Surrogacy...

Kalei · Post by **Kalei** » Thu Jan 12, 2006 3:07 pm

I have 4 children, my oldest is 16, my youngest 7, i have been toying with the idea of surrogacy for a while, i am aware the subject raises a lot of issues and some people tend to have strong opinions on it, and rightly so.

Just looking for other views on this, could you give up your/a baby you carried for 9 months even though you know in your heart that by doing so you could 'complete' a family, make a dream come true?

Would it be fair to want to keep in touch with that family just to.. i dunno, keep in touch oO

It's something I'd love to be able to do, but I'm not sure I would have the strength, the world today ain't so great (not wanting to sound so gloomy) how could you know for sure that the baby you blessed someone with would be cherished and loved?

Is it worth the emotional hell you would undoubtedly endure?

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Thu Jan 12, 2006 3:10 pm

Kalei wrote: I have 4 children, my oldest is 16, my youngest 7, i have been toying with the idea of surrogacy for a while, i am aware the subject raises a lot of issues and some people tend to have strong opinions on it, and rightly so.

Just looking for other views on this, could you give up your/a baby you carried for 9 months even though you know in your heart that by doing so you could 'complete' a family, make a dream come true?

Would it be fair to want to keep in touch with that family just to.. i dunno, keep in touch oO

It's something I'd love to be able to do, but I'm not sure I would have the strength, the world today ain't so great (not wanting to sound so gloomy) how could you know for sure that the baby you blessed someone with would be cherished and loved?

Is it worth the emotional hell you would undoubtedly endure?Blimey Kalei, it broke my heart giving one of my puppies away. :-1

Welcome to FG by the way x

Kalei · Post by **Kalei** » Thu Jan 12, 2006 3:21 pm

hehe I've also cried buckets giving puppies away!, but to give birth is so awesome... I imagine it would be similar to be handed a baby knowing that baby was now yours forever... the receiving family would be touched by that gift for the rest of their lives, would knowing that though be compensation for the pain of giving the child away? I just dunno :/

ty for the welcome

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Thu Jan 12, 2006 3:34 pm

Kalei wrote: hehe I've also cried buckets giving puppies away!, but to give birth is so awesome... I imagine it would be similar to be handed a baby knowing that baby was now yours forever... the receiving family would be touched by that gift for the rest of their lives, would knowing that though be compensation for the pain of giving the child away? I just dunno :/

ty for the welcome :)There was a lady in the British press last week that had, had 5 babies for other couples, she had, i think 4 children of her own, and she was more than happy to give couples a family. :-4

mominiowa · Post by **mominiowa** » Thu Jan 12, 2006 9:19 pm

My brother and sister in law have been looking for awhile now and have decided that they might be interested in it.. If I could I would have a baby for them.but only family.. I feel if you are strong enough to help another family then you are an angel..By the way-- WELCOME to the FG!!!:-4

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Fri Jan 13, 2006 9:37 am

I would prefer to hear of a couple adopting, seeing all the children in need already on this earth. But to give a couple an opportunity to pass on their DNA is an undeniably awesome gift. :-6

I would make sure the contract included some heavy-duty counseling, to make sure you can deal with the whole thing.

HelloGal · Post by **HelloGal** » Mon Jan 23, 2006 11:06 pm

I vote for keeping in touch and knowing the couple that would be worth it for sure.

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Tue Jan 24, 2006 8:32 am

I could do it if I was carrying a baby that wasn't genetically mine, I would never consider the baby "mine" in that case and I'd know that at the end of it I'd be giving a couple this amazing gift. I don't think I would ever do it though, I couldn't put my husband and kids thru it all but if your husband and kids are all for it then go with your heart!