Crush on friends partner

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Tue Dec 12, 2006 5:17 am

Another thread got me thinking about this. You know how its a common saying that the husband or wife ran off with the best friend? Well...........

Have you ever secretly fancied your friends husband / wife / significant other?

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Tue Dec 12, 2006 5:21 am

BC, I've experienced both sides, have had friends "wanting" my ex and I had a good friend of mines' husband chase me down like it was deer season...

I'm going to put my 2 cents worth about your other thread (your friend)...I had an experience with a friend that would say things that hurt my feelings and she would apologize and say something else off color...that "friend" ended up hurting me beyond HURT! So, not knowing your friend...please just be mindful of her intentions and be on your guard. I understand she is lonely (and I know lonely) so that could be the root of it.

Maybe just keep it light conversations for a while??

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Tue Dec 12, 2006 5:26 am

Good advice wendy

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Tue Dec 12, 2006 5:32 am

buttercup;483634 wrote: Another thread got me thinking about this. You know how its a common saying that the husband or wife ran off with the best friend? Well...........

Have you ever secretly fancied your friends husband / wife / significant other?
If you are a good person and have found a good match in a partner, it's only natural that you both should like the same kinds of people. In such instances, I would think the key would be to keep a good handle on your sense of loyalty. Rather than viewing the friend as inaccessible (therefore all the more desirable), remember that you yourself are the inaccessible one, and that this person is never other than a friend.

Bill Sikes · Post by **Bill Sikes** » Tue Dec 12, 2006 5:44 am

buttercup;483634 wrote:

Have you ever secretly fancied your friends husband / wife / significant other?

Of course!

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Tue Dec 12, 2006 6:44 am

no, never.

If someone is involved with someone else I've just never had an interest in them.

Plenty of other guys in the world to play with...:sneaky:

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Tue Dec 12, 2006 6:47 am

My husband's first wife died suddenly and her friend was, at first, a big help to him with looking after the children and being a support to him.

She then made it obvious that she fancied him (she was married) and was available for sex whenever he wanted (he didn't). After he met me she spread gossip around that we were having an affair before his wife died - we weren't, we didn't meet until months after she died and this friend knew this. She still boasts that she could 'have him' any time she wants and he'd leave me for her at the drop of a hat.

I find it hard to be polite to this woman but she's now married to a relative!

I don't remember ever fancying a friend's other half - probably because I don't always go for the obviously good looking men!

Bill Sikes · Post by **Bill Sikes** » Tue Dec 12, 2006 6:53 am

sunny104;483691 wrote: If someone is involved with someone else I've just never had an interest in them.

...but IMO "fancying someone" is not the same as "having an interest in them"!

koan · Post by **koan** » Tue Dec 12, 2006 7:26 am

I've had a friend's stepfather stick his tongue in my mouth at her wedding party.

Though I'm a firm believer that people should know if their partner is straying I couldn't bring myself to say anything to her mother.

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Tue Dec 12, 2006 7:29 am

Bill Sikes;483696 wrote: ...but IMO "fancying someone" is not the same as "having an interest in them"!

being "interested" in someone is the same as you saying "fancying" someone. We don't use that term here....:-6

koan · Post by **koan** » Tue Dec 12, 2006 7:35 am

I think that fancying someone is natural. Acting on it is quite another.

I don't fancy anyone who would deceive their partner.

Bill Sikes · Post by **Bill Sikes** » Tue Dec 12, 2006 7:40 am

koan;483727 wrote: I think that fancying someone is natural. Acting on it is quite another.

I don't fancy anyone who would deceive their partner.

Hear, hear.

koan · Post by **koan** » Tue Dec 12, 2006 9:00 am

koan;483727 wrote: I think that fancying someone is natural. Acting on it is quite another.

I don't fancy anyone who would deceive their partner.

Bill Sikes;483730 wrote: Hear, hear.

I also don't fancy anyone who stays with a partner they don't love.

It's a tough situation all around with no easy solutions.

Elvira · Post by **Elvira** » Tue Dec 12, 2006 10:35 am

My best mate's boyfriend tried it on with me in a club when I was about 19...

....so I broke his nose! :sneaky:

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Tue Dec 12, 2006 11:04 am

Elvira;483841 wrote: My best mate's boyfriend tried it on with me in a club when I was about 19...

....so I broke his nose! :sneaky:
i admire your restraint an ex punched me in the ear once (it bled for 3 days )for nothing :sneaky: :sneaky: