Members we miss....

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Thu Mar 29, 2007 2:12 pm

theia;584751 wrote: Minks, Betty and I were talking about the May meet, only this morning. In some ways it seems like ages ago, and yet it was less than a year. It's one of those good memories that we'll always have...:-6

Hello you guys.....I do lurk a bit most days, but I've got my flat now so any spare time i'm round there decorating. My son is putting a new bathroom in for me...13th April new carpet in the bedroom and 23 and 24th double glazing goes in. I have to be out of here (the rented pace) by the 29th.....and I have to go to work and earn a living.....I'm knackered.........:-1

I often thnk about our UK meet up last year....what a weekend....what memories.

People I miss ???

Well I miss almost everyone that used to be here to be honest...

minks · Post by **minks** » Thu Mar 29, 2007 2:18 pm

Bez;584845 wrote: Hello you guys.....I do lurk a bit most days, but I've got my flat now so any spare time i'm round there decorating. My son is putting a new bathroom in for me...13th April new carpet in the bedroom and 23 and 24th double glazing goes in. I have to be out of here (the rented pace) by the 29th.....and I have to go to work and earn a living.....I'm knackered.........:-1

I often thnk about our UK meet up last year....what a weekend....what memories.

People I miss ???

Well I miss almost everyone that used to be here to be honest...

Aw hun nice to hear from you again too

Huggs

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Thu Mar 29, 2007 2:21 pm

flopstock;584585 wrote: I miss

Capt Buzzard

Philidelphia Eagle..is that right?

Arnold - tons

Tmsgirl

Remember Randall...I often wonder how he is.

Lon ?

minks · Post by **minks** » Thu Mar 29, 2007 2:27 pm

Bez;584847 wrote: Remember Randall...I often wonder how he is.

Lon ?

Lon has been about a bit lately

Tater Tazz · Post by **Tater Tazz** » Thu Mar 29, 2007 2:29 pm

WonderWendy3;584700 wrote: thought that was April 1st

So, April 1st is national Jimbo day? What do we do that day?

minks · Post by **minks** » Thu Mar 29, 2007 2:35 pm

Tater Tazz;584855 wrote: So, April 1st is national Jimbo day? What do we do that day?

nobody sign into FG and see if he notices or just keeps talking to his self :wah:

omniskittles · Post by **omniskittles** » Thu Mar 29, 2007 2:58 pm

minks;584864 wrote: nobody sign into FG and see if he notices or just keeps talking to his self :wah:
Thats mean!!! lol

Post by **spot** » Thu Mar 29, 2007 3:55 pm

Bez;584847 wrote: Remember Randall...I often wonder how he is.

Lon ?
Randall's posted a few times this last couple of weeks, they're hidden away but wonderful posts. He still has a bee in his bonnet about the taxman.

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Thu Mar 29, 2007 4:39 pm

Hi there Bez!:-6

guppy · Post by **guppy** » Thu Mar 29, 2007 8:42 pm

I really miss hamster....:-4

AussiePam · Post by **AussiePam** » Thu Mar 29, 2007 8:51 pm

Nobody is ever going to move you from your idee fixe, Spot, you pathetic little man.

But for anyone else here, I am going to state just once. I am not now, nor ever have been any kind of disciple of any member of this forum or any other forum.

And these days I'm pretty sick of all the forums. And don't really give a damn any more. Life off line is better.

Grow up, all of you.

AussiePam · Post by **AussiePam** » Thu Mar 29, 2007 9:26 pm

I don't know you Skittles. Enjoy your geekery. You caught my post as I was editing, but I've reposted it as it was. I wanted to add a few things.

I think I was probably just naive, but when I first joined ForumGarden it did seem to be a fun, sparky place. It was certainly more diverse than it is at the moment. It was only later I became aware of all the undercurrents. I got dragged into some ongoing power struggles, ancient battles not my own (often from old forums where the participants had long honed their brawling skills). I'll rephrase that and take full responsibility. I allowed myself to be dragged in. Later, these old feuds etc sprouted new dimensions of nastiness.

You support someone on one thing, you're suddenly seen as supporting them on everything. So, one becomes tribalised. It's playground games that nobody wins. A plague on all their houses.

There are creatures who apparently thrive in cesspools, and watching the action can be entertaining for spectators, BUT the danger is that we are all eventually likely to get pulled in, or just fall in. At any rate we won't come up smelling of roses. Maybe, Skittles, you don't mind that. I do mind.

And that's my last word.

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Fri Mar 30, 2007 1:12 am

What the F ever.

Post by **spot** » Fri Mar 30, 2007 2:28 am

Bravo AussiePam, you've got the whole thing in a nutshell, I've never seen the problem better described. That's a magnificent couple of posts. There's not a word in them that I'd disagree with and I wish I'd managed to put it so clearly myself. You over-emphasise "old forums", mistaking subsequent spill-over for the actual origin here, but that's a minor matter and it may even be technically correct in one instance long gone.

