'cuz it is a BIG step even if it is a good one:)
Then again he has been married before?
Why did the last marriage go down?
It may not have been all her fault.
I love my wife but I am her second marrage and some of the things she has put me through can only be described as crule.
For me marriage is a life time commitment but if she does not get her way she threatons to divorce me.
I threatoned to end our relationship prior to marriage.
Marriage is till death due us part!!!!!!!!!!!
Divorce is failure and is way to accepted in our society.
Marriage is not something that should be taken into lightly.
Marriage
-
LottomagicZ4941
- Posts: 752
- Joined: Wed Oct 06, 2004 12:00 pm
Marriage
Calm down luv you're just having pre nuptual nerves and thats perfectly natural, its plain to see that you love Tim with every fibre of your being and you would'nt be normal if you did'nt suffer from these jitters.
Lets face it TG Tim had an awful 1st marriage & he must really love you and want that commitment from you to want to get married again.
I suppose every bride wants their day to be special and for nothing to go wrong and lets face it you've had your fair share of problems but now is yours & Tims time ENJOY :-4
Lets face it TG Tim had an awful 1st marriage & he must really love you and want that commitment from you to want to get married again.
I suppose every bride wants their day to be special and for nothing to go wrong and lets face it you've had your fair share of problems but now is yours & Tims time ENJOY :-4
Marriage
tmbsgrl wrote: His first marriage ended BC she was psychotic.. She had 2 children from another man. Tim didn't want to have children with her.. So she threatened to kill him and the kids while they were sleeping.. She took like 15 or 16 different kinds of Crazy people medicine.. She IS WAY out there.... she is 26 and has been married 4 times!
Why would he marry someone who had been married three times before she married him? Couldnt help myself.. had to ask.
Why would he marry someone who had been married three times before she married him? Couldnt help myself.. had to ask.
[FONT=Microsoft Sans Serif][/FONT]
Marriage
My husband always jokes (I think), "Marriage is a fine institution. I just never liked be institutionalized." LOL Anyways, it's perfectly natural to be nervous. If you weren't, I'd worry then.
Marriage
tmbsgrl wrote: :yh_flowerApril 17th seems to be coming up fast for me! I am so excited about getting married, yet i am REALLY nervous! I know Tim is the only man that is perfect for me but i can't help feeling scared. He has been married before this is my first and my last. I guess it just makes me nervous to think about forever, when i just live for today not for tomorrow.. I make the best of everyday! I love him with all my heart and i know that this is the right thing to do. Is this completely normal?!? I am gonna marry him.. I want him to be my husband more then anything. Why am i so nervous!???:-4
It's the most intense and wonderful nervous you'll ever experience. Congratulations sweety!
It's the most intense and wonderful nervous you'll ever experience. Congratulations sweety!
~Quoth the Raven, Nevermore!~
-
A Karenina
- Posts: 968
- Joined: Thu Oct 14, 2004 8:36 am
Marriage
How can you manage a forever commitment when you live for today? One day at a time.
I've a friend (I think I mentioned this before), and each year on their anniversary, they commit to one more year. That way, they aren't thinking about 60 years plus, but a "smaller" commitment seems easier for them to handle. They've been married for many years.
I think I'd be more worried if you weren't thinking deeply about what you are doing.
Listen to our wise people here. Nerves don't mean a thing!
I've a friend (I think I mentioned this before), and each year on their anniversary, they commit to one more year. That way, they aren't thinking about 60 years plus, but a "smaller" commitment seems easier for them to handle. They've been married for many years.
I think I'd be more worried if you weren't thinking deeply about what you are doing.
Listen to our wise people here. Nerves don't mean a thing! We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.
Aristotle
Aristotle
Marriage
tmbsgrl wrote: :yh_flowerApril 17th seems to be coming up fast for me! I am so excited about getting married, yet i am REALLY nervous! I know Tim is the only man that is perfect for me but i can't help feeling scared. He has been married before this is my first and my last. I guess it just makes me nervous to think about forever, when i just live for today not for tomorrow.. I make the best of everyday! I love him with all my heart and i know that this is the right thing to do. Is this completely normal?!? I am gonna marry him.. I want him to be my husband more then anything. Why am i so nervous!???:-4
Marriage is a lot of dirty, hard work. You should be nervous. Now, know that it is normal, the hard work is the same work that everybody else has to go through to make a marriage work and then you can do what you are supposed to do,
ENJOY your day.
Marriage is a lot of dirty, hard work. You should be nervous. Now, know that it is normal, the hard work is the same work that everybody else has to go through to make a marriage work and then you can do what you are supposed to do,
ENJOY your day.
GOD CREATED MAN AND SAM COLT MADE THEM EQUAL
Marriage
T Girl your going to be just fine, this is one of life's most stress filled events and your actions and reactions are perfectly normal. Just remember to give yourself some relax time and see the good your moving into. Love life, love the new man and whatever you do enjoy that wedding as that is your day to shine baby. Hope your showered with love from all who attend.
�You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.�
• Mae West
• Mae West
Marriage
And now, from the "other gender". First of all, we may look cool and collected, but we're just as nervous and conflicted as you gals. In my case, I was commited, and determined to see it through, b u t, the "are you sure's", and "gawd, your throwing your whole life away", and "just get in the car and drive" would sneak in and gnaw away at my confidence. It was like I was looking for a "sign" to affirm that I was doing the right thing.
Wedding day arrived, a muggy, miserable June 30, in Michigan, the ceremony was at 7pm. About noontime, I decided that a swim would calm my nerves, and cool me off. A small lake nearby was selected, and with "don't be late's" ringing in my ears, I was off.
After swimming for 30 minutes or so, I was cooler, but my nerves were still frayed. Suddenly, into my head pops this notion, I should swim across the lake. This would be my sign, if I made it across, then my marriage was meant to be, If Idid'nt, I would'nt have to worry. Soon, the notion became an obession, no thinking involved here. I had swam equivalent distances before, so the odds were good. Finally, my addled brain gave in.
The swim across the lake was uneventful, as I approached the far shore, congradulating myself on such a clever solution, my brain finally kicked in.
Ahead of me were cattails, which meant shallow water and mud, which meant mosquito's, and I had to get back to my car, that was about 3 miles away by land, or another swim across the lake. Having received my "sign", another lake crossing seemed like tempting fate.
At about 3:30pm, muddy, sweaty, thirsty, and covered with mosquito bites, I arrived at the car. Too tired to rinse off, I got in the car and drove myself home. I was greeted at the door by my mother, who along with the the rest of the family females, went into a panic, not about my tired, dehydrated, mosquito bitten self, but because "your supposed to get married in 3 hours, and your a filthy mess". The guys shot me symphetic looks, but fortunately, nobody asked about why I was in my sorry state.
At 7pm, I was cleaned, tuxed, slathered in calamine lotion, and my tired, nervous, painful self presented to my new bride. The wedding night was ah er embarrasing, the high point being a cold shower after which my sweetie lovingly carressed my mosquito bite bumps with calomine lotion, and graciously accepted my contrived story of how I came to be in that condition.
My "sign" must have been good, because 43 years later, were still going strong. My advise to you? If you really gotta have a sign, think it through very, very carefully first.
Wedding day arrived, a muggy, miserable June 30, in Michigan, the ceremony was at 7pm. About noontime, I decided that a swim would calm my nerves, and cool me off. A small lake nearby was selected, and with "don't be late's" ringing in my ears, I was off.
After swimming for 30 minutes or so, I was cooler, but my nerves were still frayed. Suddenly, into my head pops this notion, I should swim across the lake. This would be my sign, if I made it across, then my marriage was meant to be, If Idid'nt, I would'nt have to worry. Soon, the notion became an obession, no thinking involved here. I had swam equivalent distances before, so the odds were good. Finally, my addled brain gave in.
The swim across the lake was uneventful, as I approached the far shore, congradulating myself on such a clever solution, my brain finally kicked in.
Ahead of me were cattails, which meant shallow water and mud, which meant mosquito's, and I had to get back to my car, that was about 3 miles away by land, or another swim across the lake. Having received my "sign", another lake crossing seemed like tempting fate.
At about 3:30pm, muddy, sweaty, thirsty, and covered with mosquito bites, I arrived at the car. Too tired to rinse off, I got in the car and drove myself home. I was greeted at the door by my mother, who along with the the rest of the family females, went into a panic, not about my tired, dehydrated, mosquito bitten self, but because "your supposed to get married in 3 hours, and your a filthy mess". The guys shot me symphetic looks, but fortunately, nobody asked about why I was in my sorry state.
At 7pm, I was cleaned, tuxed, slathered in calamine lotion, and my tired, nervous, painful self presented to my new bride. The wedding night was ah er embarrasing, the high point being a cold shower after which my sweetie lovingly carressed my mosquito bite bumps with calomine lotion, and graciously accepted my contrived story of how I came to be in that condition.
My "sign" must have been good, because 43 years later, were still going strong. My advise to you? If you really gotta have a sign, think it through very, very carefully first.
Old age and treachery, is an acceptable response to overwelming youth and skill 
-
capt_buzzard
- Posts: 5557
- Joined: Wed Aug 25, 2004 12:00 pm
Marriage
IamherehereIamamIhere wrote: I'm a newly wed myself, Dec 24 04 to be exact. I'm a guy and everyone expects the guy to be cool. Thats crap I almost passed out during the ceremony I was so nervous. My best man was talking to me at the reception telling me that I went white and starting swaying about halfway through. And my wife had a nervous breakdown from what I was told. She had lost her shoes and was crying and freaking out. But everything turned out alright and we both couldn't be happier. So chin up!Poor guy, Love and marriage, love and marriage, goes together like a horse and carriage......da de da de da.........................
And he lived happy ever after:-4
And he lived happy ever after:-4
Marriage
Have fun. Happy wedding day to you. Don't worry. You and a half of the rest of the brides are not being or acting any different than what is to be expected on the nerve wrackingest day of your life. Behind that calm male composure is a nervous wreck. Fifty years from now you'll both look back and laugh at your silly apprehensions.
-
capt_buzzard
- Posts: 5557
- Joined: Wed Aug 25, 2004 12:00 pm
Marriage
I was a late starter. 25 years married on April 19, marriage of love, bliss and lots of happy times. And still going strong. :-4 :-6