First Night

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon May 16, 2005 7:25 pm

anewlife wrote: First night out of the house and in the new apartment - the kids are taking it OK although both are not quite right. I have them for a sleep over tomorrow night - I've just finished putting together the bunk beds and now and trying to clean up so they feel comfortable. It's very lonely, here without the family - but I am doing OK so far.

Hang in there anew, it only gets better trust me. You will begin to enjoy the solitude for awhile and having your own place to do as you please. Take up some reading or do what you please, this is "your place"

Hope the "sleep over" goes good. Your kids will rebound ok, as long as you keep your spirits up around them. Make their time with you a good time.

Cheers

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Mon May 16, 2005 7:35 pm

Hi Anew! I am excited for you, and sad for you. There are so many possibilities for you, but I'm sure the whole thing is overwhelming. Your concern for your kids has been very apparent in all your posts, and I'd like to tell you it's nice to see.

Your kids will take their emotional cues from you, and as I'm sure you know, kids are WAY more observant than most people give them credit for. So being positive and upbeat is important.

Are you very far from the old house? Just curious if taking the kids for over-nights will be easy for you.

You know, just a thought here, but there are a few members here with some fairly major stuff going on. Perhaps focusing on someone else's problems will help put your own in perspective? Not sure if that's how you're wired, but it helps me from time to time.

Sending good vibes your way.... :yh_peace

Peg · Post by **Peg** » Mon May 16, 2005 7:43 pm

It'll seem a little weird for a while, but it'll get better. After a while, you may even enjoy not having to answer to anybody but yourself. Hang in there, we're all rooting for you.

koan · Post by **koan** » Mon May 16, 2005 8:12 pm

I know people who have lived for a long time (20 years) in misery because they were too afraid to do what you've done. Good for you. Kids are very resilient. It is important to teach them that your own happiness is of value and to make sure they don't grow up thinking that your unhappy relationship was "love".

greydeadhead · Post by **greydeadhead** » Tue May 17, 2005 3:25 am

Hey New....

You are doing fine .. everything you are feeling is normal. Been there done that. Do something fun and special with the kids. Remember they are confused right now.. make sure that they realize that both of you still love them.. that is what they will need.. no bad mouthing the mom.. etc... as for you...after they go home do something for yourself... even if it is something small...anyway.. hang in there.. you will make it..

mominiowa · Post by **mominiowa** » Tue May 17, 2005 6:11 pm

Good Luck - Kids do bounce back - but it takes time..One word of advice..Don't talk bad about the X or her family...it just hurts you in the long run...Hang in there - It gets better......Pretty soon you will be able to sit down and say-hmmmm...this is MY home now....and feel good.. :-6