Singles disease

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Fri Jan 19, 2007 2:46 pm

koan;522224 wrote: Come on, since when does anyone take me seriously?? :wah:

Oh I do koan, you do have a point after all.

koan · Post by **koan** » Fri Jan 19, 2007 2:48 pm

Galbally;522226 wrote: Oh I do koan, you do have a point after all.

Since when does having a point matter around here?? :wah:

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Fri Jan 19, 2007 2:51 pm

koan;522229 wrote: Since when does having a point matter around here?? :wah:

Sorry, whats your point? :yh_rotfl

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Fri Jan 19, 2007 2:52 pm

Galbally;522221 wrote: No not at all! But we have to move this to another thread.

Yes I see that!:D

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Fri Jan 19, 2007 2:53 pm

koan;522224 wrote: Come on, since when does anyone take me seriously?? :wah:

Since you were foaming at the mouth with fizzy stuff coming out of it, and telling us that we were off subject???:-3

:-4

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Fri Jan 19, 2007 2:55 pm

Okay, seriously though, being single, its not so bad really, it really isn't I mean you can always vacuum......in.......th:yh_rotfl

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Fri Jan 19, 2007 2:59 pm

Galbally;522237 wrote: Okay, seriously though, being single, its not so bad really, it really isn't I mean you can always vacuum......in.......th:yh_rotfl

I find being single to be enjoyable at times and then there are times I want to have someone to hold me at night.

It is nice to have my "space", I like to clean my space in my special way too!:D

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Fri Jan 19, 2007 3:08 pm

WonderWendy3;522241 wrote: I find being single to be enjoyable at times and then there are times I want to have someone to hold me at night.

It is nice to have my "space", I like to clean my space in my special way too!:D

Yes, I feel the same, I love being single really, though the odd cuddle is nice as well, we all need a bit of that from time to time. What I like as well in terms of where I am in my life is that I'm in a position where I can do pretty much what I want, money permitting, and its a really good feeling, I'm pretty lucky that way really. But I don't want to be single for ever either, because I do enjoy good relationships and its good to share your life, but at this stage, its not something I would be that interested in doing, my life is too up in the air at the moment anyway, I have to many other things to get sorted. Saying that I will probably be engaged in about 6 weeks. :yh_youkid

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Fri Jan 19, 2007 3:12 pm

Galbally;522248 wrote: Yes, I feel the same, I love being single really, though the odd cuddle is nice as well, we all need a bit of that from time to time. What I like as well in terms of where I am in my life is that I'm in a position where I can do pretty much what I want, money permitting, and its a really good feeling, I'm pretty lucky that way really. But I don't want to be single for ever either, because I do enjoy good relationships and its good to share your life, but at this stage, its not something I would be that interested in doing, my life is too up in the air at the moment anyway, I have to many other things to get sorted. Saying that I will probably be engaged in about 6 weeks. :yh_youkid

Yeah, me too!! All of it!!:-5

On a SERIOUS note, I've been dating this guy for 2 months now, and I notice that I get ancy when we are together for a long period of time...it's not him, it's ME!! I'm so used to having MY space (and the boys of course)...I'm starting to get skerred that I won't be able to share ME with someone for the rest of my life...cause I start to distance myself...hmmmm....he's a great guy....it's not HIM!!

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Fri Jan 19, 2007 3:16 pm

WonderWendy3;522253 wrote:

Yeah, me too!! All of it!!:-5

On a SERIOUS note, I've been dating this guy for 2 months now, and I notice that I get ancy when we are together for a long period of time...it's not him, it's ME!! I'm so used to having MY space (and the boys of course)...I'm starting to get skerred that I won't be able to share ME with someone for the rest of my life...cause I start to distance myself...hmmmm....he's a great guy....it's not HIM!!

Yes, I understand that as well, I am quite jealous of my space now, its no small thing giving that up, so I wouldn't blame you. There is nothing nicer than being able to get into bed sometimes and not have to share it with anyone, know what I mean?

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Fri Jan 19, 2007 3:18 pm

Galbally;522258 wrote: Yes, I understand that as well, I am quite jealous of my space now, its no small thing giving that up, so I wouldn't blame you. There is nothing nicer than being able to get into bed sometimes and not have to share it with anyone, know what I mean?

YESSSS!! I haven't shared a bed for more than 2 days at a time in about 15 plus years...so I've grown quite used to having MY space in the bed, and that space is SMACK dab in the middle!! and PILLOWS allll around, I have 12+ pillows that sleep with me, and we get along spledid!!:-4

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Fri Jan 19, 2007 3:20 pm

Pinky;522264 wrote: Oh god, it's luxury isn't it? Sprawl space!!!

