life passing by
life passing by
do you ever feel you're marking time and life is passing you by? waiting for something in the future? i have been planning to move to England for nearly two years, and something always gets in the way. now Bothwell is considering moving over here with me. we both feel our lives are passing us by. do you put off things for some day in the future?
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Yes. I feel like I've been at a crossroads for the last 2 years and my life has been stagnant. But actually, in just the last 2 days, I've come to realise it's actually a staggered junction and I am actually moving on, although at the moment it's like walking along a plateau and not moving forward. However, I can now see the forward path that I think I'm going to take.
I think I've come to realise that rather than being stagnant, what I've actually done is tie up a lot of loose ends. I've been thinking of redecorating recently and I read my stars the other day (which I don't do often) and they said that I would want to redecorate because my life has moved on and I'm following a new path and I'll want new scenery around me.
And I suddenly had a moment of perfect clarity, an epiphany, and realised that whilst I thought I was just stagnating I was actually tying up loose ends and changing things that were problems, closing off avenues that I've suddenly realised are no longer suitable options for me and am actually starting to look ahead, way into the future, a future which has been murky for a long time.
Does that make sense?
I think I've come to realise that rather than being stagnant, what I've actually done is tie up a lot of loose ends. I've been thinking of redecorating recently and I read my stars the other day (which I don't do often) and they said that I would want to redecorate because my life has moved on and I'm following a new path and I'll want new scenery around me.
And I suddenly had a moment of perfect clarity, an epiphany, and realised that whilst I thought I was just stagnating I was actually tying up loose ends and changing things that were problems, closing off avenues that I've suddenly realised are no longer suitable options for me and am actually starting to look ahead, way into the future, a future which has been murky for a long time.
Does that make sense?
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it does make sense Rap.......when we look back there is always a reason. i could not have predicted a heart attack on the job, i could not have predicted anything i thought i had planned out. but when we look back it falls into place somehow.
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I wish you and Bothwell luck, LC. Don't let life pass you by, and be together.
For me, life is passing me by only because I must do other things. I do everything I want to, but write. I need to have time to be able to sit at the computer for a few hours everyday and write. Maybe by summertime things will improve, I won't be working much in the summer. Otherwise, in my situation, I have learned to sit still and can not be as active in life activities as I used to be. One day I will again. But I don't know if I want to know how I will get there..................
For me, life is passing me by only because I must do other things. I do everything I want to, but write. I need to have time to be able to sit at the computer for a few hours everyday and write. Maybe by summertime things will improve, I won't be working much in the summer. Otherwise, in my situation, I have learned to sit still and can not be as active in life activities as I used to be. One day I will again. But I don't know if I want to know how I will get there..................
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ah Chonsi, life threw you a curveball and you have handled it beautifully....but you wouldn't be human if you didn't think of the future.
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lady cop wrote: it does make sense Rap.......when we look back there is always a reason. i could not have predicted a heart attack on the job, i could not have predicted anything i thought i had planned out. but when we look back it falls into place somehow.
Isn't it amazing! You think you have free will, but when you look back you usually find things DO just fall into place. It's at times like that that you think there is a higher power guiding your life and when the time is right it will all just happen naturally. :-6
Isn't it amazing! You think you have free will, but when you look back you usually find things DO just fall into place. It's at times like that that you think there is a higher power guiding your life and when the time is right it will all just happen naturally. :-6
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LC, I think of the future at times. But what it is, I do not know. Three possibilities:
1. my husband will live a long life for his condition, 20-30 years. It will be like this. So I work many jobs and do get things done, and he is in good shape for his condition. I stay ahead of the game right now, but my summer will probably be spent with all that insurance stuff 1 1/2 years after the fact.:p
2. my husband will one day be with me no more. I will be a widow. And that thought makes me sad.
3. One day maybe God will heal him, and he will be better then he is now.
Why do these things at certain times? I do not know. I was ready to make the big jump from public school to full-time college. I have always wanted that. But I have a different mind-set now, since I am the main provider. So I am happy to have the part-time college job. I do not apply at the 4 year institutions anymore. I need the job security. And the jobs with museums concerning travelling, I cannot apply for them either, since it would be expensive to hire a nurse and he doesn't do well when I am gone out of sync with what he knows is my schedule. (and I had a nice one offer last summer, oh! But I said no, but send them materials as I come across them)
My writing-it is probably as essential to me as music. My music I have with me always, and can play some and direct some. But not as much personal practice as I would like, but it is livable. The writing now, it is a scholarly thing I guess. You want your research published before another does on the subject, so I know who is there behind me on that. And I want mine to be finished first, and have the letter from the publisher sitting here for 10 months to rewrite. So I will this summer try to do that, but you have to get back into the groove. And it has come down to a vital necessity-my health vs the extra time to stay up and write. So, I have opted for health, after loosing 50 lbs. (some of that I needed, but no more, I am thinner then I was in high school now, before babies and all. It is just not me)
I think I complained enough for an evening, but that is how my thoughts go on long posts..................
