I don't know what's becoming of this place anymore

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 10:34 am

I came in yesterday excited to tell everyone my new year news & instantly felt a bad vibe, i hung around less than half an hour. It seems to me that a huge amount of people here like to fight & are not happy unless thats exactly whats going on. I like too many to delete my account but have on the odd occasion left for periods of weeks to months because of the fighting.

I truly believe the one's who enjoy fighting the most are those with nothing to keep them busy in 'real life' Maybe if 'they' got out & about a bit 'they' would see how completely childish the antics in some of the threads here are. Grow up

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 10:36 am

:-1 It is sad to see three members leave and delete their accounts within the last few days...............................

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 10:39 am

chonsigirl;503215 wrote: :-1 It is sad to see three members leave and delete their accounts within the last few days...............................

I havent been around much with xmas & new year, can i ask who the three members are?

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 10:41 am

Pom Pom and onsekitz also deleted their accounts.

I think it is a sad way to go. At least take off for awhile, and come back if you want to. That's what I do when something upsets me.

Bill Sikes · Post by **Bill Sikes** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 10:42 am

buttercup;503213 wrote:

I truly believe the one's who enjoy fighting the most are those with nothing to keep them busy in 'real life' Maybe if 'they' got out & about a bit 'they' would see how completely childish the antics in some of the threads here are. Grow up mad:

Ignore them and keep posting.

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 10:45 am

Yup, Bill is right.

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 10:46 am

Bill Sikes;503225 wrote: Ignore them and keep posting.

On the whole i do Bill, the unfortunate thing is that the fighting threads get more response/posts/views than the positive one's, sad isent it?

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 10:51 am

I agree with Bill and Buttercup, sad that even the happy threads, a joke thread comes to mind, got turned around to an unhappy thread...too bad we can't all just have fun and get along...

Bill Sikes · Post by **Bill Sikes** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 10:58 am

buttercup;503231 wrote: On the whole i do Bill, the unfortunate thing is that the fighting threads get more response/posts/views than the positive one's, sad isent it?

Many people enjoy a good dust-up! However, that's not to say it's a good

thing to tussle all over the Garden, rolling in sweet-scented Mignonette,

trampling the Night-Scented Stocks, bruising the Sweet William, or pulling

down the honeysuckle. Isn't there a place over there ==>, in the corner

behind the interwoven panel fence? Different scent over there, though -

good for trenching, or digging in. Yes, a bit sad. Never mind. Keep On.

Marie5656 · Post by **Marie5656** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 10:59 am

It just seems to go in cycles. Lots of good stuff..then one post that strkes someone the wrong way and all he11 breaks out.

It is great to have the animated discussions and disagreements..but as I have said before, too often they turn into personal attacks...or he said/ she said.

Now..just don't make me come over there and make everyone stand in a corner!!:sneaky:

Marie5656 · Post by **Marie5656** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 11:04 am

To be honest, Hammy, I do agree. If this place were just happy stuff and jokes, it would not be real, and I think we would not have as many long term active members as we do. Myself included....I would not hang around if it was a happy stuff only forum.

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 11:11 am

Well, the fighting is less. Or maybe I am not here as much anymore. I go off and write instead, more productive.

I do come here for it to be a happy place, I need the break from reality. It was always the one thing a day I would like to do for myself, have some time here.

But topics have changed on the boards lately, enough that FG is banned from my school site. So, my one morning reprieve is gone too.:-1

Marie5656 · Post by **Marie5656** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 11:11 am

Oh I know. The last time I felt I had enough and needed a break, I think I was back in less that 24 hours.

Bill Sikes · Post by **Bill Sikes** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 11:13 am

chonsigirl;503250 wrote: But topics have changed on the boards lately, enough that FG is banned from my school site. So, my one morning reprieve is gone too.:-1

Oh dear. I suppose that's because of Ess Eee Ecks. What a pain in the bum.

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 11:19 am

Yeah, I will miss you all tomorrow when it is back to school.........................