YES!! I love it, only bad thing right now is my bed is in bad shape, so not only do we have pillows around Wendy, they are under me as well...it's all about ME!! in my bed and when I vacum!!!:D

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Fri Jan 19, 2007 3:22 pm

WonderWendy3;522262 wrote: YESSSS!! I haven't shared a bed for more than 2 days at a time in about 15 plus years...so I've grown quite used to having MY space in the bed, and that space is SMACK dab in the middle!! and PILLOWS allll around, I have 12+ pillows that sleep with me, and we get along spledid!!:-4

Yes, I love my bed as well, specially when I have a really good book to read before sleep, just that lovely feeling of being comfortable at the end of the day, its my idea of happiness really.

koan · Post by **koan** » Fri Jan 19, 2007 3:28 pm

The only place I really had to myself was in Toronto when I was going to college.

I was really into meditation at the time, for metaphysical purposes.

The moment I got home I used to strip off all my clothes...because I could. At some point when I'd settled into the apartment, I'd assume a standing meditation pose with my arms out, hands turned the left upwards, right palm down to the floor and feet at shoulder width apart.

One afternoon it was really dark and there was a wild thunderstorm in progress. I figured it was a great time to gather energy. I stood like that for a good half hour, completely nekkid. When I finally finished, I turned around and the door had blown wide open. A direct line to where I stood from the hallway. I have no idea if anyone walked by.

:wah:

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Fri Jan 19, 2007 3:33 pm

Lulu2;522139 wrote: GLITTER: "Isn't it obnoxious how people carry on about it?! Have you ever said "It's not your business" to them? What is it with people thinking they have a place in questioning us about something so private?"

How does that issue differ from this issue? People seemed to have no trouble whatsoever questioning private decisions in this thread:

http://www.forumgarden.com/forums/showt ... llow+angel

GLITTER "What I mean to say is I wish we could all have our opinions, unpopular as they may be, on an issue like this without having others imply that we are wrong for being judgemental."

++++++++++++++ People have no business intruding in anyone's legal, private decisions. Of course.

I'm not sure why you brought this up, Lulu, but I'll try to answer.

It differs in that my sex life is my own business. What I do with my own body is my own business. The retarded girl, regardless of the fact that she has the mind of a child, still owns her body. It is not anyone else's to cut up or "fix" for their convenience or any other reason that does not benefit her. And before you say it does benefit her, let me say that I do not find that to be true. It hasn't been proven to me. And the reason it needs to be proven to me or anyone else in society is because this type of thing poses a threat to other disabled people whose families or caregivers may want to do the same thing. It becomes a societal matter in the same way as child abuse does. If you see a parent beating their kid "for their benefit" you have an obligation to butt in and protect that kid even though some would say it wasn't your business. I feel someone should have protected this retarded girl from having her body parts amputated for no good viable reason.

I could go on but I think this is enough. Besides, I thought you said you were done with that thread. It sure seems to bother you.

koan · Post by **koan** » Fri Jan 19, 2007 3:42 pm

I think that's how a lot of the members picture you, Pinky.

Lulu2 · Post by **Lulu2** » Fri Jan 19, 2007 4:43 pm

Well, I'm picturing you with a banana, Pinks. (And NOT thinking what you told me NOT to think when you said you KNOW what I'm thinking.)

(I think.)

Silence · Post by **Silence** » Sat Jan 20, 2007 1:31 pm

I think this is a good post. As it is not socially acceptable to be single, people desperately try to find someone - anyone - to have a relationship with. This leads to the problem of quick, meaningless relationships which can lead to a lot of heartache from every angle. It is a way of following the crowd, a trait which most people do to some degree in some aspect or area of their life. It has to be done, because to not follow the crowd leads to a person becoming socially unacceptable. The cirlce is complete.

I am not a follower of the crowd. Taking your time is one of the pleasures of being alive. So take it.

Silence

- x -

HelenA · Post by **HelenA** » Mon Jan 22, 2007 1:22 pm

i hate it when people assume you aren't happy when you're single - as silennce said take your time and all will happen. i am holding firmly to the belief that the right person will come along - my godfather only ever had 1 girlfriend until he met his wife and had 2 kids and they were blissfully happy. I feel that the right person will come along - don't know when or how but he will!

And yes I am gloriously happy being single! I can walk around naked (not to be advised when anyone else is there!!!) and stuff like that! I can put what I want on TV and have it as loud as I like or as quiet and do what I want when I want - rock on!!! if the right person comes I'm not going to say no but neither am I going to spoil my life by wishing I had someone - sure it would be nice but I don't need someone to make me feel whole.

weeder · Post by **weeder** » Mon Jan 22, 2007 2:58 pm

I like being single...... too much! So much that Im pretty certain Ill remain single for the rest of my life. My last relationship ended 6 years ago. I was devastated. I recovered. Not only did I recover......I adjusted beautifly to the joys of being alone. I would never compromise my space, principles, needs, or wants just to have someone with me again.I dont need their baggage, and I do not want to explain, or justify mine. I have no problem with eating out alone, travelling alone, or doing anything alone. If anything I look at couples around me who seem miserable together.... I feel sorry for them, and I thank God it isnt me, living in bondage.

