Have you ever....
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Tater Tazz
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Have you ever....
yes i have had alot thrown at me. all i do is think of my daughter and push forward for her.
Have you ever....
Press onward.....
Oh yes, I too have had times like that....I wouldn't say I have had the worst experience of history and I know others who have hit a way lower bottom than I ever did, but believe me one year of hell made me want to run away, fast and far.... what kept me going, my girls, my folks, my desire to survive and the drive to prove I could survive.
Ya have 2 choices.... sink, or swim like hell......
looking back, I now know on my bad days, that nothing will ever ever be that bad for me again, I am a survivor and have taken a few blows since but I have to keep going.
You can too Hammy.
Oh yes, I too have had times like that....I wouldn't say I have had the worst experience of history and I know others who have hit a way lower bottom than I ever did, but believe me one year of hell made me want to run away, fast and far.... what kept me going, my girls, my folks, my desire to survive and the drive to prove I could survive.
Ya have 2 choices.... sink, or swim like hell......
looking back, I now know on my bad days, that nothing will ever ever be that bad for me again, I am a survivor and have taken a few blows since but I have to keep going.
You can too Hammy.
�You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.�
• Mae West
• Mae West
Have you ever....
Several years ago, so many things happened to my family in a short
stretch of time... my brother got divorced, one of my sisters got
divorced, my brother's ankle got smashed by a prisoner... a drunk hit
and totalled my car... just lots of bummer things. I was talking to my
brother and I said "I thought bad things only came in threes" and he
said "Yeah, but it's MULTIPLES of threes"! We laughed, and it helped a
little, but man.
How do you get through? Try and focus on the future and on something
positive. It's hard, but you can do it. And This Too, Shall Pass.
One thing that helps me is to remember, however bad you think it is,
it could ALWAYS be worse. Nobody flew a plane into the building you
were working in. Hurricane Katrina didn't come through your front door.
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stretch of time... my brother got divorced, one of my sisters got
divorced, my brother's ankle got smashed by a prisoner... a drunk hit
and totalled my car... just lots of bummer things. I was talking to my
brother and I said "I thought bad things only came in threes" and he
said "Yeah, but it's MULTIPLES of threes"! We laughed, and it helped a
little, but man.
How do you get through? Try and focus on the future and on something
positive. It's hard, but you can do it. And This Too, Shall Pass.
One thing that helps me is to remember, however bad you think it is,
it could ALWAYS be worse. Nobody flew a plane into the building you
were working in. Hurricane Katrina didn't come through your front door.
>
Have you ever....
Yep, been there, stopped myself from ending it all with the thought of the kids - didn't want the oldest to have a step-mum die as well as their real mum and didn't want the little one to think I didn't love her enough to stick it out.
Took one day at a time, one step at a time and each one got a little easier than the one before.
Took one day at a time, one step at a time and each one got a little easier than the one before.
Originally Posted by spot
She is one fit bitch innit, that Immy
Don't worry; it only seems kinky the first time
She is one fit bitch innit, that Immy
Don't worry; it only seems kinky the first time
Have you ever....
Hamster;476346 wrote: yeah sometimes all you can do is put one foot in front of the other..isn't it??
i cant put one foot in front of the other even hammy , one foot is in a hole and i keep digging , i was down for a few days with what i told you in the pm but i'm coming back up to happy jimbo now, f g beware crap jokes are immenent any time now :wah: :wah:
i cant put one foot in front of the other even hammy , one foot is in a hole and i keep digging , i was down for a few days with what i told you in the pm but i'm coming back up to happy jimbo now, f g beware crap jokes are immenent any time now :wah: :wah:
Have you ever....
God yes, I've had those times, in fact I had one recently concerning some financial matters. I believe though that "that which does not kill us, only makes us stronger". My dad always told me, and I believe it wholeheartedly, that God doesn't put something on us that he and I (us) can't handle together. So, I always try to remember that. And Val said it I believe > This too shall pass.
Orrrr, failing that, you could get really snockered maybe and have a pity party?
Orrrr, failing that, you could get really snockered maybe and have a pity party?
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cherandbuster
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Have you ever....
Novelty;476335 wrote: Yes that is amazing how things come in three's, external forces now that's another thing, we tend to go through life thinking we are in control, but it's the events that happen around us that seems to change how we grow..
Exactly! It's how we react to things that makes our path for us :-6
Exactly! It's how we react to things that makes our path for us :-6
Live Life with
PASSION!:guitarist
PASSION!:guitarist
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DesignerGal
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Have you ever....
When I feel overwhelmed and angry or sad, I just think about how 4 million people die each year in Africa because of AIDS and poverty. Someone is always worse off than you, so that keeps the little things that happen to me in perspective.
HBIC
Have you ever....
well the way i look at things is , go back to the very worst day of your life how you felt in your darkest hour. well if you dont feel like that then you know you haved moved on and things have gotten better :-6
Have you ever....
We all have those times when we would rather hide away than face another problem in life. The look to the sky and say why me happens to all of us. I always figured that there was bound to be someone out there that was worse off than me. Eventually I chose to face my problems and make the best of things. It reminds me of a little story that has been passed around on the net for years ... I am sure most of you have read this one.
Carrot, Egg or Coffee?
A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose.
Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs and the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil without saying a word.
In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me what do you see?"
"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.
She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they got soft.She then asked her to take an egg and break it.
After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg.
Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked. "What's the point, mother?"
Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity--boiling water--but each reacted differently.
The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.
The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water they had changed the water.
"Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?"
Think of this: Which am I?
Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity, do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?
Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff?
Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?
Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.
When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate to another level?
How do you handle Adversity? ARE YOU A CARROT, AN EGG, OR A COFFEE BEAN?
Carrot, Egg or Coffee?
A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose.
Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs and the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil without saying a word.
In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me what do you see?"
"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.
She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they got soft.She then asked her to take an egg and break it.
After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg.
Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked. "What's the point, mother?"
Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity--boiling water--but each reacted differently.
The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.
The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water they had changed the water.
"Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?"
Think of this: Which am I?
Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity, do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?
Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff?
Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?
Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.
When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate to another level?
How do you handle Adversity? ARE YOU A CARROT, AN EGG, OR A COFFEE BEAN?
At Christmas I no more desire a rose
Than wish a snow in May's new-fangled mirth;
But like of each thing that in season grows. -Shakespeare
Have you ever....
Hamster;476308 wrote: .....had one of those times in your life when things keep piling up on you? Have you ever felt like you just wanted to give up and go back to bed?
How much did life throw at you and how did you work through it?
plod
crawl
scrape the dirt and keep pulling
one foot in front of the other
day by day
week by week
then one day you look back and see you made it
its the same for all of us
How much did life throw at you and how did you work through it?
plod
crawl
scrape the dirt and keep pulling
one foot in front of the other
day by day
week by week
then one day you look back and see you made it
its the same for all of us
I AM AWESOME MAN
Have you ever....
When I have dark days like that, I force myself to stop and think about the blessings I do have in my life. I just try to be thankful for the life I have and problems I have, because there are others out there with problems I wouldn't ever wanna have to deal with.
"Girls are crazy! I'm not ever getting married, I can make my own sandwiches!"
my son
my son
Have you ever....
As Nomad said:
plod
crawl
scrape the dirt and keep pulling
one foot in front of the other
day by day
week by week
then one day you look back and see you made it
its the same for all of us
The worst part of my life I thought I'd have a nervous breakdown, wouldn't allow it because who would look after my daughter if I went bonkers? So, I had to do as the above...plod, crawl, etc.
Don't give up ever.
plod
crawl
scrape the dirt and keep pulling
one foot in front of the other
day by day
week by week
then one day you look back and see you made it
its the same for all of us
The worst part of my life I thought I'd have a nervous breakdown, wouldn't allow it because who would look after my daughter if I went bonkers? So, I had to do as the above...plod, crawl, etc.
Don't give up ever.
You can't control the wind, but you can adjust your sails.
Have you ever....
Have I been through tough times, yes, extremely, and I am not joking, and I also have no interest in getting into it, its the past. How did I survive?, I am not sure really, but the main thing is I did, and its great to come out the other side of hard times when you really know what they are. 
"We are never so happy, never so unhappy, as we imagine"
Le Rochefoucauld.
"A smack in the face settles all arguments, then you can move on kid."
My dad 1986.
Le Rochefoucauld.
"A smack in the face settles all arguments, then you can move on kid."
My dad 1986.
Have you ever....
I've been through a few bad patches and once seriously considered ending it all.
