having a bad time

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 12:57 pm

I am having a really bad time with my hubby,i am scared i have had enough.:-1 :-1

pinkchick · Post by **pinkchick** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 1:00 pm

I'm sorry Neffy. Hang in there hun;)

:-4 :-4 :-4

koan · Post by **koan** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 1:00 pm

have you ever told him that?

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 1:04 pm

yes koan i have

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 1:05 pm

You're scared? Of what? Is he hurting you? Or did I misunderstand?

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 1:06 pm

neffy;652284 wrote: yes koan i have

Oh Neffy hun

you gotta weigh how bad you want out and how strong are you to go on your own if this is the only option

Huggs hun, it's no fun I know it. If ya need to PM go ahead and do so.

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 1:21 pm

Oh neffy, take minks advice. Why is it so bad?

koan · Post by **koan** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 1:22 pm

does he seem to care? If he reacts to you when you tell him that then there is a chance you can counsel it out.

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 1:25 pm

i think hubby has alot of issues,has i have said to red in a pm this is are 2nd time around and i think he feels alot of gulit.............not that i am sticking up for him mind you because i am not very easy to love with.But just sometimes his temper really scares me xxx

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 1:29 pm

neffy;652318 wrote: i think hubby has alot of issues,has i have said to red in a pm this is are 2nd time around and i think he feels alot of gulit.............not that i am sticking up for him mind you because i am not very easy to love with.But just sometimes his temper really scares me xxx

nobody deserves to live in fear

(i have the overwhelming urge to call you jiggles because of your siggy):D

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 1:30 pm

neffy;652318 wrote: i think hubby has alot of issues,has i have said to red in a pm this is are 2nd time around and i think he feels alot of gulit.............not that i am sticking up for him mind you because i am not very easy to love with.But just sometimes his temper really scares me xxx

We don't think that all, you are very sweet and nice to us all.

Anger issues-don't put up with something that scares you, that is not love.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 1:31 pm

minks;652324 wrote: nobody deserves to live in fear

(i have the overwhelming urge to call you jiggles because of your siggy):D

Ok thats not helping minks...

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 1:32 pm

I am concerned when you say his temper scares you.

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 1:33 pm

Nomad;652329 wrote:

Ok thats not helping minks...

listen you! are you stalking me ????

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 1:35 pm

minks;652334 wrote: listen you! are you stalking me ????

Just trying to clean up the loose ends

koan · Post by **koan** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 1:35 pm

wow. I've seen your dogs and you're saying you're scared of your hubby? What does he look like when he's mad? :-2

I haven't been reading as much here as normal so I'm behind on what I should probably know about the situation. The two big things you've said is a)you're hard to love... (wtf?) and b) you're scared of him.

so basically you should probably get out first and analyze it second.

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 1:41 pm

koan;652344 wrote: wow. I've seen your dogs and you're saying you're scared of your hubby? What does he look like when he's mad? :-2

I haven't been reading as much here as normal so I'm behind on what I should probably know about the situation. The two big things you've said is a)you're hard to love... (wtf?) and b) you're scared of him.

so basically you should probably get out first and analyze it second.

Yes neffy be safe, your safety comes first!!!

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 1:41 pm

Nomad;652341 wrote: Just trying to clean up the loose ends

tie my shoelace then will ya.

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 1:44 pm

thank you everyone:-4 :-4 my dogs would not ley anything happen to me norwould my daughter.I really do think he has got alot of issues i really do.Has i have already said i am not an easy person to get on with.

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 1:45 pm

neffy;652362 wrote: thank you everyone:-4 :-4 my dogs would not ley anything happen to me norwould my daughter.I really do think he has got alot of issues i really do.Has i have already said i am not an easy person to get on with.

how so? and why do you say that?

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 1:47 pm

well i think it takes 2 to make a partnership.Even thoug he has never hurt me i just know the dogs would let him minks that all :-4

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 1:50 pm

neffy;652365 wrote: well i think it takes 2 to make a partnership.Even thoug he has never hurt me i just know the dogs would let him minks that all :-4

hehehe silly girl I meant how is it you see you as being difficult to love?? who tells you this? Why do you think this? If I am prying tell me.

littlemissgiggle · Post by **littlemissgiggle** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 2:01 pm

neffy;652362 wrote: thank you everyone:-4 :-4 my dogs would not ley anything happen to me norwould my daughter.I really do think he has got alot of issues i really do.Has i have already said i am not an easy person to get on with.

why don;t you think you are easy to get on with? (are these your words or hubby's)

you seem very easy going on here and kind :-4.

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 2:05 pm

no that is my words i am not easy,i am very moody person and i like to be on my own as hubby loves to be with people.If i go to my freinds he will always make sure that he goes out to.

I realy dont want any of you thinking that he beats me.:-6

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 2:07 pm

neffy;652395 wrote: no that is my words i am not easy,i am very moody person and i like to be on my own as hubby loves to be with people.If i go to my freinds he will always make sure that he goes out to.

I realy dont want any of you thinking that he beats me.:-6

sweets I have been there done that. It's not easy when you are both so different socially, I remember those days. For me now it's much easier on my own doing things my way.

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 2:08 pm

when i say that i am scared its just that he wrecks the house and i worry for my dogs they are my life i love my jj very much and i know he is only a dog but i really do owe him alot.i hope you all dont think that i am not all there.xxx

littlemissgiggle · Post by **littlemissgiggle** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 2:12 pm

neffy;652395 wrote: no that is my words i am not easy,i am very moody person and i like to be on my own as hubby loves to be with people.If i go to my freinds he will always make sure that he goes out to.

I realy dont want any of you thinking that he beats me.:-6

you got me worried there Neffy, as long as you are safe and as you said i am sure JJ would protect you. :-4

also everyone needs time on there own,

he sounds insecure and that he feels like he should be kept busy when you are not there. and that if you are having fun he should be too, which is not fair on you cos at a guess (you feel guilty) :-3

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 2:12 pm

We do not think that at all, neffy. We worry for you, that is all. If he wrecks the house, that is not a good thing at all.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 2:18 pm

minks;652355 wrote: tie my shoelace then will ya.

I was thinking more along the lines of

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 2:19 pm

No such thing as "only a dog," Neffers. :-4

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 3:12 pm

thanks red you are right there xxx

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Tue Jul 03, 2007 3:43 pm

Neff & your puppers :-4