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Mon Jan 22, 2007 4:51 pm

Pinky;526118 wrote: Ok, I'll tell you, as people are more than likely picturing something far worse!:D

It's purely that I can fit a whole unbroken banana in my mouth all at once...people always said I had a big gob, hehe!
Pinks, when Wolverine catches sight of this one, he's going to be moving to your side of the pond!!!

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Mon Jan 22, 2007 5:50 pm

Pinky;526128 wrote:

Gawd, he's already admitted to having a thing about teachers!:-3

Of course he did.....he's MALE!

Which means you're TOAST! He's cute though, so your demise won't be entirely unpleasant....:sneaky:

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Mon Jan 22, 2007 6:14 pm

Pinky;526195 wrote: :yh_ooooo :yh_ooooo

He's gotta catch me first!:wah:
HA!!!! Just keep him away from your ride!

Lulu2 · Post by **Lulu2** » Mon Jan 22, 2007 6:25 pm

Or distract him....toss a banana! (And by the way...someday, Pinks, when we meet...I'd like you to teach me that little specialty of yours, ok? :sneaky: )

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Mon Jan 22, 2007 6:25 pm

Is this where the action is at?

I had an interesting meeting tonight with a girl I used to know years ago and has since become a huge TV star here in Ireland (we were just acquaintances may I add), and it was interesting to see her now, after all her success, she's a cool girl. Anyway, the thing that was interesting was that the last time I met her, was the night of my first date with the woman that I subsequently ended up living with for 5 years, and who was big "ex" in my life for a long time, it made me think of the past, and all of that time with Lisa, so it was strange how seeing one girl from the past makes you think actually of another. In a way I guess I have come full circle and I now feel like the fella I was before I met Lisa, and meeting Katherin reminded me of that a bit, its funny how it goes init?

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Tue Jan 23, 2007 5:37 am

Novelty;526623 wrote: Whats the name of this film star?

Her name is Katherin Thomas she's not a film star, she's a quite big TV star in Ireland now, but you wouldn't know her obvioulsy, but Jennyswan would. It was just co-incidental that the last time I spoke to her, I was having a first date with this girl I ended up going out with for a long time, but it just kinda brought that memory back, which is kinda how memory works init? One thing triggering another.

HelenA · Post by **HelenA** » Tue Jan 23, 2007 8:44 am

Sounds cool Gallbally! You're right memory is like that - one thing triggers another. It good if it's a good memory - painful if it's a nostalgic or bad memory. songs make me remember times places and people.......I hate mambo number 5 becasue of my ex.............I'm definately better off out of thatone!

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Tue Jan 23, 2007 9:19 am

Pinky;526918 wrote: I associate memories with songs too, Summer of 69 will always remind me of a crazy summer causing chaos with a mate, Meatloaf's anything for love and Aerosmith's crazy always make me think of when I lived in Malta (they played them constantly:-5 )

Actually what I remember about Bryan Adams is that flippin Robin Hood song, I started going out with this girl called Fiona when it was first number one, and we had a romance and a young kinda thing, for a couple of months, and when we broke up, it was still number one, so it was the meeting and the breakup song. Thanks for that one Bryan. I can never listen to that song without falling asleep by the first chorus now. :wah:

Post by **Bryn Mawr** » Tue Jan 23, 2007 4:16 pm

Tuppence;522209 wrote: Let's not start any rumours. :-3

Why hello - fancy seeing you here :-6

Post by **Bryn Mawr** » Tue Jan 23, 2007 4:27 pm

OzBoy;521875 wrote:

Why do people react with such horror/bewilderment/shock/ sympathy when you tell them you are happily single? I was the only singleton at a table of eight today and the conversation quickly turned to "so when are you going to meet someone, why are you still single, aren't you lonely, dont you want to settle down blah blah blah " you get my drift.

I think it's their fear that they would end up lonely and neglected.

I.E. Their fear that they would not be able to cope with themselves for company.

guppy · Post by **guppy** » Tue Jan 23, 2007 4:32 pm

Try always being the only woman in a group of married couples...i got over that years ago...while i was married.....:p you eventually learn to function as a single person.....you represent only yourself....people either take you like you are or not....and after awhile i stopped apologizing for the fact i was always by myself....

i stopped explaining the situation years and years ago....:-2