Tell the truth, dare ya

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 7:07 am

Have you ever looked at anyone's art work, poem, story ect here & complimented them (said its good) out of politeness rather than being genuine? :sneaky:

pinkchick · Post by **pinkchick** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 7:15 am

God woman, you're on a roll today:-6 :wah:

To answer your question - not yet no;)

Peg · Post by **Peg** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 7:16 am

I can honestly say no I haven't. IF I compliment, it's genuine.

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 7:18 am

It will be interesting to see if anyone admits it tho right? :sneaky:

People do it all the time.

Peg · Post by **Peg** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 7:21 am

LOL If anyone does admit to it, I'll never believe a compliment from them. :wah:

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 7:30 am

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 7:31 am

Thank you Red, way to go :yh_clap

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 7:35 am

Well, if it were something that really warranted the truth, like "is my husband cheating on me?" for sure I would be honest. But to tell someone their haircut looks bad or to quelch their dream...no. It's just not right. (to me)

SlipStream · Post by **SlipStream** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 8:30 am

no I wouldn't do that.

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 8:37 am

yeah all the time i dont even bother reading it :sneaky:

i think i did once but on the whole if i dont like it i just dont post

littlemissgiggle · Post by **littlemissgiggle** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 8:37 am

no cos if i wasn't being genuine i wouldn't reply :guitarist

Lon · Post by **Lon** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 8:43 am

buttercup;650251 wrote: Have you ever looked at anyone's art work, poem, story ect here & complimented them (said its good) out of politeness rather than being genuine? :sneaky:

Sure, I do it all the time with grand children.

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 11:14 am

No Lon, i meant just here on the forum. I will edit & bold the word here

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 11:21 am

well to be honest i have always told the turth if i dont like anything i will say so.

please or affend is my motto :-3

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 12:08 pm

I hope not, I find it a damn shame some of my stories don't get more feedback as it is. I would love if someone told me they really didn't like what I had written. Especially if they meant it. I wouldn't change anything, but t least I would know. People think that folks who share their stories and poems or what ever; don't want feed back, if we didn't we wouldn't share the damn things. I post my stories on usually 5-6 forums, and pray I get at least one response from each place. I don't do this **** just for the hell of it. Most times the things i write about are fiction derived from some of the most trying times in my life. Sometimes it is fresh, and others it is from years past. I understand that folks don't always come to a place looking to read 5 thousand words excerpts from a novel in progress, and would rather talk about pensions, job hunting, penis size, and three eyed gold fish (I was not in any way singling out any one, or their posts), but in a forum called POETRY and WRITING I expect there to be such things found there, and if you make an effort to stop by, then by all means if you feel like making a comment then do so.

Absit invidia

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 12:14 pm

You get out the wrong side of the bed this morning KB? :-3

littlemissgiggle · Post by **littlemissgiggle** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 12:21 pm

KB.;650562 wrote: I hope not, I find it a damn shame some of my stories don't get more feedback as it is. I would love if someone told me they really didn't like what I had written. Especially if they meant it. I wouldn't change anything, but t least I would know. People think that folks who share their stories and poems or what ever; don't want feed back, if we didn't we wouldn't share the damn things. I post my stories on usually 5-6 forums, and pray I get at least one response from each place. I don't do this **** just for the hell of it. Most times the things i write about are fiction derived from some of the most trying times in my life. Sometimes it is fresh, and others it is from years past. I understand that folks don't always come to a place looking to read 5 thousand words excerpts from a novel in progress, and would rather talk about pensions, job hunting, penis size, and three eyed gold fish (I was not in any way singling out any one, or their posts), but in a forum called POETRY and WRITING I expect there to be such things found there, and if you make an effort to stop by, then by all means if you feel like making a comment then do so.

Absit invidia

Just going there to read them now so i will send my feed back shortly, :yh_glasse

Chookie · Post by **Chookie** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 12:22 pm

buttercup;650251 wrote: Have you ever looked at anyone's art work, poem, story ect here & complimented them (said its good) out of politeness rather than being genuine?

No. I will only comment if I think the item is good.