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 11:23 am

Ah, tell her we love her and miss her already.:-1

Bill Sikes · Post by **Bill Sikes** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 11:32 am

chonsigirl;503259 wrote: Yeah, I will miss you all tomorrow when it is back to school.........................

Um. The end result of result of public discussion of taboo subjects - censure. You

might try accessing via another (allowed!) provider (not sure that's possible, or

that such obfuscation would successfully confuse the software), or find out who

is responsible for access and persuade them to allow a personal exception for

you (may not be possible if access from work "iffy", may need exchange of beer

vouchers for the favour!).

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 11:32 am

Clancy;503261 wrote: I just want to say a quick word of thanks to those that had fun with my mate, Snooze. Thank You, :yh_flower

She's left the forum. No doubt there will be clapping and rejoicing by quite a few at that news.

To the whiny faced bastards that wouldn't leave her alone since the day and hour that she joined, and , questioned every thing she posted,

...........it might be in your best interests to keep out my face.

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That just adds to the negativity & aggression Clancy, Snooze has left several times & always come back. Everyone knows you are her friend & fiercly protective of her. I think Pinkster started this thread looking for peace not more aggression.

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 11:34 am

Pinky;503267 wrote: Look, sorry...I don't want to sound rude but when you don't like the content of particular threads, you just don't look, do you? Much less post in them

I don't go near the politics threads for that reason.

I'll agree with you here (again) cuz that's one of the things that drives me nuts the most!

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 11:35 am

Bill Sikes;503268 wrote: Um. The end result of result of public discussion of taboo subjects - censure. You

might try accessing via another (allowed!) provider (not sure that's possible, or

that such obfuscation would successfully confuse the software), or find out who

is responsible for access and persuade them to allow a personal exception for

you (may not be possible if access from work "iffy", may need exchange of beer

vouchers for the favour!).

Oh, school computers have filters on them, I don't dare ask for it to be permitted with certain thread topics. I will just wait until I come home to post, on the nights I don't work. I enjoy my vacation time here, it is still the nicest site I have ever known.

Bill Sikes · Post by **Bill Sikes** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 11:40 am

*This* seems to be the perennial problem... a sharp exchange doesn't matter,

but harbouring and retaining resentment *does*.

A happy picture included for everyone's enjoyment (from the BBC):

Attached files

Bill Sikes · Post by **Bill Sikes** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 11:42 am

chonsigirl;503273 wrote: Oh, school computers have filters on them, I don't dare ask for it to be permitted with certain thread topics.

Don't you turn your back on us will you, dear.

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 11:42 am

I agree Pinky that is why I say out of the policital and religous tread.. I know in advance that I will get blown out of the water...so I don't post.:p

I home again feeling a bit better. I was hoping to logon and see that peace had been restored to the Garden..

Sad but it hasn't.

So now we have 3 member gone. Oneskis, PomPom and Snooze sad day for the garden as a whole. This continued childish behavior (and I mean just that) is so unecessary on so many levels that I don't even know where to begin.

If the people insiting these arguments were working for me you all would be put on 30 day notice , and if you didn't stop ensighting the work force (FG) you would be fired.

I don't put up with this stupidity in my work force and I shouldn't have to put up with it here. Just a damn shame we all can't act like adults and let by gones, be by gones and more forward.. Nothing good ever comes out these threads that has been proven time and time again.

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 11:57 am

Well if Snooze has gone (v. sad - hope she comes back) who is going to give the punchline to the joke she started in Cher's sex thread?

please, someone tell me how it ends

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 11:58 am

Clancy;503289 wrote: At this time , I don't much care what you think,much less what you have to say either

Why don't you save your platitudes for someone who's prepared to listen.

The "fiercly protective" remark applies to quite a few others in here, not just, Snooze

I'm sick to the back teeth of reading whiny people complain about every f'king thing I say .....If you don't like it, skip on down to what you do like, or to another thread.

If Pinky has a problem with what I wrote, no doubt, she will PM me.

....Pinks is among the few that I actually listen to. You and a few others just churn out the same speil.

