her ~ and so I have (almost 2 years ago)!
I will not worry over the things in which I have no control of. Through faith in God I go on. My husband was the love of my life and my true friend. I KNOW he loved me. I truly thank him for allowing me to have and share that feeling. God continues to bless me and give me the strength to find a muscle somewhere to pull myself up and keep it together. Knowing the love he had for me enables me to live for that's exactly what he would want me to do.
I see my husband everyday as I look on the face of my daughter and my 2 son's back East. I see him in my grandchildren's faces.
Songs like Till We Ain't Strangers Anymore and countless of others conjure up emotions that break my heart. I am all-cried-out! Prayers and wonderful memories allow me to purge on with every single breath I take; and I thank God from whom all blessings flow!
I promised her that after all was attended to back East I'd come to Columbus to be with her ~ and so I have (almost 2 years ago)!
I will not worry over the things in which I have no control of. Through faith in God I go on. My husband was the love of my life and my true friend. I KNOW he loved me. I truly thank him for allowing me to have and share that feeling. God continues to bless me and give me the strength to find a muscle somewhere to pull myself up and keep it together. Knowing the love he had for me enables me to live for that's exactly what he would want me to do.
I see my husband everyday as I look on the face of my daughter and my 2 son's back East. I see him in my grandchildren's faces.
Songs like Till We Ain't Strangers Anymore and countless of others conjure up emotions that break my heart. I am all-cried-out! Prayers and wonderful memories allow me to purge on with every single breath I take; and I thank God from whom all blessings flow!
How Do I breathe Without You?
Miss Maam;784755 wrote: I lost my husband 3 years ago and it was a shock. He had just left home and went to his mother's. Shortly after arrival he had a seizure. The hardest part was holding up for my 3 children. My youngest at that time (Molly) was attending Ohio State University in her 3rd of 5 years. She wanted to quit but I instilled in her that her father would want her to go on and get her Bachelors Degree.
I promised her that after all was attended to back East I'd come to Columbus to be with her ~ and so I have (almost 2 years ago)!
I will not worry over the things in which I have no control of. Through faith in God I go on. My husband was the love of my life and my true friend. I KNOW he loved me. I truly thank him for allowing me to have and share that feeling. God continues to bless me and give me the strength to find a muscle somewhere to pull myself up and keep it together. Knowing the love he had for me enables me to live for that's exactly what he would want me to do.
I see my husband everyday as I look on the face of my daughter and my 2 son's back East. I see him in my grandchildren's faces.
Songs like Till We Ain't Strangers Anymore and countless of others conjure up emotions that break my heart. I am all-cried-out! Prayers and wonderful memories allow me to purge on with every single breath I take; and I thank God from whom all blessings flow!
The cool thing about forums like this is that I get to have an understanding of things I have never experienced. I won't say I feel sorry for you.... I'm too busy envying what you managed to have... but I wish you could have kept it for a little while longer...:-6
I promised her that after all was attended to back East I'd come to Columbus to be with her ~ and so I have (almost 2 years ago)!
I will not worry over the things in which I have no control of. Through faith in God I go on. My husband was the love of my life and my true friend. I KNOW he loved me. I truly thank him for allowing me to have and share that feeling. God continues to bless me and give me the strength to find a muscle somewhere to pull myself up and keep it together. Knowing the love he had for me enables me to live for that's exactly what he would want me to do.
I see my husband everyday as I look on the face of my daughter and my 2 son's back East. I see him in my grandchildren's faces.
Songs like Till We Ain't Strangers Anymore and countless of others conjure up emotions that break my heart. I am all-cried-out! Prayers and wonderful memories allow me to purge on with every single breath I take; and I thank God from whom all blessings flow!
The cool thing about forums like this is that I get to have an understanding of things I have never experienced. I won't say I feel sorry for you.... I'm too busy envying what you managed to have... but I wish you could have kept it for a little while longer...:-6
I expressly forbid the use of any of my posts anywhere outside of FG (with the exception of the incredibly witty 'get a room already' )posted recently.