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 12:23 pm

Absolutely not, one side is against the wall; therefore there is only one side to get out of. Well I usually stand up and walk off the foot of the bed but that is because there is a desk on the side not against the wall. You asked; dared us rather to be honest. I was. Most writers, damn me for almost using a stereotype, hunger for feedback. they don't want you to change or correct; if they do they will ask for it specifically (thanks Almostwent and Chonsi), but the do want to know what you think. it doesn't have to be much. I look at some of the things Horatio said to me, and thank the muses above that he did so. I get my PMs which are nice and personal, but you have to water a seed to make it grow. When those comments are made in public it fosters the growth of more comments. Watch how the views on a subject grow as more and more replies are made. I spend as much time copy/pasting my stores as i do writing them sometimes, and then constantly click over to my email to see if anyone has said anything. I thank everyone who has taken the time to write a comment, small or epic, genuine or generic. Time is valuable; and when someone cashes some of it in to stop by and give some feedback I understand just how valuable it is. I am as guilty as anyone, I do not always give feedback myself so take all of this with a boulder sized grain of salt.

Absit invidia

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 12:24 pm

littlemissgiggle;650567 wrote: Just going there to read them now so i will send my feed back shortly, :yh_glasse

There is about 60k words; make some popcorn.

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 12:28 pm

KB.;650570 wrote: Absolutely not, one side is against the wall; therefore there is only one side to get out of. Well I usually stand up and walk off the foot of the bed but that is because there is a desk on the side not against the wall. You asked; dared us rather to be honest. I was. Most writers, damn me for almost using a stereotype, hunger for feedback. they don't want you to change or correct; if they do they will ask for it specifically (thanks Almostwent and Chonsi), but the do want to know what you think. it doesn't have to be much. I look at some of the things Horatio said to me, and thank the muses above that he did so. I get my PMs which are nice and personal, but you have to water a seed to make it grow. When those comments are made in public it fosters the growth of more comments. Watch how the views on a subject grow as more and more replies are made. I spend as much time copy/pasting my stores as i do writing them sometimes, and then constantly click over to my email to see if anyone has said anything. I thank everyone who has taken the time to write a comment, small or epic, genuine or generic. Time is valuable; and when someone cashes some of it in to stop by and give some feedback I understand just how valuable it is. I am as guilty as anyone, I do not always give feedback myself so take all of this with a boulder sized grain of salt.

Absit invidia

If i was aiming a thread at you, you'd know it, shameless way to get people to read your stories :rolleyes:

littlemissgiggle · Post by **littlemissgiggle** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 12:28 pm

KB.;650572 wrote: There is about 60k words; make some popcorn.

will do, just watching the legend that is Rod Stewart on t.v. then will turn it off and read them.

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 12:34 pm

littlemissgiggle;650582 wrote: will do, just watching the legend that is Rod Stewart on t.v. then will turn it off and read them.

Has he told you lately that he loves you?

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 12:34 pm

buttercup;650580 wrote: If i was aiming a thread at you, you'd know it, shameless way to get people to read your stories :rolleyes:

I'll do what ever it takes, but seriously this is a topic of importance to me. I was invited here by a friend to share stories, I want to share them.

littlemissgiggle · Post by **littlemissgiggle** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 12:38 pm

KB.;650588 wrote: Has he told you lately that he loves you?

no :-5

he is just singing - i am sailing :guitarist

grammak · Post by **grammak** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 2:59 pm

truth, like many things in life, is a relative concept...

babygirl · Post by **babygirl** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 3:36 pm

I can honestly say that i have never done that... i only give compliments if i mean them.

DelicateDominatrix · Post by **DelicateDominatrix** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 4:21 pm

I'm always honest.No matter what.Im kind but honest.I feel lieing to them does them no good.Just my opinion.

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 4:26 pm

magenta flame;650873 wrote: I learnt a long long time ago that you never ever ever use the words good or bad about anyones art work . Should always use desriptions like "oh I love the colours you've used" "i've never seen a sunset done quite that way , it's very Avant Guarde"

Finesse.

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WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Sun Jul 01, 2007 6:49 pm

I am like Pinky on this one, I am honest about commenting...if I don't compliment or comment, because ummm I didn't read it, or it didn't interest me, but I believe in the old saying "if you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all"...

For those who know me I usually give compliments, but I am sincere and I really mean when I give praise...

Example: Jimbo's head is nice and shiney!!:p

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Mon Jul 02, 2007 2:18 am

magenta flame;650873 wrote: I learnt a long long time ago that you never ever ever use the words good or bad about anyones art work . Should always use desriptions like "oh I love the colours you've used" "i've never seen a sunset done quite that way , it's very Avant Guarde"

Good post Majenta, a bit :sneaky: but good