Changed/not

Indian Princess · Post by **Indian Princess** » Wed May 09, 2007 9:00 am

My ex has wanted to get back together for 7 years, literally calling me even when I had a long term relationship with someone else for 6 and a 1/2 years, yes I can see some changes, but, I dont have a good feeling, and my son is really pushing for this.

crazygal · Post by **crazygal** » Wed May 09, 2007 9:03 am

Very similar situation to me. Was with my sons dad for 7 years, met up a few days ago and would love to be back with him but not sure Ryan would so not the same, similar though. We split when Ryan was a baby. How about we swap and try out each others exs and see how we go? :wah:

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Wed May 09, 2007 9:12 am

crazygal;609556 wrote: Very similar situation to me. Was with my sons dad for 7 years, met up a few days ago and would love to be back with him but not sure Ryan would so not the same, similar though. We split when Ryan was a baby. How about we swap and try out each others exs and see how we go? :wah:

sounds flicking strange to me

how can you give it a go with your sons dads ex????? :-3 :-3

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Wed May 09, 2007 9:15 am

Its nice to be on friendly terms - open communication

I don't believe going back with a EX will work out... You split for a reason.

Patsy

crazygal · Post by **crazygal** » Wed May 09, 2007 9:45 am

jimbo;609569 wrote: sounds flicking strange to me

how can you give it a go with your sons dads ex????? :-3

Eh who said that?

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Wed May 09, 2007 9:54 am

Indian Princess;609554 wrote: My ex has wanted to get back together for 7 years, literally calling me even when I had a long term relationship with someone else for 6 and a 1/2 years, yes I can see some changes, but, I dont have a good feeling, and my son is really pushing for this.

I'd trust my feelings...................:-6

crazygal · Post by **crazygal** » Wed May 09, 2007 9:57 am

I guess it partly depends also on the reason you split. We split because of distance mainly, that's why Tony left, he moved back to London with me, I met him down the coast when I was at college. He hated London and I don't blame him. If I were to move back to where he is it wouldn't be an issue. I would love to live back there but for the kids. Wouldn't be fair to take them from my parents and siblings. We are all so close.

minks · Post by **minks** » Wed May 09, 2007 9:59 am

what is it with these ex's wanting their old mates back.

Mine has been playing that tune as well and it's only been 4 years but thanks but NO. I do not "do backwards" The guy ruined his daughters lives, and he bawls the blues to me about how he pines for me, and misses his girls.... HAH Um that is a firm NOT A CHANCE IN HADES. and what would his new wifey think if I accidentally leaked these emails to her ahahahaha hohohoho ... wait that would be fun.

:sneaky: Meh I could be bothered.

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Wed May 09, 2007 10:00 am

crazygal;609556 wrote: Very similar situation to me. Was with my sons dad for 7 years, met up a few days ago and would love to be back with him but not sure Ryan would so not the same, similar though. We split when Ryan was a baby. How about we swap and try out each others exs and see how we go? :wah:

crazygal · Post by **crazygal** » Wed May 09, 2007 10:03 am

jimbo;609613 wrote:

It was a joke, note the :wah: at the end. :rolleyes:

minks · Post by **minks** » Wed May 09, 2007 10:05 am

Hah Gal I would not wish my ex on anybody ahahaha

flosspot · Post by **flosspot** » Wed May 09, 2007 10:05 am

maybe ...is it fair to assume that men in general always want what they can't have. did these guys want you when you where with them? no! but as soon as you have moved on and aren't theirs anymore you suddenly become more desirable! weird...

I'd say go with your gut and pass!:)

minks · Post by **minks** » Wed May 09, 2007 10:08 am

flosspot;609623 wrote: maybe ...is it fair to assume that men in general always want what they can't have. did these guys want you when you where with them? no! but as soon as you have moved on and aren't theirs anymore you suddenly become more desirable! weird...

