what's love got to do with it?

[papaboo951]

Do you agree or disagree with pre-nuptial agreements? Is this common sense to protect your interests or is it that people entering in these arrangements are expecting their relationship not to succeed ? ........What's your .02

[valerie]

What's love but a sweet old fashioned notion?



I don't understand them sometimes. Paul McCartney doesn't get one

and now apparently he's going to have a huge battle with his about-to-be

ex...



Jessica Simpson maybe pays Nick multi-millions when the guy's a

mutli-millionaire to begin with...



I'd certainly sign one, and didn't take a guy for all I could even when

I didn't sign one!!



Use your heads, people!!



:-6

[BabyRider]

If my partner wants me to sign something like that before we get married, then something is lacking in the trust department. If you don't have trust, you have no basis for a relationship.

[theia]

Pre nuptial agreements are a must. Four years ago I nearly lost my cottage (yes, my cottage) to an ex partner's claim. Although he settled out of court for a tiny portion of what he was claiming, it still cost me almost £15,000 with legal fees.

Incidentally, I didn't have £15,000, I had to add it to my mortgage.

[cherandbuster]

When I left my first marriage, my objective was to hold my head high as I walked out the door. I succeeded.

When I married my current husband, he was 46 years old. He had his own home, an established business, and savings in the bank. He asked me to sign a prenuptual agreement.

My sister and sister-in-law (on my side, of course) thought it was terrible.

I, on the other hand, did not. I came into his life later; he had acquired all these things himself.

I did not take it personally at all and we came to an agreement. We both signed on the dotted line.

What I asked myself was: if the situation was reversed, could I see myself asking him to sign a prenuptual agreement? The answer I came to was 'yes'.

Hey, we all go into a marriage expecting and hoping for only the best.

It doesn't always happen, does it? And anger can change A LOT of feelings of love.

[theia]

cherandbuster wrote: When I left my first marriage, my objective was to hold my head high as I walked out the door. I succeeded.

When I married my current husband, he was 46 years old. He had his own home, an established business, and savings in the bank. He asked me to sign a prenuptual agreement.

My sister and sister-in-law (on my side, of course) thought it was terrible.

I, on the other hand, did not. I came into his life later; he had acquired all these things himself.

I did not take it personally at all and we came to an agreement. We both signed on the dotted line.

What I asked myself was: if the situation was reversed, could I see myself asking him to sign a prenuptual agreement? The answer I came to was 'yes'.

Hey, we all go into a marriage expecting and hoping for only the best.

It doesn't always happen, does it? And anger can change A LOT of feelings of love.


Cher, when I first met my ex partner, I owned my home, mortgage free and he was heavily in debt. We sorted out his problems together but when I bought my cottage, I ensured that everything was in my name. Nine years later when I found he was having an affair, I insisted he leave and, as a parting gesture, he slammed in a claim on my home. He may well have lost the court case but I couldn't afford to keep paying the legal costs so I offered out of court. My solicitor said I was foolhardy not to have insisted on an agreement before he moved in with me.

I know it can sound cold and calculating to request a pre nuptial agreement but, as you say, anger can change feelings of love.

[cherandbuster]

Theia my friend

I am sorry that you had to learn that lesson first-hand

But I'm glad you were able to keep your cottage.

I guess I am a realist

But with lots of optimism thrown in as well :p