Weight and relationships

minks · Post by **minks** » Thu Apr 14, 2005 7:55 am

Got into an interesting discussion with the Lad last nite.

I am on a frantic kick to shed some "roundness" from the ab area. And so was telling him about my week or exercise and what not. He was most encouraging and offered to "coach" (silly fitness buff that he is) and I turned him down I do best on my own. Ok sooooo he went on to say, when he was married he suggested to his then wife that she shed a few lb's and she flat out refused and actually went the other direction. (to the point some aunt asked when she was expecting)

So my question here is, when in a stable relationship, how would you take it if your partner pointed out politely that they thought you were getting a little on the "weighty" side? And would you work on changing that for the better? Or worst?

Myself I would be a number of things, first mortified that it was noticible, second glad my partner was kind in their approach and then bust my ass to get my shape back. I think bottom line I would appreciate the gesture and support in my efforts.

He was soooooo incredibly kind in never pointing out the weight gain (he watched me increase my size 2 full clothing sizes from when we met) Albiet I was unhealthyly tiny. And am currently at my standard of the past 100 years size now.

I guess it is all in approach, how it is pointed out and how much we want to admit we have flaws. But his agreeing with me and my plans was not offensive, maybe we are still in the lust stage and I would never see anything as insulting from him ahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

devist8me · Post by **devist8me** » Thu Apr 14, 2005 8:30 am

Well, lets see. I would probably be mortified. Then go on a tangent to loose weight as fast as I could. Hubby is a little on the overweight side so probably wouldn't come right out and tell me. We have talked about excersizing together but havn't quite got there yet.

I don't think I could ever just tell him to loose some weight either. I would just try to make us more active....walking or sports. I would hate to ever hurt his feelings.

greydeadhead · Post by **greydeadhead** » Thu Apr 14, 2005 8:49 am

Aw hell.. my SO is always telling me I am overweight.. and keeps saying she is too.. but we are both in excellent shape.. skiing for me all winter.. snowboarding for her.. hiking and bicycling in the summer.. so it is not like we are couch potatoes.. and plenty of chores..

Personally .. I am beginning to think that too much emphasis is being put on body image versus being "in shape".. I know that I can outhike, outride, and outski people much younger than me.. and supposedly in much better shape... but anyway.. that is just my lowly opinion... hahahahahaha

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Thu Apr 14, 2005 9:04 am

same here Grey...i can kick anyone's ass. and am no kid. have put many a "big" man on the ground. good genes, staying active. used to ski the downhill, now SCUBA. go out to the academy and run the course, over the wall, all that. younger than me have trouble with it. muscle weighs more than fat. i don't care what the number is, i just know i am HOT! LOL...