Sometimes I wish I could cry over serious stuff

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Fri Feb 24, 2006 6:30 pm

I can cry at the drop of a hat at a movie because it strikes my emotions. When things get very sad in my life - I cannot do that. I buck up and get through it. Something happened today and I thought it would be appropriate to cry (note the use of appropriate - that struck my heart) - the tears came close to my eyes - the tears did not come out. That wall inside me went zooming up so fast that I felt isolated from my own feelings. Can anyone here spell Emotional Safety. Dang, why am I being so vulnerable here?

StupidCowboyTricks · Post by **StupidCowboyTricks** » Fri Feb 24, 2006 6:40 pm

nvalleyvee wrote: I can cry at the drop of a hat at a movie because it strikes my emotions. When things get very sad in my life - I cannot do that. I buck up and get through it. Something happened today and I thought it would be appropriate to cry (note the use of appropriate - that struck my heart) - the tears came close to my eyes - the tears did not come out. That wall inside me went zooming up so fast that I felt isolated from my own feelings. Can anyone here spell Emotional Safety. Dang, why am I being so vulnerable here?

I understand what you're talking about:-2

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Fri Feb 24, 2006 6:42 pm

StupidCowboyTricks wrote: I understand whay your talking about:-2

I AM NOT ALONE!! Thanks

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Fri Feb 24, 2006 6:43 pm

Oh sweet NV, sometimes you go through the bad stuff with the proverbial stiff upper lip, but little things will make you cry-that is just when everything comes out. It is perfectly normal.

*big hug*

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Fri Feb 24, 2006 6:45 pm

Huggers back Chonsi :-4

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Fri Feb 24, 2006 6:45 pm

Crying is very healthy.

The next time that happens seize the moment...really examine whats happening inside of you.

That wall, whats it protecting you from ?

Look at that, your answers are in there somewhere.

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Fri Feb 24, 2006 6:47 pm

Good question Nomad.

Last time I cried was when I had to put on the windshield wipers on the truck, I couldn't do it very well. It was frustration at having to do all those chores I never had to do before, and really don't want to do.

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Fri Feb 24, 2006 6:49 pm

Nomad wrote: Crying is very healthy.

The next time that happens seize the moment...really examine whats happening inside of you.

That wall, whats it protecting you from ?

Look at that, your answers are in there somewhere.

DUH - I know what the answers are and I feel them - I just can't let them overwhelm me. I used to cry for a week after chemo because it hurt me so bad. I don't know if that made me worse or not. I have always had to be strong from 5 years old. As Chonsi says - it's so much easier to cry and get it out over the lesser stuff - as in movies.

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Fri Feb 24, 2006 6:50 pm

chonsigirl wrote: Good question Nomad.

Last time I cried was when I had to put on the windshield wipers on the truck, I couldn't do it very well. It was frustration at having to do all those chores I never had to do before, and really don't want to do.

Me too Chonsi.................

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Fri Feb 24, 2006 6:51 pm

Day to day things continue, we struggle on. I never cried over the serious times with my husband, I was rock solid. I whined alot on the phone to my mom, but I never cried. I wanted to be solid when he awoke, and he did.

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Fri Feb 24, 2006 7:35 pm

chonsigirl wrote: Day to day things continue, we struggle on. I never cried over the serious times with my husband, I was rock solid. I whined alot on the phone to my mom, but I never cried. I wanted to be solid when he awoke, and he did.

Isn't that the truth..........be there.......be strong.

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Fri Feb 24, 2006 8:23 pm

mrsK wrote: I can't cry & let people see me like that I have to be the strong one,to help everyone else.

I cry in frustration sometimes but never over personal things,maybe I am all cried out

from the past.

I'm feeling you. What the heck is wrong-----or maybe right------with us

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Fri Feb 24, 2006 8:33 pm

SnoozeControl wrote: People can tell me about their pets dying and I cry. I frequently have to retire to the ladies' room so I don't embarrass my co-workers.

There's nothing wrong with crying, is there?

Crying is very unhealthy.

When this happens you should examine very closely the reasons for it so you can prevent future episodes.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Fri Feb 24, 2006 8:36 pm

SnoozeControl wrote: I fart while I cry. That's good, right?

Thats the worst.

You cant be allowed to live now.

Sorry.

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Fri Feb 24, 2006 8:48 pm

SnoozeControl wrote: I fart while I cry. That's good, right?

I can only speculate that you put a lot force into your crying........

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Fri Feb 24, 2006 8:53 pm

SnoozeControl wrote: You might all mock me, but I'll continue to fart no matter the circumstances.

Mocking is only the appetizer.

Finger bowl ?