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Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Fri Sep 15, 2006 11:27 pm

i cried my eyes out for half an hour and i don't feel i can talk about it or tell any

one i know except a load of people i'm never gona meet on this forum

i had a daughter who died when she was a baby and i bought my other daughter

up as a single dad until she was 5 her mom then come and took her to the usof a

where i had no contact for ten years i did not know if she was dead or alive you

can imagine every bad storm in or around new york or 9/11 it was hard . but after

ten long heartbreaking years by pure fluke and some good deeds by some good

people we got back in touch and i flew out to the u s to meet her last month

we got on great i rang her every day since and i tried to get to know her then last

night when i got home i opened a letter from the us from my daughter

it said dear dad i cant tell you how wonderful it is just to have some one to call

dad and she went on to say how she had missed me over the years and wanted

to make some new memories with me etc .i've waited 10 long years for that

letter , why the hell was i crying tears of joy ? tears of sadness for all the years i

've missed for she was a child when she was taken and is a beautiful woman

now ,the child i knew does not exist any more or was it just tears of relief for i

wondered if she would like me even or i might be a disappointment too her but

the thing is i have an outlet for all these feelings i neither understand or can tell

any one about except for you guys .. thanks i feel better all ready

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Fri Sep 15, 2006 11:34 pm

Jimbo :-4 :-4 :-4

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Fri Sep 15, 2006 11:54 pm

Jimbo

How wonderful, tears of joy.

Your daughter is so happy - I'm so happy for you.

Like I've said before - be thankful the time you have with your loved one.

I thank you so much for sharing.

Patsy

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Sat Sep 16, 2006 12:50 am

thanks guys

G-man · Post by **G-man** » Sat Sep 16, 2006 1:12 am

What a truly wonderful feeling after all those years of heartbreak!

I'm so happy for you, Jimbo.

Rapunzel · Post by **Rapunzel** » Sat Sep 16, 2006 1:58 am

helefra wrote: That was a sad start to your life but a happy one at the end.:-4

I wouldn't be so concerned with the past but more with the future - Jimbo. You haven't said whether she is married or not but if she is married or with someone, just know that you will be there when she has children and you can see your own grandchildren. I think that would be the greatest gift for you.

What Helefra said.

Look to the future, it will get better and better. :-6

Big hug for you.

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Sat Sep 16, 2006 2:06 am

no helefra my daughter is 16 not married yet thank heaven and as for the

grandfather thing though biologically possible i feel much too young ha ha

but on a much more serious note the new season of stargate atlantis starts soon any idea when :wah:

Uncle Kram · Post by **Uncle Kram** » Sat Sep 16, 2006 3:28 am

That's heartwarming Jimbo.

My ex-wife who had relatives in America, threatened to take my kids to live there at the end of every argument as a way of controlling me. I spent years from the first threat when my son was only a year old to when the marriage ended expecting the worst. As this was my Achilles heel, it was exploited to the maximum. Even during our divorce she threatened to take my daughter there until she protested.

In the grand scale of life you could say 10 years isn't so long but of course they were formative years. The thing is, you now have many years to build a good relationship, and this started the moment that intent was declared. You BOTH lost out and now you both have the opportunity to have a loving relationship on your terms. Good luck and best wishes

Unc

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Sat Sep 16, 2006 3:50 am

Jimbo, that is so sweet to read in the morning. To havecontact with your daughter, and know she is happy to know you and love you, is the greatest gift of all.:-4

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Sat Sep 16, 2006 6:06 am

Uncle Kram wrote: That's heartwarming Jimbo.

My ex-wife who had relatives in America, threatened to take my kids to live there at the end of every argument as a way of controlling me. I spent years from the first threat when my son was only a year old to when the marriage ended expecting the worst. As this was my Achilles heel, it was exploited to the maximum. Even during our divorce she threatened to take my daughter there until she protested.

In the grand scale of life you could say 10 years isn't so long but of course they were formative years. The thing is, you now have many years to build a good relationship, and this started the moment that intent was declared. You BOTH lost out and now you both have the opportunity to have a loving relationship on your terms. Good luck and best wishes

Unc

Hey Unc

That was a beautiful post of encouragement to our friend Jimbo

Jimbo

May you create some wonderful memories together from this point forward :yh_hugs

chocoholic · Post by **chocoholic** » Sat Sep 16, 2006 7:47 am

Jimbo, very happy for you and your daughter, hugs to you both and good wishes for a wonderful future.