1. my husband will live a long life for his condition, 20-30 years. It will be like this. So I work many jobs and do get things done, and he is in good shape for his condition. I stay ahead of the game right now, but my summer will probably be spent with all that insurance stuff 1 1/2 years after the fact.:p
2. my husband will one day be with me no more. I will be a widow. And that thought makes me sad.
3. One day maybe God will heal him, and he will be better then he is now.
Why do these things at certain times? I do not know. I was ready to make the big jump from public school to full-time college. I have always wanted that. But I have a different mind-set now, since I am the main provider. So I am happy to have the part-time college job. I do not apply at the 4 year institutions anymore. I need the job security. And the jobs with museums concerning travelling, I cannot apply for them either, since it would be expensive to hire a nurse and he doesn't do well when I am gone out of sync with what he knows is my schedule. (and I had a nice one offer last summer, oh! But I said no, but send them materials as I come across them)
My writing-it is probably as essential to me as music. My music I have with me always, and can play some and direct some. But not as much personal practice as I would like, but it is livable. The writing now, it is a scholarly thing I guess. You want your research published before another does on the subject, so I know who is there behind me on that. And I want mine to be finished first, and have the letter from the publisher sitting here for 10 months to rewrite. So I will this summer try to do that, but you have to get back into the groove. And it has come down to a vital necessity-my health vs the extra time to stay up and write. So, I have opted for health, after loosing 50 lbs. (some of that I needed, but no more, I am thinner then I was in high school now, before babies and all. It is just not me)
I think I complained enough for an evening, but that is how my thoughts go on long posts..................
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you have never before revealed so much. God bless and love you.
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yes JAB, but is producing babies all that makes us worthwhile? i don't think so. who has been better because of you? that's the question.
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I've never produced any babies. By choice. And I don't feel worthless
because I haven't.
I know you guys are all probably sick of hearing me talk about it, but
when the Lady asks "Who has been better because of you?" I have to
answer: All the untold numbers of people in the last 34 years who have
gotten a pint of my blood. And that makes me feel really, really good.
Life passing me by? I don't know. If it wasn't for the almost constant
money worries the last 3 1/2 years or so, I would say I like my life
very much. If I could just get rid of the feeling of doom hanging over my
head.
And another one I'm sure you're all tired of... is my baby girl Tamsen.
I try not to borrow trouble, and enjoy her while I have her, but it's
hard. It's hard to think of the end for her. And what she has been
through in her life.
Didn't mean to get all maudlin on everyone.
because I haven't.
I know you guys are all probably sick of hearing me talk about it, but
when the Lady asks "Who has been better because of you?" I have to
answer: All the untold numbers of people in the last 34 years who have
gotten a pint of my blood. And that makes me feel really, really good.
Life passing me by? I don't know. If it wasn't for the almost constant
money worries the last 3 1/2 years or so, I would say I like my life
very much. If I could just get rid of the feeling of doom hanging over my
head.
And another one I'm sure you're all tired of... is my baby girl Tamsen.
I try not to borrow trouble, and enjoy her while I have her, but it's
hard. It's hard to think of the end for her. And what she has been
through in her life.
Didn't mean to get all maudlin on everyone.
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LC, all things happen for a reason, sometimes that reason is very unclear but there is a reason. Yes we are marking time and life does pass us by more than we care to admit. Having said that maybe Bothwell coming over here is the best idea so far to allow you both to have a life together now, not later but now. Today is just as important as tomorrow if not more. So sweetie I think it is a splendid idea and I hope like hell it happens soon. All the other details can be worked out after he is here. You both will live in England in time but now is not the time. So plan B sounds excellent to me, and you two love bird need to be together now.:-4 :-4 Some time to obvious eludes us and we don't see the forest for the trees.:-3
So sweetie I will hope and pray this happens it a wonderful idea..!!
So sweetie I will hope and pray this happens it a wonderful idea..!!
ALOHA!!
MOTTO TO LIVE BY:
"Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, champagne in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming.
WOO HOO!!, what a ride!!!"
MOTTO TO LIVE BY:
"Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, champagne in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming.
WOO HOO!!, what a ride!!!"
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What a great thread, LC.
Chonsi, if I could ever have the priviledge of meeting you, I'd give you the biggest hug!!! :yh_hugs
There were times in my life when I did think I was just marking time. "What the hell is the point?" sort of attitude. I don't feel that way anymore. Having my soul mate with me helps a lot, (and LC, when you and Bothwell DO get to be together permanently, you will feel differently than you do now) and having the constant strain of money problems gone helps, too. I try to look at things positively. I work in an atmosphere where people are trying to escape. I try to make them as happy as possible while they are my guest. I smile for everyone, I try to take a minute and speak with each individual personally, and make sure they are having a good time. I get compliments quite frequently about my friendliness at work. That makes me feel good, and who knows? Maybe someone who is haing a crappy day is cheered somewhat by a pleasant conversation with me. Not trying to toot my own horn, but I try to look at things that way.
I believe also, that everthing we do affects the world around us in some way. We may never see the results of those actions, but they are there, and they are real.
LC, I think that because you're used to being out there, locking up the bad guys, helping people in need and protecting your community, you're feeling a bit at loose ends right now. It's totally understandable. But you do have much to live for. Bothwell, to be sure, and all the changes you have affected in people's lives right here in FG. I know how many people you have helped with all sorts of things here. Not everyone is aware of all the good you do, and it's in your nature, because you ARE a cop, to be that way. You have made a difference. Hell, you've made a difference to me. Along with many others. I'm proud to call you my friend. There's part of your purpose right there. I'd be lost without your support in what I'm dealing with right now. I'm sure others here feel the same way.
I love you, sweets. :yh_hugs
Chonsi, if I could ever have the priviledge of meeting you, I'd give you the biggest hug!!! :yh_hugs
There were times in my life when I did think I was just marking time. "What the hell is the point?" sort of attitude. I don't feel that way anymore. Having my soul mate with me helps a lot, (and LC, when you and Bothwell DO get to be together permanently, you will feel differently than you do now) and having the constant strain of money problems gone helps, too. I try to look at things positively. I work in an atmosphere where people are trying to escape. I try to make them as happy as possible while they are my guest. I smile for everyone, I try to take a minute and speak with each individual personally, and make sure they are having a good time. I get compliments quite frequently about my friendliness at work. That makes me feel good, and who knows? Maybe someone who is haing a crappy day is cheered somewhat by a pleasant conversation with me. Not trying to toot my own horn, but I try to look at things that way.
I believe also, that everthing we do affects the world around us in some way. We may never see the results of those actions, but they are there, and they are real.
LC, I think that because you're used to being out there, locking up the bad guys, helping people in need and protecting your community, you're feeling a bit at loose ends right now. It's totally understandable. But you do have much to live for. Bothwell, to be sure, and all the changes you have affected in people's lives right here in FG. I know how many people you have helped with all sorts of things here. Not everyone is aware of all the good you do, and it's in your nature, because you ARE a cop, to be that way. You have made a difference. Hell, you've made a difference to me. Along with many others. I'm proud to call you my friend. There's part of your purpose right there. I'd be lost without your support in what I'm dealing with right now. I'm sure others here feel the same way.
I love you, sweets. :yh_hugs
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Bullet's trial was a farce. Can I get an AMEN?????
We won't be punished for our sins, but BY them.
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This is a hard one LC.
When I was a teenager I wanted to get married, have children and 'live happily ever after'...didn't we all ? First of all I needed to leave school and work and my dream job was to be a hairdresser ... I did this and hated it. This was my first lesson in growing up and realising that some dreams are not what they're cracked up to be. I left hairdressing and went to work in a factory...Factory work was deemed to be the 'pits' in the 60s, but I enjoyed it and made it my career.
In the mean time I was 'In love' wholeheartedly and married at 19 had babies at 21, 23 and 27. I really worked hard at being the perfect wife and mother however my husband 'strayed' and after 13 yrs we split up. Incidentally, I have never met another man I loved as much as my husband and remain faithful to him despite our problems (he has strayed since). Anyway....I think my next move was probably my biggest mistake. We got back together......I try not to think what my life MIGHT have been like if we hadn't because it serves no purpose...but you know most of this anyway.
I have come through the 'bitter and twisted' stage of my life unscathed, but I am at a crossroads. I don't want to continue the rest of my life as it is now but I have been putting off taking the VERY BIG decision...I'm afraid I have compromised too far on the side of security ...I'm not an adventurous person...but once my son is married in June I am absolutely determined to move on.....see....I've done it again...found a reason to put off a decision...
In the end life is full of compromise and it can be scary to step out of your comfort zone....it would be a lucky person indeed who has a perfect life...or would it....doesn't the adversity make us stronger, better people ? Maybe WE are the lucky ones...we've sailed the stormy seas and got through it...
Anyway if the decision for Bothwell to live in the US is the only one at the moment, I really hope it works out...you deserve to be together...you need to be together.
I just want to say to everyone else that sailed the stormy seas, that are still in stormy seas or are at this moment be-calmed and not sure where the ship is taking them....stay strong and be true to yourselves ....sometimes life's a compromise :-4
When I was a teenager I wanted to get married, have children and 'live happily ever after'...didn't we all ? First of all I needed to leave school and work and my dream job was to be a hairdresser ... I did this and hated it. This was my first lesson in growing up and realising that some dreams are not what they're cracked up to be. I left hairdressing and went to work in a factory...Factory work was deemed to be the 'pits' in the 60s, but I enjoyed it and made it my career.
In the mean time I was 'In love' wholeheartedly and married at 19 had babies at 21, 23 and 27. I really worked hard at being the perfect wife and mother however my husband 'strayed' and after 13 yrs we split up. Incidentally, I have never met another man I loved as much as my husband and remain faithful to him despite our problems (he has strayed since). Anyway....I think my next move was probably my biggest mistake. We got back together......I try not to think what my life MIGHT have been like if we hadn't because it serves no purpose...but you know most of this anyway.
I have come through the 'bitter and twisted' stage of my life unscathed, but I am at a crossroads. I don't want to continue the rest of my life as it is now but I have been putting off taking the VERY BIG decision...I'm afraid I have compromised too far on the side of security ...I'm not an adventurous person...but once my son is married in June I am absolutely determined to move on.....see....I've done it again...found a reason to put off a decision...
In the end life is full of compromise and it can be scary to step out of your comfort zone....it would be a lucky person indeed who has a perfect life...or would it....doesn't the adversity make us stronger, better people ? Maybe WE are the lucky ones...we've sailed the stormy seas and got through it...
Anyway if the decision for Bothwell to live in the US is the only one at the moment, I really hope it works out...you deserve to be together...you need to be together.
I just want to say to everyone else that sailed the stormy seas, that are still in stormy seas or are at this moment be-calmed and not sure where the ship is taking them....stay strong and be true to yourselves ....sometimes life's a compromise :-4
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LC, Chonsi, JAB, Rapunzel, Snooze, Valerie, Carla, mrsK, BR, Bez - I am truly bowled over by all of you. Can't believe it's been my good fortune to cross my life path with the life paths of fine people like you. Really !!!! Whodathunkit!!! Life can be pretty raw, but I really don't think we ever stand still - so that life passes us by - though sometimes it may feel like it. Whatever we do, we are still living it - probably as fully as we can at that point. LC - I hope you and Bothwell get together very soon - his place or yours (watch out for snakes over your way!). Make it happen!!! And Bez - I hope things get better for you!!! More power to everyone's feisty arms!!! We're really all troopers!!!!
"Life is too short to ski with ugly men"
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AussiePam wrote: More power to everyone's feisty arms!!! We're really all troopers!!!!
Pam, this place seems to attract a good group of people, doesn't it? "Cyber" friends, my ASS. There are some true, great friends here. I've recently counted you among them, by the way. I love it when you're around. :-6
Pam, this place seems to attract a good group of people, doesn't it? "Cyber" friends, my ASS. There are some true, great friends here. I've recently counted you among them, by the way. I love it when you're around. :-6
[FONT=Arial Black]I hope you cherish this sweet way of life, and I hope you know that it comes with a price.
~Darrel Worley~
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Bullet's trial was a farce. Can I get an AMEN?????
We won't be punished for our sins, but BY them.
~Darrel Worley~
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Bullet's trial was a farce. Can I get an AMEN?????
We won't be punished for our sins, but BY them.
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BR - you just really made my day !!!! And I feel the same!!! Grin. Friends are friends whether you meet them in the flesh first, or like this first. I hope to meet you face to face one day. You get to know people a little differently here. When you first meet someone face to face, it's the externals you relate to first. And there's times when that kind of thing gets in the way. When you meet someone first on the internet, it's the internals first. In some ways, I like this better. It's a truer picture. And the people I like on the inside, I always like on the outside. The reverse isn't always true. Grin... Here's me waxing all potted philosophy again,... must be the two glasses of good red wine I just sucked down.. smile.
"Life is too short to ski with ugly men"
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Life IS passing me by. LC our lives started to run parallell when you had the heart attack and then shortly after they found the melanoma on my arm. I have to fight down fear everyday that it wont show up somewhere else. It doesnt help that this word that wasnt even in my vocabulary... crops up almost everyday now. "My dad or brother, or uncle died of melanoma. 35 years ago I gave up my dreams to become a dancer, or an actress or a writer. Got married to an alcoholic, had two beautiful sons. Never got the chance to be a wife and mother because I divorced him when the boys were 5 and 9, And it has been work, work, work ever since. And the work never gets me to the place where I accumulate anything.. its always just working to survive. I really loved the man I came to Virginia with.. put myself second again... he was a terrible person. Someone who could suck the life out of someone else... like a parasite and have no conscience about it at all. Getting involved on the forum , evolved into getting my sense of humor back. An opportunity to grow from sharing with other people, and having them trust me enough to share with me. These are some of the reasons why I hit the purchase button for the ticket to England. I have wanted to go there my whole life. It is incredible that this place played a hand in making it happen. I really shouldnt do it. The money should pay bills. But I have this weird and terrible feeling that my journey on this earth may be coming to an end. I wish that feeling would go away but it hovers around me, reminding me to enjoy the present.
So LC you know what my advice is... do whatever you have to do to make it happen that you are with the person you love. There really isnt anything else of value on this earth other than who we love and who we are fortunate to be loved by.
Chonsi, I feel so bad that I didnt know that you had a husband who is ill. Tunnell vision drawing me to a narrow path of subjects that appealed to me. Another very good person ( its easy to read) with a tough row to hoe. I wish you the strength to deal with heartache, and do everything you have to do, and still have the time to do the things you want to do ( your writing).
Ah... you good women.. good people.. you rip my heart out. Each and every one of you. Each for different reasons. This wacky, ecclectic, group of strangers.. every one with life issues, still able to reach out and offer comfort, love, encouragement, hope, and moments of joy to each other. It is a beautiful thing. I will always remember my time here. I take the gifts you all give me into my "real life" everyday. You are all part of my little private world.. making me smile, or feel good, or think about things while I function in the "real world" I have tried to share all of you with people I meet... but " Forget about it!!!!" They dont understand. Ill just keep you all to myself.
So LC you know what my advice is... do whatever you have to do to make it happen that you are with the person you love. There really isnt anything else of value on this earth other than who we love and who we are fortunate to be loved by.
Chonsi, I feel so bad that I didnt know that you had a husband who is ill. Tunnell vision drawing me to a narrow path of subjects that appealed to me. Another very good person ( its easy to read) with a tough row to hoe. I wish you the strength to deal with heartache, and do everything you have to do, and still have the time to do the things you want to do ( your writing).
Ah... you good women.. good people.. you rip my heart out. Each and every one of you. Each for different reasons. This wacky, ecclectic, group of strangers.. every one with life issues, still able to reach out and offer comfort, love, encouragement, hope, and moments of joy to each other. It is a beautiful thing. I will always remember my time here. I take the gifts you all give me into my "real life" everyday. You are all part of my little private world.. making me smile, or feel good, or think about things while I function in the "real world" I have tried to share all of you with people I meet... but " Forget about it!!!!" They dont understand. Ill just keep you all to myself.
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EVERY person who posted in this thread is an angel. :yh_flower
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Pam, I have made the analogy here before, that being here... is like experiencing being blind. Getting to know peoples hearts and minds without the handicap of knowing what they " Look Like" Because, it is human nature to be drawn to people initially, because of physical appeal.. just think of who we miss out of knowing. I wish everyone could experience it.
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That's exactly what I mean, Weeder !!!!!!!!!!!! I'm no kind of touchy feely group hugger - schmaltz makes me barf - but I'm sure group hugging all here. Grin. Real hugging. Hang in there!
In the course of an illness, I once asked a doc if I was going to die.. grin... He just looked at me and said: yes.. We all are. But some a bit faster than others. If you've stood on the abyss and peered over - as you have - you know this. You get over the shock that you won't be on this earth forever. This knowledge is a powerful thing too. It changes the way you view the rest of your life. Because, nobody really knows how long they've got. An apparently healthy young person can keel over. We all know of such cases. Others with health issues just keep on keeping on.
Who had that great signature line... about skidding sideways into eternity, in dancing shoes, clutching a martini and hooting.... WHAT A RIDE!!! :yh_rotfl
Going off to google some angel pics for LC!!!
In the course of an illness, I once asked a doc if I was going to die.. grin... He just looked at me and said: yes.. We all are. But some a bit faster than others. If you've stood on the abyss and peered over - as you have - you know this. You get over the shock that you won't be on this earth forever. This knowledge is a powerful thing too. It changes the way you view the rest of your life. Because, nobody really knows how long they've got. An apparently healthy young person can keel over. We all know of such cases. Others with health issues just keep on keeping on.
Who had that great signature line... about skidding sideways into eternity, in dancing shoes, clutching a martini and hooting.... WHAT A RIDE!!! :yh_rotfl
Going off to google some angel pics for LC!!!
"Life is too short to ski with ugly men"
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Hey LC, never let things get ion the way and waste time. Ive been in the same position you are in now and it nearly tore me apart.
I met my other half 7 years ago, whilst l lived in East London. I have so many perfect memories of that time you wouldnt believe thay could be real, dont get me wrong thewre were some bad times too, but we were so happy. Then came a bomb shell, my land lord was selling my place. I was being evicted, the deposits for a private place were silly l couldnt affoed it and the council offered me the possibility of a 1 roomed studio flat, my son was 6 so that was a no go. Well after many tears it was decided l would move close to my mum as l was guaranteed a 2 bed property nad then l could put in an exchange and move back to London.
The move nearly killed me l lost weight couldnt sleep and gotr very depressed, l had finally found a man l loved and trusted and l dont do that easily and l was having to leave him. In all truth l was expecting every call to be the one where he said well may be we should just be friends. I got turned down for a property and l went crazy..Called up my bf and said it was over l didnt want him hanging on any longer it wasnt fair. All through this l was in temporary accomadation and it wasnt nice!
Well he got me on hte phomne and said suck it up and dont you ever give up on us, so l appealed and got a house! You could have knocked me over with a feather..But unfortunately it took me 2 years plus to finally get back to London and that took its toll on our relationship as my neighbours seemed to have alot in common with yours loud music etc.
We are finally together, but that time and struggle left its marks...
If you and Both can be together there then do it, and there is nothing stopping you once your hitched moving here in hte future.. it doesnt matter where you are because if you love each other then who cares just be together and keep the dream of the country cottage alive..
I will promise when hte bf and l FINALLY get hitched l will be in floods of tears as it is something l thought l would never do!
I met my other half 7 years ago, whilst l lived in East London. I have so many perfect memories of that time you wouldnt believe thay could be real, dont get me wrong thewre were some bad times too, but we were so happy. Then came a bomb shell, my land lord was selling my place. I was being evicted, the deposits for a private place were silly l couldnt affoed it and the council offered me the possibility of a 1 roomed studio flat, my son was 6 so that was a no go. Well after many tears it was decided l would move close to my mum as l was guaranteed a 2 bed property nad then l could put in an exchange and move back to London.
The move nearly killed me l lost weight couldnt sleep and gotr very depressed, l had finally found a man l loved and trusted and l dont do that easily and l was having to leave him. In all truth l was expecting every call to be the one where he said well may be we should just be friends. I got turned down for a property and l went crazy..Called up my bf and said it was over l didnt want him hanging on any longer it wasnt fair. All through this l was in temporary accomadation and it wasnt nice!
Well he got me on hte phomne and said suck it up and dont you ever give up on us, so l appealed and got a house! You could have knocked me over with a feather..But unfortunately it took me 2 years plus to finally get back to London and that took its toll on our relationship as my neighbours seemed to have alot in common with yours loud music etc.
We are finally together, but that time and struggle left its marks...
If you and Both can be together there then do it, and there is nothing stopping you once your hitched moving here in hte future.. it doesnt matter where you are because if you love each other then who cares just be together and keep the dream of the country cottage alive..
I will promise when hte bf and l FINALLY get hitched l will be in floods of tears as it is something l thought l would never do!
take a bite out of life it's there to be tasted!!
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Gosh Venus!!!! I'm so glad things are finally working out for you..
I have been trying to find angel pics for LC. Found a few cat angels.. grin... Got these ones.
Attached files
I have been trying to find angel pics for LC. Found a few cat angels.. grin... Got these ones.
Attached files
"Life is too short to ski with ugly men"
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cool angels Pam!
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Diuretic wrote: LC - believe it or not there are some amazing parallels between your situation and mine. I know how it feels. Sometimes I think everything is achievable while other times I think it's impossible. Some might think I'm stupid but at times the ordinariness of life appeals to me.how so....tell us.
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Oh, so many touching stories that helps me to understand our beautiful people behind the avatars. We are truly blessed to have such good friends here at FG.:-4
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lady cop wrote: oh Venus...thanks!! sometimes i feel so bereft, your story helps!! he's out of the country on business right now, for a week. he'll make a decision when he gets back. for two weeks now he has talked about it, and yet i didn't dare to hope. he loves England. but there comes a time you look at life and love.
England is only a plane ride away if Bothwell gets homesick and there's the internet to keep him abreast of current events...and then there's US at FG to keep his spirits up..... I do hope that everything turns out as you both want it to....to be together....:-4
England is only a plane ride away if Bothwell gets homesick and there's the internet to keep him abreast of current events...and then there's US at FG to keep his spirits up..... I do hope that everything turns out as you both want it to....to be together....:-4
A smile is a window on your face to show your heart is home
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I don't know why...but this poem seems somehow appropriate for this thread....it's funny, poignant and....well....you all decide....
When I am an old woman I shall wear purple
With a red hat which doesn't go, and doesn't suit me.
And I shall spend my pension on brandy and summer gloves
And satin sandals, and say we've no money for butter.
I shall sit down on the pavement when I'm tired
And gobble up samples in shops and press alarm bells
And run my stick along the public railings
And make up for the sobriety of my youth.
I shall go out in my slippers in the rain
And pick the flowers in other people's gardens
And learn to spit.
You can wear terrible shirts and grow more fat
And eat three pounds of sausages at a go
Or only bread and pickle for a week
And hoard pens and pencils and beermats and things in boxes.
But now we must have clothes that keep us dry
And pay our rent and not swear in the street
And set a good example for the children.
We must have friends to dinner and read the papers.
But maybe I ought to practice a little now?
So people who know me are not too shocked and surprised
When suddenly I am old, and start to wear purple
Warning by Jenny Joseph
When I am an old woman I shall wear purple
With a red hat which doesn't go, and doesn't suit me.
And I shall spend my pension on brandy and summer gloves
And satin sandals, and say we've no money for butter.
I shall sit down on the pavement when I'm tired
And gobble up samples in shops and press alarm bells
And run my stick along the public railings
And make up for the sobriety of my youth.
I shall go out in my slippers in the rain
And pick the flowers in other people's gardens
And learn to spit.
You can wear terrible shirts and grow more fat
And eat three pounds of sausages at a go
Or only bread and pickle for a week
And hoard pens and pencils and beermats and things in boxes.
But now we must have clothes that keep us dry
And pay our rent and not swear in the street
And set a good example for the children.
We must have friends to dinner and read the papers.
But maybe I ought to practice a little now?
So people who know me are not too shocked and surprised
When suddenly I am old, and start to wear purple
Warning by Jenny Joseph
A smile is a window on your face to show your heart is home
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Red Hatters Rule!
I'm a little queenie for one group.............................but haven't gotten to go anywhere for 2 months. After Easter Ithink we will!
I'm a little queenie for one group.............................but haven't gotten to go anywhere for 2 months. After Easter Ithink we will!
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mrsK wrote: I love purple & red hats:-6
To all of you with :-4
To all of you with :-4
A smile is a window on your face to show your heart is home
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chonsigirl
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Oh, so sweet!:-4
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lady cop wrote: EVERY person who posted in this thread is an angel. :yh_flower
LC, maybe hear comes the devil, as I have not yet posted. (You may not like this, but it's life) LC life is passing you by, "2" years, my God what are you guys wating for. Life can end "for any of us" tomorrow! (even today) You have already had Heart attacks, and other concerned health issues, how long are you going to chance it? DO IT NOW, YOU GO THERE, OR HE COMES HERE! END OF STORY!!!!
Chonsi live your life too, you didn't list number 4. Long life is not guaranteed to anyone including yourself, your husband just may outlive you. Sorry to be blunt, but that's just life's realities. So "everyone" should even if it's just a short time in every day, do something special or somethig you always want to do for yourself.
Again, Sorry to be blunt, but before I get pounded, I'm just speaking from personal experiences, you can't go back in time!! I've tried it doesn't work! Do "it" (what ever that is) now while you're still "young enough" to "enjoy" it!
LC, maybe hear comes the devil, as I have not yet posted. (You may not like this, but it's life) LC life is passing you by, "2" years, my God what are you guys wating for. Life can end "for any of us" tomorrow! (even today) You have already had Heart attacks, and other concerned health issues, how long are you going to chance it? DO IT NOW, YOU GO THERE, OR HE COMES HERE! END OF STORY!!!!
Chonsi live your life too, you didn't list number 4. Long life is not guaranteed to anyone including yourself, your husband just may outlive you. Sorry to be blunt, but that's just life's realities. So "everyone" should even if it's just a short time in every day, do something special or somethig you always want to do for yourself.
Again, Sorry to be blunt, but before I get pounded, I'm just speaking from personal experiences, you can't go back in time!! I've tried it doesn't work! Do "it" (what ever that is) now while you're still "young enough" to "enjoy" it!
Cars
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Bez wrote: I don't know why...but this poem seems somehow appropriate for this thread....it's funny, poignant and....well....you all decide....
When I am an old woman I shall wear purple
With a red hat which doesn't go, and doesn't suit me.
And I shall spend my pension on brandy and summer gloves
And satin sandals, and say we've no money for butter.
I shall sit down on the pavement when I'm tired
And gobble up samples in shops and press alarm bells
And run my stick along the public railings
And make up for the sobriety of my youth.
I shall go out in my slippers in the rain
And pick the flowers in other people's gardens
And learn to spit.
You can wear terrible shirts and grow more fat
And eat three pounds of sausages at a go
Or only bread and pickle for a week
And hoard pens and pencils and beermats and things in boxes.
But now we must have clothes that keep us dry
And pay our rent and not swear in the street
And set a good example for the children.
We must have friends to dinner and read the papers.
But maybe I ought to practice a little now?
So people who know me are not too shocked and surprised
When suddenly I am old, and start to wear purple
Warning by Jenny JosephI have that boo Bez... Gift years ago from a landscape client
When I am an old woman I shall wear purple
With a red hat which doesn't go, and doesn't suit me.
And I shall spend my pension on brandy and summer gloves
And satin sandals, and say we've no money for butter.
I shall sit down on the pavement when I'm tired
And gobble up samples in shops and press alarm bells
And run my stick along the public railings
And make up for the sobriety of my youth.
I shall go out in my slippers in the rain
And pick the flowers in other people's gardens
And learn to spit.
You can wear terrible shirts and grow more fat
And eat three pounds of sausages at a go
Or only bread and pickle for a week
And hoard pens and pencils and beermats and things in boxes.
But now we must have clothes that keep us dry
And pay our rent and not swear in the street
And set a good example for the children.
We must have friends to dinner and read the papers.
But maybe I ought to practice a little now?
So people who know me are not too shocked and surprised
When suddenly I am old, and start to wear purple
Warning by Jenny JosephI have that boo Bez... Gift years ago from a landscape client
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chonsigirl
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Oh cars, you are right I know. When I have time logictics worked out, I try to have something for myself. (3 jobs makes that hard, I am writing a lecture in betwen posts today or lesson plans when I'm here) And #4 has always worried me, and I have delayed thinking of that but will this summer. I have to write a will, in case I go first, and who will have guardianship of my husband. That is my worst procrastination....
*no one would ever pound you*
*no one would ever pound you*
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Don't be sorry about being blunt cars, we've all been as honest and open as possible and all your points are valid......there comes a point when decisions and actions HAVE to be taken...there is no more time...it's running out....grab what's left...
:-6 :-6 :-6
:-6 :-6 :-6
A smile is a window on your face to show your heart is home
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From personal experiance i really think that to appreciate the luxury of happiness you need to have endured hardship and unhappiness. I think..had i met my now other half years ago i would'nt of apprciated him and what we have now ..( i always went for bad boy's and danger i did'nt find good boy's appealing )We don't always get what we deserve in this life but what good thing's we do get we should cherish and be grateful for ........each and every one of you deserves to be happy . ..go on i dare you.. make it happen .
Can go from 0 - to bitch in 3.0 seconds .
Smile people :yh_bigsmi
yep, this bitch bites back .
Smile people :yh_bigsmi
yep, this bitch bites back .
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If nothing else each and every one of us in here has touched at least one other person in here sooo I hope no one thinks they have never affected anyone.
�You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.�
• Mae West
• Mae West
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cars wrote: LC, maybe hear comes the devil, as I have not yet posted. (You may not like this, but it's life) LC life is passing you by, "2" years, my God what are you guys wating for. Life can end "for any of us" tomorrow! (even today) You have already had Heart attacks, and other concerned health issues, how long are you going to chance it? DO IT NOW, YOU GO THERE, OR HE COMES HERE! END OF STORY!!!!
Chonsi live your life too, you didn't list number 4. Long life is not guaranteed to anyone including yourself, your husband just may outlive you. Sorry to be blunt, but that's just life's realities. So "everyone" should even if it's just a short time in every day, do something special or somethig you always want to do for yourself.
Again, Sorry to be blunt, but before I get pounded, I'm just speaking from personal experiences, you can't go back in time!! I've tried it doesn't work! Do "it" (what ever that is) now while you're still "young enough" to "enjoy" it!
Beautifully put cars, I must agree. Life can only pass you by if you choose to let it! Revel in the present moments of life, take hold of them and just do something with them. There are no what ifs or regrets by choosing the path in life that you want to take and fulfilling it.
Chonsi live your life too, you didn't list number 4. Long life is not guaranteed to anyone including yourself, your husband just may outlive you. Sorry to be blunt, but that's just life's realities. So "everyone" should even if it's just a short time in every day, do something special or somethig you always want to do for yourself.
Again, Sorry to be blunt, but before I get pounded, I'm just speaking from personal experiences, you can't go back in time!! I've tried it doesn't work! Do "it" (what ever that is) now while you're still "young enough" to "enjoy" it!
Beautifully put cars, I must agree.
Life can only pass you by if you choose to let it! Revel in the present moments of life, take hold of them and just do something with them. There are no what ifs or regrets by choosing the path in life that you want to take and fulfilling it.life passing by
chonsigirl wrote: Oh cars, you are right I know. When I have time logictics worked out, I try to have something for myself. (3 jobs makes that hard, I am writing a lecture in betwen posts today or lesson plans when I'm here) And #4 has always worried me, and I have delayed thinking of that but will this summer. I have to write a will, in case I go first, and who will have guardianship of my husband. That is my worst procrastination....
*no one would ever pound you*
chonsi, I (we all) only have your very best interest in mind. I know exactally what you mean about the will thing. I was putting it off for many years, but finally last month my wife convinced me it was time to finally see a lawyer. And have a living will made, trusts, executors named, & deeds ammended to add children as surviving tennents, etc.. I hated every minute of it, cause it kinda really shows just how "mortal" we all are.:wah:
(As I'm writting this, it just dawned on me, that my wife & I still have not talked abouts "plots", where, what, or any of that burial stuff. And I'm not bringing it up to her on my own.:sneaky: )
*no one would ever pound you*
chonsi, I (we all) only have your very best interest in mind. I know exactally what you mean about the will thing. I was putting it off for many years, but finally last month my wife convinced me it was time to finally see a lawyer. And have a living will made, trusts, executors named, & deeds ammended to add children as surviving tennents, etc.. I hated every minute of it, cause it kinda really shows just how "mortal" we all are.:wah:
(As I'm writting this, it just dawned on me, that my wife & I still have not talked abouts "plots", where, what, or any of that burial stuff. And I'm not bringing it up to her on my own.:sneaky: )
Cars