I need advice...

P_aIg_E · Post by **P_aIg_E** » Wed Oct 04, 2006 5:35 pm

Sup...I know this is gunna sound gay, but hey, im only 13 here ppl so bear with me. I need u to go waaaaaay back to when u were in junior high, about 8th grade. U there? ok good. First i shud tell u, im on probation, so it really duznt help me much.

Ok, My ex-friends, Lets call them Brandy and Mandy, r mad at me cuz im hangin out with other ppl. So they start actin like total bitches to me. Ok, so i tell my friend, lets call her Jamey, i tell her that "Brandy" and "Mandy" are being total bitches. So Brandy tells me i need to shut my mouth, and quit talking ****. So i tell her, "The only **** im talkin is that ur bein a bitch, and its tru so its not ****!" and she gets all mad. Well her and Mandy start pushin me in the halls, and normally i would kick ther ass for it but im on probation, so i cant tuch em. WHAT SHOULD I DO??????? :-5 :-5 :-5 :-5

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Wed Oct 04, 2006 6:09 pm

Flopstock left good advice. If they bother you much more, go to the counselor and talk to them about the situation, to prevent any more trouoble. It will help keep you out of trouble.

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Wed Oct 04, 2006 7:35 pm

To your knowledge, were you friends with them until the pushing?

You'll have to be nice to them and there's no reason not to be.

Girl's get jealous when you start hanging out/talking with others. Stop talking about the 2 girl's, so nothing gets back to them, I'm not saying you were talking lies etc., just stop the conversation if the topic is them.

You might want to include them, introduce them to your new friends/group.

It's a jealous thing, keep your temper.. You can be friends with all.

Patsy

P_aIg_E · Post by **P_aIg_E** » Thu Oct 05, 2006 4:37 am

Patsy Warnick wrote: To your knowledge, were you friends with them until the pushing?

You'll have to be nice to them and there's no reason not to be.

Girl's get jealous when you start hanging out/talking with others. Stop talking about the 2 girl's, so nothing gets back to them, I'm not saying you were talking lies etc., just stop the conversation if the topic is them.

You might want to include them, introduce them to your new friends/group.

It's a jealous thing, keep your temper.. You can be friends with all.

Patsy
We r no longer friends....so i cant talk to them and they cant talk to me, and my counselor said that they r gunna watch for them puching me because if they do they will get suspended, "Brandy" was my bff, but sh decided to b a bitch, and she wont quit pushing me, "Mandy" goes along with w/e Brandy ses!!!!!!

DesignerGal · Post by **DesignerGal** » Thu Oct 05, 2006 12:41 pm

I'd just like to ask one thing. Why are you on probation at 13 years old? Dont 13 year olds still play with Barbies?

beautiful_soul · Post by **beautiful_soul** » Thu Oct 05, 2006 10:10 pm

Pinky wrote: You'd be surprised what thirteen year olds know these days DG.

I had this convo with a pupil on Tuesday, I think it was. I asked how they knew about, much less heard of some of the things I overheard them talking about, and whatever happened to just being a kid?

It's a scary old world that we live in these days.

Thats right, 13 yr olds are totally different from when i was 13, its sort of disturbing and that didn't mean to offend anyone, just weird as i still reckon 13yrs olds are little kids.

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Thu Oct 05, 2006 11:35 pm

OK, Brandy was your best friend - and she's the one pushing you.?

Unfortunately your best friend Brandy feels neglected, rejected, and pushed aside as you went off to your new group of friends. Brandy doesn't know how to handle that rejection feeling, without being violent, retaliate, and needs back up - support involving this other friend. No 3 girls ever get along with eachother.

Now things have gotten complicated with the counselors involved, probation involved etc..

I don't need to be told why your on probation, your opening statement says everything - It was your mouth - your temper and you retaliated on someone.

When will you - and all young girl's realize boy's / guy's don't like girl's that slap, fight and box.?? That's not attractive - that's not the solution, and it's not tolerated is society at any age.

This situation with Brandy is just a misunderstanding - lack of communication.

I don't thing you had a chance to explain yourself to her - before she got her attitude. Is there any chance for you and Brandy to meet with your counselor and talk / discuss this friction.? The adult thing to do, is to ask your counselor to discuss this with the two of you - you have a few more years in school around eachother, she was your friend once, can't she be your friend again ??

Is friendship possible? Can your attitudes change ?

Patsy