importance of looks

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 1:45 am

i totally admit to being a non to good looking guy ,does it bother me ???not at all ,i can go up chat to the most beautiful of women safe in the knowledge that she wont think i'm coming on to her as she is outa my league so to speak ,thats how a met suzy by the way ,and if your lucky enough to be good looking so what ,its not like you had anything to do with it is it ,it just down to tad poles and eggs really ,

any way if you are good looking in life how does that help you ?? all it means is other self obsessed vain proboscis in rectum dim wits will fancy you so what

i hope the good looking couples out there are fighting to get in the bathroom first to preen and pluck ,the couples then have to fight over the latest line reducing face creams ....coz their worth it :rolleyes:

and when they make love they are so obsessed they probably call out their own names as they reach the big O fantasizing about themselves ,how good they look making love and about how lucky their partner is being able to make love to them:D

but looks dont last for ever ,and what if you get bored looking at your perfect looking partner ,what else would you have to fall back on ??

my brother used to look like sting he used to go every where in speedo's i actually heard him say to a woman "thats enough talking about me lets talk about you .... what do you think about me "honest

ok i've lost myself and i have no idea why i started the thread

but on the whole do you think we put too much importance on looks

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 2:10 am

jimbo;643152 wrote:

ok i've lost myself and i have no idea why i started the thread

I know, your jealous of Soberano's good looks :sneaky:

:wah:

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 2:14 am

Yes, I do think we place too much on looks.

Looks fade - personality grows.

An initial attraction based on looks is what hooks us in the first place but if there is nothing else beyond that then looks count for nothing.

I think as you get older you realise that there is more to having a successful relationship than just fancying someone - you need to find them attractive but it can be someone's sense of humour or their mind that keeps you with them.

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 2:23 am

I find it quite irritating when a photo of a group of beautiful women is shown & everyone jumps on the bandwagon of 'they have no brains' Just because your beautiful to look at does not mean to say your thick.

I myself would not turn heads but i do know what to do to make the best of what i have, i create the illusion of beauty with aids, make up ect, this is mostly to please myself, i like to look good. 2nd is to please my partner, he likes me to look good (benefits me too :sneaky: ) & 3rd for my work, you do not want to go to the hairdresser/beautician & find she looks s h i t do you?

Ybird · Post by **Ybird** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 2:28 am

Imladris;643155 wrote: Yes, I do think we place too much on looks.

Looks fade - personality grows.

An initial attraction based on looks is what hooks us in the first place but if there is nothing else beyond that then looks count for nothing.

I think as you get older you realise that there is more to having a successful relationship than just fancying someone - you need to find them attractive but it can be someone's sense of humour or their mind that keeps you with them.

I totally agree with this. Someone may be drop dead gorgeous to look at initially but as you get to know them, they may have an awful personality which can then make them very unattractive. Vice versa - someone you may initially not be attracted to looks wise can become more attractive the more you get to know them.

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 2:38 am

Just so you know - I'm completely gorgeous, look like Angelina Jolie, with the brains of Einstein and the wit of Oscar Wilde. It's amazing how much talent can be put in one person:D

Yeah OK, I've been told I look like Rose West!!!!! Can be thick as two short planks sometimes and have the wit of a Teletubby (and the figure) but at least my husband loves me................................I think.........:-3

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 3:04 am

buttercup;643157 wrote: I find it quite irritating when a photo of a group of beautiful women is shown & everyone jumps on the bandwagon of 'they have no brains' Just because your beautiful to look at does not mean to say your thick.

