The half full glass...

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Sun Jul 30, 2006 12:44 am

Interesting. I understand that completely foop. Yearning is what keeps life interesting but its just not always realistic. Do you have something specific in mind ? If its just a general overwhelming urge to plunge in, you'll probably stay lost, but if you focus on one thing thats do-able. Make it happen. What do you want ?

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Sun Jul 30, 2006 1:00 am

flopstock wrote: I've come to the conclusion that it is not realistic for me.
Why is that, Flop? I find that incredibly hard to choke down.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Sun Jul 30, 2006 1:01 am

flopstock wrote: I want to be loved.

For me.

In spite of me.

More then they love them self.

The way that I would love them.

I want to matter most, just once.

To someone besides myself.

The way that they would matter to me.

And you're right, I've come to the conclusion that it is not realistic for me.

It is perhaps the saddest thing to realize about oneself, ya know?

Let me ask you this one thing, do you love you that way ? Are you tender in love about yourself ?

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Sun Jul 30, 2006 1:27 am

Foop ?

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Sun Jul 30, 2006 3:55 am

In my opinion, thats where it all starts. I know thats cliche but if you dont love yourself how can you truly love others, or let them love you ? When you love yourself and treat yourself with dignity and respect, doors open. Thats my experience. I had to teach myself how to do that and I suppose its different for everyone. But the only thing I know is what I personally have found that works for me, so thats the only truth I can pass on.

Beauty eminates from you on a daily basis. I see it, others here see it and its just so obvious. Beauty lives in you. No question. You have to take those things that make you unique and nurture them, learn to love them.

Are you so different that you alone stand out as unworthy of love ?

If you find that to be true its only because people have told you that in one way or another and you bought into it hook line and sinker. Most of us do. I did. I had to erase a lifetime of "loop tape" that said "Brian your worthless" Thats very powerful coming from the ones that are supposed to be preparing you for your journey in life. Well that is preparing you, but for a huge downfall.

None of that is true about us though, those are just the echoes of their own lives and its all they know to do.

Ill say it again, beauty eminates from you every single day. When you can see that, I think you will find the need to not be such a loner and doors will begin to open.

If you just sit around waiting for things to change they wont. If you want to drink from the fullness of life you have to take charge of your own life.

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Sun Jul 30, 2006 4:02 am

Jewelry and makeup do not make a woman feminine.

Lugging computers around keep you in great shape.

What makes you lovable:

You-all of us will vouch you are a lovable person, very funny, would be someone to have a great time with.

Your personality-you think of yourself as a loner sometimes, I think many of us do. But you just need to go out there and meet some people, in places you do not expect. Did you ever go join the bowling League you were talking about? There might be something else you can find to do, if that doesn't turn out.

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Sun Jul 30, 2006 5:42 am

flopstock wrote: Shouldn't seeing that the glass is half full rather then half empty be more pleasing to me?

Why do I have this burning desire to experience that glass overflowing? To know what that other half must have tasted like?
To this general question: Be happy with the half-glass, but never satisfied. Always seek to fill it.

To your specific issue, I wish I could wave a wand for you. You know I would. But you can't chase love, or call to it. It will only come to you when it wants.

I have lots of platitudes that will at best frustrate you, at worst **** you off. So I'll stop it.

I like Nomad's answer. Love attracts love. Do you think you'll recognize it if you see it? You've said others may not see it in you. Be still a sec & see if you don't already have it.

cars · Post by **cars** » Sun Jul 30, 2006 7:05 am

I see your point flop, initially you sometimes do give off misconceptions. As in the beginning, after reading many of your posts, I had sort of formed an opinion of how tough you were. Well I finally got the nerve to reply to a controversial post of yours, expecting the wrath of god (yours) to come crashing down on me. But to my pleasant surprise, your reply was simply genuine warmth, understanding, compassion, intellegent, and very caring & "respecting" of my views. You made so much sense it was scary to me, & made me look at things differently. From that day forward, I have been a fan of yours, & am proud to consider you my friend.

(To me, your glass is full!)

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Sun Jul 30, 2006 7:42 am

flopstock wrote: I want to be loved.

For me.

In spite of me.

More then they love them self.

The way that I would love them.

I want to matter most, just once.

To someone besides myself.

The way that they would matter to me.

And you're right, I've come to the conclusion that it is not realistic for me.

It is perhaps the saddest thing to realize about oneself, ya know?

Flops

I think that is so beautifully put

To love someone more than oneself

and to get the gift of that in return.

Being open and receptive to love, I've found, is a key component here.

When you are truly ready to receive love, openly and honestly, love can come your way.

I hope in my heart that you truly find it :-4