How long do you wait before doing the nasty?

luck4mike · Post by **luck4mike** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 4:52 pm

I say as soon as the chemistry is right....What if you die the next day and missed a great opportunity to sew your wild oats?

Post by **Bryn Mawr** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 4:55 pm

luck4mike;569048 wrote: I say as soon as the chemistry is right....What if you die the next day and missed a great opportunity to sew your wild oats?

Ah, the impatience of youth

JacksDad · Post by **JacksDad** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 4:59 pm

luck4mike;569048 wrote: I say as soon as the chemistry is right....What if you die the next day and missed a great opportunity to sew your wild oats?

Well. if that were to happen then I say he wasn't the guy for you!

LondonFan of MJ! · Post by **LondonFan of MJ!** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 5:09 pm

It all depends.

You can't put a time on something like that.

It could happen the first night, after too many drinks down the pub, or if you are looking for love, then some people prefer to wait until they know the person better.

Everyone is different.

NotToday · Post by **NotToday** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 5:26 pm

I think the younger the person, the sooner they do it. At least that was the case for me. The relationship I'm in now (going on two years), we waited a while before we did.

When I was younger, yea, didn't want to wait at all.

koan · Post by **koan** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 5:29 pm

Just had to comment that on Today's Posts when I read this thread title and scanned across the screen it went:

How long do you wait before doing the nasty?..............................NotToday

NotToday · Post by **NotToday** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 5:31 pm

koan;569058 wrote: Just had to comment that on Today's Posts when I read this thread title and scanned across the screen it went:

How long do you wait before doing the nasty?..............................NotToday

lol, yea, my name really confuses people. ooopsie!

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 5:36 pm

It's only "the nasty" if you don't know the person. You don't know where it's been or what they may have.

I wait until it's the right time and I know them better. I don't want to take some clown into my body and soul and then regret it later.

LondonFan of MJ! · Post by **LondonFan of MJ!** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 5:49 pm

RedGlitter;569067 wrote: It's only "the nasty" if you don't know the person. You don't know where it's been or what they may have.

I wait until it's the right time and I know them better. I don't want to take some clown into my body and soul and then regret it later.

So well put and I agree.:-6

AussiePam · Post by **AussiePam** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 5:59 pm

Totally agree. Don't bother with the nasty. Just do the nice! Responsibly, of course.

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 6:29 pm

Use control - be cautious, do you want respect or a disease?

I would certainly advise to get to know eachother throughly.

Anticipation

Patsy

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 7:09 pm

10 minutes

crazygal · Post by **crazygal** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 7:35 pm

:wah: 10 minutes.

I guess it depends on how you feel at the time. Sometimes I'd say wait, others it can just be impulsive. The main thing that would worry me would be the next morning, worrying it was a one night stand as I don't do one nighters, gotta be at least two. :p

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 7:57 pm

crazygal;569152 wrote: :wah: 10 minutes.

I guess it depends on how you feel at the time. Sometimes I'd say wait, others it can just be impulsive. The main thing that would worry me would be the next morning, worrying it was a one night stand as I don't do one nighters, gotta be at least two. :p

we don't have a sarcasm emoticon... I think that this is a subject that I can't be serious on, not gonna comment. When it comes to calling it "nasty"...I'm just gonna be labeled a "PRUDE"...so ummm...yeah I sleep with every man that comes within 4 feet of me...within 10 minutes.:-3

Lon · Post by **Lon** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:22 pm

luck4mike;569048 wrote: I say as soon as the chemistry is right....What if you die the next day and missed a great opportunity to sew your wild oats?

So What??? What if you died the next day and had never bungy jumped, had 100 year old cognac, sailed the South Pacific, experienced true love, experienced cancer, the love of a child, etc. etc.????

AussiePam · Post by **AussiePam** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:50 pm

Right on, Lon !! Long time no see! How are you?

Marie5656 · Post by **Marie5656** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:55 pm

Priorities do see to change with age, don't they? the teens and 20 somethings will soon grow to realize that sometimes there are more important things to a relationship than how much, how often and when you did it first with that person.

Trust me...having sex (they still call it "the nasty"..why is it nasty?) is not the most important key to a good relationship. If you have the right person in your life, you will know it....and sex is not the judge or key.

guppy · Post by **guppy** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 9:05 pm

Marie5656;569195 wrote: Priorities do see to change with age, don't they? the teens and 20 somethings will soon grow to realize that sometimes there are more important things to a relationship than how much, how often and when you did it first with that person.

Trust me...having sex (they still call it "the nasty"..why is it nasty?) is not the most important key to a good relationship. If you have the right person in your life, you will know it....and sex is not the judge or key.

ummm, yea,,,right.........:p

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 9:16 pm

so true, Marie

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 9:17 pm

guppy;569199 wrote: ummm, yea,,,right.........:p

Uh huh. And how long do guppies wait? :sneaky:

guppy · Post by **guppy** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 9:26 pm

RedGlitter;569206 wrote: Uh huh. And how long do guppies wait? :sneaky:

how much time you got...its a loooooooooooooong answer.....

cinamin · Post by **cinamin** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 9:26 pm

It totally depends on the situation.

