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micks · Post by **micks** » Fri Jul 21, 2006 4:59 am

I read here someone is always alone. That is me. I have a lot of education. and have traveled a lot. I am finacially independent and condisedered good looking. Yet I have been alone basically my whole life. I am very sad and afraid I am close to ending it all. I am sorry to be so blunt but life to me is not fun, or even neutral. I seem to be made for another world.

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Fri Jul 21, 2006 5:09 am

Hi micks, and welcome to FG!:)

Make some new friends here with us, you will not be alone anymore.

Post by **Betty Boop** » Fri Jul 21, 2006 5:11 am

Hi Micks - Welcome

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Fri Jul 21, 2006 5:11 am

Oh, we have several otherworldly people here. Their uniqueness is the only thing they have in common.

Bill Sikes · Post by **Bill Sikes** » Fri Jul 21, 2006 5:53 am

micks wrote: I read here someone is always alone. That is me. I have a lot of education. and have traveled a lot. I am finacially independent and condisedered good looking. Yet I have been alone basically my whole life. I am very sad and afraid I am close to ending it all. I am sorry to be so blunt but life to me is not fun, or even neutral. I seem to be made for another world.

Not a very good idea, I think. There may be people hold you in regard. You

wouldn't do *that* to them, would you? Keep on plugging away. There may

be something good just around the corner! If you did *that*, then how will

you ever know? Indulge in a bot of chit-chat, and see how it goes.

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Fri Jul 21, 2006 5:57 am

Hi Micks

We're glad you chose us to spend time with

Tell us more

We care :-6

chocoholic · Post by **chocoholic** » Fri Jul 21, 2006 5:59 am

Hi micks, welcome to FG.

You'll never feel alone here, everyone is very friendly and there's always someone you can chat with.

Stay around and I'm sure you'll find you look forward to logging on to FG.

Sending you best wishes for a better day.

cars · Post by **cars** » Fri Jul 21, 2006 6:03 am

Wow micks, what an opening post! WELCOME to our garden, you will find friendship, caring, understanding, & been there, done that, experiences in here!:)

(So don't do *That* !)

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Fri Jul 21, 2006 6:10 am

cars wrote: Wow micks, what an opening post! WELCOME to our garden, you will find friendship, caring, understanding, & been there, done that, experiences in here!:)

(So don't do *That* !)

Cars has said it all. Welcome to FG micks....life has its ups and downs and the folks at FG are fantastic support during the downs...hang in there and join in the chit chat. :-6

OpenMind · Post by **OpenMind** » Fri Jul 21, 2006 7:48 am

micks wrote: I read here someone is always alone. That is me. I have a lot of education. and have traveled a lot. I am finacially independent and condisedered good looking. Yet I have been alone basically my whole life. I am very sad and afraid I am close to ending it all. I am sorry to be so blunt but life to me is not fun, or even neutral. I seem to be made for another world.

First of all, Micks, let me just say hi and welcome to FG. It's a great garden and the fruit and veg in here talk to ya.:-6

I have spent, I guess, about 70% of my life alone insofar as I don't have a partner. I am now 51, alone, and I am enjoying it.

I don't have the financial resources you have, perhaps that's what the problem is, nothing to aim for.

We are all designed to be complete in our selves, having a partner is not a requirement to have a fulfilling life.

I think you would find a new lease of life if you maybe applied yourself to helping people. This is known to give purpose to one's life. Think about it. You may even find someone you like who likes you.

annabelle · Post by **annabelle** » Sun Jul 23, 2006 2:06 pm

Hi micks ... and a warm welcome to FG ...

We'll have to see if we can cheer you up .... it's hard to find a group of friendlier and more genuine people anywhere ... and that's a fact. No one should feel that alone, there is alway's an answer out there somewhere, it's just a question of finding it ..

So no more talk about "other worlds" ....

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Sun Jul 23, 2006 6:56 pm

Hi micks, thats a fairly frank opening post there, well if you are alone or feel alone you most certainly not alone in that respect as many people feel the same. You also sound depressed as well in which you are also in the best of company. I don't have any glib advice for you as I don't know who you are or what you actually want, but this is a nice place and the people are great, both male and female. As for the feelings of being alone and unhappy thats very natural, but I know from my own experience that you can be just as miserable when your not alone, and actually it can be worse. I'm not sure when you talk about being alone if you mean in a general way or just in not having a partner, so its hard to give you any useful advice, but sticking around and having a bit of fun with the people here would certainly be good for you, you should give it a go.

Hugh Janus · Post by **Hugh Janus** » Mon Jul 24, 2006 12:48 am

Hiya there Micks.

I would like to say that although I am speaking from the "bottom" of the garden, that posting in here is a good start for you to make new and interesting online friends.

I also used to feel a bit "wiped" out, but after I had been posting on here a while, I found that I soon became "flushed" with enthusiasm.:rolleyes:

"Stick" around, you could do a lot worse.

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Mon Jul 24, 2006 12:53 am

Hey, Micks, I see you're back on. I was wondering if you were going to be back. I'm glad to see you are. Now...what can we at FG do for you? Do you want a "here's how much worse it could be" type approach? Because I'm you're girl, if it is. Misery loves company, and all that...

This is one of the best places on the web that you could have stumbled upon to find some advice, a kind word, and possibly even some real help. Stick around, settle in, relax a bit. Welcome. :yh_peace

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Mon Jul 24, 2006 2:06 am

sixyearsleft wrote: Get a grip, go out and make friends, what are your interests?
Wow...you know six, it's really easy to say, "go out, get a grip" but when you don't fully understand another person's pain and what they are dealing with, pat, simple replies aren't the answer. When a person intimates to suicide, it's not something that is helped by telling them to "get a grip." Rather abrupt of you, I must say.

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Mon Jul 24, 2006 2:13 am

sixyearsleft wrote: did i miss something??
Not if you read the opening post.

Post by **spot** » Mon Jul 24, 2006 6:05 am

sixyearsleft wrote: i would like mick to respond to his post,Why, six?

Did you really post "Get a grip, go out and make friends, what are your interests" and then follow that up with a new thread startingI've got a severe handicap, no matter what i do nothing changes, i never get invited to any function, and i always have to wonder around on my own, this hanicap as made me so depressed that i'm thinking of ending it all, i just cant cope with the stress, any good advice would be appreciatedEither you think you're amusing people with this (and I have to say you're without doubt mistaken) or the hot weather's getting to you again.

Which is it?

Post by **spot** » Mon Jul 24, 2006 6:30 am

Pinky wrote: I'm giving the guy the benefit of the doubt here, purely because this is a topic which pulls at a few heartstrings. I would hate to think that anyone would take the juice out of something so upsetting - my reply to that thread is genuine and sincere.I'm not sure a forum is a good (as opposed to a possible) place to get help, but I do hope micks comes back and talks some more.

As for giving six the benefit of the doubt, which is a totally separate issue, I don't see how those two posts six made and which I juxtaposed can be reconciled with any sense of goodwill to the OP.

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Mon Jul 24, 2006 6:53 am

Pinky wrote: Put it this way...I just can't bear to let myself think that anyone could be so horrible as to do something like that, especially when it can put other people in a bad place emotionally. I for one have a good cry when reminded of some of the wonderful people that are no longer around because of severe depression.

Simply put, if I ever find out that anyone enjoys having a wind up over this kind of thing, I really will throw a total wobbly - except I will do my best to find that person and do it in the flesh. Tickets are a fiver a head.

I hear you, Pinky. And I agree 100%.

I'll take two tickets, please :p

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Mon Jul 24, 2006 7:32 am

The Pinkster :-4

Bill Sikes · Post by **Bill Sikes** » Mon Jul 24, 2006 1:41 pm

spot wrote: I'm not sure a forum is a good (as opposed to a possible) place to get help, but I do hope micks comes back and talks some more.

I'm not sure, from experience of anyone that I may have known, that people who

may perhaps (or perhaps not - it's not for me to say) have a certain condition

(even that is a reprehensible label) are at all disposed to seek "help". Whether

"help", a source of chat, or information, or anything else is desired, is entirely

(IMHO) up to the original psoter, who may do whatever he likes.

spot wrote: As for giving six the benefit of the doubt, which is a totally separate issue, I don't see how those two posts six made and which I juxtaposed can be reconciled with any sense of goodwill to the OP.

Neither do I see that the soap-opera nature or the current FG can be helpful, or

even interesting, for some.

I'm not sure I agree with anything at all written above. However, I do agree with

the latter part of your first statement, above, Mr. Spot.

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Mon Jul 24, 2006 2:53 pm

time & time again we have members come in & post only once

that one post is usually quite dramatic, we never see them again, im always a bit suspicious of these posts as a first one, isent anyone else?

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Mon Jul 24, 2006 3:01 pm

buttercup wrote: time & time again we have members come in & post only once

that one post is usually quite dramatic, we never see them again, im always a bit suspicious of these posts as a first one, isent anyone else?

Im still suspicious of your 1st post. :p

annabelle · Post by **annabelle** » Mon Jul 24, 2006 3:13 pm

buttercup wrote: time & time again we have members come in & post only once

that one post is usually quite dramatic, we never see them again, im always a bit suspicious of these posts as a first one, isent anyone else?

In future I will be buttercup. I'd have thought that following such a warm and overwhelming welcome to FG, anyone in that situation would have been only to pleased to have responded .... at least once.

That's one of my failing's, I'm too trusting and sympathetic to people in need.

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Mon Jul 24, 2006 3:24 pm

trolls fall into this as well, you would think if they were any kind of troll worth there salt they would do an introduction & post or two before starting the contriversial ****, if i see contriversy in a first post, im suspicious, if the second post is also contriversial im on troll alert, this of course is only my opinion but its stood me in good stead annabelle :-6

please note - im not saying this guy is a troll, i'd need to see a second post :wah:

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Mon Jul 24, 2006 3:29 pm

another thing i wonder is why when there are hundreds of depression & mental health forums would someone suicidal choose here?

OpenMind · Post by **OpenMind** » Mon Jul 24, 2006 3:31 pm

annabelle wrote: In future I will be buttercup. I'd have thought that following such a warm and overwhelming welcome to FG, anyone in that situation would have been only to pleased to have responded .... at least once.

That's one of my failing's, I'm too trusting and sympathetic to people in need.

Shows you have a good heart, Annabelle. Experience teaches us, but always keep a good heart. It's important for your spiritual health and physical well-being.

annabelle · Post by **annabelle** » Mon Jul 24, 2006 3:34 pm

Makes perfect sense buttercup ....

I just find it hard to go against my inner feeling's. You'de think that after years on the internet and chatting with more people than I've had hot dinners, would make me more aware! ..

If I wrote a book about my time spent on the net it would make Jackie Collins look like a childrens author! ....lol

However, I have now "grown up!" ....

annabelle · Post by **annabelle** » Mon Jul 24, 2006 3:36 pm

OpenMind wrote: Shows you have a good heart, Annabelle. Experience teaches us, but always keep a good heart. It's important for your spiritual health and physical well-being.

That's my problem OpenMind .... it's just too big for my own good ...

Anyhow ... thank you ... you're absolutely right, of course .

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Mon Jul 24, 2006 3:43 pm

best troll i seen in action was at another forum

he used to be a member & left due to being bullied by another member (a bitch)

he came back as another character, everyone fell for it, he made a bee line for the bitch, swamped her with affection, he knew all her likes, music, books ect having watched what she had posted for the previous year

they chatted on msn & exchanged e-mails for many months, until she was all loved up, he then announced who he was, its true to say what goes around comes around & you always have to be careful of people on the internet

not everyone is honest, sad but true

Hugh Janus · Post by **Hugh Janus** » Mon Jul 24, 2006 4:26 pm

Well. There are a lot of disturbed people on the 'net. don't you think, Snoozy?

papaboo951 · Post by **papaboo951** » Mon Jul 24, 2006 5:00 pm

Has micks left the group? He just opened a post and MIA? :yh_think

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Mon Jul 24, 2006 5:14 pm

papaboo951 wrote: Has micks left the group? He just opened a post and MIA? :yh_think
He did log back on and was reading this post last night, Papa, but nothing more from him since. Wondering....

Post by **spot** » Mon Jul 24, 2006 11:45 pm

sixyearsleft wrote: are you the f@@@king landlord

i sent mick some PM's trying to encourage him out, or to reply, i shouldn't have to explain this to you, stop breaking my balls, i dont post hear to answer to your crap

get a grip of yourself, you hate me to much, it's not healthy :(Thank you six. Now answer the bloody question. You truly can't do what you did here, it's an appalling thing to have done. I can well imagine that you don't *see* how awful it is, but that doesn't stop it from being awful. Go back to my question, stare at it for a while and see if the light finally dawns. What on earth were you doing? "i shouldn't have to explain this to you" is wildly irrelevant when you've made no hint of explanation.

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Mon Jul 24, 2006 11:58 pm

sixyearsleft wrote: then tell me what i did Zit

Oh, please. This is repulsive. Quit acting like you don't know that what you did is sick. Have some accountability for what you did. Man up for once in your life.