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I have just as much right to say what i feel as you, ive never however stooped so low as to be offensive to you. Thats perhaps the main difference between us.

Shweet tatersalad · Post by **Shweet tatersalad** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 11:58 am

buttercup;503231 wrote: On the whole i do Bill, the unfortunate thing is that the fighting threads get more response/posts/views than the positive one's, sad isent it?

At times it seems the fighting threads are all there is.The subject matter in some the titles is just not interesting.

With out singling any one out ,you can go down the list and not see much too post on.There are not alot of threads too provoke thought.

So the threads too fight in are the most accessible at times.

Not every one likes too talk about sex,booze or politics.

Or rehash old history.

If in the early threads,you will see a lot more post friendly subject matter.

Now don't get me wrong,every one has the freedom too start what ever thread they want.

But don't get upset because no one cares for it.

Now i am by no means a moral compass too look upto.But i find myself at my other forum alot more.

today we talked about the new year and what we can do in our lives too make it better,and how we might be able too get there.

And no one asked my what my fav booze was or what my sex life was like or if i think Jimmy hoffa is working at walmart.

If I pi$$ed anyone off,GOOD,lets get this place back too a place that we all came too love,where we talk TOO each other and Not about each other.

Snooze ,I will miss you,you were and will always be a piller of moral insight,and i will miss your honesty.

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 12:03 pm

Someone very wise tells me, "You were given 2 ears, 2 eyes and one mouth. Listen and observe more than you speak and you will learn something new every day."

Pity no one else ever had that taught to them.

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 12:05 pm

Oh thats great, so now snooze has finally left? Well I'm not surprised, she hardly got to post anymore before she got jumped on by the people who don't like her. OK, well, she is gone now so you wont have that bone to chew on. I don't (like pinky) tend to get involved in this rubbish, but I was Snooze's friend, she was my longest-standing friend here, she always looked out for me, and its very upsetting that she felt she had to delete her account. :-5

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 12:22 pm

Clancy;503297 wrote: Of course you have a right to say what's on your mind !

The difference with you is, very few question you. Wait till you've had that on your plate morning noon and night.

If you have something to say, can I offer a suggestion? say it to someone else who's interested , because I just lost interest.

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Im surprised you should say that Clancy, i left for 4 months last year because i did have some people on my back morning, noon & night so i do know what it feels like.

The fact you are not interested in what i have to say doesent bother me at all.

Sheryl · Post by **Sheryl** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 12:31 pm

It's really sad that this place has become just like the junior high girls locker room. I've quit posting so much because of it, and had some friends leave here due to it. It's sad and frustrating, that I come here looking for some fun and only find the same crap rehashed. :rolleyes:

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 12:37 pm

Clancy;503331 wrote: That's alright, I'm ok with that. It's not a problem. If others had done that and posted accordingly....meaning, elsewhere , or to those they did have an association/friendship with, it would be a lot easier to contend with....

Unfortunatley, I and a few others have had to contend with it for much longer than four months. Members have been at one anothers throats long before I got here....

....and there still at it.

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Clancy you read that wrong - I left for 4 months, i had to contend with it a lot longer than that. Guess what? me & the people involved made up through pm's. It can be done.

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 12:41 pm

Pinky;503302 wrote: Not again:-5

Clancy, you know I love ya to bits...same goes for Buttercup.

I like the fact that people speak their minds, I know where I am with that.

I just hate losing my friends because of it.

Pinks :-4

Im not going anywhere & to the best of my knowledge neither is Clancy although i could be wrong on that one, only he can say but im certainly not falling out with him, i know where im at with Clancy & he knows where he's at with me, no love lost.

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 12:56 pm

Wondering where a certain person is, if not today expect it'll be tomorrow :rolleyes:

24Hours · Post by **24Hours** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 1:04 pm

Happy New Year, Pinky! To all, actually, but I happen to see my positive happy fun-warrior Pinky with her own thread, upset, and it moved me. Pinky, don't let them get ya down!

- love, Franky Spanky