To those who we shall miss at Christmas

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 10:49 am

I always feel overly emotional at christmas and there are people who have come into and left my life that I always seem to miss most at christmas. I thought it be nice to have a special place for them on our board.

My best friend Bren, honey you were taken from this world way before your time. Brenda was my little spitfire of a friend. She had a rare disease similar to himophelia, however it was different, and worse and often times I sat with her in the hospital as they tried to stop the bleeding from something as simple as a small scratch. She barely survived the birth of her daughter, as she had an anurrisim during the birth. She survived a potential murder suicide. One day she called us from 2 provinces away and talked to my then husband for 3 hours as he convinced her to not go visit her estranged abusive husband. 1 hour later she was informed he had shot himself and likely would have killed her and their daughter. She went on to remarry a wonderful man and adopt a little boy with fetal alcohol syndrome. At age 36 My dear sweet best Friend Brenda passed away due to severe, excessive and uncontrolled bleeding during a botched surgery. I miss her every christmas as she was the perfect christmas elf, cute, fun and generous.

Sweetie I miss you today and all days.

Others I miss and have lost and wish that where ever they are they get to enjoy christmas.

My grandparents, my long time (15 years) pen pal Milena, and my ex father in law.

Merry Christmas among the angels.

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 10:51 am

aww Minks...my Mom and Dad. :-1 may i give you a hug? :-4

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 10:51 am

lady cop wrote: aww Minks...my Mom and Dad. :-1 may i give you a hug? :-4

certainly

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 10:58 am

minks wrote: certainlyconsider yourself embraced. :yh_flower :yh_flower :yh_flower

DesignerGal · Post by **DesignerGal** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 10:58 am

I miss my AUnt Mary who died in 1997 at a young 43 years old. She had a rare form of cancer (one of thriteen cases in the entire world) and the only case in the US) and left behind 4 beautiful children.

Mary: I miss you so much everyday!!! I cant wait to see you again! Your girls and your son are doing great! I love you sooooooooo much!!

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 11:12 am

christmas reminds us of days gone by. i miss my parents and i miss my kids being little. it can hurt. i miss my man. damn it Minks, you have me in tears!

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 11:14 am

lady cop wrote: christmas reminds us of days gone by. i miss my parents and i miss my kids being little. it can hurt. i miss my man. damn it Minks, you have me in tears!

so sorry

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 11:15 am

minks wrote: so sorryi lurve you anyway. :-4

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 11:18 am

All my Grandparents on both sides passed away at Christmas time..:-1

:-1 I miss my dad who died at 57 in August 1984 way to young.

I miss you Daddy you were and still are my Hero. Mom is fine still a pain is arse, I keep the house up in your honor, and the CAMARO is still going strong. LOVE YOU DAD.. YOU HAVE A GREAT GRANDDAUGHTER NIKKI..!! :-4 :-4

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 11:26 am

well since I am on a roll with sad christmas feelings.

Here is my sad story for current day.

A man tells his "friend" this story.

I went to see my parents today. My mom refuses to acknowledge the good her operation has done for her. She says this pain is less and this pain is gone. She then turns around and says physio is painful and this operation was no good. She hates my father and can't decide which is worse having him around at christmas being his usual awful self, or being alone, and in pain by herself. She tells me I should take my father for christmas. I don't like the idea but he can help me with my projects. He hates christmas we have given him gifts and he refuses to open them, why do we bother? You see why I hate christmas? I want to tell my parents I can't take it any longer and I want to write them off. They have always been miserable and I really don't like christmas time in my family.

The sadness in it all...this man never experienced my kind of christmas, one where family was always important, family gathered, ate, drank, celebrated, took in friends who were spending the season alone. For me Christmas has always been joyous.

I know everyone of you who do not like christmas have your reasons, and my point in all this is.... please please if you have children, allow them to have a happy christmas despite what you as an adult feel.

DesignerGal · Post by **DesignerGal** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 11:35 am

minks wrote:

I know everyone of you who do not like christmas have your reasons, and my point in all this is.... please please if you have children, allow them to have a happy christmas despite what you as an adult feel.

Hear Hear, Minks! I donthave children, and there is nothing I REALLY want for Christmas, so as long as I am with my husband and 2 dogs eating brisket...its going to be a good day.......I hope the pain of missing someone, and having a sourpusses in the family isnt too much to bear for everyone else this year...and if it is, come over to my house for some Maker's Mark and eggnog. Hubby is from KY so there is ALWAYS bourbon in my house!

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 11:37 am

DesignerGal wrote: Hear Hear, Minks! I donthave children, and there is nothing I REALLY want for Christmas, so as long as I am with my husband and 2 dogs eating brisket...its going to be a good day.......I hope the pain of missing someone, and having a sourpusses in the family isnt too much to bear for everyone else this year...and if it is, come over to my house for some Maker's Mark and eggnog. Hubby is from KY so there is ALWAYS bourbon in my house!

and if you wanna go north the Minks family will take ya.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 11:45 am

I should miss my mom but I dont, its better that shes gone.

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 12:24 pm

Artist/Band: Alabama

Lyrics for Song: Angels Among Us

I was walking home from school on a cold winter's day

Took a shortcut through the woods and I lost my way

It was getting late and I was scared and alone

Then a kind old man took my hand and led me home

Mama couldn't see him, but he was standing there

But I knew in my heart, he was the answer to my prayers

Oh I believe there are angels among us

Sent down to us from somewhere up above

They come to you and me in our darkest hours

To show us how to live

To teach us how to give

To guide us with a light of love

When life dealt troubled times and had me down on my knees

There's always been someone there to come along and comfort me

A kind word from a stranger to lend a helping hand

A phone call from a friend just to say I understand

Ain't it kind of funny at the dark end of the road

Someone lights the way with just a single ray of hope

Oh I believe there are angels among us

Sent down to us from somewhere up above

They come to you and me in our darkest hours

To show us how to live

To teach us how to give

To guide us with a light of love

They wear so many faces

Show up in the strangest places

Grace us with thier mercy

In our time of need

Oh I believe there are angels among us

Sent down to us from somewhere up above

They come to you and me in our darkest hours

To show us how to live

To teach us how to give

To guide us with a light of love

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chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 1:40 pm

I shal; miss the smiling face of my father, with my grandfathers beside him.

I will miss one I loved very much, and he died before we ever could even be together.

I miss all that went before me, and whom I will one day see in heaven.

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 1:51 pm

chonsigirl wrote: I shal; miss the smiling face of my father, with my grandfathers beside him.

I will miss one I loved very much, and he died before we ever could even be together.

I miss all that went before me, and whom I will one day see in heaven.

sigh

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 4:04 pm

I shall miss Flopstock being in the Garden.

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 4:05 pm

Abbey i love your decorations!

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 4:09 pm

SnoozeControl wrote: Me too. Even more than Burl Ives. :-1You're very strange, did you know that? :wah:

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 4:11 pm

yeah, but you have to love her. :-4

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 4:13 pm

lady cop wrote: Abbey i love your decorations!Thankyou, now can you please tell me

WTF ARE YOU DOING OUT OF BED??

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 4:32 pm

You better get your sorry butt in bed women..!!

ok i am going back. you never let up. going to bed now.........or Abbey will kick my butt.

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 5:03 pm

My SIL gets leave from Iraq on Jan. 4th..............I think we will save a little X-mas for him....