Would you still love your mate?

Indian Princess · Post by **Indian Princess** » Sat Oct 27, 2007 5:40 pm

If you are dating or married, would you love your mate if they plumped out(gained alot of weight) we were talking about this at work, bald men ,obese women, do you have the right to say anything at all to your mate? Some thing that hey, your nothing special, why can you say something?

Share your opinion. "Would you love your mate if they went bald or gained weight.

Too me it is all the same. It wouldnt matter because their heart is the same.

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Sat Oct 27, 2007 6:01 pm

The heart is all that matters.

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Sat Oct 27, 2007 6:02 pm

yes, I would still love them....I would be concerned for the weight gain....but love him just the same!:-4:-4

pinkchick · Post by **pinkchick** » Sat Oct 27, 2007 6:07 pm

For me...looks are not the most important thing....it's who the person is that matters:-6

watermark · Post by **watermark** » Sat Oct 27, 2007 6:50 pm

Depends. I actually always wanted a boyfriend that had excess weight and was bald. Think Telly Sevalis sp? Obesity? I would definitely say something to my significant. Not just for a few extra pounds or balding soul, however. I don't think I'd keep my mouth shut if he wanted to hide his baldness under an extra long piece of temple hair that was brushed up and over the top of the head. That looks kinda dumb in my opinion. I tend to think aging is attractive if it's not me.

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Sat Oct 27, 2007 8:16 pm

pinkchick;713604 wrote: For me...looks are not the most important thing....it's who the person is that matters:-6

well said Chicky....I was gonna say that bald is beautiful too!! The weight gain would just be concerning for their health, the last b/f had the cutest pot belly....and I loved it!--because it was part of HIM!!:-4

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Sat Oct 27, 2007 8:25 pm

Love is from the Heart or it isn't love at all. Looks are not important ever. You love someone for WHO they are not how they look.. In a moment our looks could change due to health reason, and accident or God know what.

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Sat Oct 27, 2007 8:30 pm

Weight gain - this will be a big issue for the younger FG

now image weighs alot on the relationship, and will have nothing to do with loving the person.

my answer - your love for someone - really in love, has nothing to do with the 20 to 40 pound to me.

Yes, we would discuss the issue and have

Do I still love him, yes

Does he still love me, yes

Being bald or over weight, really doesn't equate to not loving. I don't know maybe its just me, but I don't think one has anything to do with loving eachother.

Patsy

koan · Post by **koan** » Sat Oct 27, 2007 8:53 pm

baldness can be really sexy... unless you're jimbo :guitarist

I'd be concerned about the weight if it was sudden but also be concerned if it was a result of ceasing to care about himself. If it was the latter I'd be more concerned about the attitude then the actual weight. My husband was overweight from the time I met him. Looks aren't important unless it is a matter of gross neglect.

cinamin · Post by **cinamin** » Sun Oct 28, 2007 7:27 am

Yeah I'd still love him.

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Lon · Post by **Lon** » Sun Oct 28, 2007 8:14 am

Some people confuse love with physical attraction. If a spouse becomes obese, you may no longer be attracted to him or her physically, and no longer are interested in having sex with them. That however, has nothing to do with love.

Peg · Post by **Peg** » Sun Oct 28, 2007 12:24 pm

The other half and I have both gained weight in the last 21 years. He's now bald and I like it that way.

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Mon Oct 29, 2007 6:17 am

Lon;713735 wrote: Some people confuse love with physical attraction. If a spouse becomes obese, you may no longer be attracted to him or her physically, and no longer are interested in having sex with them. That however, has nothing to do with love.

that's what I was going to say.....

:-6

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Mon Oct 29, 2007 6:23 am

I once had this sort of conversation with my husband when I was feeling down about my weight gain.

I asked him how can he still fancy me when I've put on quite a bit of weight. He said 'well, I've put on weight too, do you still fancy me?'

My reply - 'Yes because you're still you......................I've just answered my own question haven't I' and I had, he's older, greyer, chubbier but still my husband and I still love him just the same.:-4

laneybug · Post by **laneybug** » Mon Oct 29, 2007 5:21 pm

In my opinion, balding and gaining weight isn't really in the same category. Balding is a very natural occurrence for many men and women, and to stop loving someone because of that is not only shallow but unrealistic as well. Gaining weight as one ages tends to be a natural thing, too, because of a slower metabolism and decreased activity.

But, obesity (excessive weight gain) should not be considered a natural part of aging, or even a natural part of life, for that matter. Excessive weight gain is not necessary and can be avoided. If my husband put on a few extra pounds, no big deal. But if he were to become seriously overweight, I would have a problem. Gaining excessive weight is a sign of not taking care of oneself and I don't want to be with someone who doesn't give enough of a crap about themselves to at least try to maintain a healthy weight. I wouldn't be attracted to him anymore, I'd still love him, but I wouldn't be attracted to him. And vice versa if I gained a lot of weight!

Balding isn't a big issue for me. My hubby shaves his head.... he's already bald! And I find it very attractive.

But I would say something if he gained a lot of weight, and I certainly expect him to do the same for me.

Letting someone get unhealthy without talking to them or helping them get back on track is not love.