Online relationships

Marie5656 · Post by **Marie5656** » Thu Jun 29, 2006 5:16 pm

Well, Snooze...I could sort of identify with a few of your options..but I picked the I met my spouse one, though it is still not totally accurate.

We were "introduced" online, by a friend of his who saw a profile I had done. He emailed me, and we met in real life about a week later. He lived about 45 miles away when we first met.....not far from where I grew up.

As for some of your other choices, I have met a couple of people from online. One was a pretty positive experience, and we did stay in touch for a while, but got together only once, even though we both lived in the same city.

The other was not so positive...and I am kind of glad I never saw the person again.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Thu Jun 29, 2006 5:21 pm

SnoozeControl wrote: I should've made it multiple choice, but I didn't think about it until it was too late.

I was going to embarrass you by saying that, now I dont have to.

Post by **Bryn Mawr** » Thu Jun 29, 2006 5:44 pm

SnoozeControl wrote: Another poll...

and again one that does not have an option that covers real life.

I've met several people on-line that I would love to get to know better and to meet IRL and they might well become true friends in time.

I takes longer to become true friends in cyberlife than in the "real world" but they're no less friends for that.

Marie5656 · Post by **Marie5656** » Thu Jun 29, 2006 6:19 pm

My vote on this poll within a poll is to keep it for now, Snooze. Maybefolks will give some interesting stories, anyhow. :-6

Hugh Janus · Post by **Hugh Janus** » Thu Jun 29, 2006 7:10 pm

Annabelle and myself met online, in a way that,,, well,,, just couldn't be made up.

It actually sounds more like a script for the X Files.

In the days before we knew each other. We were both on the internet. We were both in bad marriages, and the internet was providing a kind of release from reallity.

We were both subscribers to a chat (text) prog called ICQ. I have no doubt many of you are aware of it.

One of the features of ICQ is that, to have a private chat with someone, they need to be added to your friends list.

One evening I was on ICQ when I received a message saying that "Annabelle" had been added to my friends list!

What I didn't know, at the time was. "Annabelle" had also received a message saying that I had been added to her friends list.

I was mystified. "Who the hell was this "Annabelle?"" And more to the point. How had she been added?

Naturally I immediately sent a PM. Demanding to know how she had "hacked" my ICQ account. And just what sort of a lowlife would do such a thing!!!

She responded by claiming that I had hacked her account, and that she didn't think it was funny...

Anyway. To cut a long story short. We actually started a deep conversation, "once we had convinced each other that neither of us had done anything wrong. It seems as if ICQ had actually glitched" We laughed and chatted until the dawn broke. I found out that she only lived a mere 30 miles away. We promised that we would "speak again" the next evening. I went to bed that night feeling....well... happy, content, buzzing. I dont really know. All I do know is that I was elated. And this was after just one conversation.

The next evening we chatted all night. From 6pm 'till about 3am. It seemed as if time had stood still, for both of us. Over the next three weeks we were inseparable. (online) We sent each other pictures and jokes. Music and poetry. We were like two teenagers....

I finally had to tell her that I could not speak to her online again.

Once she had stopped panicking, I explained that I could not speak to her online again until I had met her for real.

The next friday, (Good Friday) we met. It was a dream come true. It rained, but we didn't care. We were both so happy in each others company, and when the day ended, we were loath to part.

Within three weeks of that date we were living together in a rented house. We have never looked back.

We now own (outright) our own three bed detached house. We have a lifestyle that we love. We are still very much in love with each other. We have a stupid dog called Benny, (named after the crossroads character.) We are not teenagers. We are both in our late forties. We have been together 6yrs and we know that we will be together forever, or as far as forever will allow us.

So let me end by saying, to anyone in a bad marriage, or relationship. Stop the rot. Get out while you can. There is another life for you if you look. And don't let anyone tell you that internet relationships don't work.

BELIEVE ME. THEY CAN, AND DO!!!

Hugh Janus · Post by **Hugh Janus** » Thu Jun 29, 2006 7:45 pm

SnoozeControl wrote: Lovely story, thanks for that. You're not such a big goofball after all.

I never said I was. :p

I just like to lull people into a false impression :wah:

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Fri Jun 30, 2006 1:34 am

Hugh Janus, that was a lovely story. It's brightened my day :-6

There is at least one other couple here that met and married via 'cyberland' and I have been lucky enough to spend time with them and witness their happiness first hand.

annabelle · Post by **annabelle** » Fri Jun 30, 2006 3:17 am

Oh my! .... He does have such a way with words .... :rolleyes:

I feel like I've been publicly undressed! ....

:wah:

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Fri Jun 30, 2006 3:58 am

I have dozens of good friends here in the Garden, but only two I have broken bread with. Well okay, we've broken tortilla chips but you get the point.

I can't wait to meet more. :-6

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Fri Jun 30, 2006 5:46 am

Hugh Janus wrote:

So let me end by saying, to anyone in a bad marriage, or relationship. Stop the rot. Get out while you can. There is another life for you if you look. And don't let anyone tell you that internet relationships don't work.

BELIEVE ME. THEY CAN, AND DO!!!

Oh Misha are you listening??