Gift giving and receiving

minks · Post by **minks** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 11:15 am

Who likes almost all gifts they receive for christmas?

Who is usually disappointed in the gifts they receive for christmas?

I have always loved every gift I have received, and as a mother believe me that gold spray painted macaroni necklace was a real treasure till it evaporated.

However I know a family who is never grateful for their gifts, they have either returned them to the giver, or taken them back to the store or done nothing with their gifts to the point where now they all decided to just not bother..... How sad is that? (all adults of course). That kind of attitude makes me mental, the giver usuallyl puts some thought into the gifts... I know I do, and hey it takes thought on any givers part to pick a gift.... do I just live in a happy little bubble or is that really sad behavior?

Marie5656 · Post by **Marie5656** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 11:37 am

I have an amusing memory, from when I was a teen. I happen to be an oddball person who has never cared for cake..in any way shape or form. At my birthdays, my mom either got me a birthday pie...or just a special desert.

One year, my aunt came over, with a big @ss tray of cupcakes. She then announced, I know you don't like cake...so I baked you these. Happy Birthday. Her her heart was in the right place...but my mom and I got a chuckle of of it. And yes..I did eat one with my aunt, just to please her.

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 11:44 am

I would be grateful and happy that someone thought of me. :-6

zinkyusa · Post by **zinkyusa** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 11:45 am

I'm always happy with whatever I get...If there is something I really want I let someone know.

guppy · Post by **guppy** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 11:54 am

I am always happy with what i get......

minks · Post by **minks** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 2:10 pm

Thanks for that guys.... I really was beginning to wonder if me and my family were oddities in our thoughts on this....

Bloody hell the family I reference are pretty messed anyway, and they bitch and moan they hate christmas because in the past they have been awful christmas's.... however!!!! My family has made offers for them to join us (any excuse for a party and fun time) and they balk, well one member balks out of embarassment and shame.... and moans more about if we had crappy christmas's for X number of years I would feel the same.... Horse doo I would, I would embrase the chance for change.....

Argh....:-5

Ok thanks for the input I feel fine now.... to heck with them they can go to Swiss Chalet for dinner :p

Mystery · Post by **Mystery** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 2:15 pm

I've never experienced not liking a gift, but I don't think I ever would either, because for me it's the thought that counts, more so than what's in the package. I really love giving gifts too, cause I love to shop for everyone and figure out what they'd like best.

fisher · Post by **fisher** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 2:21 pm

I am happy with any gift I receive. So if there is anybody here that's wants to send me one, let me know. I will pm them my address:D

minks · Post by **minks** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 2:30 pm

fisher;479047 wrote: I am happy with any gift I receive. So if there is anybody here that's wants to send me one, let me know. I will pm them my address:D

may I send you snow, you had nicer weather than me lately

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Thu Dec 07, 2006 5:49 pm

Good topic, Minks.

The only gifts I can recall not being really crazy about were board games like "Upwords." I used to win spelling bees when I was a kid and people were always giving me word games. I didn't hate them or really dislike them, just wasn't too crazy about them. But I never let on. I think showing that you don't like a person's gift is absolutely obscene. People always seem to give me things I like. maybe I like many things or most probably they know me well. I'm not saying it because it sounds nice either; I truly love that someone would think of me and it really IS the thought that counts. I have always been this way. I have been on the other end once when someone gave me back a gift because she didn't like garlic and I was totally offended and hurt. I was also alerted to her crappy manners but she was just that kind of person anyway.

Even if I did get a gift I didn't like, I would most likely keep it. Maybe in a closet but you wouldn't see me returning it to the store. The only exception to the above would be if someone gave me something obnoxious and horrific like a fur coat or elephant foot plant stand. But anyone who knows me knows better than that anyway.

fisher · Post by **fisher** » Fri Dec 08, 2006 8:14 am

minks;479052 wrote: may I send you snow, you had nicer weather than me lately

Nooooo.You can keep all the snow. It's nice that you were thinking of me though:rolleyes:

Erinna1112 · Post by **Erinna1112** » Fri Dec 08, 2006 9:04 am

I mostly like the gifts I receive. I did return a few wedding presents, because they were duplicates of things I'd received already. I don't, however, think that "It was a gift," is a good enough reason to keep something that doesn't add to my life. If I don't love it, use it, or make money from it, out it goes.

I used to make things to give; my sister has clothes and jewelry that were made especially for her. Now, however, I stick to the gift-giving philosophy of not giving people things that contribute to their clutter. I give things like movie passes, theater tickets, and the like.

