Should I feel bad???

shibee · Post by **shibee** » Mon Jan 02, 2006 4:44 pm

Hello everyone. Hope your New Years is off to an awesome start!

Again, I have a lil problem that I need some serious input on...

I have been best friends with "Kasey" for a little over a year. Before I met Kasey, I was friends with her sister "Kelly". I met Kelly at work and we clicked really well...started hanging out, just being friends. Well, Kelly left and found a new job and our friendship didn't necessarily fall apart, but we just weren't as close as we used to be. The phone calls were scarce and eventually stopped...

Well, shortly after Kelly quit, her sister Kasey got hired on and is now like my sister. I've never had a best friend like this and I'm truly blessed to have a friend like this. I'm very appreciative of Kasey's friendship, so for Christmas, I made her a poem book illustrating the crazy times we shared together. In the end, I thanked her for being my best freind and being like a sister and I was just showing her my true appreciation.

Kelly was over at Kaseys house for a visit and found the book. She wasn't upset or anything, but according to Kasey, she was sarcastic, and made a couple pf comments about it. The thing I'm wondering is should I feel bad??? I mean, I started out being Kellys friend and ended up being closer to her sister and now she feels that her sister "stole" me from her. We weren't real close, but we were friends and part of me feels bad because when kelly and i first met, she said that i was the first real friend she's ever had...and i almost feel like i betrayed her.....i almost feel like I owe her an apology or something to let he know that i am still her friend...I don't know...any imput would be greatly appreciated...

StupidCowboyTricks · Post by **StupidCowboyTricks** » Mon Jan 02, 2006 6:24 pm

Far Rider wrote: Just keep being friends to both, when the times arise to be with them together show no favoratism... just be friends together... Your closer to one because of the amount of time youve had to develop the friendship, it dosnt exclude the other, it just has had more opportunity. I woudlnt feel guilty if I were you, if the one sister you met first had stayed youd all be friends together...

Oh but Im a guy and I dont understand female relationships... better take advice from a girl on this one...

That is good advice Far.........you can never have too many friends.

shibee · Post by **shibee** » Tue Jan 03, 2006 12:30 pm

Thanks guys!! I really appreciate the input...it was helpful!

jennyswan · Post by **jennyswan** » Tue Jan 03, 2006 2:06 pm

I don't think you feel bad Maybe Kelly is being sarcastic as a way of covering up her own regret of not having been in touch more often. Text her and say that you like her as well and would be glad to still be her friend. You can never have too many

911 · Post by **911** » Thu Jan 05, 2006 1:49 pm

OK, this reminds me of a song we used to sing in Girl Scouts:

Make new friends

but keep the old.

One is silver

and the other gold.

Far is right on the money. Maybe ask the both out sometime for a girls night out. Sit between the two whenever you can and talk to them equally while telling each other funny stories of the things you have done together.

shibee · Post by **shibee** » Fri Jan 06, 2006 7:27 am

flopstock wrote: I disagree. And here's why..

If you are better friends with the sister then you were with her, so what? Are you being dishonest? No. Hanging out with her, when you wouldn't have, but for this...that's dishonest.

You didn't dump this girl, you both found other interests.. that happens. And you say you weren't real close... that doesn't mean you dislike her... it just means you were more of acquaintances then you were friends...

Heck, I like my best friends sister...that doean't mean I have to hang out with her or pretend that she is just as important in my life as my friend is.

If something like this makes you feel guilty, I pity the day you get a mother in law..

Flopstock,

I never did dich the other friend. Like I said, phone calls, eventually came to a stop. I still like her, yeah, she's always going to be my friend, yeah...but it's just weird.

I'm not the kind of person to be phony or fake. When she comes around, there's no pretending or none of that funny stuff. We talk, laugh and cut up just as we would have done before. It's just awkward because knowing the kind of person she is, she's probably angry about it.

It makes me feel not really guilty, but it just makes me wonder. I'm the kind of person who tries to make everyone happy. I just care about her feelings and wonder what I would do, how would i react if the situation was reversed. So, no, I do not feel guilty, i just wonder what she's thinking...

oh and me and mommy-in-law's relationship is PERFECT :-6