Real Life Friends

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Mon May 21, 2007 4:45 pm

I noticed alot of people call non-forum friends 'Real Life' friends (I just used the term myself in another thread). Does this mean that our friendships here are not real life? :-1 :-1

xalisonx · Post by **xalisonx** » Mon May 21, 2007 4:49 pm

no i dont see it like that at all, i think people on here are too my real friends, as they listern, give advice and make you smile etc

Though i think that phrase is loosely used as everybody knows what you mean.

if you know what i mean? lol

xx

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Mon May 21, 2007 4:52 pm

xalisonx;618564 wrote: no i dont see it like that at all, i think people on here are too my real friends, as they listern, give advice and make you smile etc

Though i think that phrase is loosely used as everybody knows what you mean.

if you know what i mean? lol

xx

I'm glad you like it here - everyone here is awesome.

Pheasy :-4

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Mon May 21, 2007 4:53 pm

Pinky;618563 wrote: I don't think so, I've formed some really close bonds with people from forums and when I've met them, they've always been exactly as I thought they'd be! I guess the term just makes it easier to distinguish between the two.

:-4 Yeah I know Pinks - the friendships here are so so strong and sincere. It would be nice if we could come up with a different term.

Any ideas.....:-4 :-4

guppy · Post by **guppy** » Mon May 21, 2007 4:54 pm

how about nonforum friends.....

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Mon May 21, 2007 4:59 pm

Hi Guppy, seems like its been a while since we chatted - how are you? :-6

I like nonforum friends (NF friends) - sounds much nicer than Real Life friends :-4

guppy · Post by **guppy** » Mon May 21, 2007 5:01 pm

hi pheasy....doing really good....one of my minnows graduated highschool. friday night..school is out here now......its summertime:-6 how are you my fine feathered friend....:p

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Mon May 21, 2007 5:07 pm

guppy;618577 wrote: hi pheasy....doing really good....one of my minnows graduated highschool. friday night..school is out here now......its summertime:-6 how are you my fine feathered friend....:p

I'm Good! My chicks don't finish for another 3 weeks - then the feathers might fly :-4 :-4

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Mon May 21, 2007 5:24 pm

You've made a good point my fine feathered Real Friend!!

I never thought of it...actually...I consider people on FG my sweet, true and very real friends...my brother thinks I'm wackko...because I trust people in the cyber world....but I do...it's strange how you can judge characters by the way they communicate over the internet...but ya do!!--At least I do!!

I look forward to seeing my friends here at the garden every day!!:-6

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Mon May 21, 2007 5:31 pm

I love it here. It is my first experience of true friendship across hundreds and thousands of miles. People are so genuine - you can share anything, no one is ever judging only ever caring and advicing. :-4 :-4

Also, when I'm having my wacky pheasy moments (which I admit are fairly regular) - I can't see your eyes rolling and you saying to yourself - OMG there she goes again. :wah:

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Tue May 22, 2007 2:02 am

I consider my friends here to be 'real life' friends too.

The thing that amazes me is that I have become friends with people that I had no chance at all of meeting in any other way, people from completely different backgrounds/lifestyles.

since I've been here I've spoken to people all over the world, from different religions, different races etc and it's just wonderful.

Some of my prejudices and fears have been shot to peices too and that can only be a good thing.

Who would have thought that one day I would be sat in a house with people who were strangers to me a few months before, having my tarot cards read by a Canadian, whilst a witch and a mad Scotswoman were cackling away at the other end of the room!! And it was brilliant!!

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Tue May 22, 2007 8:01 am

i see you all has my friends,i feel that i can say anything to any of you and always get honest answers.I would sure miss this site if it was not here.I chat abot you all as you are only just living down the road.

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Tue May 22, 2007 8:03 am

neffy;618940 wrote: i see you all has my friends,i feel that i can say anything to any of you and always get honest answers.I would sure miss this site if it was not here.I chat abot you all as you are only just living down the road.

But you are!!!!

(I'm in Devon)

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Tue May 22, 2007 8:12 am

Imladris;618943 wrote:

But you are!!!!

(I'm in Devon)
how cool is that :-4

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Tue May 22, 2007 8:12 am

neffy;618940 wrote: i see you all has my friends,i feel that i can say anything to any of you and always get honest answers.I would sure miss this site if it was not here.I chat abot you all as you are only just living down the road.

I think most of us feel that way........:-4

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Tue May 22, 2007 8:15 am

yeah i know and what a lovely feeling it is:-6 :-6 :-6

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Tue May 22, 2007 8:21 am

I think we're all getting a bit warm and fuzzy here.

Group hug anyone???

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Tue May 22, 2007 8:23 am

Imladris;618967 wrote: I think we're all getting a bit warm and fuzzy here.

Group hug anyone???

woohoo!

pinkchick · Post by **pinkchick** » Tue May 22, 2007 8:48 am

I don't consider my FG friends to be any different from my RL friends. Friends are friends no matter how you've met. (Does that make sense?)

You all know that I've only been here for about a month but I really must say that you've all made me feel so, so welcome.

The garden is the only place I know I can come and say anything and I know no-one will judge me or laugh at me for feeling a certain way. The love and kindness that people here have for each other just blows me away.

I consider you all some of the nicest people that I've not yet met (in person)

Thank you all so much for letting me just be me:) :-4 :-4

xalisonx · Post by **xalisonx** » Tue May 22, 2007 8:57 am

Yeh i have only just joined, and i have been made to feel welcome, and part of the forum.

Its a great site

xx

suilunguk · Post by **suilunguk** » Tue May 22, 2007 9:01 am

I love coming on here. Because i can say what is on my mind or have an opinion and i am not berated or judged. To me that IS a friend. Sometimes it is better than talking to real friends. I havent been on here long, but coming on here and reading your posts and talking with you all is something i really look forward to day to day.

Take care.

Clairexx

beautyful · Post by **beautyful** » Tue May 22, 2007 9:05 am

I have to agree with what has been said, i joined a couple of years ago but had a break in the middle and have only just come back to the garden recently but i always feel welcome and look forward to reading your thoughts :-4 :-4

SlipStream · Post by **SlipStream** » Tue May 22, 2007 9:13 am

ThePheasant;618562 wrote: I noticed alot of people call non-forum friends 'Real Life' friends (I just used the term myself in another thread). Does this mean that our friendships here are not real life? :-1 :-1

since joining a couple of forums I've made some good cyber pals.

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Tue May 22, 2007 9:21 am

pinkchick;618991 wrote: I don't consider my FG friends to be any different from my RL friends. Friends are friends no matter how you've met. (Does that make sense?)

You all know that I've only been here for about a month but I really must say that you've all made me feel so, so welcome.

The garden is the only place I know I can come and say anything and I know no-one will judge me or laugh at me for feeling a certain way. The love and kindness that people here have for each other just blows me away.

I consider you all some of the nicest people that I've not yet met (in person)

Thank you all so much for letting me just be me

Awww, we wouldn't have it any other way:-4 :-4

Glad you are here, along with everyone else ...it takes happy/nice people to make the garden a great place to come to, and imo it's full of them nowadays!!:-4

Okay...back to being goofy, can only be fluffy for so long....

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Tue May 22, 2007 1:43 pm

Kathy Ellen;619185 wrote: Hello Imladris,

I agree with you 100%. I love and value the people that I've met in the FG. I think people who use the internet try to distinguish between their "real life" friends that they met personally as opposed to friends that they chat with and have not met in person. Many time people use the initials "rl" real life friends.

I try to be careful about not giving out too much info, because you never know who is watching, but I'm so honest at times, I forget and write some very personal info. Oh well.

I have given my address to people that I trust. I've never met them, but do trust them and their character. I bet if I asked them to travel to New Jersey to help me, they would. I know that I would help others here with whatever they needed.

:-4 Kathy - I'm not far from you, you know you can call me if you ever need help with anything :-4

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Tue May 22, 2007 1:44 pm

Kathy Ellen;619185 wrote: Hello Imladris,

I agree with you 100%. I love and value the people that I've met in the FG. I think people who use the internet try to distinguish between their "real life" friends that they met personally as opposed to friends that they chat with and have not met in person. Many time people use the initials "rl" real life friends.

I try to be careful about not giving out too much info, because you never know who is watching, but I'm so honest at times, I forget and write some very personal info. Oh well.

I have given my address to people that I trust. I've never met them, but do trust them and their character. I bet if I asked them to travel to New Jersey to help me, they would. I know that I would help others here with whatever they needed.

:-4 :-4 Yep, I'd drive to New Jersey if you needed me to!!:-6

SuzyB · Post by **SuzyB** » Tue May 22, 2007 2:19 pm

I am probably the culprit for you posting this thread, I am the worlds worst for referring to RL this and that. For me it's just an term used for non cyber friends.

:-4

weinbeck · Post by **weinbeck** » Tue May 22, 2007 2:28 pm

SuzyB;619236 wrote: I am probably the culprit for you posting this thread, I am the worlds worst for referring to RL this and that. For me it's just an term used for non cyber friends.

:-4

How many of you have actually eyeballed one another, and how did it go? Did you find them as they described themselves, or were they guilding the lily? I used to have penfriends all over the world, so I guess a forum is a natural follow-up. I personally have never made myself out to be something I'm not.

SuzyB · Post by **SuzyB** » Tue May 22, 2007 2:32 pm

weinbeck;619254 wrote: How many of you have actually eyeballed one another, and how did it go? Did you find them as they described themselves, or were they guilding the lily? I used to have penfriends all over the world, so I guess a forum is a natural follow-up. I personally have never made myself out to be something I'm not.

Actually I found everyone just as I expected, kind of like going to a reunion, having history all be it just on line, but people here know more about me, than some really good friends. I have and never would lie, what you see is what you get, and I am glad to say the people I have meet are exactly the same. :-4

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Tue May 22, 2007 2:33 pm

weinbeck;619254 wrote: How many of you have actually eyeballed one another, and how did it go? Did you find them as they described themselves, or were they guilding the lily? I used to have penfriends all over the world, so I guess a forum is a natural follow-up. I personally have never made myself out to be something I'm not.

Nor me - by the way thought I'd post a recent piccy of myself

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Tue May 22, 2007 2:50 pm

WonderWendy3;619202 wrote: :-4 :-4 Yep, I'd drive to New Jersey if you needed me to!!:-6

thats nothing kathy i'd swim there

weinbeck · Post by **weinbeck** » Tue May 22, 2007 3:01 pm

SuzyB;619257 wrote: Actually I found everyone just as I expected, kind of like going to a reunion, having history all be it just on line, but people here know more about me, than some really good friends. I have and never would lie, what you see is what you get, and I am glad to say the people I have meet are exactly the same. :-4

You wouldn't think much of what you'd get with me, then! I've got just about the same amount of hair as a latter day Sean Connery, four eyes (glasses) hearing aids to match and seven tablets a day to keep me alive - diabetes, so I'm no catch, and yet despite all this, I've been happily married for nearly thirty years and managed to increase the population of the earth by one.

xalisonx · Post by **xalisonx** » Tue May 22, 2007 4:11 pm

I cant believe I missed the meet in Birmingham! Its not far from me at all!

xx