I can honestly say that it is so much better to get to know a person before sex. I have someone I've been interested in for like 3 years, and we still have not had sex. But we talk a lot. Kinda makes me think he respects me.

guppy · Post by **guppy** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 9:29 pm

cinamin;569212 wrote: It totally depends on the situation.

I can honestly say that it is so much better to get to know a person before sex. I have someone I've been interested in for like 3 years, and we still have not had sex. But we talk a lot. Kinda makes me think he respects me.

three years? good gawd woman........i am not saying a word.....

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 2:14 am

It has to mean something so time for me comes in automatically. It takes a little time to know someone. If it's just empty sex, I'm not interested, there are toys for that. Lovemaking is something wholly different.

I do believe this is the most personal stuff I've said on here. *whips out paper bag, places over head*

There. You can't see me.

guppy · Post by **guppy** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 2:17 am

i feel the same way you do red glitter...its makinglove or nothing....

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 2:20 am

I really value my female friends I know that if you sleep together it changes everything ,why is that???

when I have been single some women want to I say no .. honest

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 2:30 am

I'm an old fashioned girl at heart so I would wait until I was sure that the relationship was going to be a lasting one.

But having said that, I knew when I met my hubby that he was 'the one' and didn't wait very long at all!!!:sneaky: (now I keep him waiting for days, weeks.......)

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 2:32 am

Imladris;569276 wrote: I'm an old fashioned girl at heart so I would wait until I was sure that the relationship was going to be a lasting one.

But having said that, I knew when I met my hubby that he was 'the one' and didn't wait very long at all!!!:sneaky: (now I keep him waiting for days, weeks.......)

lucky guy:yh_rotfl :yh_rotfl :yh_rotfl

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 2:38 am

jimbo;569265 wrote: I really value my female friends I know that if you sleep together it changes everything ,why is that???

when I have been single some women want to I say no .. honest

My answer will seem cheesey but if I've slept with you, I've let you touch my soul. Now I have a part of you and you me. There ar eexpectations that often come with that that a friendship can't meet. (my opinion)

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 2:39 am

Soberano;569280 wrote: I have never heard it called the "Nasty" before, how strange.:-2

see the post my photo page mate , then you will get , my last joke:wah:

and understand the thread tittle:D

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 2:39 am

i love immy i'm only joking she knows that:-4 :-4

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 2:47 am

I have a Q for the men.

How long do YOU think is appropriate before we women say yes? I know you say two minutes tops, but seriously, if we want to sleep with you *and* still have your respect afterward, what kind of time are we talking??

Please apply that question to both making out and actual sex. And be honest!

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 2:56 am

Soberano;569298 wrote: If you want everlasting respect, i could not put a time limit on it. You have to get to know each other first sort of grow in to each other.

Aaaah, aren't you lovely!:-4

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 3:12 am

Soberano;569298 wrote: If you want everlasting respect, i could not put a time limit on it. You have to get to know each other first sort of grow in to each other.

christ mate you sound like a tape worm :wah:

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 3:41 am

ok i'm a weirdo here , I can honestly say having a good laugh and conversation with a female friend means much much more to me than having sex with her , I always want to wait , women dont ,now you would think that would be the other way around right

foofoo stripper · Post by **foofoo stripper** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 3:51 am

I think some guys are too pushy, they should take there time and get to know the person first. Some guys think women are just a play toy or a trophy. What I am trying to say, is , just wait until you think you like this person.

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 4:20 am

no wonder she is looking for a night in shinning armour the poor sods gona need it :wah: :wah:

she was only saying about the fore play:o

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 6:59 am

I just go with what feels right. :-6

With my husband it would've been the first date if we had the opportunity (we spent about 16 hours together on our first date!) So we waited until the second date.....:p

and we've been together 13 years now.

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 7:01 am

sunny104;569484 wrote: I just go with what feels right.

With my husband it would've been the first date if we had the opportunity (we spent about 16 hours together on our first date!) So we waited until the second date.....:p

and we've been together 13 years now.

hey grandma is that they it was in those days ???:wah: :wah:

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 7:28 am

jimbo;569489 wrote: hey grandma is that they it was in those days ???:wah: :wah:

:p

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 9:24 am

RedGlitter;569067 wrote: It's only "the nasty" if you don't know the person. You don't know where it's been or what they may have.

I wait until it's the right time and I know them better. I don't want to take some clown into my body and soul and then regret it later.

Now you are bias against clowns, When will it stop. Consider yourself hit with the PC stick.:wah: