Crappy personality or mental illness?

DesignerGal · Post by **DesignerGal** » Tue Oct 17, 2006 9:28 am

Lulu2 wrote: What about a person who is so filled with hostility that they can't restrain themselves in public?

What did I ever do to you that you feel like you have to call me out?!?!?!:D

Just kidding..:-6

Lulu2 · Post by **Lulu2** » Tue Oct 17, 2006 9:34 am

DG, I wasn't even THINKING of YOU! Try again....:wah:

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Tue Oct 17, 2006 10:11 am

SnoozeControl wrote: I was reading somewhere that it's sometimes difficult to interact online since so many people have removed any 'polite' filters they use in real life. Okay, that's easy enough to understand and accept to a certain degree... I think we've all had our rude/angry cyber moments.

But what about someone that's mentally/emotionally ill? I've encountered some people that eventually expose a degree of 'different' that makes me sit back and say "wow, that was weird... and kind of scary." :-2

And it's also kind of weird that they seem to gravitate toward me.

So... I was wondering what's the best way to deal with people like that? I have a tendency to avoid unpleasant people, but that doesn't always work.

Dear Snooze, Grace under pressure is a rare gift. I think you just have to make a judgement based on your experience. I think that your bluntness and honesty are what attracts people to you, but then some people can use that as a basis for making unappropriate comments. But I wouldn't have you any way.

Saffron · Post by **Saffron** » Tue Oct 17, 2006 11:08 am

SnoozeControl wrote: I was reading somewhere that it's sometimes difficult to interact online since so many people have removed any 'polite' filters they use in real life. Okay, that's easy enough to understand and accept to a certain degree... I think we've all had our rude/angry cyber moments.

But what about someone that's mentally/emotionally ill? I've encountered some people that eventually expose a degree of 'different' that makes me sit back and say "wow, that was weird... and kind of scary." :-2

And it's also kind of weird that they seem to gravitate toward me.

So... I was wondering what's the best way to deal with people like that? I have a tendency to avoid unpleasant people, but that doesn't always work.
No it isn't just you. I've been attacked sooo many times. I can remember a very very strange guy online many years ago. He emailed me because he saw my old website and wanted me to go work for him as a web designer for a small business he just started. I said no and then he sent me this really long email about how wealthy he is, incuding his home phone number and his home address. So when I again told him I'm not interested in working for him, he sent me this vitriolic email ripping me to shreds and saying that he is coming after me. It was very very aggressive and totally insane. He even "critiqued" my website saying how much he hated it, when only hours before he was saying how much he liked it. I can remember in one part of his email he wrote that I "cannot deal with rejection very well". When it was only me rejecting his offer to work for him. So of course I was so shocked. And I called him at his home number and his mother answered. This was surprising too, as he'd told me he owned his own home, several cars, a boat and other such nonsense. I told her my name and asked her to ask her son to please stop attacking me. Then I emailed him saying I was going to the police station with his phone number and address and reporting him. He changed his email address that day, and left me a message on my home phone saying he can't believe I'd called him at home, and some other strange confusing things. I have the feeling that he thought I was a younger woman in her 20's, as that was the way my website looked at that time. I'd just learned HTML and was pretty much using my old site as a way to learn it.:-2

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Tue Oct 17, 2006 11:29 am

Saffron wrote: No it isn't just you. I've been attacked sooo many times. I can remember a very very strange guy online many years ago. He emailed me because he saw my old website and wanted me to go work for him as a web designer for a small business he just started. I said no and then he sent me this really long email about how wealthy he is, incuding his home phone number and his home address. So when I again told him I'm not interested in working for him, he sent me this vitriolic email ripping me to shreds and saying that he is coming after me. It was very very aggressive and totally insane. He even "critiqued" my website saying how much he hated it, when only hours before he was saying how much he liked it. I can remember in one part of his email he wrote that I "cannot deal with rejection very well". When it was only me rejecting his offer to work for him. So of course I was so shocked. And I called him at his home number and his mother answered. This was surprising too, as he'd told me he owned his own home, several cars, a boat and other such nonsense. I told her my name and asked her to ask her son to please stop attacking me. Then I emailed him saying I was going to the police station with his phone number and address and reporting him. He changed his email address that day, and left me a message on my home phone saying he can't believe I'd called him at home, and some other strange confusing things. I have the feeling that he thought I was a younger woman in her 20's, as that was the way my website looked at that time. I'd just learned HTML and was pretty much using my old site as a way to learn it.:-2

When I was a lot younger my boyfriend and I went to a goup camping thing and I met some bloke who didn't stick in my mind at all but we were all chatting about life and what we all did for a living and stuff like that.

Few days later I got a letter from him sent to my work saying he wanted to go out with me. Then I saw him outside my work and I got more letters. It completely freaked me out so in the end my boyfriend posted his letters back to him unopened and asked him not to contact me anymore. It never got to the point that I was scared of him but I certainly felt very wary for quite a while.

What that bloke did to you must have scared you a lot, by comparison to my experience was no where near as bad but I remember how vulnerable it made me feel to this day.

Saffron · Post by **Saffron** » Tue Oct 17, 2006 11:42 am

Imladris wrote: When I was a lot younger my boyfriend and I went to a goup camping thing and I met some bloke who didn't stick in my mind at all but we were all chatting about life and what we all did for a living and stuff like that.

Few days later I got a letter from him sent to my work saying he wanted to go out with me. Then I saw him outside my work and I got more letters. It completely freaked me out so in the end my boyfriend posted his letters back to him unopened and asked him not to contact me anymore. It never got to the point that I was scared of him but I certainly felt very wary for quite a while.

What that bloke did to you must have scared you a lot, by comparison to my experience was no where near as bad but I remember how vulnerable it made me feel to this day.
I wasn't scared, but really mad. It was because he was threatening me. And I didn't like that.

I used to frequent a forum called Egyptmad.com. I actually had phone conversations with a guy I met on the forum after we exchanged numbers. But he stopped calling. Then months later a lot of people turned on me and there was an older Egyptian wealthy woman who owned beautiful ARabian horses and all of that. She actually wrote on that forum that she was going to "kill me". It was like it was just a normal thing in her culture to say that you will "kill" someone. Like it was an every day occurence. I was very angry about that and wrote to the owner of the forum, who lives in London and told him I may take this info to the authorities here along with his name. But I thought it was a huge waste of time. Instead I emailed her and told her that while it may be normal in her culture to "KILL" people, and threaten to KILL people, that it is actually illegal here, even to threaten someone with that, one can be arrested. And that that is a huge difference in the way she was used to living and how I am used to living. STRANGE! :-5

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Tue Oct 17, 2006 11:47 am

Saffron, you're braver than me I'd have been scared!

You are unlucky with your weirdo experiences aren't you. Do you have the same moron magnet that I do, must remember to get rid of it!!

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Tue Oct 17, 2006 12:56 pm

I wont bother you anymore. No problem.

DesignerGal · Post by **DesignerGal** » Tue Oct 17, 2006 1:06 pm

Nomad wrote: I wont bother you anymore. No problem.
Thanks. You were starting to chap my hyde.

guppy · Post by **guppy** » Tue Oct 17, 2006 1:08 pm

Lulu2 wrote: What about a person who is so filled with hostility that they can't restrain themselves in public?

it's alot better than the ones who look all angelic in public and let the real them out in private.

imho

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Tue Oct 17, 2006 1:10 pm

DesignerGal wrote: Thanks. You were starting to chap my hyde.

Sure I admire Hannibals work as much as the next guy but its just a pipe dream

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Tue Oct 17, 2006 1:49 pm

i have just found out that a lot of the people i really like on the forum have had mentel health issues :wah:

to be honest so have i

i have had severe depression and refused to take the antidepressants i was prescribed

i have just seen some thing on tv while sue hogged the computer

it said laughter is the body's own pain killer when you laugh it stimulates the

pituitary gland and it gives you a heroin like fix

uh oh maybe thats why i like laughing so much any one else heard of this

:wah: :wah: cheap fix huh

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Tue Oct 17, 2006 3:13 pm

Cheap being the operative word. :rolleyes:

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Tue Oct 17, 2006 3:23 pm

Nomad wrote: Cheap being the operative word. :rolleyes:

i think your being punreasonable there buddy:wah: :wah: :wah:

Post by **spot** » Tue Oct 17, 2006 5:10 pm

Here's an example, Snooze - http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/london/6059726.stm

I'm glad we're not like that here.

Post by **spot** » Tue Oct 17, 2006 5:21 pm

Pinky wrote: OMG!!! That's just crazy. Maybe I should watch what I say from now on..:-3Hah... come over here and say that!

pantsonfire321@aol.com · Wed Oct 18, 2006 1:32 am

Hamster wrote: No but I do believe it can teach us things...I am stronger now I have got through it. It forced me to deal with issues that caused it and I had blocked out until then...

Almost like an emotional enema if thats not too crude??

I bet theres some perverted sod out there willing to pay good money for that ... an enema i mean

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Wed Oct 18, 2006 3:24 am

SnoozeControl wrote: Well, that's not quite what I meant with the title... I certainly didn't want to be insulting to so many people that have and still do suffer from depression.

I was thinking more along the lines of paranoid schizophrenia or something.

I knew it! You were talking about me all along!

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Wed Oct 18, 2006 3:48 am

Hamster wrote: No Acc...we were talking about the "other" you....:DWhich one? :-3 We don't want to make her angry.

Saffron · Post by **Saffron** » Wed Oct 18, 2006 11:10 am

Nomad wrote: I wont bother you anymore. No problem.
Don't worry.:sneaky:

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Wed Oct 18, 2006 11:15 am

Saffron wrote: Don't worry.:sneaky:

Saffron, on an unrealted topic, how did you get on with your genetics essay?

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Wed Oct 18, 2006 12:37 pm

SnoozeControl wrote: Yeah, what kind of a grade did Galbally get?;)

That's funny

Saffron · Post by **Saffron** » Wed Oct 18, 2006 2:55 pm

Galbally wrote: Saffron, on an unrealted topic, how did you get on with your genetics essay?
it got a low C. I used your paragraph, but didn't cite my sources, because I was a afraid the teacher would say "who is Galbally"? So she placed little notes at the end of each paragraph asking for sources cited. I did type a bibliography at the end. But didn't use any quotes from those. Just a quote from the Darwin looong novel. And I have another one coming up this Monday. But I don't know what the essay question will be yet.

All we've been doing is reading and listening to lecture about chimps, apes, bonobos and it's boooring. :-5

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Thu Oct 19, 2006 4:49 am

Saffron wrote: it got a low C. I used your paragraph, but didn't cite my sources, because I was a afraid the teacher would say "who is Galbally"? So she placed little notes at the end of each paragraph asking for sources cited. I did type a bibliography at the end. But didn't use any quotes from those. Just a quote from the Darwin looong novel. And I have another one coming up this Monday. But I don't know what the essay question will be yet.

All we've been doing is reading and listening to lecture about chimps, apes, bonobos and it's boooring. :-5

I'll have to try harder next time to do a better paragraph. Well at least you passed.

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Thu Oct 19, 2006 4:51 am

Saffron wrote: All we've been doing is reading and listening to lecture about chimps, apes, bonobos and it's boooring. :-5This'll fix that.

http://www.forumgarden.com/forums/showt ... hp?t=19816

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Thu Oct 19, 2006 4:52 am

Accountable wrote: This'll fix that.

http://www.forumgarden.com/forums/showt ... hp?t=19816

Lulu2 rocks :guitarist :-4

Saffron · Post by **Saffron** » Thu Oct 19, 2006 3:54 pm

Galbally wrote: I'll have to try harder next time to do a better paragraph. Well at least you passed.
Yes, we are now studying about the apes and what used to be our ancestors. And the anthropoligist have constructed pictures from only the skulls of the prehistoric monkeys and what look like a lizard/monkey/cat kind of animals. They have weird names and lived literally millions of years ago. There were eras or epochs that we need to know about and what kind of monkey/ape/lizard animals lives in each era. And what is even more confusing is that some evolved in Africa, some in India and some in North American or what is called the New World. Also some in Asia.

So after the test this Monday night, we all take home our essay question. I'll come here after class and post my question for you. For all of you.:-3

:-4