As for these trivial rare flare-ups the responsibility is all down to cause and effect. Did Abbeypants post her cya-list provocatively, given that this thread had appeared and provided the opportunity? Maybe she didn't. Maybe the moon's made of blue cheese too. Maybe the modified "I miss them posting here" instead of "I miss" boils down to "I wish it was 2006 again", I can't see how else any forum could rewind to a prior state.

Post by **Betty Boop** » Fri Mar 30, 2007 2:32 am

theia;584751 wrote: Minks, Betty and I were talking about the May meet, only this morning. In some ways it seems like ages ago, and yet it was less than a year. It's one of those good memories that we'll always have...:-6

We were, it seems longer than a year to me, the day we set out for London last year was a year to the day I left my abusive ex husband, it was also a huge acheivement for me to drive that distance for the first time ever.

Wonder what I'll do this May 5th to celebrate! :guitarist

Post by **Betty Boop** » Fri Mar 30, 2007 6:26 am

flopstock;585083 wrote: Come visit me!:D

Oh, I wish I could, slight problem, haven't got a passport. :wah:

Post by **Betty Boop** » Fri Mar 30, 2007 8:34 am

flopstock;585160 wrote: Are you saying you aren't allowed to enter the country or just haven't gotten around to getting one yet?:wah: Maybe minks could loan you her?:D

:wah: I haven't gotten around to it yet.......... but then again they may not let me in anyway.

Minks can I borrow yours? You'll have to bring it over for me though

minks · Post by **minks** » Fri Mar 30, 2007 9:42 am

Betty Boop;585179 wrote: :wah: I haven't gotten around to it yet.......... but then again they may not let me in anyway.

Minks can I borrow yours? You'll have to bring it over for me though

only if you swing up into canada after seeing Floppy

:)

minks · Post by **minks** » Fri Mar 30, 2007 9:52 am

spot;585071 wrote: Bravo AussiePam, you've got the whole thing in a nutshell, I've never seen the problem better described. That's a magnificent couple of posts. There's not a word in them that I'd disagree with and I wish I'd managed to put it so clearly myself. You over-emphasise "old forums", mistaking subsequent spill-over for the actual origin here, but that's a minor matter and it may even be technically correct in one instance long gone.

As for these trivial rare flare-ups the responsibility is all down to cause and effect. Did Abbeypants post her cya-list provocatively, given that this thread had appeared and provided the opportunity? Maybe she didn't. Maybe the moon's made of blue cheese too. Maybe the modified "I miss them posting here" instead of "I miss" boils down to "I wish it was 2006 again", I can't see how else any forum could rewind to a prior state.

Meaning????

Post by **spot** » Fri Mar 30, 2007 11:04 am

Word for word exactly what it says, there's nothing obscure about it. I left out a name "in one instance long gone" so as not to aggravate an ancient sore, is that what you're asking about?

minks · Post by **minks** » Fri Mar 30, 2007 1:41 pm

spot;585248 wrote: Word for word exactly what it says, there's nothing obscure about it. I left out a name "in one instance long gone" so as not to aggravate an ancient sore, is that what you're asking about?

naw I was being a pill in the fact it's a missing persons thread and it's gone all technical.

Carry on.

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Fri Mar 30, 2007 2:31 pm

chonsigirl;584938 wrote: Hi there Bez!:-6

Big hugs Chonsi...hope you're well....:-4

meltonpie · Post by **meltonpie** » Tue Apr 03, 2007 1:45 pm

I've just been wading through this thread, and it's really upsetting. What started as an innocent question has sunk into a real nasty bit of back-biting. What's the matter with you people? I thought FG was supposed to be a friendly place, but if you want to carry on in this manner, for goodness sake go somewhere else to do all your bitching and leave the rest of us to have a pleasant time.

I didn't see myself in the list, so no-ones missed me - and judging by what is going on, maybe I should be thankful.

I hope that I can find a more friendly thread - they can't all be scratching each others eyes out surely?

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Tue Apr 03, 2007 1:54 pm

That was really unnecessary. Thanks for contributing.

I miss no one. They chose to split, they're gone.

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Tue Apr 03, 2007 2:15 pm

meltonpie;586769 wrote: I've just been wading through this thread, and it's really upsetting. What started as an innocent question has sunk into a real nasty bit of back-biting. What's the matter with you people? I thought FG was supposed to be a friendly place, but if you want to carry on in this manner, for goodness sake go somewhere else to do all your bitching and leave the rest of us to have a pleasant time.

I didn't see myself in the list, so no-ones missed me - and judging by what is going on, maybe I should be thankful.

I hope that I can find a more friendly thread - they can't all be scratching each others eyes out surely?

Aw....I miss everyone that makes FG a fun place to be....including you MP....

