Who Should Make The First Move In A Relationship?

polycarp · Post by **polycarp** » Tue Apr 05, 2005 6:17 am

In my part of the world, the man makes the first move in any relationship, but we live in a fast changing world where nothing is impossible. As a man I often find myself asking why we (the men) should be left with the difficult task of making the first move. Isn't the world civilized enough for the ladies to start asking the guys out?. Or is it peculiar to my part of the world?

hotsauce · Post by **hotsauce** » Tue Apr 05, 2005 6:24 am

I made the first move on my hubby 9 years ago. It worked out for me.

polycarp · Post by **polycarp** » Tue Apr 05, 2005 6:33 am

That's good to know hotsauce, I'm really glad that some ladies could be so straight.

Agnes · Post by **Agnes** » Tue Apr 05, 2005 6:44 am

Hi, Polycarp. How are you? I need to send my private e-mail address, not sure how i will do that yet? Take care, i know you are here.

devist8me · Post by **devist8me** » Tue Apr 05, 2005 6:51 am

I've made the first move before, and its worked out. I sure hated rejection though.

But I guess everyone does.

I didn't make the first move with my husband, he did. But he's much more aggressive (personality wise) than I am. The men I made the first move with were a lot more submissive.

A Karenina · Post by **A Karenina** » Tue Apr 05, 2005 6:54 am

I'm thinking about this one...Mine made the first move, as far as asking me out, etc. But he doesn't do it in a vacuum, if that makes any sense. Surely I've given him a safe environment to ask me; I've encouraged him, and then taken the lead myself here and there.

Do men sense when the woman wants them to ask? Just curious.

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Tue Apr 05, 2005 6:59 am

I think the different generations look at the question from their perspective. Since I am a little older, I find it easier for the man to make the first move. The younger women I know have no problems initiating a relationship, I think that is great for them!

A Karenina · Post by **A Karenina** » Tue Apr 05, 2005 7:00 am

Good point!

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Tue Apr 05, 2005 7:40 am

Welcome to the 21st century! I think if someone is interested, make it known!! It shouldn't matter if you're a guy or a girl. What's the worst that could happen? You get turned down. Big deal. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. It's early, I couldn't come up with a better cliche, sorry! :yh_bigsmi

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Apr 05, 2005 8:13 am

BabyRider wrote: Welcome to the 21st century! I think if someone is interested, make it known!! It shouldn't matter if you're a guy or a girl. What's the worst that could happen? You get turned down. Big deal. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. It's early, I couldn't come up with a better cliche, sorry! :yh_bigsmi

I agree with BR if your interested, make the move. I am all for gals taking the first step, why the heck not.

pink princess · Post by **pink princess** » Tue Apr 05, 2005 8:35 am

it doesnt bother me whether the boy or girl makes the move

however, for me personally i prefer the guy to, im kinda a bit traditional like that, sometimes think ive been born in the wrong era should have been here about 200 years ago!!!

my boyf made the move and boy did he chase me, it was all so romantic :-4

polycarp · Post by **polycarp** » Tue Apr 05, 2005 9:04 am

pink princess wrote: it doesnt bother me whether the boy or girl makes the move

however, for me personally i prefer the guy to, im kinda a bit traditional like that, sometimes think ive been born in the wrong era should have been here about 200 years ago!!!

my boyf made the move and boy did he chase me, it was all so romantic :-4

Glad to hear your opinion on this topic! You are welcome to FG Pink Princess and we look forward to wonderful moments of sharing ideas with you. Guess what? Pink is one of my favourite colours. Cheers!

pink princess · Post by **pink princess** » Tue Apr 05, 2005 9:08 am

u guys are all so nice!!

puts other forums to shame!! came across this one by doing a search on google and it came up on the sponsored sites bit, hooray for google!!

the relationship thing tho, if i had a girlfriend who fancied a guy id totally support her on making the first move it really is just a personal thing for me that i prefer the guy to, i think the world has lost something, its got to be a wierd place when i a guy wont hold the door open for a girl because they dont know if shell say thankyou or turn round and say 'im quiet capable of opening a door i dont need a man to do it'!!! i love all that chivalry and gentlemanliness (im sure thats spelt wrong - u know what i mean tho!)

Bothwell · Post by **Bothwell** » Tue Apr 05, 2005 9:35 am

Depends if she is armed or not.

There certain females who carry weapons and handcuffs and would not hesitate to use them if the target does not respond in the correct manner.

Post by **kensloft** » Tue Apr 05, 2005 9:36 am

In these days of equality the old truism of let them chase you until you catch them holds true for both sexes. What is the first move in a relationship? A look? A movement? A word? Who makes the first move doesn't matter when it works out.

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Tue Apr 05, 2005 9:47 am

Bothwell wrote: Depends if she is armed or not.

There certain females who carry weapons and handcuffs and would not hesitate to use them if the target does not respond in the correct manner......:yh_bigsmi :yh_kiss :yh_giggle

polycarp · Post by **polycarp** » Tue Apr 05, 2005 9:53 am

Bothwell wrote: Depends if she is armed or not.

There certain females who carry weapons and handcuffs and would not hesitate to use them if the target does not respond in the correct manner.

And there are some men also, who deserved to be cuffed, otherwise they will not respond in the correct manner.

polycarp · Post by **polycarp** » Tue Apr 05, 2005 9:58 am

Doctor Who wrote: On Galifrey we are all men, and all iving in seperate space-time dimensions. You think you got problems!! I suggest a practical approach to this one:

:-6 :-6

Which is:

Make the move quickly then. Or ya won't get any. :wah:

Okay Doc, I'll do my best.

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Apr 05, 2005 11:36 am

you know what I think,

if your interested you ought to persue it. The other party can only say no. But if you never try you will never know. And as for the holding the door etc yes do so, but then again is it chivilray or just common courtesy? I love a chivilrous man (sorry on spelling there). To me it shows grand respect. however if I am dashing up to a door and beat a male by a mere step I have no trouble opening it jetting through and holding it for him to follow, shows I appreciate his effort but am capable of opening it myself and I hope I don't offend the males I to that to, I just figure if I am getting there first the least I can do is get in and hold the darn door, not either stand and wait for him, or just rudely go through. It all boils down to courtesy and respect.

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Tue Apr 05, 2005 1:59 pm

Women can make the first move....but they have to subtle.

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Apr 05, 2005 2:56 pm

along-for-the-ride wrote: Women can make the first move....but they have to subtle.

You mean to tell me sleazy clothing and hanging all over a man is wrong :sneaky:

heh heh I think they need to be subtle too and maintain their dam dignity. I can't tell you how I hate sloppy, slutty, flirty women yeeeuck!!!

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Tue Apr 05, 2005 7:16 pm

BOTHWELL,

Well kind sir I suggest you respond in the correct manner and things will just be marvelous..!!

Depends if she is armed or not.

There certain females who carry weapons and handcuffs and would not hesitate to use them if the target does not respond in the correct manner. :wah: