Alone

Indian Princess · Post by **Indian Princess** » Sun Feb 25, 2007 5:09 pm

When you are alone, why do people think that you are desperate and cant be alone, some people love to be alone.

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Sun Feb 25, 2007 5:38 pm

I love being alone - peaceful, and I'm not lonely.

Patsy

Kathy Ellen - I'm with you - sounds wonderful

JacksDad · Post by **JacksDad** » Sun Feb 25, 2007 6:06 pm

One year I had planned a trip to Disney for Jack and I. When the time came the midget was sick and couldn't go.

So I went alone.

And had the time of my life!

You're right Princess in that people don't understand and feel sorry for you and all that.

It's them that I feel sorry for. Co-dependecy is for the weak.

;)

cinamin · Post by **cinamin** » Sun Feb 25, 2007 6:33 pm

Indian Princess;560238 wrote: When you are alone, why do people think that you are desperate and cant be alone, some people love to be alone.

Sometimes I crave being alone. I write in my journal or if I'm missing someone I cry. And sometimes I and have huge sewing projects to work on. Or I work on my website. Heck there are so many things to do when you are alone. And if you are alone, you can not be bound by someone else's rules they want to dictate to you.

We came here alone, and we're gonna leave alone.

My mother hates being alone. She is frightened of being "caught alone". And my father is the same way. And that makes me wonder why they ended up divorcing. They are so alike.

When I was unhappily married I was so wanting to be alone. And I kept telling myself that when I get out of this marriage, I'm gonna learn to like myself and learn to be alone. And it's taken a while. But I can now.

Marie5656 · Post by **Marie5656** » Sun Feb 25, 2007 6:48 pm

When I was single I never minded being alone at all..enjoyed doing things on my own. Hey dad...I went to Disney on my own once..on purpose. Had a great time.

I mean, I have gone to movies, out to dinner, shopping all that alone..and much enjoyed my own company.

Now that I am married, I of course do more with Rick, and not alone, but I still enjoy the time I have to myself.

cinamin · Post by **cinamin** » Sun Feb 25, 2007 6:50 pm

Marie5656;560333 wrote: When I was single I never minded being alone at all..enjoyed doing things on my own. Hey dad...I went to Disney on my own once..on purpose. Had a great time.

I mean, I have gone to movies, out to dinner, shopping all that alone..and much enjoyed my own company.

Now that I am married, I of course do more with Rick, and not alone, but I still enjoy the time I have to myself.

My husband used to get upset when I would want to just read a book alone. He was soooo needy. It was such a turn off.

And I have been to Disneyland twice by myself since January. Twice is enough for me.

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Sun Feb 25, 2007 7:01 pm

From my point of view? People pity you if you appear alone because it appears you are not having sex with anyone. I know that's ridiculous but I've had it said even to me. I guess they don't think far enough around the bend about that aspect. I know I find that idea really offensive and obnoxious.

My friend who just sold her soul- er- got married patronizes me because I am single. It's funnybecause her life is over and she's stuck with him even if he turns out to be a dud. Me, on the other hand, I get to pick and choose and be as free as I please for as long as I want, so who's sorry there?

Indian Princess · Post by **Indian Princess** » Sun Feb 25, 2007 7:02 pm

Thank you people, and Mary Ellen, if you could beam me up to wherever you live, I too would watch the comets with the fisherman.

I agree with the statement of co-dependency "for the weak"

I beleive that it makes you weak, you can have a relationship,

but I like living on my own with my son, and when you have a relationship and live in the same house(marriage) then for me it's ify. My ex was a smothering person. Unbeleivable.

-nice to know there are others that share my point of view.

Have a good one

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Sun Feb 25, 2007 7:04 pm

There is nothing wrong with being alone, or making the choice to be married.

It is all what your own perspective is.

cinamin · Post by **cinamin** » Sun Feb 25, 2007 7:06 pm

RedGlitter;560351 wrote: , on the other hand, I get to pick and choose and be as free as I please for as long as I want, so who's sorry there?

Yah I was going to say that also. I am free to chose. And my freedom is something I love too much to be wasting my time with the wrong person, just to have someone.

Once my mother said to me that she does not care about the quality of her marriaige just as long as there is a body next to her in bed. I said that I never wanted to be that way. But there are alot of women who really need a man. And it does not matter if they are happy. They think that everyone is unhappy. And that is just how it must be.

weeder · Post by **weeder** » Mon Feb 26, 2007 3:19 am

Learning to be comfortable being alone is an art. The ability to do so, sets you apart from the crowd. It is truly liberating to be someone who is comfortable in a restaurant or a movie theatre, or on a vacation alone. Having time alone also makes the time we spend with other people more of a special event, This is how it should be, not the other way around. I wasted many years being in relationships that I was not comfortable in. Like many of you, the men I was with resented my not wanting to be joined at the hip with them 24/7. I cannott live that way. Hearing yourself laugh when you are alone is an amazing experience, its like you have discovered that you like yourself and enjoy your own company. For many people the thought of ever being alone is very frightening. I think to have that fear is debilatating and that it stunts personal growth. When I see people in unhappy relationships, I feel frightened for them. I know that they are wasting prescious years of their lives, and eliminating the possibilitiy of being happy.

Tater Tazz · Post by **Tater Tazz** » Mon Feb 26, 2007 5:04 am

there is nothing wrong with alone time as I call it. I do not get enough lately.

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Mon Feb 26, 2007 5:13 am

weeder;560558 wrote: Learning to be comfortable being alone is an art. The ability to do so, sets you apart from the crowd. It is truly liberating to be someone who is comfortable in a restaurant or a movie theatre, or on a vacation alone. Having time alone also makes the time we spend with other people more of a special event, This is how it should be, not the other way around. I wasted many years being in relationships that I was not comfortable in. Like many of you, the men I was with resented my not wanting to be joined at the hip with them 24/7. I cannott live that way. Hearing yourself laugh when you are alone is an amazing experience, its like you have discovered that you like yourself and enjoy your own company. For many people the thought of ever being alone is very frightening. I think to have that fear is debilatating and that it stunts personal growth. When I see people in unhappy relationships, I feel frightened for them. I know that they are wasting prescious years of their lives, and eliminating the possibilitiy of being happy.

i really do enjoy my my own company i really do ...its just these voices

allways wondered do you smoke dope lots or do you take care of the garden just what type of weeder are you? ,sorry the voices made me ask