Folks who'd like to copy my intellectual work should expect to pay me for it.:-6
Folks who'd like to copy my intellectual work should expect to pay me for it.:-6
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deleted this post ~ inadvertently posted before! My bad!!!
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I'm so sorry for you're loss. I admire your strengh so much! God's comfort is a wonderful thing and I hope you continue to be blessed with it. We are here for you if you need us.:-4
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I reflect quite often, on how evolving into being comfortable functioning alone, is a journey. It begins with having the desire to be able to do so. Once accomplished, it is I think, almost impossible to go back. Ill find myself,in a gas station alone at 11pm, or running errands, or eating in a restaurant, alone, quite comfortably. But this feeling will wash over me, It is the realization that I have accomplished something that many people find impossible to do. They live their entire lives unable to feel the liberation of not " Needing" someone else alongside them in order to feel secure. Sometimes it feels a little sad to realize that there is no one waiting for me, but mostly I feel very competent, brave, and free. I do know that Im very glad that I arrived at the place where I exist fearlessly. That I wouldnt have to choose the company of someone whom I really do not enjoy, simply to avoid being alone. Having come to this place, it is difficult for me to have relationships with people who have never visited here. I find them to be lacking life experience, and limited emmotionally. It is like they have failed to discover a part of themselves. Now, I must admit that I didnt choose to take this journey into self discovery. It evolved out of the ashes of broken relationships, that left me with a choice. Either move forward, or continue to seek unfufilling situations, simply to avoid learning to enjoy my own company.
But, I also realize that I was destined to come to this place, as I chose to walk away from every relationship I ever had. And please, to those of you who have lost people who you did love, do not think that I have no compassion for your pain. Im simply saying that their can be tremendous personal growth in discovering how much we are capable of, losing the fear of finding ourselves alone. How Do I breathe Without You? I breathe in and out, and with each breath I grow stronger, more discerning, and more aware of my connection to life. It has been kind of like climbing a mountain, arriving at the top with scraped knees, close calls, moments of despair, and great fatique. Finally arriving, I look back, and realize, I dont want to go back down.
But, I also realize that I was destined to come to this place, as I chose to walk away from every relationship I ever had. And please, to those of you who have lost people who you did love, do not think that I have no compassion for your pain. Im simply saying that their can be tremendous personal growth in discovering how much we are capable of, losing the fear of finding ourselves alone. How Do I breathe Without You? I breathe in and out, and with each breath I grow stronger, more discerning, and more aware of my connection to life. It has been kind of like climbing a mountain, arriving at the top with scraped knees, close calls, moments of despair, and great fatique. Finally arriving, I look back, and realize, I dont want to go back down.
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very well said ,I appaud your bravery. I guess I get attached easiely bacause I haven't had many friends or family in my life. I'm an only child, we lived on a farm with no one even in sight of us. I only knew one grandparent. my Granny whom i loved dearly. My dad died when I was 17, I met a wonferful man and we've been married ever since. It's been 25 years of pretty much just us because until recently we hadn't had any children. I hope if the time comes that I have to make it out in the world alone I hope I can do it with as much strength and spirit as you have. You are an inspiration to me.:-6
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I am understandably and thoroughly familiar with your response as well as its propensities. You are not on that mountain top alone. I have been there and now, I'm neither here nor there.
I've been traveling along a long road with patience, and I'll let no one turn me around. Oh I've been tempted out of lonliness, only to find them lacking in experience; just as you've said! I've found them to be afraid, having no faith, just wanting and incapable of giving. To them ~ I give breathing space. Listen to my audible breaths of aspiration!
Your strength and convictions are admired as I attempt mirroring them!
I've been traveling along a long road with patience, and I'll let no one turn me around. Oh I've been tempted out of lonliness, only to find them lacking in experience; just as you've said! I've found them to be afraid, having no faith, just wanting and incapable of giving. To them ~ I give breathing space. Listen to my audible breaths of aspiration!
Your strength and convictions are admired as I attempt mirroring them!
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Hope6;785460 wrote: very well said ,I appaud your bravery. I guess I get attached easiely bacause I haven't had many friends or family in my life. I'm an only child, we lived on a farm with no one even in sight of us. I only knew one grandparent. my Granny whom i loved dearly. My dad died when I was 17, I met a wonferful man and we've been married ever since. It's been 25 years of pretty much just us because until recently we hadn't had any children. I hope if the time comes that I have to make it out in the world alone I hope I can do it with as much strength and spirit as you have. You are an inspiration to me.:-6
how much my life has been like yours hope, up until the 25yrs married bit !! i fell into relationships cos i was scared of being on my own.
well, i have been on my own now for nearly three years and i've surprized myself at how well im coping now. in fact i guard my privacy to a point of being a bit selfish, i no longer have to go out, stay in, eat, sleep or anything else if I dont want to, i dont have to tell anyone where i am or where im going.
im not saying that some days i couldnt use someone around, just for a bit of advice or company and sometimes the nights are a bit long and dark but im surviving and starting to enjoy it.
having said all that i'd give it up tomorrow if i could have my man back, we wernt together long enough in my opinion.
how much my life has been like yours hope, up until the 25yrs married bit !! i fell into relationships cos i was scared of being on my own.
well, i have been on my own now for nearly three years and i've surprized myself at how well im coping now. in fact i guard my privacy to a point of being a bit selfish, i no longer have to go out, stay in, eat, sleep or anything else if I dont want to, i dont have to tell anyone where i am or where im going.
im not saying that some days i couldnt use someone around, just for a bit of advice or company and sometimes the nights are a bit long and dark but im surviving and starting to enjoy it.
having said all that i'd give it up tomorrow if i could have my man back, we wernt together long enough in my opinion.
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Helen;785556 wrote: how much my life has been like yours hope, up until the 25yrs married bit !! i fell into relationships cos i was scared of being on my own.
well, i have been on my own now for nearly three years and i've surprized myself at how well im coping now. in fact i guard my privacy to a point of being a bit selfish, i no longer have to go out, stay in, eat, sleep or anything else if I dont want to, i dont have to tell anyone where i am or where im going.
im not saying that some days i couldnt use someone around, just for a bit of advice or company and sometimes the nights are a bit long and dark but im surviving and starting to enjoy it.
having said all that i'd give it up tomorrow if i could have my man back, we wernt together long enough in my opinion.
my mom says a lot of the same things you do she's says she's spoiled herself, my dad died 27 years ago. she says she can eat when she wants, sleep when she wants, go when and where she wants. She has no interest in dating and says she doesn't want or need a man. I 'm glad she got to that point because she took it really hard when we lost him.
well, i have been on my own now for nearly three years and i've surprized myself at how well im coping now. in fact i guard my privacy to a point of being a bit selfish, i no longer have to go out, stay in, eat, sleep or anything else if I dont want to, i dont have to tell anyone where i am or where im going.
im not saying that some days i couldnt use someone around, just for a bit of advice or company and sometimes the nights are a bit long and dark but im surviving and starting to enjoy it.
having said all that i'd give it up tomorrow if i could have my man back, we wernt together long enough in my opinion.
my mom says a lot of the same things you do she's says she's spoiled herself, my dad died 27 years ago. she says she can eat when she wants, sleep when she wants, go when and where she wants. She has no interest in dating and says she doesn't want or need a man. I 'm glad she got to that point because she took it really hard when we lost him.
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Women who sing the praises of aloneness, are those of us who have lived through relationships that were bondage. Robbing us of our freedom, and perhaps had us in circumstances where total selflissness was required for the arrangement to survive. Or we suffered at the hands of abusers, or narcissists, or men who really had no regard for women, or held them in low esteem. So we are painfully aware of how fortunate we are to be free, and unencumbered with a problem personality. For women who have experienced healthy and fufilling relationships, the scenario is completely different. They are suffering for the loss of something that was good. In both cases, in the event of loss it is imperative to learn the art of not only being alone, but being able to be happy being alone. Despite a set of unpleasant circumstances for one group of us.... we must always remember that circumstances can change in the blink of an eye. Sadly, members here have experienced this. It is devastatingly painful. But also a reminder that we should always try to enjoy every happy moment we do have with a loved one to the fullest.
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