I talked to a friend of mine who also said that she believed that God only gives us as much as we can handle...but that doesn't explain suicides. I do know that the bad stuff all seems to come at once. Something knocks you for six and then other stuff keeps kicking you when you're down. :-5
I think the best thing you can do is talk to someone whos not involved, as outsiders always see things much more clearly than those who are involved.
Try phoning Parentline Plus on 0808 800 2222
or go to their website:
http://www.parentlineplus.org.uk/
Their phonelines are manned 24 hours a day and although you have to be a parent to call them, your call doesn't have to be about your kids.
They 're non-judgemental and they listen to whatever you want to say. The call is free and they offer choices of things or people that can help you. They're all trained although if you get someone youre not keen on just try again later and you'll get someone else. Their offices are scattered around the country but one phone number connects them all. So one call could connect you to someone in Scotland, next time it could be someone in London, etc. But if you want to call again you can ask for someone specific to take your call every time.
Its a very useful service and it can help to clarify things in your own mind as they dont tell you what to do but encourage you to find the best solution.
So they might say What do YOU want to happen?
And then, well how can we make that happen?
They open you up to other solutions.
I really hope that helps sweetie.
Big hugs to you, Mel. xxx
I talked to a friend of mine who also said that she believed that God only gives us as much as we can handle...but that doesn't explain suicides. I do know that the bad stuff all seems to come at once. Something knocks you for six and then other stuff keeps kicking you when you're down. :-5
I think the best thing you can do is talk to someone whos not involved, as outsiders always see things much more clearly than those who are involved.
Try phoning Parentline Plus on 0808 800 2222
or go to their website:
http://www.parentlineplus.org.uk/
Their phonelines are manned 24 hours a day and although you have to be a parent to call them, your call doesn't have to be about your kids.
They 're non-judgemental and they listen to whatever you want to say. The call is free and they offer choices of things or people that can help you. They're all trained although if you get someone youre not keen on just try again later and you'll get someone else. Their offices are scattered around the country but one phone number connects them all. So one call could connect you to someone in Scotland, next time it could be someone in London, etc. But if you want to call again you can ask for someone specific to take your call every time.
Its a very useful service and it can help to clarify things in your own mind as they dont tell you what to do but encourage you to find the best solution.
So they might say What do YOU want to happen?
And then, well how can we make that happen?
They open you up to other solutions.
I really hope that helps sweetie.
Big hugs to you, Mel. xxx
Have you ever....
After visiting FG I usually come away with a sense of...wow I guess my life isnt that bad after all :wah:
I AM AWESOME MAN
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WonderWendy3
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This is an interesting thread for me tonight...and I appreciate it very much...I've been wallowing in self-pity lately...knowing better of course...
I've been going through a really hard time for the last 3-4 years, it gets better and then a curve ball is thrown out of no where....I keep my chin up and know that brighter days are ahead. I'm very thankful for my family who supports me and loves me. I have 3 beautiful boys who NEED their Mom and I press forward for them if for no other reason.
I agree with the quote earlier "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger"...I'm a STRONG Woman...better than dead though.
I've been going through a really hard time for the last 3-4 years, it gets better and then a curve ball is thrown out of no where....I keep my chin up and know that brighter days are ahead. I'm very thankful for my family who supports me and loves me. I have 3 beautiful boys who NEED their Mom and I press forward for them if for no other reason.
I agree with the quote earlier "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger"...I'm a STRONG Woman...better than dead though.
Have you ever....
WonderWendy3;476667 wrote: This is an interesting thread for me tonight...and I appreciate it very much...I've been wallowing in self-pity lately...knowing better of course...
I've been going through a really hard time for the last 3-4 years, it gets better and then a curve ball is thrown out of no where....I keep my chin up and know that brighter days are ahead. I'm very thankful for my family who supports me and loves me. I have 3 beautiful boys who NEED their Mom and I press forward for them if for no other reason.
I agree with the quote earlier "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger"...I'm a STRONG Woman...better than dead though.
the way to look at is it may be bad now but boy will apreciate those good times when they come :wah: :wah:
I've been going through a really hard time for the last 3-4 years, it gets better and then a curve ball is thrown out of no where....I keep my chin up and know that brighter days are ahead. I'm very thankful for my family who supports me and loves me. I have 3 beautiful boys who NEED their Mom and I press forward for them if for no other reason.
I agree with the quote earlier "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger"...I'm a STRONG Woman...better than dead though.
the way to look at is it may be bad now but boy will apreciate those good times when they come :wah: :wah: