bad day ?

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Fri Oct 20, 2006 11:12 am

i have just met a woman in the pub that i have been a friend with for a few years and we were having a chat about spurs win in europe last night , she said i would like to see a spurs game before i go , to be honest i had noticed about a 6 months ago she had her head shaved , so i said your not moving are you she said no my cancer has come back and its on my spine now she has about a year to live

she gave me a hug and i said no ... she said i'm gonna hang on as long as i can they might be able to find a new drug that can slow it down so i can see my kids grow up

and i thought i was having a bad day

now any one out there you still think your having a bad day

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Fri Oct 20, 2006 11:14 am

I wasnt until I read that.

Sheryl · Post by **Sheryl** » Fri Oct 20, 2006 11:16 am

She sounds like a fighter though, and that will get her a long way.

:yh_hugs :yh_hugs

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Fri Oct 20, 2006 11:21 am

:-1 Oh, what a brave woman.

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Fri Oct 20, 2006 11:33 am

chonsigirl wrote: :-1 Oh, what a brave woman.

hammy asked me today why do bad things happen to nice people

well guess what this person is lovely me and suzy are going back up to talk to her

i going to ask my mates to see if we can some how get her a good ticket for a spurs game

iam taking some of my spurs stuff up the pub programmes etc

this really sucks

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Fri Oct 20, 2006 11:34 am

You are so good, jimbo and Suzy.

Oh, we do not know why bad things like this happen. But if you do your best to help, that is most definitely a good thing.

:-4

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Fri Oct 20, 2006 1:21 pm

Jimbo, I think it's great of you and Suzy to do that. :-4

You may be amazed at how often illness, especially cancer and impending death, makes people scatter away like cockroaches. Good on you guys for not being that way!!!

I lost my mom to cancer this past June. A lot of her friends disappeared as they didn't know how to handle it or what to say. Trying to hang onto a sense of normalcy is what my mom wanted. Cancer is a terrible insidious disease that steals loved ones like a thief in the night. I am going to be thinking of your friend the rest of the day. I don't know why bad things like this happen. I just have to believe it's part of The Plan that I cannot comprehend.

(((Jimbo and Suzy))) :-4

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Fri Oct 20, 2006 1:40 pm

((( Red Glitter ))) :-4

For your Mom :-6

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Fri Oct 20, 2006 2:20 pm

Cher... :-4

Thank you.

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Fri Oct 20, 2006 2:23 pm

RedGlitter wrote: Cher... :-4

Thank you.

Well

You know I understand

Almost three years now without my dear Mom :-4

But you know what?

We're *so* lucky to have HAD such great Moms. I feel blessed every day that I had the opportunity to have her in my life for as long as I did. Truly. :-6

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Fri Oct 20, 2006 2:48 pm

Cher, you are so right!!

We are lucky women indeed.

Rapunzel · Post by **Rapunzel** » Fri Oct 20, 2006 3:36 pm

Poor Lady. How kind you and Suzy are, Jimbo!

Hugs to you both and to your lady friend and to Red Glitter and to MominIowa.

embers · Post by **embers** » Fri Oct 20, 2006 3:56 pm

makes you think doesnt it ><

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Fri Oct 20, 2006 4:27 pm

RedGlitter wrote: Jimbo, I think it's great of you and Suzy to do that. :-4

You may be amazed at how often illness, especially cancer and impending death, makes people scatter away like cockroaches. Good on you guys for not being that way!!!

I lost my mom to cancer this past June. A lot of her friends disappeared as they didn't know how to handle it or what to say. Trying to hang onto a sense of normalcy is what my mom wanted. Cancer is a terrible insidious disease that steals loved ones like a thief in the night. I am going to be thinking of your friend the rest of the day. I don't know why bad things like this happen. I just have to believe it's part of The Plan that I cannot comprehend.

(((Jimbo and Suzy))) :-4

red one of suzys friends came to visit us tonight

her bf 's son has terminal cancer and the dad called paddy has bone cancer

the son will not live till christmas i dont know how bad the dad is but it must be bad

they had to cut the sons right arm off today so he could live longer the dad is so upset even me and suzy could not console him

our other friends

i think our other friend is really happy we could sort out the spurs tickets she has had to go home she is tired

i have spent a bit of time with him the bf for he must be suffering terribly

all you people out there savour every minute with your loved ones for you never know when it will end

we are so upset we cant even talk

take care every one jim and sue

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Fri Oct 20, 2006 4:41 pm

Jim and Sue,

I am so sorry. Good grief. Why can't people get a break??? All you can do is be there for when they need you. And of course I and all your friends here will be there for you when you need us. I am so sorry, guys. :-1

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Fri Oct 20, 2006 4:49 pm

RedGlitter wrote: Jim and Sue,

I am so sorry. Good grief. Why can't people get a break??? All you can do is be there for when they need you. And of course I and all your friends here will be there for you when you need us. I am so sorry, guys.

thanks red you are a special person

to say its been a bad week would be an understatment

i have talked to the people involved and tried my best to console the inconsoleable

i cant deal with this stuff i will go back to my thing telling crap jokes suzy can try and put into words what all this means tomorrow

goodnight may your god bless you

:-1 jimbo and suzy

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Sat Oct 21, 2006 12:35 am

the first thoughts on my mind when i opened my eyes this morning were the to poor people dying i felt terrible sadness consume me sue was pushing out the the zzzzzz's like a tranqualized gazelle and i was alone with my thoughts

my first thought was about the lady spurs supporter i made up my mind as soon as its a social hour my friend can get me a ticket now and then her fella and i have it planned we will take her to spurs she can watch the game i wont be able to get tickets for all of us we can sit in a nearby pub and have a chat i thought to myself how very lucky we met and i can help her

then my thoughts went to paddy his son laying in a hospice waiting to die ,paddy had all his lymph nodes ? removed got bone cancer does not know how long he will live , the only thing he likes to watch is the U F C ultimate fighting championship , he used to do boxing as a younger man ,he is only 34 now , he said before he died he would like to go to a mixed martial arts event , lucky i know a few of the fighters i can help him and i will get the tickets and will take him there , he has also always wanted to learn how to do he has been wanting to for years , my friend gatesy and i run a small club doing exactly that we are the only people i know of that are insured and have our own hall to use in this church , for gatsey is very religious

both these people are very ill and have been some how steered into my life the only person that could do these little things for them does any one else think this strange at all ...... i do :-3

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Sat Oct 21, 2006 1:40 am

Hi Jimbo,

I was halfway through my reply when it vanished.

I'll try to keep it succinct this time. That you and Suzy should be brought into these people's lives at this particular time does not strike me odd or weird in the slightest. I don't know what your private beliefs are and I don't want to step on any toes here....but...in my beliefs, there are no accidents or coincidences. There is a reason for all of us to be here. We won't always know what the reason is or the how and why things happen as they do. Especially when things seem cruel and wrong and unfair like they do now. But maybe it's not for us to know why things happen as they do. I don't know, Jimbo. I'm trying to tell you what I think without preaching or fully explaining myself and I am failing miserably.

No offense if you are not too religious or spiritual, but there's a saying that goes something like "Trust in God that you are right where you are supposed to be." I think without a doubt that you and Suzy are right where you are supposed to be. You are in a position to help your friends and show compassion and kindness. I think it's more than just being able to get Spurs tickets. That's just the surface. I think you and Suzy are meant to play a bigger part in these people's lives just by being there for them. It's going to help your friends and it's going to change you to a degree and make you both even better human beings.

I think you two are great. :-4

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Sat Oct 21, 2006 5:14 am

jimbo wrote: all you people out there savour every minute with your loved ones for you never know when it will end

You are a wise man

Jimbo :-4