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Tue Apr 03, 2007 3:01 pm

there are a handfull of people i really miss , but if they missed me they would be here

Post by **Bryn Mawr** » Tue Apr 03, 2007 4:29 pm

Pinky;586811 wrote: Even if they choose to go, I still miss the diversity of posters that we used to have. This may sound snarky, but even though I still love FG and 99% of the people here, I don't find much here that doesn't end up the same way these days. I can almost bet on how threads will turn out. I see the same type of thread over and over and I get bored of it...I know if I feel that way I should post my own, but I seem to lack motivation. I know whatever I say will inevitably turn into a private convo between people who have no interest in what I post anyway, so I rarely bother anymore.

I'm well aware that I sound like a total killjoy...anyone who knows me will know that's not my way at all. I've always been about the fun side of things, but when you suddenly find that everyone has been doing your job for you, what else is there for you to do? I feel redundant here.

You'll never be that!

As a counterpoint to all of the "it's all changed round here" posts, I was surprised to come across this :-

David wrote: It doesn't always work that way. In theory you're right. In reality, here in The Garden just getting to know someone isn't enough for alot of people. This is a great place but it's been a rough road since my first day and a few are still gunning for me! I had to adjust to the Gardeners, not the other way around. It's taken David awhile to grasp that.

A post from within a year of the board starting complaining about the "Grandad" right claimed by long serving members and the stick given to "newbies" by the "bitches who run the place". I'm not sure anything changes :-3

Post by **Bryn Mawr** » Tue Apr 03, 2007 4:37 pm

Pinky;586821 wrote: The 'bitches' have long gone. It's a nice atmosphere now, but it would be nice to see more than the same old 'ask' threads or 'guess who this is'.

I suppose I'm just in a snarky mood and a bit bored. It's no-one else, it's just me.

I'm with you there - page after page of Word games do nothing for me but it's just a quiet patch. Just to see who's been on I went into the Top Posters page and noticed Spot had made the listing with 5 posts - despite being away all day!

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Tue Apr 03, 2007 4:42 pm

It is quiet, but still here. And the garden is lovely as always.:-6

dubs · Post by **dubs** » Tue Apr 03, 2007 5:41 pm

I joined the same time as you did Pinks! What does that say about the gob on you?.....:wah: Check the relative post counts! I've got to say, I feel more chilled out here, perhaps it's because there's other stuff to do when the shenanigans are going on! It's easy for me to go in the arcade, or faff around in the music threads, whereas on other forums I've been at, I would probably have waded in amongst the combatants.. I'm quite pleased with myself, that I seem to be growing up a bit. Really, the only thing that does upset me here, is when nice people just seem to give up, and leave!

Just cos I'm quiet, doesn't mean you can walk all over me. If you upset me, I'll take you outside and kick your arse!

dubs · Post by **dubs** » Tue Apr 03, 2007 5:59 pm

Pinky;586837 wrote: Yay!!! Someone try and kick my arse!!!:wah:

Not much upsets me, but the only things that inspire me these days are the music threads...thanks for that!:-4

And yes, I do have one hell of a big gob...

Hey! You started the Music threads goin' :yh_worshp Did you listen to the chilled out acoustic Killers tune? I thought it was cooool!;)

K.Snyder · Post by **K.Snyder** » Tue Apr 03, 2007 8:04 pm

I miss Pinky...

I know that she hasn't really gone...

But being without her for just a few minutes...:yh_sigh

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Wed Apr 04, 2007 1:15 am

jimbo;586805 wrote: there are a handfull of people i really miss , but if they missed me they would be here

Actually Jimbo you're right although you wrote this a bit tongue in cheek....

It's sad really, because I thought there were more people that would miss us/me here, but the attitude has been "if you want to talk to us move 'here' "

Must say I feel like Pinky sometimes....a bit 'redundant'.

Oh well...I've got a fab day ahead...off to London......must dash and get the train now.

have a good day everyone :-6

koan · Post by **koan** » Wed Apr 04, 2007 4:08 am

Wendybird;586882 wrote: I miss me.

Has anybody seen me lately?

I think I lost myself.

:rolleyes:

I have missed you Wendybird.

I was just thinking that last night, that you haven't been posting as much.

:-4

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Wed Apr 04, 2007 4:12 am

Wendybird;586882 wrote: I miss me.

Has anybody seen me lately?

I think I lost myself.

:rolleyes:

I miss you Wendybird, I think about posting that I miss you and then I get side tracked.....:-5

I enjoy your posts and miss having the "other" Wendy here:-4

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Wed Apr 04, 2007 4:56 am

its funny there are loads of people that i miss talking to that are still here ,koan ,spot ,cher ,red glitter ,ww ,immy ,pinky to name but a few the thing is you only really miss talking to someone once you know you cant talk to them any more ,i'm going to make an effort to talk to people i care about in case they do leave , sorry guys but my minds are made up :-6 :-6

woppy71 · Post by **woppy71** » Wed Apr 04, 2007 5:17 am

I'm BACK!!!!!

:-4