I myself would not turn heads but i do know what to do to make the best of what i have, i create the illusion of beauty with aids, make up ect, this is mostly to please myself, i like to look good. 2nd is to please my partner, he likes me to look good (benefits me too :sneaky: ) & 3rd for my work, you do not want to go to the hairdresser/beautician & find she looks s h i t do you?

maybe not but you do turn stomaches :wah: :wah:

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 3:06 am

Soberano;643161 wrote: Why did you pick this moment to start this thread Jimbo.:wah:

been thinking of it for a while buddy ,but to be honest i just wanted to p1zz on your fireworks :wah: :wah:

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 3:24 am

Soberano;643172 wrote: Still a tosser as ever.

any thing for a laugh buddy :wah:

bc you know i'm joking right :wah: ,i have no idea what you look like honest:D

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 3:27 am

A bit like you Jim but with hair

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 3:32 am

buttercup;643176 wrote: A bit like you Jim but with hair

well hello sexy :sneaky: :sneaky:

:D

Elvira · Post by **Elvira** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 6:03 am

I guess it depends on what you consider good looking.

There is actually a science behind what the majority of people find attractive. It's all about face measurements and there is a certain amount of narcicism involved. You may find that some people will find others attractive, when it's simply a case of recognising similar features.

I've astounded my close girlfriends with some of the men I've had realationships with, but it's always been about what's behind the eyes, rather than what's around them. I tend to go for muso's, artists, theologists or scientsits... basicallly people with strong beliefs and a talent/ passion.

I don't attach myself to the 'general public' as I don't buy any of the glossy magazines, or follow 'celebrity' so I can't really comment on who places too much import on looks.

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 6:06 am

I think every one is beautiful to someone; but when I use the word I mean more than just looks. Do we place too much importance on looks, well yeah, look at all the women in the world (and men) starving themselves, or paying huge sums of money to fill in wrinkles, or to fill out other places. The main thing is having a little confidence; there is nothing worse than a person who is good looking and flaunts it except for someone who is good looking and thinks they are ugly.

beautyful · Post by **beautyful** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 6:10 am

Everything is judged on looks these days in my opinion, when you go for a job you can't deny that the people interviewing you make a first judgement based on how you look before you have the chance to open your mouth!

everyday we are faced with pictures of what we are supposed to look like in the form of skinny celebrities bathed in fake tan with implants god knows where :wah:

I second the argument that everyone is beautiful to someone, what is important is what is inside, you can be the most gorgeous woman in the world on the outside but be truly ugly on the inside, end of rant :wah:

SlipStream · Post by **SlipStream** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 6:17 am

in cyber space everyones a brain.

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 6:19 am

SlipStream;643240 wrote: in cyber space everyones a brain.

Too bad some of them are dead. <------- wasn't directed at you

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 6:23 am

beautyful;643238 wrote: Everything is judged on looks these days in my opinion, when you go for a job you can't deny that the people interviewing you make a first judgement based on how you look before you have the chance to open your mouth!

everyday we are faced with pictures of what we are supposed to look like in the form of skinny celebrities bathed in fake tan with implants god knows where

I second the argument that everyone is beautiful to someone, what is important is what is inside, you can be the most gorgeous woman in the world on the outside but be truly ugly on the inside, end of rant

:yh_clap :yh_clap ^^^ what she said!

I agree 100%!!

I have spent my whole adult life thinking I'm ugly/average...and have finally in the last year or two come into myself and realized...ummm it's okay, because there is more to me than my appearance...and I'm not what I've been told I am by someone for 15 years. Yes, I know I'm going into a different level with this...sorry to throw the thread. I guess I'm saying that a lot of people perceive themselves and their apperances differently than others see them...I find people that aren't knock down drag out attractive absolutely beautiful...because of WHO they are, not what they look like!

For Instance: Jimbo is beautiful!!:)

<----and this is his twin!!

Elvira · Post by **Elvira** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 6:26 am

beautyful;643238 wrote: when you go for a job you can't deny that the people interviewing you make a first judgement based on how you look before you have the chance to open your mouth!

Got to disagree with this. I'm a Resourcing Specialist for CEE and W Europe for a global company and so spend a large part of my day interviewing.

Appearances can be decieving, which is why I interview to a competeny based interview proforma. It leaves absolutely NO room for subjectivity, and all decisions are made on someone's ability to do the job, rather than what they look like. These are client facing roles, however all our clients know that the most important thing in our industry is someone's scientific knowledge or medical specialism rather than what kind of suit they wear.

In fact there is only one chap that I know of in the whole company that looks really slick, and he says 'ciao' all the time. He's not italian!

SlipStream · Post by **SlipStream** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 6:27 am

KB.;643243 wrote: Too bad some of them are dead.

:wah:

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 6:56 am

I'm sure it does matter to a point how you look.

That said the rest is still in the personality. If the personality/intelligence/kindness comes through then I'm hooked and that person starts looking even more attractive to me because their warmth comes through.

There's that song I asked KB to write a story from. The lyric is "Beauty is beauty in spite of perfection." I believe this.

observer1 · Post by **observer1** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 7:14 am

Honestly, I get hit on quite a bit. Even been told I look like Heather Locklear & most recently, Shannon Tweed. But I've been single for 16 years. What does that have to say?

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 7:23 am

observer1;643274 wrote: Honestly, I get hit on quite a bit. Even been told I look like Heather Locklear & most recently, Shannon Tweed. But I've been single for 16 years. What does that have to say?

that your presence is needed over -----------------------> in the world's largest penis thread. 16 years, wow, whats the deal? You obviously go out since you just posted about being hungover after having Martini's with friends, in all those years no one ever struck your fancy enough for you to make a move? Why not?

observer1 · Post by **observer1** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 7:26 am

KB.;643283 wrote: that your presence is needed over -----------------------> in the world's largest penis thread. 16 years, wow, whats the deal? You obviously go out since you just posted about being hungover after having Martini's with friends, in all those years no one ever struck your fancy enough for you to make a move? Why not?

I've had 2 serious relationships in that time. Neither one worked out. I've dated quite a bit. Now, I'm just too comfortable being single. But I honestly get hit on quite often by younger men. One's even 21 to my 42! His MOTHER'S younger than me!! LOL!! Yes, I do go out pretty often. I get bored sitting home alone. But I hadn't been out all week. And I don't get hungover very often. I'm paying for last night though!! The 21 y o bought me a shot of SOMETHING! Not sure what it was! :rolleyes:

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 7:30 am

Well, if you have had two serious relationships in that time, you haven't been single for 16 years, You may not have been married, but you haven't been single. That is a little different. You sound like someone I know, careful with the whole 'I am comfortable being by myself" thing, its nice to have someone tell you good morning as soon as you wake up, every once in awhile.

observer1 · Post by **observer1** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 7:32 am

KB.;643288 wrote: Well, if you have had two serious relationships in that time, you haven't been single for 16 years, You may not have been married, but you haven't been single. That is a little different. You sound like someone I know, careful with the whole 'I am comfortable being by myself" thing, its nice to have someone tell you good morning as soon as you wake up, every once in awhile.

Who said nobody does?

koan · Post by **koan** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 7:34 am

You can get by in the film industry without being good looking but you have to work much much harder and be at least twice as good at your job.

I'd much rather have people know that I'm good at what I do than think I'm good looking.

I've also never approved of modeling or the fashion industry in general. I was/am goth. Even on my most conservative days I'm told I still don't look "normal" and I've never wanted to. People remember me but not because I'm stunning. They remember my hats, my pierced nose, my laugh, a joke I cracked... lots of stuff that creates an overall impression.

I've been with guys who wanted to dress me up and show me off like a trophy and others who wanted to keep me miserable in the house feeling like a dog so that I'd be chained to them emotionally. I've made ugly people look beautiful, beautiful people look ugly... I guess what it comes down to is that you decide who you want to spend time with, what industry you want to work in and how you want to present yourself.

I do like when people take care of themselves and put effort into how they dress but that's not because I prefer them to look "attractive" it's just an indication of self respect - which is important.

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 7:38 am

observer1;643289 wrote: Who said nobody does?

I guess our definitions of "single" differ is all.

observer1 · Post by **observer1** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 7:42 am

KB.;643293 wrote: I guess our definitions of "single" differ is all.

I'm single... just have the "situation" going on. I posted about it in another thread. I'm not in a commited relationship right now. But I'm also not promiscuous. Too dangerous.

observer1 · Post by **observer1** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 8:29 am

I will say that people say that when you have looks, you have a lot of advantages that people who aren't as "good-looking" don't have. I believe that, but don't. I think others use their brains to get what they want. Not that good-looking people don't have brains...

GEEZ!! I'm gonna quit here! My brain's not working with this hangover!!

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 8:36 am

I was just thinking - when I was young, slim and reasonably attractive to the opposite sex I thought I was 'the fat friend', dressed badly and had no confidence with men. Now I'm older, fatter and plainer I think I dress better and have much more confidence - flirt for England with a drink inside of me!!

I think that comes from life experience and the acceptance that from now on it's all downhill so best make the most of what I've got:wah:

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 8:42 am

You don't have to be perfect to be beautiful, I love the lyrics to that song RG. My last two loves could not have been any more different from one another. One was 5'10", blonde, blue eyed, skinny, and all legs. The other was maybe 5'3", thick, fun sized, black hair, brown eyes, nothing but legs would not apply. They were and are still the two most beautiful women I have ever known, and I have known plenty. It had nothing to do with how they look to me. It has to do with they way they look at me.

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 8:47 am

KB.;643340 wrote: You don't have to be perfect to be beautiful, I love the lyrics to that song RG. My last two loves could not have been any more different from one another. One was 5'10", blonde, blue eyed, skinny, and all legs. The other was maybe 5'3", thick, fun sized, black hair, brown eyes, nothing but legs would not apply. They were and are still the two most beautiful women I have ever known, and I have known plenty. It had nothing to do with how they look to me. It has to do with they way they look at me.

That's just lovely. And true.

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 8:49 am

KB.;643340 wrote: You don't have to be perfect to be beautiful, I love the lyrics to that song RG. My last two loves could not have been any more different from one another. One was 5'10", blonde, blue eyed, skinny, and all legs. The other was maybe 5'3", thick, fun sized, black hair, brown eyes, nothing but legs would not apply. They were and are still the two most beautiful women I have ever known, and I have known plenty. It had nothing to do with how they look to me. It has to do with they way they look at me.
I like that Fun sized.:wah:

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 11:20 am

Pinky;643488 wrote: You're right, there has to be an attraction. sometimes people just have that certain, indescribable something that makes them attractive.
Yes they do PINKY

SuzyB · Post by **SuzyB** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 11:27 am

When I was 16, I was in an industry where everything was placed on looks, I became a total un confident wreck. I look back at pictures and think what a fool to be so worried about nothing. Fast forward 17 years weight gain, breast reduction, few crows feet appearing yet I am far more confident in myself.

I have never been the type of person to love myself, but when I look in the mirror I like the person staring back at me, but that isn't only about the way I look, I know that I'm a good person inside.

As I've said before here, some of the most beautiful people can be the ugliest.

By the way Jim, you are not an ugly bug at all, I think you are an incredibly good looking guy.:-4

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 11:27 am

Soberano;643501 wrote: Looks are not that important, take my missus, face like a bulldog chewing a wasp, but she is quite cute.

They only need to be good lookin enough to get you er um up.

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 12:24 pm

Pinky;643488 wrote: You're right, there has to be an attraction. sometimes people just have that certain, indescribable something that makes them attractive.

your a woman you mean money dont ya :wah: :wah:

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 12:34 pm

Pinky;643557 wrote: Technically, I guess money should attract me seeing as I don't have any, but it's never bothered me. I'm a bit of a hippy at heart and would be just as happy in a caravan with someone i care about as in a palace.

pinky , i really believe you would :-6 :-6

and he would be a very lucky guy :-6 :-6

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 12:44 pm

Soberano;643570 wrote: I'm looking at buying a caravan in North Devon, fancy being a mistress.

buddy i'm no spelling boff but i think you have spelled matress wrong