My self pity thread

OpenMind · Post by **OpenMind** » Sat Sep 30, 2006 5:10 am

You're a good and wise man Jim.

Uncle Kram · Post by **Uncle Kram** » Sat Sep 30, 2006 5:14 am

OpenMind wrote: You're a good and wise man Jim.
Yeah, I'll go with that

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Sat Sep 30, 2006 5:23 am

guys thanks for your kind words

i find it really hard to deal with emotional pain but i'm trying as hard as i can

it really hurts to bare my soul like this but when some one else feels that their whole world has come crashing down , i feel we must all try to help them through their pain and some one else thinks ouch that's gotta hurt like hell but if he can get through so can i , and it gives them even a glimmer of hope then that's great , then someone else gives them a glimmer and so on and before long they will be basking in the warmth of a thousand glimmers and it may not in the long plan of things seem so bad

sorry i know what i mean i just suck at saying it

Uncle Kram · Post by **Uncle Kram** » Sat Sep 30, 2006 5:27 am

jimbo wrote: guys thanks for your kind words

i find it really hard to deal with emotional pain but i'm trying as hard as i can

it really hurts to bare my soul like this but when some one else feels that their whole world has come crashing down , i feel we must all try to help them through their pain and some one else thinks ouch that's gotta hurt like hell but if he can get through so can i , and it gives them even a glimmer of hope then that's great , then someone else gives them a glimmer and so on and before long they will be basking in the warmth of a thousand glimmers and it may not in the long plan of things seem so bad

sorry i know what i mean i just suck at saying it

Err...is it something to do with glimmers?

OpenMind · Post by **OpenMind** » Sat Sep 30, 2006 6:39 am

Uncle Kram wrote: Err...is it something to do with glimmers?

:yh_rotfl

You're doing fine, Jim. I can tell you that you are well loved by a lot of the FG members here. Your posts are appreciated. Punctuation isn't important.

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Sat Sep 30, 2006 6:46 am

Good morning my lovely Minxsy

Just a note to say 'hi' and I love you and I think you are just wonderful :-4

Your dear friend

Cher :-6

cars · Post by **cars** » Sat Sep 30, 2006 7:44 am

See minks, a new day, and your'e on your way to mending!

Each day it will get a little easier. C'mon tomorrow!

Lulu2 · Post by **Lulu2** » Sat Sep 30, 2006 9:16 am

I stopped in to say "HEY!"

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Sun Oct 01, 2006 11:42 pm

Where are you Minks,

hope you're ok:-4

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 1:31 am

:-4 Minxsy :-4

We are here if you need us

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 9:01 am

I want to respond to all of you individually in this thread, so bear with me being slow and looking like I am talking to myself. But you each offered up such lovely sincere words I feel the need to personally thank you all.....

I am completely over whelmed by your guy's support.

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 9:03 am

Hamster wrote: Minks.... I don't know what to say other than I am thinking of you and sending you love....:-4 :-4

Its ok to cry......

and cry I have, but also with that comes healing

Today is a better day.

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 9:05 am

zinkyusa wrote: So sorry minks, here is a hug:yh_hugs

Thank you Zeee those always help

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 9:07 am

[QUOTE=helefra]Hi minks - I can fully duplicate what you must be feeling right now. I was with a partner for 7 years before we went our separate ways. I think I was trying to hold on to something within our relationship that was no longer there. Anyway, to cut a long story short, I now see it was a good decision. Don't take this the wrong way, the hurt can last a while but get involved in things more. My present partner said to me one day, "It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all".

I think that it is okay for you to cry, you wouldn't be human if you didn't cry.:-1

My heart goes out to you during this sad time.:-4

Oh Helefra, you are right I am not alone and It's bad for everybody to separate from a loved one. I have to remember a comment a very old wise and wonderful friend told me once..." A problem shared is a problem halved" He was brilliant and yu made me see that again. Hurt and memories, argh everywhere I go memories and I have to walk fast past those places till it becomes easier. Step by step eh.

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 9:09 am

flopstock wrote: FYI Minks

A big box of cards reached its destination.. you've made someone elses day too.:-4

Oooooooo myyyyyy that is good news, well I have to say..... Oh no tears time.... that package contained a card from Cheshire Cat

among others. Gosh what a time we have had here in FG hmmmmmmm :-1

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 9:09 am

Hamster wrote: I am so glad!!!!! Each day will get better :-4

I do believe that, heck if I can go through the ugly divorce surely I can go through another break hmmmmm :-6

Raven · Post by **Raven** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 9:10 am

minks wrote: [quote=helefra]Hi minks - I can fully duplicate what you must be feeling right now. I was with a partner for 7 years before we went our separate ways. I think I was trying to hold on to something within our relationship that was no longer there. Anyway, to cut a long story short, I now see it was a good decision. Don't take this the wrong way, the hurt can last a while but get involved in things more. My present partner said to me one day, "It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all".

I think that it is okay for you to cry, you wouldn't be human if you didn't cry.:-1

My heart goes out to you during this sad time.:-4

Oh Helefra, you are right I am not alone and It's bad for everybody to separate from a loved one. I have to remember a comment a very old wise and wonderful friend told me once..." A problem shared is a problem halved" He was brilliant and yu made me see that again. Hurt and memories, argh everywhere I go memories and I have to walk fast past those places till it becomes easier. Step by step eh.
No you dont, darling. It's because of those memories, you got past the other. And something lovely and wonderful is going to get you through this trouble too. Just wait and see. It's your turn now.

Uncle Kram · Post by **Uncle Kram** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 9:11 am

OpenMind wrote: :yh_rotfl

You're doing fine, Jim. I can tell you that you are well loved by a lot of the FG members here. Your posts are appreciated. Punctuation isn't important.

I disagree, it's always best to arrive on time

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 9:27 am

ArnoldLayne wrote: I am sorry for the pain you feel Mel

Its not self pity and it isnt acting like a child. Just let your emotions release themselves, its natural.

Feel good about yourself and about your self worth and set about repairing your emotions in a time and a way that suits you

Thanks Arn, I had a weekend of venting with my family. It does feel better, and I know I will get over this. I think I have the extra strength thanks to my friends here

Raven · Post by **Raven** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 9:35 am

Aw honey. I promise....it's going to be okay. You'll see. Just keep breathing.

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 9:45 am

sunny104 wrote: aww hon, I'm so sorry to hear that!

sending you lots of love and hugs...:-4

Thank you Sunny, the hugs and love is amazing therapy

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 9:47 am

Casey Morgan wrote: You are not acting like a child. You are acting like a person who has just experienced a loss, the loss of a love. Let it out Minks. As horrible as it feels right now that's how you begin to heal.

I know those old cliches. Yes there's truth in them. But the comfort and healing they provide come later. Right now I think what's more applicable is the exchange between J and K in Men In Black.

J: They say it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

K: Try it some time!

I don't know what your flower garden is like but you've got some friends here in this garden. Friends you know are there for you. Lean on your friends Minks.

:yh_flower

edit: It took me a while to type my reply, and there weren't any replies when I started. So even though it looks like I'm referring to earlier replies I'm really not.

Thanks CM my flower garden is full of beautiful friends who are supportive beyond words, so much so they each need a special thank you from me. Today is another fresh start, wounds heal some just slower than others. Now memories on the other hand egads they take their time to fade.

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 9:48 am

naty2005 wrote: cry all you want. their is no age limit. Then when the crying is over smell your roses and keep going. much love.

thank you naty and nice to meet you welcome to FG you stepped into my little sad for a day world but it will get better again my thanks.

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 9:48 am

SuzyB wrote: My thoughts are with you Minxsy

my thanks

I am so amazed at all the lovely support here

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 9:49 am

tmbsgrl wrote: Minks you know I am here for you.. :-4

Aw Susie hun, I know your right at my side always

I wish it were april tomorrow

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 9:50 am

OpenMind wrote: Minks.

I am so sad to hear about your unhappiness.

I would hold you if I were with you. Instead, please accept these. May they help to ease your pain.

Awww you are so sweet OM.... your support is over the moon.

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 9:51 am

valerie wrote: This news breaks my heart for you, Minks.

Oh thank you Val, we can share broke hearts

It feels a little better today, and after thinking and time apart it is going to get easier.

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 9:51 am

minks wrote: Now memories on the other hand egads they take their time to fade.

Minxsy

Remember to savor and treasure all the good ones :-6

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 9:51 am

SuzyB wrote: After a while you learn.......

the subtle difference between holding a hand,

and chaining a soul.

And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning,

and company doesn't mean security.

And you begin to learn

That kisses aren't contracts,

and presents aren't promises.

And you begin to accept your defeats,

with your head up and your eyes ahead.

With the grace of a woman,

not the grief of a child.

And you learn

To build all your roads on today,

because tomorrows ground is to uncertain for plans,

And futures have a way of falling down in mid flight.

After a while you learn

that even sunshine burns if you ask to much,

so you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul,

instead of waiting for someone else to bring you flowers.

And you learn

that you really can endure

that you reeally are strong

and that you really do have worth

And you learn

And you learn

With every goodbye

You learn .................

Hope this helps a little

that is lovely gosh again :-1

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 9:53 am

Nomad wrote: This is hard, one of the hardest things. Our hearts are fragile and we protect them as best we can but we cant hide from the pain of lost love. The pain you feel is only because of the love you felt. To live is to suffer, yet we yearn for the thing that gives us so much heartache and there is no cure but time. When your time comes to love another, this pain you feel now will provide you with the wisdom and strength to love in a way you didnt quite know this time around. When your wounds are healed, you will have changed in some small way and this will be something to nurture. As painful as this experience is for you now, one day you will draw on it for insight and it will have become another piece of the foundation you stand on in your quest through life.

WOW ... thanks nomad, thanks very much.... you have me speachless for more reasons than one.

Geeze the support and kindness has me in tears, I am the biggest sap on the planet.

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 9:55 am

Peg wrote: I wish there was something we could do or say to take the pain away. :-1 Just know that we are all here for you.:-4

Peg thanks so much, this has helped and today replying to everyone like this is feeling much better :)X

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 9:55 am

Lulu2 wrote: Oh, Honey! :-1 Want to go out for Margaritas and have some GIRL TIME? We can trash-talk men and get some RETAIL THERAPY! :sneaky:

YES!!!!

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 9:56 am

theia wrote: Oh, Minks, I am so, so sorry that you're hurting...

:yh_hugs

Thanks Theia, I am sure I will heal

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 9:57 am

Betty Boop wrote: Oh Minks I'm so sorry, hugs to ya girl! :-4 :-4

Another page turned in the life of me ... thanks BB I have to admit I spoke to my parents about a trip they kind of raised eyebrows but hey I am a big girl aren't I I can do it again hehehehe

Huggs back

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 9:58 am

koan wrote: I recommend the Patsy Cline Heartaches CD. Play it until self indulgence can be had no more. It seems there is always something better that comes along so this might end up being a good thing. Anything is possible.

Koan if nothing else he gave me insight into what exactly I want next time...

Thank you

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 9:59 am

chonsigirl wrote: Lots of hugs and love for you, Minks.......................

:-4

Thank you bunny, it feels nice to be supported like this.

Huggs back and love too.

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 10:00 am

Ocnbrz wrote: I'm sorry your hurting so Minks

:yh_hugs

oh thank you OC it's hurting less today, I hope that keeps up

And welcome to FG

zinkyusa · Post by **zinkyusa** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 10:04 am

minxie, ya wan i go vampire bat on his a$#:mad:

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 10:13 am

zinkyusa wrote: minxie, ya wan i go vampire bat on his a$#:mad:

Haw Zee naw I think he has enough darkness in his life but thanks for the offer hehehehehe

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 10:17 am

Babies_Mama00 wrote: Minks,

I am sure you have many people around you who love you more than anything(your daughters for 2) The way I see it is crying is the best way to get over things. God knows I cry enough when bad things happen. I know that it will take time minks but like everyone always says, what wont kill you will only make you stronger!!

Aww this post hurts me too,... my hurt is her hurt.... BB is my oldest daughter and I cried again today re-reading her post. Not only is this man out of my life he is out of hers, albiet they had a distant relationship but he still helped her out on occasion... BB I hope you won't miss him to badly.

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 10:17 am

weeder wrote: Sorry Mel..... This musnt have been the right one. But with your personality, looks and zest for living... the right one will come along. It must be sad for him to have lost someone so " alive" .

Aw weeder thank you that is lovely, I agree he mustn't be meant for me. Thanks for the support.

Babies_Mama00 · Post by **Babies_Mama00** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 10:21 am

minks wrote: Aww this post hurts me too,... my hurt is her hurt.... BB is my oldest daughter and I cried again today re-reading her post. Not only is this man out of my life he is out of hers, albiet they had a distant relationship but he still helped her out on occasion... BB I hope you won't miss him to badly.

Awwwww mommy I must admit yes I will miss him, he was a great guy and all but the things he did were not fair in my eyes. I love you and anyone who makes you cry is not worth it. You deserve the world and I know I may not give the things that a companion can give but I trymy hardest to give you the most I can. Even tho some days I am a right royal pain in your behind. I love you and so does mini minks hehe. As does Fred, he told me that I should do something with you this weekend(the one that just past) but you went camping instead hehehe. If I wasnt so close to popping this baby out I may have decided to ditch him and join you guys but having a baby in the middle of no where would not be fun.....for any of us lol.

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 10:23 am

Oh, how sweet Babies Mama!:)

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 10:27 am

Far Rider wrote: :yh_hugs

I wish It could be a real hug!

me too and thanks a billion x

Babies_Mama00 · Post by **Babies_Mama00** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 10:27 am

Oh believe me she is a wonderful woman. I recall numerous sleepless nights when my boyfriend and I broke up for a little while there. The poor woman stayed up with me all hours of the night and let me tag along WHEREVER she was going. Now him and I are having her grand baby and I love her more than anything. Shes always helped me threw EVERYTHING!! She deserves the absolute best. And I swear Im not just sayin it cuz I want money mom!!

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 10:28 am

chonsigirl wrote: Oh, how sweet Babies Mama!:)

she always makes me cry

Babies_Mama00 · Post by **Babies_Mama00** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 10:29 am

minks wrote: she always makes me cry

NOT ON PURPOSE!!