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Sat Sep 16, 2006 8:20 am

thanks uncle that means so much to me . i know what a fantastic opportunity this is now , her mom has been married since our split and the guy divorced her coz the woman is phys co , and women before you line up to kick old jimbo in the nuts i would never ever say that to my daughter i know i cant say horrible thins about her mom without hurting her, when i got to see my girl again i had to meet them both for a lunch for i had not seen her for ten years and really i was a stranger to her ,this woman the mom that is had not seen me for 10 years and the whole lunch was ruined by her saying the most awful things ,in the end my daughter shouted at her to leave me alone , to think when we broke up i was actually heartbroken ,wow it suddenly hit me it was not to blame for the break up , i knew i could not get on with this nasty piece of work for even 2 minutes , i tell you my good lady at home certainly went up a peg or three in my eyes , now my daughter could see for herself the sort of guy i was not the sort of guy her mom said i was , without all the negative input my girl and me should have a long and happy life together

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Sat Sep 16, 2006 8:26 am

uncle cram you seem to of stolen my groundhog day joke i've been sayin that for years and we are the same age wierd .. take care mate 1960 was a good year

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Sat Sep 16, 2006 8:38 am

jimbo wrote: no helefra my daughter is 16 not married yet thank heaven and as for the

grandfather thing though biologically possible i feel much too young ha ha

but on a much more serious note the new season of stargate atlantis starts soon any idea when :wah:

Even ten years from now you would be a young grandfather.

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Sat Sep 16, 2006 9:10 am

dad and beautiful daughter together after 10 years

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Sat Sep 16, 2006 9:12 am

Jimbo

I just read your profile page

You make me laugh

I'd like to add you to my Buddy List if you don't mind :-6

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Sat Sep 16, 2006 9:14 am

crap tried to download photo doh i really am a pc retard :-5

go on give ne a clue about stargate

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Sat Sep 16, 2006 9:15 am

A split/divorce always pissed me off when the children are used as a pawn - they do desperately try to control and manipulate the situation.

And when you see the other person after some years - your so glad you got rid of them, wow - what did I ever see in them ??

Jimbo

for your EX to bring up nasty comments - shows your daughter the nasty, evil in her mom. That stuff is so old - why bother?

You and your daughter have years in front of you - make memories that you both will treasure. 1960 - your young..

Patsy

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Sat Sep 16, 2006 9:18 am

i really cant do anything right i really am a serial profile killer i need to bribe my 12 year old step son to sort my profile out and download photo's i'm useless

oh and by the way that DOES NOT SAY PROFILE OF A SEREAL KILLA READ IT CAREFULLY :wah:

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Sat Sep 16, 2006 9:20 am

Yup I'd Love To Be Your Buddy The More The Merrier :d

ACCADUE · Post by **ACCADUE** » Tue Sep 19, 2006 6:21 am

Incredible.

I didn't believe that what you said could happen in real life.

Abyway, I'm so happy for you !

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Tue Sep 19, 2006 3:07 pm

ok you seem really nice

you know better than to come between a guy and his stargate right

no i dont want know what happens honestly i just want to know when the next series starts on sky 1 :yh_alien

my partner of ten years has always hated star trek ,next gen , deep space , stargate and star gate a ,she watched a couple of deep space 9 episodes now she is hooked so all you sci fi widows join in you'll enjoy it

all you men out there word of warning by the time you have to explain the plot why the klingons have cow pats stuck to their heads , and why if odo is a shape shifter why cant he pull a better looking face etc you wont enjoy it any more and will want to watch some thing else

:sneaky: hang on that could be her crafty plan :yh_laugh

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Sep 19, 2006 3:11 pm

Aw Jimbo, I hope you have many many good times ahead of you with your daughter and create some awesome memories.

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Tue Sep 19, 2006 3:17 pm

Jimbo...happiness comes to those who deserve it...and you do. Does she have access to a computer ? e-mail, Skype, MSN messenger....all ways of keeping in touch...and get some photos if you can...you'll soon catch up with the missing years...love and luck to you :-4

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Wed Sep 20, 2006 3:41 am

yep have seen riddock every day when i look in the mirror loads of people tell me i look like him my mates even call me jim diesel , did you ever watch threshold i thought that was great but i heard there not doin another sreies is that true ?

sorry for not repling to questions about my daughter she has had a hard time

and i'm hoping she will move to england soon for a fresh start

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Wed Sep 20, 2006 3:46 am

it seems to me bez nice people dont get any of the rewards they deserve bad people do though but nice people can get happiness if they are prepared to fight for it :-6

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Wed Sep 20, 2006 5:55 am

:wah: i would love to send pics but there is a copy write issue my lawyer is looking into it :wah:

no sorry to disappoint every one my partner included people say i look like him but in truth he is much better looking that's why he is a famous movie star and living in Hollywood and i'm a roofer living in England passing my day away on this porn site ... oh sorry forgot what site i was on :wah: :wah:

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Wed Sep 20, 2006 5:58 am

jimbo wrote: passing my day away on this porn site ... oh sorry forgot what site i was on :wah: :wah:

Porn? Where? Please steer me in the right direction! :p

Oh yeah -- we want a pic of our Jimbo and Suzy B too

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Wed Sep 20, 2006 6:00 am

Pinky wrote: Wait for me Cher!:wah:

Pinky :-4

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Wed Sep 20, 2006 6:32 am

guys i know its unfair we know what you look like and you have to try and imagine what we look like sue just think blonde golden angel:-4

jim ... try to think of vin diesel with the body of a super fit heavy weight boxer .... now forget that and think shrek :wah:

we do have a photo i'd love to post but we dont know how and more to the point does the 12 year old stepson :wah: