I made a huge mistake

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Sun Nov 12, 2006 3:03 pm

Honest to God I thought you were a woman. I dont know if that helps. Probably not. I think Ill go now.

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Sun Nov 12, 2006 3:12 pm

Nomad;457000 wrote: Honest to God I thought you were a woman. I dont know if that helps. Probably not. I think Ill go now.Me too!:-2

snoozecontrol wrote: I hope Mrs Zinky never wanders into FG.

Me too! :-2

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Sun Nov 12, 2006 3:15 pm

flopstock;457018 wrote: That's what you get for hanging out in the arcade all the time...:rolleyes:

Ah, but it keeps me outa trouble. :wah:

Adam Zapple · Post by **Adam Zapple** » Sun Nov 12, 2006 3:44 pm

I think there has been more than one gardener in this garden that has pollenated a flower they had no business tending to. I think zinky is admitting to a moment of human weakness and is truly remorseful for the consequences of his actions. It takes a man to stand up and take his medicine.

DesignerGal · Post by **DesignerGal** » Sun Nov 12, 2006 4:04 pm

I know this may sound harsh or even a little rude, but does anyone else find it tacky that this little situation has been brought to the attention of the entire group? Dont you find it the least bit disturbing that the lady in this situation PM'd some members about it while zinky made his plea in public? Its almost like they are trying to gain allies in case this thing snowballs and gets uglier. JUST MY OPINION, I like zinks, I always have enjoyed his posts. But I do find this kind of tacky and in poor taste, sorry zinster.

theia · Post by **theia** » Sun Nov 12, 2006 4:16 pm

DesignerGal;457072 wrote: I know this may sound harsh or even a little rude, but does anyone else find it tacky that this little situation has been brought to the attention of the entire group? Dont you find it the least bit disturbing that the lady in this situation PM'd some members about it while zinky made his plea in public? Its almost like they are trying to gain allies in case this thing snowballs and gets uglier. JUST MY OPINION, I like zinks, I always have enjoyed his posts. But I do find this kind of tacky and in poor taste, sorry zinster.

i think that's what people in groups do...that's not to say that it's right but isn't it a fairly common way of doing things...

DesignerGal · Post by **DesignerGal** » Sun Nov 12, 2006 4:18 pm

theia;457088 wrote: i think that's what people in groups do...that's not to say that it's right but isn't it a fairly common way of doing things...

What do they do? Whats fairly common? Which part?

weber · Post by **weber** » Sun Nov 12, 2006 4:24 pm

DesignerGal;457072 wrote: I know this may sound harsh or even a little rude, but does anyone else find it tacky that this little situation has been brought to the attention of the entire group? Dont you find it the least bit disturbing that the lady in this situation PM'd some members about it while zinky made his plea in public? Its almost like they are trying to gain allies in case this thing snowballs and gets uglier. JUST MY OPINION, I like zinks, I always have enjoyed his posts. But I do find this kind of tacky and in poor taste, sorry zinster.

I personally would say that the lady in question by PMing some, or more, people is being rather underhanded in that the guy in question can't defend himself. So the guy in question is open to the whole group in order to defend himself or at least to try to explain and I admire that.

I looked everywhere to find the side of the lady in question and it was not there and now I know it was hidden in PMs. Do you really think that is nice?

DesignerGal · Post by **DesignerGal** » Sun Nov 12, 2006 4:33 pm

Pinky;457104 wrote: Can I just add that any pm's that went on from the person concerned were purely a matter of a friend talking to a friend in order to try and work through their feelings. It's not like they pm'd loads of unknown people running the other person down. It was purely a matter of them needing to talk to a few close friends.

C'mon, we all do that!

How many friends here does she need to "talk to" about it? Im not trying to take sides or point the finger at either one and say "its your fault". I dont pretend to know what happen, frankly ALL I know is what I have picked up from these threads. I just thinks its tacky for the lady to send out PM's about a personal mess concerning a member and equally as tacky for the male member to post it publicly. THats all I'm saying. So since I said my piece, thats all I have to say and I will go eat my lasagna now.

DesignerGal · Post by **DesignerGal** » Sun Nov 12, 2006 4:34 pm

weber;457099 wrote: I personally would say that the lady in question by PMing some, or more, people is being rather underhanded in that the guy in question can't defend himself. So the guy in question is open to the whole group in order to defend himself or at least to try to explain and I admire that.

I looked everywhere to find the side of the lady in question and it was not there and now I know it was hidden in PMs. Do you really think that is nice?

What? That she hid them? THat she hasnt defended herself publicly? I dont understand exactly what you are asking?

weber · Post by **weber** » Sun Nov 12, 2006 4:36 pm

Pinky;457104 wrote: Can I just add that any pm's that went on from the person concerned were purely a matter of a friend talking to a friend in order to try and work through their feelings. It's not like they pm'd loads of unknown people running the other person down. It was purely a matter of them needing to talk to a few close friends.

C'mon, we all do that!

True Pinky

but being as nobody but close friends seem to know the lady and no names were mentioned publicly, what's the problem. I couldn't even find out who the lady is.

Post by **Betty Boop** » Sun Nov 12, 2006 4:40 pm

And can't we just leave this thread to die in the interest of both parties, whoever they maybe.

Please...........

Post by **Bryn Mawr** » Sun Nov 12, 2006 4:42 pm

weber;457122 wrote: True Pinky

but being as nobody but close friends seem to know the lady and no names were mentioned publicly, what's the problem. I couldn't even find out who the lady is.

ISTR that Zinky anounced his intentions publicly beforehand.

As several other people have said, what is between them is between them. It is sad that it has happened, for both of them, but I hope that it does not drive either of them out of the Garden.

DesignerGal · Post by **DesignerGal** » Sun Nov 12, 2006 4:43 pm

Pinky;457120 wrote: It's not like she was telling the world and his mother...as far as I know, only two of us knew. I talk to her most days anyway, so why shouldn't she confide something in a couple of people she trusts? I do!

Well that makes you number 4 that it seems she told. Im not completely sure, however, because Im just speculating the amount. I only guessed how many from the tone of some of the replies on this thread and one other.

For the record, I dont see anything wrong with telling *a* friend about your problem.

I still think this whole thing is a bit tacky and offensive, but you guys dont care so no need to make an issue out of it. I feel like IM reading about Reese and Ryan and Britney and Kevin in the tabloids.

guppy · Post by **guppy** » Sun Nov 12, 2006 4:45 pm

oh, for petes sake. let this thread die after this. i am the lady in guestion. i dolnt care who knows. i was hurt and told to hurt him back. ok? we were two lonely hurt people who wiped eachother out. i am guilty , guilty, guilty. i told a few people to vent, and then i told a few more to hurt zinky. got it.?

it left a sour taste in my mouth. made me feel worse. and doesn't speak much for my character.

all i can do is publicaly apologize for my part in it, apologize to zinky and move on.

i am sorry for my part in this. i am sorry for bringing this to the forum.

i am sorry for hurting you zinky.

nobody is perfect. we all have problems. we all make mistakes.

now, please, please, everybody let this go. there has been enough pain thrown around for us all.

guppy swims off with a heavy heart.:-1

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Sun Nov 12, 2006 4:48 pm

:yh_hugs :yh_hugs :yh_hugs just don't swim away from FG.

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Sun Nov 12, 2006 4:53 pm

.........((((GUPPY))))