Advice about a friend

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Fri Nov 03, 2006 2:36 pm

I find it usually just takes time. Once they run out of energy for holding a grudge they will come back. Then again maybe not. It's just the way the world turns.

minks · Post by **minks** » Fri Nov 03, 2006 2:40 pm

Send chocolates, and flowers, a gift certificate to the best shoe store in town (if friend is female) and beg for forgiveness and vow to never be a d1ckhead ever ever again.

Ok seriously send a nice card and a note of apology, ask for forgivness and let them know how important your friendship means to you and how you hope it can go back to being as good as it was.

Uncle Kram · Post by **Uncle Kram** » Fri Nov 03, 2006 2:49 pm

Just say that although you've apologised, you still feel uncomfortable about it but hope that it isn't going to get in the way of a friendship that still means a lot to you. Then do the Pinky laugh

Is your mate male or female?

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Fri Nov 03, 2006 3:04 pm

I cant help. Im going through the same thing just because I lied to a guy about him having to be to work at 3am. People are such turds sometimes. If you cant lie to a friend who can you lie to ?

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Fri Nov 03, 2006 3:08 pm

Im just sayin

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Fri Nov 03, 2006 3:19 pm

Pinky

I think a card with your thoughts is a great idea

Come right out and say "I fcuked up" and "I'm a d1ckhead"

Then give him/her a big hug (or a big cyberhug, depending who it is) :-6

Who could stay mad at The Pinkster after that? :p

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Fri Nov 03, 2006 3:23 pm

Pinky;449108 wrote: I kind of tried doing that, and then left them alone in case they thought I was bugging them. Things are still weird.

Well

People like you and me like to fix things immediately

Other people just need more time

To get past things

So wait and see

Your heart is in the right place :-4

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Fri Nov 03, 2006 3:29 pm

Pinky;449112 wrote: I could just kick myself. It's been making me feel really low - not that I want sympathy because it's my own fault. I just miss my friend.

Pinky

Could you write something in your journal about it

and then print it out for the person to read

or give them the FG site address? :-6

SuzyB · Post by **SuzyB** » Fri Nov 03, 2006 3:34 pm

Pinks not everyone can be like us, the type of person that totally loses it and then afterwards thinks oh **** maybe i shouldn't of said/done it that way, the problem is i'm very much like that, and then can't understand why they are still being stroppy with me a week later

Experience has shown me that when people are still stewing over what i've said to them, for me to keep trying to make things better by asking/pleading with them to be normal with me, i'm normally making it even worse (Yes that is possible). Anyone that knows you, knows your quirky little ways, after all thats part of what makes you so great.

Trust me they will be fine with you, and your friendship will be right on track before you know it, no-one would want to live without a friend like you for too long:-4

By the way if it's a guy add on a week cause they're stroppy buggers:sneaky:

Life is to short to hold grudges, we just need to try to learn along the way, sending you lots of love Pinks:-4

Uncle Kram · Post by **Uncle Kram** » Fri Nov 03, 2006 3:42 pm

Nomad;449092 wrote: I cant help. Im going through the same thing just because I lied to a guy about him having to be to work at 3am. People are such turds sometimes. If you cant lie to a friend who can you lie to ?

That's a bad lie making him turn up an hour late

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Fri Nov 03, 2006 3:46 pm

Im going to lay down on railroad tracks now.