I don't give gift cards. That just screams, "I DIDN'T GIVE THIS GIFT ANY THOUGHT AT ALL," to me.

minks · Post by **minks** » Fri Dec 08, 2006 9:08 am

Erinna1112;479559 wrote: I mostly like the gifts I receive. I did return a few wedding presents, because they were duplicates of things I'd received already. I don't, however, think that "It was a gift," is a good enough reason to keep something that doesn't add to my life. If I don't love it, use it, or make money from it, out it goes.

I used to make things to give; my sister has clothes and jewelry that were made especially for her. Now, however, I stick to the gift-giving philosophy of not giving people things that contribute to their clutter. I give things like movie passes, theater tickets, and the like.

I don't give gift cards. That just screams, "I DIDN'T GIVE THIS GIFT ANY THOUGHT AT ALL," to me.

Gift Cards ahahaha that is all my family asked for this year.... so I did it ahahahaha

Erinna1112 · Post by **Erinna1112** » Fri Dec 08, 2006 9:11 am

minks;479567 wrote: Gift Cards ahahaha that is all my family asked for this year.... so I did it ahahahaha

LOL...well, pardon me for a few moments, as I'll be over here in the corner trying to drag my foot out of my mouth...

It wasn't intended as a slam on anyone else. Just a personal thing. If you got what they asked for, they'll be happy. (not that you need *my* permission, of course

) It sure makes it easy to shop.

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Fri Dec 08, 2006 9:39 am

Great question, Minks!

I love anything anyone gives me, no matter what. But the very BEST part of the gift exchange is watching my husband and my son tear into their stuff!

minks · Post by **minks** » Fri Dec 08, 2006 9:45 am

Yeah I love watching my girls do the same

And in a couple years it will be all about the grandbaby doing this :-4

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Fri Dec 08, 2006 9:52 am

I LOVE watching my kids open presents, that's the best part! :-4

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Fri Dec 08, 2006 1:53 pm

Re: gift cards....

I have always thought that gift cards were thoughtless too but I have two friends who love them. It took almost ten years for one of the friends to convince me she really wanted gift cards! She says a gift card says to her that the giver thinks so much of her that they want her to have a good time on them. So I asked for a list of all the places she wanted a card from this year. I still wince a little because I'd prefer to give something with more sentimentality behind it and because I don't like the recipient knowing how much I did or didn't spend on them.

But you know apparently there are people who really like these things. After all, I love fruitcake and that's supposed to be a crime. :wah:

minks · Post by **minks** » Fri Dec 08, 2006 1:59 pm

RedGlitter;479859 wrote: Re: gift cards....

I have always thought that gift cards were thoughtless too but I have two friends who love them. It took almost ten years for one of the friends to convince me she really wanted gift cards! She says a gift card says to her that the giver thinks so much of her that they want her to have a good time on them. So I asked for a list of all the places she wanted a card from this year. I still wince a little because I'd prefer to give something with more sentimentality behind it and because I don't like the recipient knowing how much I did or didn't spend on them.

But you know apparently there are people who really like these things. After all, I love fruitcake and that's supposed to be a crime. :wah:

NO crime there fruit cake is awesome... I support you on the love of fruitcake and know 2 other people in real life who like it whooo hoooo let us take a stand....

HORRAY FOR FRUIT CAKE!

Lonewolf · Post by **Lonewolf** » Fri Dec 29, 2006 2:15 pm

minks;478903 wrote: Who likes almost all gifts they receive for christmas?

Who is usually disappointed in the gifts they receive for christmas?

I have always loved every gift I have received, and as a mother believe me that gold spray painted macaroni necklace was a real treasure till it evaporated.

However I know a family who is never grateful for their gifts, they have either returned them to the giver, or taken them back to the store or done nothing with their gifts to the point where now they all decided to just not bother..... How sad is that? (all adults of course). That kind of attitude makes me mental, the giver usuallyl puts some thought into the gifts... I know I do, and hey it takes thought on any givers part to pick a gift.... do I just live in a happy little bubble or is that really sad behavior?

The best gift. costs nothing is warm and lasts a lifetime.

is something most wait a lifetime for a never get.

( In the writing lies a clue to who i am, you can always

tell who some is by the warmth of the words they speak )

lw

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Fri Dec 29, 2006 3:32 pm

Ok i have to be honest, there was this one xmas when i was married - long time ago, think we were 20ish yrs old, my mum gave us matching tracksuits, his was grey, mine was pink, they had a castle & lions on them

My then husband said - well we better put them on so your mum sees them at xmas dinner, get a f-ing grip, sorry no way, he actually wore his, god love him :-4

I just couldent, sorry, does that make me evil? c'mon admit it, would you?