Breast feeding in a public place.

crazygal · Post by **crazygal** » Mon Feb 26, 2007 2:26 pm

LondonFan of MJ!;561183 wrote: Claire that annimation! hahahahahahaha!!

YOU went for a wee where?:-3 :wah:

Down the road near Argos, lol.

Loz · Post by **Loz** » Mon Feb 26, 2007 2:27 pm

:yh_rotfl @ that animation LOL

crazygal · Post by **crazygal** » Mon Feb 26, 2007 2:29 pm

[QUOTE=Loz;561188 lol @ that animation LOL

I have more if you want them.

Sorry Loz, had to delete yours from the quote as it wouldn't let me post them all.

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Mon Feb 26, 2007 2:30 pm

Loz;561030 wrote: I think a baby should be fed anywhere the mum chooses to feed him/her, What I hate is when people say about it being somewhere they are out eating at and a mum starts to feed her baby, You get silly comments like "I am trying to eat" So? lol it's ok for you to eat but not a baby? GRRRRRR LOL

Interesting enough...was at a nice mexican resturant today for lunch, right across from where I was sitting a lady with her baby...and baby was hungry...she was EXTREMELY discreat, with blanket and I couldn't help but stare at the beauty of momma feeding baby...I was only able to breast feed my youngest (of 3) for 6 weeks...and I LOVED it...

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Mon Feb 26, 2007 2:34 pm

I am all for breast feeding in public. Now bring on the perv slams, they make me laugh.:wah:

crazygal · Post by **crazygal** » Mon Feb 26, 2007 2:37 pm

YZGI;561203 wrote: I am all for breast feeding in public. Now bring on the perv slams, they make me laugh.:wah:

Do you watch discreetly or shout out, phwoar, gimme somma that?

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Mon Feb 26, 2007 2:39 pm

well i think the sight of a mother feeding her baby is one of the most moving beautifull sights there is ,and if she is pretty and stacked so much the better :wah:

crazygal · Post by **crazygal** » Mon Feb 26, 2007 2:41 pm

jimbo;561214 wrote: well i think the sight of a mother feeding her baby is one of the most moving beautifull sights there is ,and if she is pretty and stacked so much the better :wah:

Damn, am I going to be meeting you tomorrow? I could practice just for you and you let me know if I'm stacked enough? Suzy could take pics, could be a fun afternoon!

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Mon Feb 26, 2007 2:51 pm

crazygal;561209 wrote: Do you watch discreetly or shout out, phwoar, gimme somma that?
I dont stare or holler. It just does'nt bother me. And I sure dont mind seeing a boob or two from time to time.

crazygal · Post by **crazygal** » Mon Feb 26, 2007 2:53 pm

YZGI;561236 wrote: I dont stare or holler. It just does'nt bother me. And I sure dont mind seeing a boob or two from time to time.

Post by **Bryn Mawr** » Mon Feb 26, 2007 3:02 pm

YZGI;561236 wrote: I dont stare or holler. It just does'nt bother me. And I sure dont mind seeing a boob or two from time to time.

To be quite honest, with all this talk of boobs being flung out left right and centre, I've never seen anyone be anything but discreet.

crazygal · Post by **crazygal** » Mon Feb 26, 2007 3:04 pm

Bryn Mawr;561261 wrote: To be quite honest, with all this talk of boobs being flung out left right and centre, I've never seen anyone be anything but discreet.

I haven't had my baby yet! :p

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Mon Feb 26, 2007 3:13 pm

Bryn Mawr;561261 wrote: To be quite honest, with all this talk of boobs being flung out left right and centre, I've never seen anyone be anything but discreet.
Same here Bryn. Thats why I never could figure out the hoopla.

Rosette · Post by **Rosette** » Mon Feb 26, 2007 3:36 pm

I only breastfed my first for 8 weeks and there is no way I would breastfeed in public..... to expose yourself in such away usually involves lots of drink and a night club hehehehehe (not that I have behaved in such a manner myself)

But have no probs with anyone else nursing their baby in public..... just felt uncomfortable myself

My biggest bug bear are the midwives who try and force the issue of breast feeding especially on young mothers...... hmmmmm this is off the subject i'll shut up!

SuzyB · Post by **SuzyB** » Mon Feb 26, 2007 3:38 pm

I had the health visitor keep harping on about breast feeding, I nearly suffocated my poor son !!!!!!!!!!

crazygal · Post by **crazygal** » Mon Feb 26, 2007 3:40 pm

This is the bit I am dreading and will make the difference between my BF or not. Someone told me that the midwives will want to see that I am doing it right before I come home. I have put in my notes that I want to try it but PRIVATELY, that means not having them watch me either, midwives or not, they are my boobs!

Do you think I should take the pump into hospital just in case?

SuzyB · Post by **SuzyB** » Mon Feb 26, 2007 3:42 pm

crazygal;561410 wrote: This is the bit I am dreading and will make the difference between my BF or not. Someone told me that the midwives will want to see that I am doing it right before I come home. I have put in my notes that I want to try it but PRIVATELY, that means not having them watch me either, midwives or not, they are my boobs!

Do you think I should take the pump into hospital just in case?

I would start her on the boob as they can smell the milk and if your anything like me it's too tiring to sit with the pump for half hour, just put Jade on the boobie in private. :-6

crazygal · Post by **crazygal** » Mon Feb 26, 2007 3:44 pm

SuzyB;561419 wrote: I would start her on the boob as they can smell the milk and if your anything like me it's too tiring to sit with the pump for half hour, just put Jade on the boobie in private. :-6

Thanks, I'll make sure they know what I want. Bottlefed my son and never got pressured or made to feel guilty for it. I just want to be able to feed her in the night without having her screaming while her milk warms up like Ryan did. lol

Rosette · Post by **Rosette** » Mon Feb 26, 2007 3:50 pm

If you say ur gonna breast feed then they will keep u in until they are happy with you.... I was kept in an extra day! soo the more they see you breastfeed the better

crazygal · Post by **crazygal** » Mon Feb 26, 2007 3:52 pm

Rosette;561438 wrote: If you say ur gonna breast feed then they will keep u in until they are happy with you.... I was kept in an extra day! soo the more they see you breastfeed the better

I'll be taking permanent residence then as they won't be seeing me do it at all. :wah:

LondonFan of MJ! · Post by **LondonFan of MJ!** » Mon Feb 26, 2007 5:15 pm

SuzyB;561408 wrote: I had the health visitor keep harping on about breast feeding, I nearly suffocated my poor son !!!!!!!!!!

That's bad!!

crazygal · Post by **crazygal** » Mon Feb 26, 2007 5:18 pm

Yep very, gonna check out when I go back to the hospital next Friday that they don't pressure you as they ain't getting to see my milk bags.

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Mon Feb 26, 2007 6:11 pm

If baby is hungry.....baby needs to be fed.....NOW. There is nothing wrong with draping a baby blanket over your shoulder and your breast to hide the suckling babe from the public and oogling eyes.

saffy · Post by **saffy** » Tue Feb 27, 2007 3:21 am

Yeah you should alternate the breast when starting the feeding (if you can remember..lol).

Otherwise you risk getting very sore engorged boobs and may risk losing the milk supply to that boob.

LondonFan of MJ! · Post by **LondonFan of MJ!** » Tue Feb 27, 2007 5:26 am

crazygal;561700 wrote: Yep very, gonna check out when I go back to the hospital next Friday that they don't pressure you as they ain't getting to see my milk bags.

You have a way with words!!:wah:

Red · Post by **Red** » Tue Feb 27, 2007 6:57 am

I had to stop reading some of the replies on this thread, how utterly ridiculous that feeding your baby discreetly should 'offend' people, how pathetic, believe it or not women do not want to sit and flap their boobs about for all to see just for the fun of it, they do it to feed their babies and ive never yet seen a woman do it as some described.

And no im not part of the breastfeeding gang, i bottlefed my girl for reasons personal to me but this doesnt mean im against breastfeeding, and no way would i ever ask anyone to feed their baby elsewhere, i find it hard to believe people can be so smallminded to do so.

Whether you think your boobs are there for breastfeeding or for your partner is irrelevant, at least try and show some respect for the mother who chooses to feed her child this way, why should she be made to feel like a second class citizen because some people cant just stop gawping and get on with their own lives.

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Tue Feb 27, 2007 9:02 am

Apparently you should have real the whole thread, Red, before calling any of us (me) small minded. I find your words very offensive. How would you like it if I stated that breastfeeding is for cows? I find the notion that a breastfeeding woman takes precedence over common courtesy for others to be repugnant.

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Tue Feb 27, 2007 10:49 am

I struggled to breast feed my daughter because she came early and my milk supply just didn't kick in enough, I was man-handled by one of the midwives trying to get her to latch on, had to stay in for much longer than I wanted to get the feeding sorted out, this was after a fairly traumatic birth, surgery and blood transfusions for me! However I was very disappointed that I had to give up and put her on the bottle as soon as I did, she developed asthma and excema which I am fairly sure was as a result of not getting the antibodies in the breast milk that helps prevent this.

I am very pro breast feeding but not to the point of militancy. However, I strongly support the mothers right to feed her child in a public place without any hassle from others. We do not live in a society that insists that nursing mothers stay at home until the child is weaned so why should we make a mother feel uncomfortable for just simply feeding her child.

I couldn't have breast feed in public, it was such a rigmarole that people would have been offended seeing my boob being squashed and squeezed into my poor baby's mouth! (I could probably have sold tickets for people to come look at the freaky boob!) But I would have if I could and woe betide anyone who dared to criticise me.

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Tue Feb 27, 2007 11:37 am

RedGlitter;562320 wrote: Apparently you should have real the whole thread, Red, before calling any of us (me) small minded. I find your words very offensive. How would you like it if I stated that breastfeeding is for cows? I find the notion that a breastfeeding woman takes precedence over common courtesy for others to be repugnant.

You've totally over reacted RG. Red was making a general comment regarding 'some' peoples attitude to 'public' breast feeding.

OK.....I had 3 kids and didn't breast feed any as it was actually dis-couraged in the '60s.

I am however pro-breast feeding if it can be mastered and I applaud any mum that perseveres to give their little ones the best start in life.

As for feeding in public I guess this can be a sensitive issue and would be accepted to a lesser or greater degree depending on where you go. We cannot know the attitudes of every human being so the best we can do is be discreet and try to judge what type of place will find it acceptable and act accordingly.....in other words be respectful and mindful of others, something which hasn't happened in this thread with all the graphics and somewhat dubious references to various parts of the male/female anatomy.....call me old fashioned......and yes I am !

Feed a baby in the toilet....ridiculous

Not showing a midwife your boob when they've already seen the 'business end' .....:rolleyes:

Boobs kept exclusively for partners....I despair.....

Hey Ho....just my opions folks.

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Tue Feb 27, 2007 11:53 am

Opinions are fine but I resented the small minded remark.

All this talk of courtesy and respect for the mom should not exceed respect and courtesy of others is what I am trying to get at. We've gone from being discreet and classy about it (ie the bathroom in my grandmothers' and mother's day) to just doing it whenever because our dang kid's hungry and the kid comes first and to heck with anyone who doesn't agree. I don't think so. In fact that is the prevailing attitude of society for just about everything and what makes it so unpleasant for all concerned so why would this subject be any different.

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Tue Feb 27, 2007 12:06 pm

Most of the posts in this thread advocate respect for those who may not wish to witness a baby being breast fed and also tolerance for a mum who has cjosen to breat feed.

I don't think our Mums or Grandmothers fed their babys in the bathroom or toilet....mine certainly didn't. My guess is that they didn't go out to restaurants so much in those days and if there were visitors in their homes then they probably 'retired' to their bedrooms....they probably did this anyway.