I'd say go with your gut and pass!:)

Funny that Floss I wondered the same (welcome to FG by the way)

crazygal · Post by **crazygal** » Wed May 09, 2007 10:09 am

minks;609622 wrote: Hah Gal I would not wish my ex on anybody ahahaha

I'd only wish mine on me. Damn he looked good when I saw him, really seems a different person too, grown up at last maybe!

flosspot · Post by **flosspot** » Wed May 09, 2007 10:10 am

thanks minx.

i've been told that youre lovely by my flat mate pink chick!!

:)

minks · Post by **minks** » Wed May 09, 2007 10:10 am

crazygal;609631 wrote: I'd only wish mine on me. Damn he looked good when I saw him, really seems a different person too, grown up at last maybe!

Aww then you are in a good situation.

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Wed May 09, 2007 10:12 am

crazygal;609620 wrote: It was a joke, note the :wah: at the end. :rolleyes:

yeah i know

annoying aint i :wah:

Peg · Post by **Peg** » Wed May 09, 2007 10:32 am

He is your EX for a reason. Burn you once, shame on him; burn you twice, shame on you.

minks · Post by **minks** » Wed May 09, 2007 10:33 am

flosspot;609633 wrote: thanks minx.

i've been told that youre lovely by my flat mate pink chick!!

:)

Oh how sweet

:o

minks · Post by **minks** » Wed May 09, 2007 10:33 am

Peg;609663 wrote: He is your EX for a reason. Burn you once, shame on him; burn you twice, shame on you.

Hear Hear!!!!!

flosspot · Post by **flosspot** » Wed May 09, 2007 10:43 am

i think the only time to take your ex back is when he looks like this!!:D

Attached files

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Wed May 09, 2007 10:57 am

Looks like that - with alot of money

Patsy

minks · Post by **minks** » Wed May 09, 2007 10:57 am

flosspot;609677 wrote: i think the only time to take your ex back is when he looks like this!!:D

yes may I have one too? Yummy

crazygal · Post by **crazygal** » Wed May 09, 2007 11:58 am

flosspot;609677 wrote: i think the only time to take your ex back is when he looks like this!!:D

Ooh no, ears like a bat. lol

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Fri May 11, 2007 4:27 am

Patsy Warnick;609573 wrote: Its nice to be on friendly terms - open communication

I don't believe going back with a EX will work out... You split for a reason.

Patsy
i agree with you on this one,i dont think you can ever go backwards you must always look forward

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Fri May 11, 2007 4:36 am

I have heard of people getting back together and it has worked. It also depends on why you split in the first place. Also, do you love him? If you are only considering for your sons sake....it could lead to more misery. If it doesn't work out it could cause you son more heartache in the long run.

I guess its down to trusting the changes you see. Also, the real bigy - do you love him?

Pheasy :-4

Bill Sikes · Post by **Bill Sikes** » Fri May 11, 2007 5:48 am

flosspot;609623 wrote: maybe ...is it fair to assume that men in general always want what they can't have.)

No.

Bill Sikes · Post by **Bill Sikes** » Fri May 11, 2007 5:50 am

minks;609610 wrote: what is it with these ex's wanting their old mates back.

I don't know. I suppose it depends on many circumstances.

Me? I would not take Mrs. Sikes back were I the last man on earth!

crazygal · Post by **crazygal** » Fri May 11, 2007 2:30 pm

Well I am seeing the ex tonight, I can't wait.

laneybug · Post by **laneybug** » Fri May 11, 2007 6:24 pm

Indian Princess;609554 wrote: My ex has wanted to get back together for 7 years, literally calling me even when I had a long term relationship with someone else for 6 and a 1/2 years, yes I can see some changes, but, I dont have a good feeling, and my son is really pushing for this.

Don't do it. The fact that he called even while you were in another relationship shows very clearly that he doesn't respect your personal boundaries or your happiness with another person. That would be reason enough for me not to date him again. People can certainly change and people do get back together and try again and succeed. But if you don't have a good feeling about it before you're even together again that should say something to you. Whether he's changed or not isn't really the question. It's whether you think it's a good idea or you'd be happy. And remember, it's your choice, not your son's, so don't be a pushover if you don't want to be with your ex again.