Long Distance Relationships

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Sat Apr 02, 2005 12:39 am

the "sex" thread has inspired me to start another...have you ever been in a long-distance relationship and how did it work out? what were the difficulties and the rewards?

Philadelphia Eagle · Post by **Philadelphia Eagle** » Sat Apr 02, 2005 8:07 am

I first met my wife when I was living in Thailand. Soon after we met I was transferred first back to the US and then to Nigeria! This was turning into a serious long distance relationship. We contacted each other mainly by telephone (not from Nigeria where telephone services are virtually non-existant) and by both e-mail and 'snail mail'. We even managed to meet occasionally in different countries as we both had jobs which involved some international travel. It was an interesting time trying to co-ordinate travel plans so we would both end up in the same place at the same time!

Despite the various problems we got married. So absence really does make the heart grow fonder! If you are in a long distance relationship you'll almost certainly look back on your experiences with fondness. It's an exciting time and you may only realize that if and when you eventually settle down.

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Sat Apr 02, 2005 8:53 am

the worst is when you have seen each other & have to part again, 3 weeks of desparately missing the person seems about right, then you seem to adapt again, then the best is the exhitement of meeting up again

its a rollercoaster ride of ups & downs, i dont recommend it, however if the person you meet has to travel through work, & that person loves work, what can you do but accept it

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Sat Apr 02, 2005 11:48 am

tw i think you have a valid point there

persephone · Post by **persephone** » Sat Apr 02, 2005 12:51 pm

I've had a couple, last one is the flopmate, guess you can see what happened there... At this point I will say things happen for a reason.

First I was 14/15 years old... Everything at that age is great, there were no problems, until... Something very bad happened and firstly, it took three weeks for me to find out about it and secondly my parents wouldn't let me go and visit. From that though I have learned that I will never do the same to my children (if I have any).

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Sat Apr 02, 2005 2:10 pm

The Bye's can be a little sad, but the Hello's make it easier............

polycarp · Post by **polycarp** » Mon Apr 04, 2005 4:52 am

lady cop wrote: the "sex" thread has inspired me to start another...have you ever been in a long-distance relationship and how did it work out? what were the difficulties and the rewards?

What a nice thread you have here that directly reflects my new relationship. Well I'm in Nigeria and recently fell in love with a girl in far away Philippines. Though the relationship is young but I am enjoying every bit of it. In fact I have already began plans to visit her country soon and if it works out really well for us, i hope to marry her cause I'm in love.

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Mon Apr 04, 2005 12:54 pm

polycarp wrote: What a nice thread you have here that directly reflects my new relationship. Well I'm in Nigeria and recently fell in love with a girl in far away Philippines. Though the relationship is young but I am enjoying every bit of it. In fact I have already began plans to visit her country soon and if it works out really well for us, i hope to marry her cause I'm in love.Polycarp, it couldn't happen to a nicer person, i hope it all turns out happily for you!! :-4

polycarp · Post by **polycarp** » Tue Apr 05, 2005 3:54 am

lady cop wrote: Polycarp, it couldn't happen to a nicer person, i hope it all turns out happily for you!! :-4

Thanks so much Lady Cop for your best wishes. You are such a wonderful and sweet lady whose presence brightens and enlivens discussions in the Garden. You are an asset that we gardeners hold in high esteem. Cheers!

polycarp · Post by **polycarp** » Tue Apr 05, 2005 4:13 am

tmbsgrl wrote: My elementry boyfriend and I stayed together all that until the end of high school. We had plans of marriage and everything... ( This is not the one I ot pregnant by) His dad lived in Georgia he was having heart problems.. well Sean moved there at the end of our senior year. We still talked for about 6 months then I couldn't take it anymore.. ( I had met Johnny) I wanted to be with someone else that was closer so I ended that relationship.. I don't not recommend them... They are so hard. Sean still emails asking me to marry him.. It has been 6 years! He keeps saying he is mad because when Johnny and I broke up I should have went back to him.. Well I didn't care for him anymore.. I moved on.. Needless to say with Tim. lol.. Those were my only 3 boyfriends.. I am 23.
Yeah distant relationships may be tough and difficult to sustain but it sure works out for some. There are two possible outcomes to long distance relationships as someone once wrote, "Distance is the bitterest taste of love, it either makes the heart grow fonder, or take another lover".

Bothwell · Post by **Bothwell** » Tue Apr 05, 2005 4:30 am

Keep us posted Polycarp, which country are you going to choose, that is going to be tricky as they are very different. Good luck

polycarp · Post by **polycarp** » Tue Apr 05, 2005 5:54 am

Bothwell wrote: Keep us posted Polycarp, which country are you going to choose, that is going to be tricky as they are very different. Good luck

Thanks Bothwell, I sure will keep you guys posted about all developments.